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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Lovin' the username btw

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lovin' the username btw "

Thank you

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Don't ask you'll never do it then

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Sleepless nights, nappys,night feeds,teething,

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up. "

I turned into a weeble, threw up for 4 months, had hideous heartburn for the other 5, my water broke and 36 hours later (after a few injections and an IV) out he popped. He looked like a garden gnome.

After the birth I had a tiny graze which stang like a mother fucker every time I went to pee but it was OK.

Sleep deprivation, colic and mostly poop and puke followed.

Now he's nearly 5 and I wouldn't change a minute even tho most days he drives me Batshit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't ask you'll never do it then

That's the kinda stuff I do wanna know. Stretch marks, piles, whatever. I've been considering having children for a while, but I realised I know absolutely nothing about pregnancy.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

Ask them about the fishing net that they keep beside the birthing pool

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up.

After the birth I had a tiny graze which stang like a mother fucker every time I went to pee but it was OK.

Sleep deprivation, colic and mostly poop and puke followed.

Now he's nearly 5 and I wouldn't change a minute even tho most days he drives me Batshit

A garden gnome sounds adorable. I'd want to dress them up with a little fishing rod.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each different pregnancy was different for me so it would be really difficult to give you an idea of what to expect in terms of that as no experience is ever the same. And believe me my stories would put you off ever having a baby.

Body changes after birth, baby 1 I was back in a size 8 jeans the next day, 2nd one I went up 3 dress sizes, no 3 I stayed the same size in my stomach etc but my boobs grew 2 sizes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up.

After the birth I had a tiny graze which stang like a mother fucker every time I went to pee but it was OK.

Sleep deprivation, colic and mostly poop and puke followed.

Now he's nearly 5 and I wouldn't change a minute even tho most days he drives me Batshit

A garden gnome sounds adorable. I'd want to dress them up with a little fishing rod. "

He did. It didn't occur to me till after when I looked back at the picture of him a few hours after he was born with his little hat on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant go for a poop alone because all of a sudden your not intelligent enough to know the difference bewteen a poop and a baby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??"

I assumed it'd just be a pulling sensation. Did you have mastitis or is that normal?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You cant go for a poop alone because all of a sudden your not intelligent enough to know the difference bewteen a poop and a baby

Did you poo your baby out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You cant go for a poop alone because all of a sudden your not intelligent enough to know the difference bewteen a poop and a baby

Lol I remember something similar lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a mum, but when I first saw my best friend a day or two after she she gave birth, I was surprised at how blood shot her eyes were due to how hard she had been pushing. They didn't completely clear up for a week or so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!"

I don't even know how long crowning lasts, assumed it'd be a short period of time. Is it long?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I absolutely loved being pregnant. All 3 of my births were different. First one was 15 days late by my dates and was nearly taken down for an emergency c section. 2nd one got stuck in the birth canal but was pushed out by me and a midwife pushing my tummy as I had a contraction. 3rd one was born in about 20 minutes and we only just made it the hospital. All I had to do was fart I think!

I would do it all again to

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By *xpanding our horizonsCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up. "

I was 19 when I was pregnant with mu first. A very young and stupid 19, with a man of 42. I remember reading all the books etc, thinking I knew it all. But when this wiggling, slightly blue, vernix covered infant was passed between my legs, I was in total shock. Pregnancy and actually having a baby didn't really connect in my head. And then afterwards, the incessant bleeding for weeks and weeks and weeks. Still went on to have 2 more. I look at my eldest child now, he's the same age I was when I had him..and I think...why did nobody shake me and tell me to live a life back then. So young. I don't regret them. But do regret not having a life.

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By *rishman75Man
over a year ago

Chessington/epsom

Sleepless nights and grey hair lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not a mum, but when I first saw my best friend a day or two after she she gave birth, I was surprised at how blood shot her eyes were due to how hard she had been pushing. They didn't completely clear up for a week or so

My SIL's sister had a baby when she was a teenager, had to have 80 stitches from her episiotomy. She was using a wheel chair when the Sister (not knowing) told her to walk to the toilet/bed. I've been worried ever since hearing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You cant go for a poop alone because all of a sudden your not intelligent enough to know the difference bewteen a poop and a baby

Did you poo your baby out?

Nope it was poop but the kinky bitch insisted on watching....from up close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest shock by far, is the fact they let you take a small person home with you at the end of it, and expect you to cope with the small person until they become normal sized persons... it's not the 9 months that gets you, it's the 18 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1st pregnancy. Baby very small and I was tiny. No problems and labour fine. Horrible staff in hospital. Rude. Uncaring vile people.

2nd. Home birth. Big baby. Drs told me baby too big never have at home. Midwife wonderful and amazing and supported me at home. Labour painful but not terrible. Sat there and said I want another one!!

3rd home birth. 18 moths later Average size had gestational diabetes. Midwife again wonderful. Same as no 2. No more tho!

I have no stretch marks and lost all weight immediately through breast feeding. After baby 2 I was back in size 10 jeans 10 days after giving the birth.

No sleep for 3 years. I was like a zombie!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I absolutely loved being pregnant. All 3 of my births were different. First one was 15 days late by my dates and was nearly taken down for an emergency c section. 2nd one got stuck in the birth canal but was pushed out by me and a midwife pushing my tummy as I had a contraction. 3rd one was born in about 20 minutes and we only just made it the hospital. All I had to do was fart I think!

I would do it all again to

No trauma or anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I was born with a penis - this thread is terrifying.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!"

I don't even remember that.

