FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging is shagging around

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

agreed!

It makes people feel better about themselves I suppose if they can make it into a superior activity.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like socials" he said in a small quiet voice

WHERE I CAN TALK ABOUT SEX AND FUCKING RANDOM PEOPLE!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But on fab you get verifications so you know how good they are

Some1 in club could talk the talk but when it comes down to they could bottle it. X

People from fab (well 9/10) wash and smell nice before they arrive.

People from club smells like beer and all sweaty from trying to dance. God knows what they been touching or if they waited to wash their hands after using toilet because there was a queue x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harrumph! I do shag! Hi ham ha refahned woman,thank you verrr much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are POF users swingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But on fab you get verifications so you know how good they are

Some1 in club could talk the talk but when it comes down to they could bottle it. X

People from fab (well 9/10) wash and smell nice before they arrive.

People from club smells like beer and all sweaty from trying to dance. God knows what they been touching or if they waited to wash their hands after using toilet because there was a queue x"

Verifications are not an indication of how good someone is. Were you having a little joke there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?"

Swimmers

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Are POF users swingers?

Swimmers"

Casting their net

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yes a bit, but...

When L and I got together, it was just after she had opened up to her bisexual side, I said and meant "no problem, explore that and live with me too" So initially that's what she did, local gay clubs were very easy for her to find women who would be more than happy to fuck at the end of the evening. Problem was a large percentage wanted relationships, and it was wrong to miss lead them just for sex. In swinging the sex is first and foremost the aim of the game, OK sometimes relationships happen too, but it is a lot less cruel than random vanilla pickups who give out sex just as freely, but are hoping for a relationship.

Also through swinging sometimes I get included, which isn't necessary, but it is fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreed!

It makes people feel better about themselves I suppose if they can make it into a superior activity."

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I find there's more of a sense of community in the swinging world.

Example - I can go to a night club and pretend I am there to listen to music and dance, and hope to pull someone. Or I can go to a swingers club and talk to people with the same aim as me, and hope to pull someone. The result is the same, but the build up is more conducive to my way of thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy tell me i should be classed as a TV. I said no. I'm just a pervert who's found various different ways of wanking and fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True. Guess it's an attempt to make shagging around seem like a lifestyle? Ultimately if sex and sexuality define what you're about,I think you're missing out in life.

Sex is a very powerful driving force though....and I guess that's why so many head to fab land in search for that instant fix when the groin indicates action is needed. Though as many find out,it's not that simple given the various connotations in the equation required to have a bonk via the Internet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But on fab you get verifications so you know how good they are

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Do you really believe that??!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Are POF users swingers?"

I'm on pof! I'm not a swinger though cos I'm single and single's can't be swingers.

Just thought I'd share that bit of nonsense...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?

I'm on pof! I'm not a swinger though cos I'm single and single's can't be swingers.

Just thought I'd share that bit of nonsense..."

It was nice, Thankyou

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

I agree, for the most part swinging is simply an predilection for frequent nsa sex with many different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't comment. I am single, so not a swinger. Guess I just shag around then...with aspirations!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But on fab you get verifications so you know how good they are

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Do you really believe that??!

Hell yeah...it told me....if you get the chance don't mess this chicken around she's the best.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its organised shagging around

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Are POF users swingers?

I'm on pof! I'm not a swinger though cos I'm single and single's can't be swingers.

Just thought I'd share that bit of nonsense...

It was nice, Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bout time someone admitted it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed! Wife and I would never apply the term Swinger to what we do, it is just having a healthy interest in flirting with and sometimes having sex with people we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

Sorry to single you out (!) are you swinging while waiting for Mrs right, then you'd stop? Or are you hoping Mrs right would also be a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

Sorry to single you out (!) are you swinging while waiting for Mrs right, then you'd stop? Or are you hoping Mrs right would also be a swinger?"

