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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have no virtually no experience when it comes to sex, it's been a barrier in my life for so long that I need to get over. I'm 30 now and that wall is getting higher and higher. I feel like I've missed out through my twenties. Don't know if this site may help or completely destroy my confidence and send me to the monastery's with the monks, but hey here I am. Any tips and advice will greatly appreciated.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'm not sure many of the ladies on here are looking to be teachers if I'm honest, although you may strike lucky.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Ye I'm a Virgin to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some it may bother some it wont. I had less than a handful of sexual partners when i joined 7 months ago. Some of them were more short aquiantences.

Just be honest with who your looking to meet and enjoy the adventure xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya OP, my opinion is that most women here are here to experience good sex. Often people come on here wanting a specific fantasy. I could be wrong, I often am, but I'm not sure you're going to find many women who want to teach you the ropes. Men already find it very difficult to meet from here and I think your situation might hinder you more.

Why not try another way of meeting women? There are plenty of options out there for men to meet women for sex. Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure many women are into arm pits. ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hiya OP, my opinion is that most women here are here to experience good sex. Often people come on here wanting a specific fantasy. I could be wrong, I often am, but I'm not sure you're going to find many women who want to teach you the ropes. Men already find it very difficult to meet from here and I think your situation might hinder you more.

Why not try another way of meeting women?

There are plenty of options out there for men to meet women for sex. Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.

-Courtney "

Thanks, that's a fair point. I'll see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure many women are into arm pits. .. "

that's where I've been wrong all these years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inexperienced does not necessarily mean bad at sex..

I wonder if a female posted this they would be told same .

Put some more pictures on and create a profile about yourself and not just lack of sexual experience.

There will be women who are in same situation..or who won't mind.... . Or even see it as a kink to 'teach' Might just take longer to find them

But like anyone else.. Don't use this site as the only way of meeting people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think a lot of experience can come out of familiarity so maybe a regular girl rather than the occasional off fab is the way to go - you might gt lucky

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Believe it or not,I love armpits!

Begin gently and just let it happen..your honesty about inexperience will pay off...just be patient...

Hope you find what you're looking for. .Ax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Inexperienced does not necessarily mean bad at sex..

I wonder if a female posted this they would be told same .

Put some more pictures on and create a profile about yourself and not just lack of sexual experience.

There will be women who are in same situation..or who won't mind.... . Or even see it as a kink to 'teach' Might just take longer to find them

But like anyone else.. Don't use this site as the only way of meeting people "

No, a woman wouldn't be told the same. But that is because men and women have different experiences on here. I personally feel like guys should know that they might have a hard time on here. And judging from things I've heard in the past, inexperience isn't necessarily desirable by most (not all) women here.

As I said earlier, I could be wrong. But I wanted to give the OP what I consider to be realistic advice instead of just telling him to be patient and see what happens.

-Courtney

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

OP I notice that you have been on the site for over a year,surely you would know by now if this site is helping you??

Presumably it is not helping,could it be the profile needs a re vamp pics other than armpits on show..Or perhaps you are no different from thousands of single males who say they can't get fucked on this site..

Ps monastery may be the making of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I notice that you have been on the site for over a year,surely you would know by now if this site is helping you??

Presumably it is not helping,could it be the profile needs a re vamp pics other than armpits on show..Or perhaps you are no different from thousands of single males who say they can't get fucked on this site..

Ps monastery may be the making of you."

Not used this site, although I have been on it for a year. Someone mentioned so I had a look what it was about.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"Inexperienced does not necessarily mean bad at sex..

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Agreed. There are guys out there who have had lots of sexual partners but are still bad in bed (selfishness, lack of foreplay etc) and there are some guys who haven't had as much "experience" but are great shags because they understand who to read a woman's body language and take their time.

Regarding the OP, for most ladies confidence is the number 1 thing in a man so admitting to nerves and insecurities is unlikely to lead to meets. Also (in my opinion) most ladies prefer the man to take the lead in the bedroom (at least most of the time) so again confidence is important.

A lack if experience doesn't make someone bad in bed, read up on articles on sex and foreplay Etc. Learning And gaining knowledge about how to satisfy in bed should Help with some of the nerves. Everyone has insecurities and at times you just have to fake it (confidence).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure many of the ladies on here are looking to be teachers if I'm honest, although you may strike lucky. "

Are you saying they are all huge cock loving sex mad hussies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a new pic.

Go to a swingers club.

That way you will meet real people that enjoy sex.

Job done.

Have fun

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've hardly any experience at the sex stuff and it's been a barrier to me all my adult life...