I did stroke the top of his head as it popped out tho and had a good prod at the placenta once that was out too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You cant go for a poop alone because all of a sudden your not intelligent enough to know the difference bewteen a poop and a baby

Did you poo your baby out?

Nope it was poop but the kinky bitch insisted on watching....from up close

I think that'd be the worst bit. I've had a few ops where I wasn't allowed to move after for 8 hours, they pull your knickers off and hold the bed pan under for your wee. It's definitely humbling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm so glad I was born with a penis - this thread is terrifying.

You not seen Junior?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Particularly hatedthe doctor checking my waters were completey ruptured. 10 mins of his hand up me saying cough cough cough

Pregnancy was great though.

I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"You cant go for a poop alone because all of a sudden your not intelligent enough to know the difference bewteen a poop and a baby

Did you poo your baby out?

Nope it was poop but the kinky bitch insisted on watching....from up close

I think that'd be the worst bit. I've had a few ops where I wasn't allowed to move after for 8 hours, they pull your knickers off and hold the bed pan under for your wee. It's definitely humbling. "

I was in and out the loo the whole time I was in labour and nobody followed me. They encouraged me to walk about as much as possible but I didn't stray too far from the gas and air.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!

I don't even remember that.

I did stroke the top of his head as it popped out tho and had a good prod at the placenta once that was out too

I never felt that either. With my second my body started pushing on its own i literally couldnt control it. Weirdest this ever xx

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Ask them about the fishing net that they keep beside the birthing pool

Haha!!! My 2nd was a water birth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh what a lovely thread to bring tears to my eyes. No one tells you how much your first post childbirth poo hurts.

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Particularly hatedthe doctor checking my waters were completey ruptured. 10 mins of his hand up me saying cough cough cough

Pregnancy was great though.

I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x"

I kinda want to hear the horror stories, in a macabre sense. I'd be more worried if the outcomes were unknown.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Particularly hatedthe doctor checking my waters were completey ruptured. 10 mins of his hand up me saying cough cough cough

Pregnancy was great though.

I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x"

When I thought my water had gone but wasn't sure if I had just peed myself they sent me to be checked as I wasn't having contractions by that point.

The nurse came into the cubicle where I was legs akimbo wearing a hat with a torch on the top!

I just said "are you taking the piss?" my fella was rolling about laughing. Apparently it's just easier to see up there that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??"

I found the first two weeks were sheer agony but after that, it was fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pregnancies were all lush

Fist birth was terrible....10 hour labour followed by an emergency section that they had to knock me out for because the epidural didn't work properly which they discovered when they sliced into my womb with a scalpel

Second one was natural but they had to stitch my arse and my minge back together due to a 3rd degree tear

3rd was a piece of piss, born on the front seat of my car in the bus stop of our local hospital (not the one I was meant to go to)

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!

I don't even remember that.

I did stroke the top of his head as it popped out tho and had a good prod at the placenta once that was out too

I never felt that either. With my second my body started pushing on its own i literally couldnt control it. Weirdest this ever xx"

Yeah I was asking how will I know I'm pushing right and she just said you'll know... Then I started to push and It was weird...

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

acute memory loss afterwards,otherwise you'd never get pregnant again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two wonderful pregnancies with no health problems. Labour almost killed me & my babies: without excellent care in hospital, the three of us would not be here now. Episiotomy stitches are agony. A caesarian scar is easier to cope with. Breastfeeding is nature's liposuction, but bloody hell it's knackering and can be painful too. Especially when they get teeth.

All worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Particularly hatedthe doctor checking my waters were completey ruptured. 10 mins of his hand up me saying cough cough cough

Pregnancy was great though.

I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x

When I thought my water had gone but wasn't sure if I had just peed myself they sent me to be checked as I wasn't having contractions by that point.

The nurse came into the cubicle where I was legs akimbo wearing a hat with a torch on the top!

I just said "are you taking the piss?" my fella was rolling about laughing. Apparently it's just easier to see up there that way.

She look like she was going spelunking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x

I kinda want to hear the horror stories, in a macabre sense. I'd be more worried if the outcomes were unknown. "

Well both mine pooped inside. So i had to be hooked up to monitors the whole time and unable to move around. New research thinks sweeps maybe cause babys to poop and i had them with both.

First was ok but plancenta wouldnt deliver and i had some problems.

Second baby swallowed some poop born blue agpar score of 1 or 2. I was bleeding out so 6 doctors reviving baby and 3 on me. 2 weeks in hospital. Little one survibed had seizures suspected epilepsy and brain damage from being born not breathing. Specialists flown in on a helicopter very dramatic.

Also had a infection with swallowing poop. Lots of scans for months. Even displayed signs of a blood disorder not seen here in white british. Long and short though amazing doctors and nurses and she is 4 in a couple of weeks.

Children are a blessing but they call it labour for a reason xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Shit pregnancy and I was induced nearly 8 weeks early. But the one thing I laugh about, is when he came down the birth canal and nothing would convince myself I hadn't shit myself it was every sensation and I was convinced but i was telling my grandsons mother this before she went into labour, but then she did shit herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My waters broke in the middle of the night so I was told to go to the hospital.

They told me my waters hadn't broken and sent me home. Went back the next morning with really bad labour pains. They said it would be ages before I was ready to give birth so I had pethidine so I could relax and get some sleep. My husband and mum were told to go home. The next minute, I have a massive urge to push, surrounded by midwives, nurses who then push me very rapidly to a delivery room whilst trying to find my husband's telephone number to get him to get back pronto. I was too out of it with the pethidine to help. My son was born, no stitches, cuts or tears.

My labour was apparently 5 hours.