Goes for most singles this question.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I might agree if and when I get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a way yes ... But i think it had a bit extra maybe? I know people that shag around but wouldnt think of being involved in groups or going to a club to try out being an exhibitionist or voyeur "

Now this makes sense. Well done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a way yes ... But i think it had a bit extra maybe? I know people that shag around but wouldnt think of being involved in groups or going to a club to try out being an exhibitionist or voyeur

I also think that alot of the people on here to cheat and a big chunk of us singles too (probably myself included) are just shagging about ... But to take the step to share your partner sexually with another to me is also a big step and probably not one to be belittled as shagging about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its organised shagging around

True and also (generally) way safer than picking up a strange guy in a bar. At least if you meet a 'swinger' there is no doubt that sex is a possibility and everyone I have met is prepared for 'No thanks' as an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a way yes ... But i think it had a bit extra maybe? I know people that shag around but wouldnt think of being involved in groups or going to a club to try out being an exhibitionist or voyeur

Now this makes sense. Well done!

I went through a tunnel on a train clem and its like being in a space time continuum ha ... Its let you quote me before i was finished posting

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

Well I think opinions will probably stay the same if they don't change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 23/01/16 13:39:24]"

well said as id never go to a club or have group sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a way yes ... But i think it had a bit extra maybe? I know people that shag around but wouldnt think of being involved in groups or going to a club to try out being an exhibitionist or voyeur

Now this makes sense. Well done!

I went through a tunnel on a train clem and its like being in a space time continuum ha ... Its let you quote me before i was finished posting

oh well, congrats anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" True. Guess it's an attempt to make shagging around seem like a lifestyle? Ultimately if sex and sexuality define what you're about,I think you're missing out in life.

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't call it a hobby but wouldn't call it shagging around.

We've experimented with an open relationship and what could be considered shagging around. We had some fun but sticking with 'normal' swinging

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

If I can define what swinging is, to me, in my own words. It is simply being non possesive and non judgemental.

It is seeing sex for what it is which is a vital part of human well being and not something that can be owned by church or state or any other moral peddling assembly.

Some here hold those values.

Some shag around.

Some let others live and some get jealous, berate and judge others and spend countless hours fretting about why a meet they had has had the FUCKING TEMERITY to meet and shag someone else.

In the end... some folk are just not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

I agree, for the most part swinging is simply an predilection for frequent nsa sex with many different people. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?"

I think POF are people using a dating site as a smoke screen ..They pretend they want a relationship ,but really they are just putting notches on the bed post !! Some unsuspecting person will be on there for a genuine relationship ..unless on here we all know where we stand !! However saying that I do read some profiles and think it sounds like it should be on match.com ..so perhaps they are delusional looking for a relationship on here. ..who knows ??!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I went on P.O.F a few years ago and labelled myself as looking for friends only.

First message I got was a cock pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?

If they want a relationship with a swinger type then this is the best place to look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?

If they want a relationship with a swinger type then this is the best place to look.

Absolutely!!! Aslong as they want that type of relationship ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went on P.O.F a few years ago and labelled myself as looking for friends only.

First message I got was a cock pic. "

They are special friends lol !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well yes a bit, but...

Also through swinging sometimes I get included, which isn't necessary, but it is fun."

Agree exactly - though I tend to sleep with guys rather than women! In the dating site world the guys were wanting to introduce me to their families after a couple of dates!

I don't mind what people call me - this site, the clubs, the parties, the socials etc - provides a great social life, great friends and a bloody brilliant sex life!!

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

"Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

Sorry to single you out (!) are you swinging while waiting for Mrs right, then you'd stop? Or are you hoping Mrs right would also be a swinger?

Goes for most singles this question."

Good question.. how it is for me...? Fits my lifestyle as I am. If mrs to be wants to 'swing' that would be another topic. But for now enjoying the single life

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"But on fab you get verifications so you know how good they are

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Do you really believe that??!

Some do actually believe it!

But It just says you actually exist, and that you are the sex you say you are , and by default, bear a vague resemblance to the photos and description of yourself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?