All I would say is listen to your body as you know it better than any medical person.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh and when I was lying on the bed with a drip in each arm an internal monitor and external monitors attached to me and the midwife said to get comfy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when my (m) son was born nobody had told me that babies don't cry immediately when they come out, thank you TV for giving me the illusion that they do, so I nearly had a heart attack when there was no crying, but once I heard that first cry it was magic...amazing feeling...

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"Ask them about the fishing net that they keep beside the birthing pool

Haha!!! My 2nd was a water birth

It put me off. With my second I clearly remember the midwife holding her hand under my bum to catch it. All dignity went there and then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am going to have to say that I don't think I have any horror stories... Apart from maybe my ffirst ( have 6

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My first I didn't know better and I was made to give birth.. on my back x legs in stirrups basically pushing against gravity. He was a big baby despite being early and has his hand over his head.. I panicked and pushed when they said don't... The results were a lot of stitches

If I was to give any advice it would be to listen to your body and use gravity. Kneel up the bed, and after enjoy that first Feed... Be it breast or not ( personally found breastfeeding amazing )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x

I kinda want to hear the horror stories, in a macabre sense. I'd be more worried if the outcomes were unknown.

Well both mine pooped inside. So i had to be hooked up to monitors the whole time and unable to move around. New research thinks sweeps maybe cause babys to poop and i had them with both.

First was ok but plancenta wouldnt deliver and i had some problems.

Children are a blessing but they call it labour for a reason xx"

Are they both okay now? I'm sorry you had such a rough time, although I suspect it was more than worth it in the long term.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"acute memory loss afterwards,otherwise you'd never get pregnant again

I found that as soon as I felt the first labour pain for my second all the memories came rushing back. I remember thinking " why the fuck did I agree to do this again". I still had a third though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so glad I was born with a penis - this thread is terrifying.

No worries, if men had to do the baby incubator thing we would have evolved as marcupiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wont say anymore though both my labours were horror stories x

I kinda want to hear the horror stories, in a macabre sense. I'd be more worried if the outcomes were unknown.

Well both mine pooped inside. So i had to be hooked up to monitors the whole time and unable to move around. New research thinks sweeps maybe cause babys to poop and i had them with both.

First was ok but plancenta wouldnt deliver and i had some problems.

Children are a blessing but they call it labour for a reason xx

Are they both okay now? I'm sorry you had such a rough time, although I suspect it was more than worth it in the long term. "

You know what they are both very healthy clever girls. No problems at all. The youngest has a card we have to take with her everywhere for life re the blood anomaly. However it wont ever cause any problems theyve said. All very much worth it. Ive heard worse stories than mine but thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got pussy piles! No bastard told me I'd get varicose veins in my fanny - sweet mother of God! And a low lying placenta = no sex for 2 months before the baby way born and I had the raging horn the whole time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.i only just made it to hospital with my 2nd....i was stood there in the coridor grabbing the security guard shouting..the babys comingggg!!!...finally made it into reception...i was that loud they examined me straight away...the nurse said..are you ready for your baby?...i was like yessss!!...she said good..pushhh!!!...32 minutes later and me shouting that much shite as i was off my head on the gas and air lol...the midwife said...its a girl!!...i even guessed her weight correctly...she said ooo thats big isnt it...i said what? the baby?...she said no..your piles!!!!....and that was that. Lmao xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up. "

Its different for everybody.

Unless we are in the Matrix- then its the same

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"I got pussy piles! No bastard told me I'd get varicose veins in my fanny - sweet mother of God! And a low lying placenta = no sex for 2 months before the baby way born and I had the raging horn the whole time."

I told my teenage daughter about pussy piles. It horrified her into not getting upduff young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"acute memory loss afterwards,otherwise you'd never get pregnant again

Actually its the massive release of endorphins!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hadnt heard of them till now! Doesnt matter how much you prepare something will always happen your not prepared for i guess lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a lovely pregnancy, didn't really get morning sickness but I used to pretend to throw up in the toilets in work and milked being sent home with full pay for ages! Didn't have any weird cravings apart from wanting to eat sandwiches all the time! My ex and I split half way through my pregnancy but was the first time in 10 years that I didn't care about him anymore, remember being in the bath and feeling her kicking or going to bed at night and feeling her kicking and wriggling. The only way you can describe it is if you're holding a fish and it's struggling and flipping around, it's actually a stunning feeling. Would talk to her and play music to her then there was the weeks leading up to your due date where nerves start kicking in. Remember saying to my friend who had had two babies, oh I'll be alright I'm pretty good with pain and she was like no it fucking hurts!

My due date came and at 3am I went for a pee and water kept trickling and wouldn't stop for about half hour, no pain just trickling out. Managed to grab my phone and call the midwife and she came out and examined me and said my waters were going and if I don't go into labour naturally the rest of the day and night I'd have to go into hospital the next morning to be induced. Nothing happened so next morning I drove myself and my nan to the hospital for 8am and was taken to the labour ward and had the monitors on my stomach and the drip in my arm which starts your contractions. Now contractions are horrible, they're like a wave of pain that goes over your stomach and reaches a peak of immense pain then subsides again. They get worse and stronger and closer together as your labour progresses. From 8:30am to 23:45 I reached 10cms and was told to start pushing, pushed for 35 minutes in all positions but nothing was happening and at this point I was exhausted and felt like I was gonna die, the surgeon came and assessed me and said she was back to back and her shoulders would not pass through my pelvis and I needed to go to theatre for a c section. They gave me a spinal which numbs you from your boobs all the way down, they tried getting her out with ventouse delivery the suction thing, asked me to push but I couldn't feel my body anymore so they said to clench my teeth together and her head came out, then clench again and her body came out and again for the placenta. She was born at 3:54am and they had a radio on in the theatre and U2 with or without you was playing! My nan was by my side in peach coloured surgical scrubs and a hairnet telling me I was a good girl and she was proud of me. The doctors placed my daughter on my chest and sort of round my neck like a scarf and I remember feeling like it was an out of body experience, just looked down at her and said "alright or what". Could smell blood and saw this bucket full of stuff that I've been trying to train my memory not to remember then we were taken back to my room. They asked me something about giving her some vitamin injection thing and I said yes then I heard her crying and sat bolt upright in the bed like Ragan from the exorcist and was like give me my baby! Then it was a blur of people holding her and my sister who was only 14 at the time and had stayed up all night in the waiting room with my mother and hadn't gone to school. Remember my daughter just sleeping for ages and not being any trouble then I changed her bum and there was like this disgusting squidgey thing that looked like a slug in the nappy and I'm frightened of slugs and I spewed all over myself and had to change my nightie. Remember my legs being dead and I was punching my thighs and they felt like I was punching a bag and the nurse told me to stop it! Midnight that night the feeling came back to my legs so had my catheter removed and waddled from the ward to the toilet and had a look at my fanny for the first time with a mirror to see if there was any damage. Remember touching my belly and it felt really soft and weird! Went home the next day my grandfather drove my car home and I sat in the back with my baby just staring at her thinking what the fuck am I gonna do now! Tried breast feeding her but it just wasn't happening and the health visitor said she had lost a lot of her birth weight and if she doesn't put weight on by the next day I'd have to do formula, remember her coming back the next day and saying that I have to give her formula and I remember that made me feel shit like a failure that couldn't even feed my own kid cos so much emphasis was on breast is best. Bought baby milk and she turned into a bumper within a few days, she was plump and cute and it was the nicest thing in the world to have her tiny in your arms giving her a bottle and she'd just stare at me like ahh right so I recognise your voice you're my mammy! Was lush, and you get that lioness moment where you think no fucker on this earth will ever hurt you because I will kill them!

Body wise pregnancy didn't really take that much of a toll on my body was back in size 6 jeans within a week and didn't have one single stretch mark but did burst a blood vessel from pushing so hard! It's a tiny red thing that looks like a broken capillary under my right eye! I've gone fat since purely becaue I don't have the same amount of time to dedicate to myself as I used to before I had any responsibilities.

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over a year ago

My first had a large head - spent almost an hour getting stitched up and had an infection by the time I went home - was basically told to "woman up", community midwife visited house day after and confirmed it looked like an infection. Three courses of antibiotics later and I developed an overgrowth of granulation tissue which wept constantly - stitches had dissolved without the episiotomy closing fully. Back to hospital a couple of times over next few months for cauterisation until the doc eventually said they couldn't really do any more unless I wanted them to redo the cut and stitch.....

And of course there was the post-natal depression after two of my three were born...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I would do it all again to

No trauma or anything?"

With my second when he got stuck, he was 9 lb 11 oz, the midwife pressed the emergency button not explaining what was happening next thing I knew there was about 8 medical staff around the bed. That was pretty scary.

With my daughter although she was born quickly the placenta wouldn't come out for ages. Again I was just about to sign a consent form to have it surgically removed when we decided for another push. I was so relieved when it came out.

Tbh it the not knowing how it's going to go thats the scary bit OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hadnt heard of them till now! Doesnt matter how much you prepare something will always happen your not prepared for i guess lol"

I didn't hear about them until they happened, and this was baby number 3. The pain was awful and constant. The irony of the placenta covering the opening of the cervix so baby was a planned c-section and baby was never exiting said area. I had pussy piles for no reason!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??

I assumed it'd just be a pulling sensation. Did you have mastitis or is that normal?"

It is like 100s of tiny needles being pulled through your nipple, it is horrendous for the 1st few minutes

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over a year ago

I hadnt heard of them till now! Doesnt matter how much you prepare something will always happen your not prepared for i guess lol

Its certianly something they havent put un the mags. Sounds really painful

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Well from sound of it my ex had a breeze ...the first she had in 15 min no gas or air ..number 2 , I delivered on front room floor..20 min no gas or air.. and the third she had in hos, no gas or air ..10 min ..

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over a year ago

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up. "

Nipples went from pink to.Brown, I cried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't tell you that you might shit yourself during the birthing process!!!

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pain sweat n tears bit of screaming then u get to the point where u wanna give up. That's just the beginning times all that by 1000 add a little more pain a big push and all the pain is forgotten and replaced with more love the u can ever imagine possible x

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over a year ago

The burn as the head starts coming out.. Ooohhh that burn, never forget that pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pain sweat n tears bit of screaming then u get to the point where u wanna give up. That's just the beginning times all that by 1000 add a little more pain a big push and all the pain is forgotten and replaced with more love the u can ever imagine possible x"

Then you have a life time of mess, empty purse. 4get the late nights and long lie in for at least 18 years lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one warns you about day 3....after the birth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didnt have morning sickness, didnt have cravings, Didnt have any contractions, my waters didn't break.. i had a spinal and a C Section.

When they say 'do not lift anything' please obey those rules, i ended up back in hospital because i pulled stitches trying to be 'wonder woman'

oh and if friends/family want to help out LET THEM

sleep when baby does.. power napping saved my sanity

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over a year ago

I feel extremely fortunate after reading some of these stories. I had my 3rd and final baby at the age of 21. Worse thing I had during pregnancy was heartburn with the second,all my labours were normal and my last,who was 9lb 4,I didn't go to the hospital until an hour before he was born because it's boring in hospital. Didn't bother with pain relief because I don't like the after effects. Few stitches each time and a lot of stretch marks but that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hadnt heard of them till now! Doesnt matter how much you prepare something will always happen your not prepared for i guess lol

Its certianly something they havent put un the mags. Sounds really painful

A little manual stimulation helped - but not really practical at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The burn as the head starts coming out.. Ooohhh that burn, never forget that pain."