Swimmers

Casting their net"

Be careful you don't catch a tiddler!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

It's amusing how many singles are on here and clearly loath swingers! Yet they also think they are the authority to speak on the psychology of the subject and have probably never even been part of a swinging couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

Sorry to single you out (!) are you swinging while waiting for Mrs right, then you'd stop? Or are you hoping Mrs right would also be a swinger?

Goes for most singles this question."

I don't want a mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?

Delusional here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

It seems to really get to some people, I can't quite work out why.

We are swingers who happily shag around, with eachother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?"

Well since you don't loath swingers I don't see a problem! I just don't understand why some people come on a swinging site to mention at every opportunity that they aren't swingers and that they think swingers are full of shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

Sorry to single you out (!) are you swinging while waiting for Mrs right, then you'd stop? Or are you hoping Mrs right would also be a swinger?

Goes for most singles this question."

I'm not looking for Mr Right. If he comes along and wants monogamy,as long as I'm getting the sex I like I can do that. If he fancies adding extra people to our sex life and I fancy that too,I can do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

I don't loathe couples who have sex with others. I don't think they are doing anything different to singles though,they just happen to have a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever it is it works for me.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Everyone else seems to be using an entirely different POF from the one I use....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit. "

This is Bill,

Bill is browsing the internet and finds a forum full of things he finds distasteful,

Bill clicks off and joins mumsnet instead,

Be like Bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on."

You're not just a pretty face are you Shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on.

You're not just a pretty face are you Shag

No, he's got fucking good abs too

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Agreed.... i am not a swinger... just have casual flings.. some form friendship.

Sorry to single you out (!) are you swinging while waiting for Mrs right, then you'd stop? Or are you hoping Mrs right would also be a swinger?"

Hmm good question,I can't answer that til I meet someone. I just know the thought of being with one person only scares me a little,I like a bit of variety personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a few people have said 'it's organised shagging around'. Before I met my bf on here, I shagged myself around ALOT, I can admit that, because of how 'I'm built' going to a club and securing a shag wouldn't have been easy for me (well I'd be the one at the end of the night left with no options but to go home with sweaty Jim), I don't think I was a 'real swinger' tbh, I was using it as a tool to get something out my system, I do think proper swinging exist for a lot of people though.

Although my love of shagging around back fired on me because my stupid ex husband, who was strictly 'if you are in a relationship you don't shag anyone else' has now turned into 'come on, you can still fuck me, it's only sex', in some ways I wish I never joined fab on that basis BUT if I hadn't I wouldn't have met ads, (I'm still living with the ex while I wait for my new place and no I don't give into him anymore)

Slightly off track answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on."

"You're not just a pretty face are you Shag

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lol but fun.

"No, he's got fucking good abs too"
Yes ty. I do weights as hobby there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a big clique

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit.

This is Bill,

Bill is browsing the internet and finds a forum full of things he finds distasteful,

Bill clicks off and joins mumsnet instead,

Be like Bill. "

Ahhh the friendly, welcoming, all inclusive Swinging Community that people talk about. It's not an urban myth after all.

Call it whatever makes you feel better about yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit.

This is Bill,

Bill is browsing the internet and finds a forum full of things he finds distasteful,

Bill clicks off and joins mumsnet instead,

Be like Bill.

Ahhh the friendly, welcoming, all inclusive Swinging Community that people talk about. It's not an urban myth after all.

Call it whatever makes you feel better about yourselves.

Most communities are friendlier to people that approach them with an open mind. You should try it sometime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit.

This is Bill,

Bill is browsing the internet and finds a forum full of things he finds distasteful,

Bill clicks off and joins mumsnet instead,

Be like Bill.

Ahhh the friendly, welcoming, all inclusive Swinging Community that people talk about. It's not an urban myth after all.

Call it whatever makes you feel better about yourselves.

Most communities are friendlier to people that approach them with an open mind. You should try it sometime. "

Ditto.

You entirely misunderstand me. People in the community are lovely and friendly. Men, women, TV's, couples etc etc. Well the ones that I have met have been fantastic.

The elitist couple Swingers that think they invented sex are entirely different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit.