I liken it to pulling your lips sideways really far, want to know the pain for the head coming out? Do that, I love giving birth, I would do it more if I actually wanted more kids, I give birth in silence too, I'm not a screamer, the baby tends to come quicker.

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The burn as the head starts coming out.. Ooohhh that burn, never forget that pain."

I actually started singing Johnny Cash Ring of Fire with number 2!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the best feeling ever lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"acute memory loss afterwards,otherwise you'd never get pregnant again

I found that as soon as I felt the first labour pain for my second all the memories came rushing back. I remember thinking " why the fuck did I agree to do this again". I still had a third though

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that is so true...

For me no although warned the constant need to pee in the early months and then with baby was the worst and the sciatica that I developed during my last 4 pregnancies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

-Courtney

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over a year ago

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up. "

I loved every minute of my pregnancy,bit of mornin sickness at the beginnin,but flew tru wit no other problems...Birth was 8hrs start to finish no pain relief,agony but such an amazin experience,would do it all again in a heartbeat...I loved my body wen i was pregnant,boobs got big,healthy glow bout me,an was still gettin chatted up at 7months pregnants thats how small my bump was...You can ask women bout there eperience of pregnancy n birth,an they will have different stories to say...But you may not go tru wat they went tru an wat have

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over a year ago

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!

I don't even remember that.

I did stroke the top of his head as it popped out tho and had a good prod at the placenta once that was out too

I never felt that either. With my second my body started pushing on its own i literally couldnt control it. Weirdest this ever xx"

I pushed & nothing happened for ages hence the burning feeling, not everyone feels this thank gawd!!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No one told me at certain angles after the contraction you can feel baby being sucked back up.

I was in slow labour for 3 weeks with my first and she was born with the amniotic fluid pouch around her. My waters broke but not properly

When other people's babies would cry my milk would let down and I'd leak

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one told me at certain angles after the contraction you can feel baby being sucked back up.

I was in slow labour for 3 weeks with my first and she was born with the amniotic fluid pouch around her. My waters broke but not properly

When other people's babies would cry my milk would let down and I'd leak

A lot or just small amounts? One of the marketing girls used to always discuss her nipple pads

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The burn as the head starts coming out.. Ooohhh that burn, never forget that pain.

G x"

My legs crossed as I read that.

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

The op should watch the Rob Delaney/Sharon Horgan C4 comedy called Catastrophe.

Very funny and very accurate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The op should watch the Rob Delaney/Sharon Horgan C4 comedy called Catastrophe.

Very funny and very accurate."

Watched the first series and gave up on the second. It just got a bit too crude for my taste in humour

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over a year ago

"No one told me at certain angles after the contraction you can feel baby being sucked back up.

I was in slow labour for 3 weeks with my first and she was born with the amniotic fluid pouch around her. My waters broke but not properly

When other people's babies would cry my milk would let down and I'd leak

A lot or just small amounts? One of the marketing girls used to always discuss her nipple pads

Enough to soak through if you're not wearing the pads

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What happened with your periods after birth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??

I assumed it'd just be a pulling sensation. Did you have mastitis or is that normal?

It is like 100s of tiny needles being pulled through your nipple, it is horrendous for the 1st few minutes

Thats a bad latch.

My Small 'nipple-fed' for the first two weeks- had a lesson in how to get her to latch- different story.

If anyone wants any help with that feel free to pm me. Not bigheaded but I really do know my stuff about breastfeeding x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened with your periods after birth?"

It varies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That your foof will go a strange purple colour.

That your labia can tear not just your vaginal canal / entrance to your vagina/perineum.

That midwives don't always know best.

That you cannot assume you will automatically bond with your baby.

That breastfeeding although natural takes practice, patience and an unbelievable amount of pain, even if you get the technique right!

That walking out of hospital with your newborn you will feel like "I can't believe they are just letting me leave with an actual baby!" You'll drive home at 10 miles an hour!

That somehow, it is all worth it, somehow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??

I assumed it'd just be a pulling sensation. Did you have mastitis or is that normal?

It is like 100s of tiny needles being pulled through your nipple, it is horrendous for the 1st few minutes

Thats a bad latch.

My Small 'nipple-fed' for the first two weeks- had a lesson in how to get her to latch- different story.

If anyone wants any help with that feel free to pm me. Not bigheaded but I really do know my stuff about breastfeeding x

Not necessarily, I experienced excruciating pain breastfeeding even though I was observed by midwives an breast feeding consultants who all said I had the perfect latch. It was frustrating because they were telling me it shouldn't be hurting but it did! It eased after about 14 weeks but I breastfed until my daughter was 15 months and even then, every time I let down it was so painful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??

I assumed it'd just be a pulling sensation. Did you have mastitis or is that normal?

It is like 100s of tiny needles being pulled through your nipple, it is horrendous for the 1st few minutes

Thats a bad latch.

My Small 'nipple-fed' for the first two weeks- had a lesson in how to get her to latch- different story.

If anyone wants any help with that feel free to pm me. Not bigheaded but I really do know my stuff about breastfeeding x

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over a year ago

Oooh and I never got the urge to push with my first. My contractions never became regular and I was constantly told that I wasn't yet in "active labour", they soon changed their minds when my daughter arrived in my knickers! Finally, after pains, I never knew about them and feeding made them so much worse (although it's actually a good thing because it means your womb is contracting back).

I'll try to stop now, could talk about having babies for hours!

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over a year ago

"Breast feeding really really fucking hurts and it does make your toes curl in pain . Then it becomes easy phew ??

I assumed it'd just be a pulling sensation. Did you have mastitis or is that normal?

It is like 100s of tiny needles being pulled through your nipple, it is horrendous for the 1st few minutes

Thats a bad latch.

My Small 'nipple-fed' for the first two weeks- had a lesson in how to get her to latch- different story.

If anyone wants any help with that feel free to pm me. Not bigheaded but I really do know my stuff about breastfeeding x

No they were checked for that and all was fine x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oooh and I never got the urge to push with my first. My contractions never became regular and I was constantly told that I wasn't yet in "active labour", they soon changed their minds when my daughter arrived in my knickers! Finally, after pains, I never knew about them and feeding made them so much worse (although it's actually a good thing because it means your womb is contracting back).

I'll try to stop now, could talk about having babies for hours!"

You've taught me things I didn't know, so thanks

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone ever tells you what it feels like to stand up for the first few times after a vaginal birth

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

Of course I do. What has made you think I'm not aware of that?

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over a year ago

"Noone ever tells you what it feels like to stand up for the first few times after a vaginal birth "

What does it feel like?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

Of course I do. What has made you think I'm not aware of that?"
the part in your op that says " what didn't people warn you about" answer not every pregnancy is the same

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over a year ago

Morning sickness . Intense heartburn , aching legs , massive weight gain , water retention , low iron leading to no energy , stretch marks like you wouldn't believe , then the birth .

Hours of pushing and straining , shitting yourself , piles , and then a Caesarian after 6 hours .

Couldn't breastfeed due to lack of milk after 3 days , Found it so hard to bond .....

And then the shitty nappies , colic , up all night trying to get him settled .

And now he's 8 , and for the last 4 years paying £25 for a sitter every time we go out .....

Go for it op ....

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over a year ago

"You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

Of course I do. What has made you think I'm not aware of that?the part in your op that says " what didn't people warn you about" answer not every pregnancy is the same

Please don't assume I'm an idiot for not knowing anything except for the general process of gestation and birthing. It was a general question, general answers were expected.

I've also not dismissed anyone for having differing experiences. It seems weird to have a go at me for wanting to find out more.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I had one horror birth, where they didn't think my baby would survive and it was too late to do a Caesarian and my second was a cough and there he was!!

Everybody's experience is different, but within moments of holding your baby in your arms you forget about the pain,humiliation, embarrassing bits and feel an over whelming love.

Good luck x

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over a year ago

"Morning sickness . Intense heartburn , aching legs , massive weight gain , water retention , low iron leading to no energy , stretch marks like you wouldn't believe , then the birth .

Hours of pushing and straining , shitting yourself , piles , and then a Caesarian after 6 hours .

Couldn't breastfeed due to lack of milk after 3 days , Found it so hard to bond .....

And then the shitty nappies , colic , up all night trying to get him settled .

And now he's 8 , and for the last 4 years paying £25 for a sitter every time we go out .....

Go for it op ....

When you soiled yourself, were you made aware? Or was it dealt with discreetly?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh yes, and I wasn't prepared for the negative remarks I got for not being able to feed my baby myself

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over a year ago

I was mahoosive when I was pregnant! Absolutely enormous bump. One man asked how long I had to go and when I said 3 more months he looked very alarmed and kindly told me that I was bigger than his wife was the day before she gave birth

How I haven't got stretch marks I do not know, it makes no sense!

Also, with my first I didn't realise that the urge to push felt like needing a poo so I held back for hours. My pethidine addled logic told me it was an inappropriate time for a bowel movement. After 3 days eventually my son was born and I haemorrhaged 2 litres of blood. I was in shock for a good 3 months.

Fortunately my second only took a day and a half with no complications.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've never gone into labour naturally with all four of mine. My first was 10lb and 9Oz and by far the hardest work. I had a episiotomy. The thing I remember most was waking up after a nap (in these days you stayed in hospital for seven days) to find a hospital social worker sat by bed because she thought that and I quote 'youre too young at 17 to cope with a baby!" She wanted me to consider putting him up for adoption. She was also extremely unhappy with my choice of name for him. Fortunately, my partner arrived and told her to do one.

The middle two were relatively easy and small.

The youngest was born in his sac of amniotic fluid. I'd been admitted because of gestational diabetes. Staff on the ward refused to belive I was in labour until my partner insisted they check and low and behold I was 8cm dialated. They got to the lift door and whoosh there he was. Intact in his sac. They had to pop it with a pair of surgical scissors and wheel me into a side room.

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over a year ago

"I was mahoosive when I was pregnant! Absolutely enormous bump. One man asked how long I had to go and when I said 3 more months he looked very alarmed and kindly told me that I was bigger than his wife was the day before she gave birth

How I haven't got stretch marks I do not know, it makes no sense!

Fortunately my second only took a day and a half with no complications."

Did you moisturise to avoid the stretch marks, or just naturally lucky?

I've already got some on my thighs from puberty, so suspect I'm predisposed to them.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I had one horror birth, where they didn't think my baby would survive and it was too late to do a Caesarian and my second was a cough and there he was!!

Everybody's experience is different, but within moments of holding your baby in your arms you forget about the pain,humiliation, embarrassing bits and feel an over whelming love.