This is Bill,

Bill is browsing the internet and finds a forum full of things he finds distasteful,

Bill clicks off and joins mumsnet instead,

Be like Bill.

Ahhh the friendly, welcoming, all inclusive Swinging Community that people talk about. It's not an urban myth after all.

Call it whatever makes you feel better about yourselves.

Most communities are friendlier to people that approach them with an open mind. You should try it sometime.

Ditto.

You entirely misunderstand me. People in the community are lovely and friendly. Men, women, TV's, couples etc etc. Well the ones that I have met have been fantastic.

The elitist couple Swingers that think they invented sex are entirely different. "
and why single men get such a hard press from them is breathtaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if sleeping around is swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a shag site or aswingers site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Intent. Thats the difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Intent. Thats the difference."

What intent?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Not for me, it's all about the connection of the mind, the forging of life long friends and the sexual contact that is all together more special than just a shag

When I am on my death bed surrounded by my swinging community and I ask them to draw close as my eyes grow dim, we take time to reflect on the highlights: the intellectual discussions about what's for tea in the forum and the MMF with big Jessie from Harrogate, I can slip away knowing 'we were just another swinging family of friends'

I can't do that when just slipping Margo a length if I pick her up in the local nightclub

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over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Intent. Thats the difference.

What intent?"

Well I don't go out to normal clubs for a fuck- I go drinking and dancing.

In Chams, I rarely drink but I get my fill!

I have done this singly and as a couple- my mindset is still the same.

Inclusive rather than exclusive

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over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Intent. Thats the difference.

What intent?

Well I don't go out to normal clubs for a fuck- I go drinking and dancing.

In Chams, I rarely drink but I get my fill!

I have done this singly and as a couple- my mindset is still the same.

Inclusive rather than exclusive"

So,if you intend to have sex it's swinging. If you don't it's shagging around?

Hey! I'm a swinger

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By *avebabeWoman
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

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over a year ago

I thought, as with most sexually orientated sites, that it is more about being able to narrow it down to (potentially) people who share mutual interests/desires and fit in with what you want to do or experiment with. Though we all have our pet peeves isn't it best to just get on with looking for those potential meets/chats/cam/phone or whatever it is you are looking for and leave the things you don't like for the people who do like them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with any of the above. Not fully.

Forget the labels. Things change over time and the growth of the internet has changed who takes part in any activity.

And why do people insist on perpetuating the myth that everyone who uses 'swinging' sites, including this one, are united in their delusions ?

It's called trolling.

I dont hate swinging couples. I was part of one for a while. Now I am single. Do I have to change my choices if I am single or can I still use this site?

Some are full of shit.

This is Bill,

Bill is browsing the internet and finds a forum full of things he finds distasteful,

Bill clicks off and joins mumsnet instead,

Be like Bill.

Ahhh the friendly, welcoming, all inclusive Swinging Community that people talk about. It's not an urban myth after all.

Call it whatever makes you feel better about yourselves.

Most communities are friendlier to people that approach them with an open mind. You should try it sometime.

Ditto.

You entirely misunderstand me. People in the community are lovely and friendly. Men, women, TV's, couples etc etc. Well the ones that I have met have been fantastic.

The elitist couple Swingers that think they invented sex are entirely different. "

The super swingers..as I call them ...the ones who are no better than you or me...but like to think they are.

Up the Revolution

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over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Intent. Thats the difference.

What intent?

Well I don't go out to normal clubs for a fuck- I go drinking and dancing.

In Chams, I rarely drink but I get my fill!

I have done this singly and as a couple- my mindset is still the same.

Inclusive rather than exclusive

So,if you intend to have sex it's swinging. If you don't it's shagging around?

Hey! I'm a swinger

I don't know about others- I was just speaking for myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can I sor like an eagle when I am surrounded by fuckin pigeons lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But on fab you get verifications so you know how good they are

I'm guessing more than half of verifications given on here are fake

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over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

I'm not a swinger and I have never professed to be one either...

I'm on here because I enjoy sex

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I was growing up I had a difficult time understanding why I was so different from my friends sexually.

I had no idea what a swinger was I'd never heard of it.

But when I did find out it was oh my god there are people out there that think like me and act like me it was also then easier to find like minded people cause I knew where to start looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was initally going to say "and OP's point is?"

But if the comment is in relation to those couples who call themselves "real swingers", and act as if they are an anointed few keeping the flame of the holy calling of swinging alive in the face of the heritical singles, mmf, (although ffm is always ok) and bi and tvss, then l agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on."

Really? I believe in god but feel no justification is necessary.

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over a year ago

"You will always get "high horses" on such subjects, but in reality we all know it is just shagging, it is like religion, they have to justify why there is a god and so on.

Really? I believe in god but feel no justification is necessary."
lol I was just comparing there, but yeah u r right there too x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are POF users swingers?"

Yes it stands for plenty of fucking

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Oh my god ! I feel so cheap now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cheap and hopefully cheerful me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I hold parties for couples they swap etc...often in same room. Just slagging around is more of a 1 to 1 thing...more often than not , behind a partners back. While this may go on in "swinger land" it is less common and generally frowned upon....so YES I would say there is a difference.....or NO it is NOT the same (I forgot how the OP phrased the question lol!)

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"cheap and hopefully cheerful me thinks

Well there is that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its organised shagging around

Agree!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's room for everybody

Hutch up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once we're having fun, who really cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I hold parties for couples they swap etc...often in same room. Just slagging around is more of a 1 to 1 thing...more often than not , behind a partners back. While this may go on in "swinger land" it is less common and generally frowned upon....so YES I would say there is a difference.....or NO it is NOT the same (I forgot how the OP phrased the question lol!)"

Cheating is frowned upon by single people and people not in swinger land. You're saying shagging around is a 1:1 thing. Each couple you arrange parties for swaps partners and has 1:1 sex yes? So they are just shagging around. Glad you cleared that up

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over a year ago

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Well I have had plenty of vanilla sex(lived in Ibiza) and believe it or not there are more vanilla thinking people than kinksters. You just need to see how many people thought 50 shades was book with good sex?????

So call us what you want.....but yes we have a common need.....great sex!!!

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

For some, yes.

For others, no.

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

I think the op is quite right I see this form of sex as shagging, in the way that there is little or no real intimacy it's just very basic cocks in holes and holes are goals ....

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

We love swinging,we have always considered it pretty much,

consensual shagging around.

I'm thinking,your thinking,a wee bit too much about,

how other people think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" True. Guess it's an attempt to make shagging around seem like a lifestyle? Ultimately if sex and sexuality define what you're about,I think you're missing out in life.

Very true

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over a year ago

Swinging, shaging around, being promiscuous, call it what you will, its still fun, I used to love going to the bars and clubs, picking up random women for a one night stand, but as I got older my values changed, and I can no longer put up with what they pass off as music these days.

But I think if you want to call it swinging, then that's what you should call it, it would be the same as stopping someone referring to them self as sexually free, and telling them they are a tart

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Swinging, shaging around, being promiscuous, call it what you will, its still fun, I used to love going to the bars and clubs, picking up random women for a one night stand, but as I got older my values changed, and I can no longer put up with what they pass off as music these days.

But I think if you want to call it swinging, then that's what you should call it, it would be the same as stopping someone referring to them self as sexually free, and telling them they are a tart"

Swinging and using swinging sites or clubs is simply a way of contacting other people with the same interests without stepping on peoples toes.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Isn't it about time that some Swingers admitted to themselves that swinging is just shagging around?

Derek and Mavis tootling off to a swingers club hoping for a shag is exactly the same as Dave/ Sharon going to a nightclub hoping for a shag.

Why the continued blinkered belief that Swinging is somehow a Special Hobby that only certain people have inately 'in their souls'?

Although I agree up to a point, we particularly enjoy group fun.. which is much less likely to happen at a nightclub.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shagging around maybe,but wow weve met some sexy and great people along the way theres no bullshit or stress not like going to a vanilla club swinging is the greatest way to meet good people.

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