Good luck x

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I've never gone into labour naturally with all four of mine. My first was 10lb and 9Oz and by far the hardest work. I had a episiotomy. The thing I remember most was waking up after a nap (in these days you stayed in hospital for seven days) to find a hospital social worker sat by bed because she thought that and I quote 'youre too young at 17 to cope with a baby!" She wanted me to consider putting him up for adoption. She was also extremely unhappy with my choice of name for him. Fortunately, my partner arrived and told her to do one.

The middle two were relatively easy and small.

I should add this happened after a sweep. The others labour started via a drip.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

Of course I do. What has made you think I'm not aware of that?the part in your op that says " what didn't people warn you about" answer not every pregnancy is the same

Please don't assume I'm an idiot for not knowing anything except for the general process of gestation and birthing. It was a general question, general answers were expected.

I've also not dismissed anyone for having differing experiences. It seems weird to have a go at me for wanting to find out more. "
what the bloody hell are you on about? Idiot? Assume? Having ago at you? For answering your bloody question.

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over a year ago

"Morning sickness . Intense heartburn , aching legs , massive weight gain , water retention , low iron leading to no energy , stretch marks like you wouldn't believe , then the birth .

Hours of pushing and straining , shitting yourself , piles , and then a Caesarian after 6 hours .

Couldn't breastfeed due to lack of milk after 3 days , Found it so hard to bond .....

And then the shitty nappies , colic , up all night trying to get him settled .

And now he's 8 , and for the last 4 years paying £25 for a sitter every time we go out .....

Go for it op ....

When you soiled yourself, were you made aware? Or was it dealt with discreetly?"

The midwife just cleaned it up , relatively discreetly . Last thing on my mind was whether I was bothered to be honest . Just so wanted the whole experience to be over with ..... Had an epidural and couldn't feel too much .

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over a year ago

How I haven't got stretch marks I do not know, it makes no sense!

Fortunately my second only took a day and a half with no complications.

Did you moisturise to avoid the stretch marks, or just naturally lucky?

I've already got some on my thighs from puberty, so suspect I'm predisposed to them. "

I have them from growing as a teenager on my thighs and bum so I don't know how my stomach escaped them. High up on my inner thighs have some from being pregnant. Moisturizing is apparently completely ineffective at preventing stretch marks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

Of course I do. What has made you think I'm not aware of that?the part in your op that says " what didn't people warn you about" answer not every pregnancy is the same

Please don't assume I'm an idiot for not knowing anything except for the general process of gestation and birthing. It was a general question, general answers were expected.

I've also not dismissed anyone for having differing experiences. It seems weird to have a go at me for wanting to find out more. what the bloody hell are you on about? Idiot? Assume? Having ago at you? For answering your bloody question. "

Yes, by asking if I knew the obvious. It was a patronising question.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh yes, and not everyone's periods stop when they get pregnant I had three before I found out I was pregnant

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over a year ago

How I haven't got stretch marks I do not know, it makes no sense!

Fortunately my second only took a day and a half with no complications.

Did you moisturise to avoid the stretch marks, or just naturally lucky?

I've already got some on my thighs from puberty, so suspect I'm predisposed to them.

Ahh I've met people who swear by cocoa butter. Never bothered myself.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You do know op that every single pregnancy is different

Of course I do. What has made you think I'm not aware of that?the part in your op that says " what didn't people warn you about" answer not every pregnancy is the same

Please don't assume I'm an idiot for not knowing anything except for the general process of gestation and birthing. It was a general question, general answers were expected.

Yes, by asking if I knew the obvious. It was a patronising question. "
in your mind

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over a year ago

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!"

Yeah but if they told you about that the human race would die out!

its worst with the first one though! The second and third aren't quite as agonising!

But op - seriously - if it was as bad as some people say it is then the world would be full of only children!

Being a mum is amazing, my kids are pains in the arses and they regularly try to kill each other, but life would be empty as fuck without them! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pregnancy is the same. Best to read about it in general then go with the flow when you're pregnant

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over a year ago

"Noone ever tells you what it feels like to stand up for the first few times after a vaginal birth

What does it feel like?"

Lol like your insides will fall out and the blood and goo

But still it's worth every second and you forget it all the second you look.at a little screwed up face, I did it four times

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!

Yeah but if they told you about that the human race would die out!

its worst with the first one though! The second and third aren't quite as agonising!

But op - seriously - if it was as bad as some people say it is then the world would be full of only children!

Being a mum is amazing, my kids are pains in the arses and they regularly try to kill each other, but life would be empty as fuck without them! Xx"

I definitely want 2, maybe 3, so sort of have the mentality it's a necessary evil at this point.

It seems like a lot of the "gross" stuff isn't really discussed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is absolutely horrifying

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread is absolutely horrifying

-Courtney "

Embrace your destiny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no better feeling than holding your newly born and looking into his or her face.

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over a year ago

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!

Yeah but if they told you about that the human race would die out!

its worst with the first one though! The second and third aren't quite as agonising!

But op - seriously - if it was as bad as some people say it is then the world would be full of only children!

Being a mum is amazing, my kids are pains in the arses and they regularly try to kill each other, but life would be empty as fuck without them! Xx

I definitely want 2, maybe 3, so sort of have the mentality it's a necessary evil at this point.

It seems like a lot of the "gross" stuff isn't really discussed. "

To be honest the gross stuff isn't that important lovely!

Giving birth hurts like fuck - that's a fact - but the minute the midwife puts that little bundle of love in your arms that YOU made and YOU carried you'll fall madly in love, and the pain and exhaustion are instantly forgotten! Whatever I do in life, being a mum to my three will be my greatest achievement! Xxx

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"No one told me at certain angles after the contraction you can feel baby being sucked back up.

I was in slow labour for 3 weeks with my first and she was born with the amniotic fluid pouch around her. My waters broke but not properly

When other people's babies would cry my milk would let down and I'd leak

A lot or just small amounts? One of the marketing girls used to always discuss her nipple pads

Enough to soak through breast pads and tops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread is absolutely horrifying

-Courtney "

Well the great thing about being a women now, Courtney my lovely, is that you can choose to have lots of nookie without the kids if you so wish!

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By *ukepastMan
over a year ago

Newport

"No one & I mean no one ever mentioned the 'ring of fire' during the crowning stage

f*ck me that hurt & I have a fairly high pain threshold!"

I had a colleague that said her pussy felt like it was on fire afterwards and a nurse took her to a toilet that had a cold water spray bidet to help ease the burn...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread is absolutely horrifying

-Courtney "

I know, awful things can happen. I don't know why I'd still rather know.

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over a year ago

Lol it is simply both the most horrifying, painful. Terrifying and undignified experience you will go through however it is also the most life changing wonderful fulfilling thrilling experience That leads to the only unconditional love you will ever experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze.

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over a year ago

A few people have said now that as soon as you have your baby in your arms you get a huge rush of love and joy for your little one, which I did with my second but not with my first. I was utterly terrified and in shock from the traumatic birth. It took a couple of months to fall in love with him and I felt like a complete failure as a mother until that point. It doesn't always pan out the way people say it will.

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over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze."

God, you really whined about that toothache, too.

-Courtney

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over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze.

God, you really whined about that toothache, too.

-Courtney "

And it still hurt less than your meanness.

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over a year ago

"A few people have said now that as soon as you have your baby in your arms you get a huge rush of love and joy for your little one, which I did with my second but not with my first. I was utterly terrified and in shock from the traumatic birth. It took a couple of months to fall in love with him and I felt like a complete failure as a mother until that point. It doesn't always pan out the way people say it will."

This is also true! And post natal depression is an awful thing! Xx

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over a year ago

You leave your dignity at the entrance of the hospital and pick it up on your way back out. Had a midwife flip me like a baby to check my pad, had the breast feeding nurse at 4am trying to milk my nipples like a cow cos I just couldn't get the hang of it!

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over a year ago

"This thread is absolutely horrifying

-Courtney "

That's why it's always a good idea not to listen to other people's birthing stories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze."

But have you been pounded anally?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I just remembered I used to want to be a midwife right up until the delivery room door actually. I didn't realise they had to put their hand inside you. I was asked if a trainee could examine me which usually I'm ok with but this time it was a huge black guy, I remember looking at his hands at being

No way hosay!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is also true! And post natal depression is an awful thing! Xx"

Yeah my sister had terrible post natal depression after having my niece and she always feels terrible when people talk about loving them instantly because she didn't and still feels bad about it now her daughter is 5. So it's not always helpful to asume everyone is going to react exactly the same way.

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over a year ago

"I don't really have many female friends that have had babies, and sadly my mum can't recall pregnancy or giving birth, so I've not got anyone I can ask extremely personal questions.

What actually happened during your pregnancy and birth? What did no one warn you about? What were you warned about but still surprised by? What happened after the birth? How has your body changed?

I'm not pregnant or anything, just want to know what to expect when I do get knocked up. "

How much contractions hurt

no one can prepare you for that!!

How primal pushing is

How knackered you'll be In the beginning

How amazing it truly it is

How much you love them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze.

But have you been pounded anally?"

He wishes.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"This thread is absolutely horrifying

-Courtney "

Courtney all you need to know is yes it's painful but it's the best thing you can ever do IMO.

I would say it's a positive pain because of the end result s baby...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Oh and the smell of new born babies is lush...

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By *elsiemarieWoman
over a year ago

melton mowbray

I've been really lucky and had 3 amazing and easy births. My youngest 2 were water births, absolutely loved them..although not sure I was saying that at the time. My last baby was born 5months ago. Contractions started at 3am, didn't get close together til 8. Had him at 11.30, 4minutes after my waters went. I remember the adrenaline surge after, I couldn't stand and they needed me out of the birthing pool, I was shaking and shivering really bad!

Completely agree with the comments about breast feeding, so painful. I would curl my toes and almost be crying it was awful, once you're past the first week or 2 it's fine. I love breast feeding now. Another thing I was never told about is after pains! I only got them after my last baby and they were worse than labour!

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over a year ago

"I just remembered I used to want to be a midwife right up until the delivery room door actually. I didn't realise they had to put their hand inside you. I was asked if a trainee could examine me which usually I'm ok with but this time it was a huge black guy, I remember looking at his hands at being

No way hosay!!! "

And THIS is why I don't like fisting!!

Seriously - it's like having an examination from a midwife all over again! Tried it once - and he had small hands for a guy! Noooooo thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze.

But have you been pounded anally?"

Only two thousand and fifteen times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze.

But have you been pounded anally?

Only two thousand and fifteen times.

Hahaha.

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over a year ago

"I've had a toothache - this sound like a breeze.

But have you been pounded anally?

Only two thousand and fifteen times.

Oooooh! Do you follow through when you trump now then???

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When I breast fed my first son I ended up with what my friend referred to as a flip top nipple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had my 'bible' (I called it that because I carried it everywhere with my first one), even though I read about it, I still didn't realise I was in labour for about three hours, I thought I was constipated for ages until my father in law took one look at me and said 'right were off to the hospital!'

So my real advice to you is: babies do come early, if it's around your due date don't sit on the loo trying to squeeze a poo out, listen to your body!!

G X (obviously!)

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