;-)

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Ah OP your story sounds like the story of my life. I just wouldn't worry about it too much. I haven't shagged a million people either. I've never been in a serious relationship. I haven't spent the last few years shagging for England, sadly. I wish I had but you have to make do with the cards life has dealt you sometimes. I don't think I should be denied some fun times on here just because of that. I'll get my coat now if that's the case.

Sex is just sex at the end of the day. You don't need a masters degree in it to be any good. And having it every day doesn't automatically make you any good at it or any more desirable either. Once you've done it a few times you basically know what you're doing anyway. Nature has handily made it quite an easy thing to pick up quickly.

The problem sometimes with this site (and society generally) is that sex is put up on this pedestal. More pressure is put on men to deliver the goods and to show the woman the time of her life than the other way round. The bottom line is it takes two to tango. But I know from experience as a single guy this stuff can get in your head. Women talking about all the amazing sex they're having with guys who knew what they were doing. It can hurt a man who's sat at home alone with the clock ticking. It all ramps up the pressure. You can get sucked into the illusion that everyone's fucking like a pornstar and are having these amazing sexual encounters. But essentially it's all bullshit. It's just sex. People are just having sex. That is all. Some just more regularly than others. Don't get yourself too hung up on the physical side of things and lack of experience.

My only advice would be not to advertise your lack of experience. That won't be desirable to a lot of people. Funny because if you were a woman it would make you very desirable. OP as a single guy you'll find it tough enough. Just get yourself a good profile together and some good pics and see how you go. You have as good a chance as any single guy on here. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys I really do appreciate all your advice, and I will certainly spend some time on a profile. Just wanted to be completely honest with people from the start that I may meet. Would you not tell about how experienced I am? I just get the impression that all women or most are looking for sex gods in the sack. Didn't want to pretend to be something I'm not. I thought by putting on the profile that I would only attract those that may be interested. I understand they maybe few an far between.

Thanks again guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idea of an inexperienced guy is beautiful to me.

How big is your dick and are you handsome?

Oh my god the idea of an inexperienced guy that hasn't had much sex, a big useless dick that's responsive and alert and dribbles pre cum everywhere even when you're just giving it willy smooths. Cock that throbs and twitches on it's on cos it's so new and not used to having a fuss, cock that cums quickly and can go again and again.

Yeah inexperience would not turn me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of an inexperienced guy is beautiful to me.

How big is your dick and are you handsome?

Oh my god the idea of an inexperienced guy that hasn't had much sex, a big useless dick that's responsive and alert and dribbles pre cum everywhere even when you're just giving it willy smooths. Cock that throbs and twitches on it's on cos it's so new and not used to having a fuss, cock that cums quickly and can go again and again.

Yeah inexperience would not turn me off!"

And you could always throw him off if he was lousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of an inexperienced guy is beautiful to me.

How big is your dick and are you handsome?

Oh my god the idea of an inexperienced guy that hasn't had much sex, a big useless dick that's responsive and alert and dribbles pre cum everywhere even when you're just giving it willy smooths. Cock that throbs and twitches on it's on cos it's so new and not used to having a fuss, cock that cums quickly and can go again and again.

Yeah inexperience would not turn me off!

And you could always throw him off if he was lousy "

I wouldn't throw him off for that, only if his willy was too small and didn't hurt enough.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Thanks guys I really do appreciate all your advice, and I will certainly spend some time on a profile.  Just wanted to be completely honest with people from the start that I may meet.  Would you not tell about how experienced I am?  I just get the impression that all women or most are looking for sex gods in the sack.  Didn't want to pretend to be something I'm not.  I thought by putting on the profile that I would only attract those that may be interested.  I understand they maybe few an far between. 

Thanks again guys"

It's certainly good to be honest, I just don't think you need to spell out how inexperienced you may be. Who knows how experienced or inexperienced anyone is. Most people seem to exaggerate about their own sexual prowess anyway, regardless of experience. As you can probably tell from my previous post, I like to think it's more about getting a connection between yourself and another person, then seeing where that takes you.

I can understand why you may think most women are looking for sex gods. Some women and couples are looking for the extraordinary, to explore some fantasies but don't let that put you off. They don't all want big dicked supermen and the guy to be out of this world amazing. Which I understand is how it can come across at times when you read through some of their profiles. It can feel intimidating. But there really is someone for everyone.

Like I say, just get a good profile together, be polite and respectful and then try and make a connection with a few ladies. There's plenty of good women out there for you OP, it sometimes just takes time. Have fun with it all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where did the op go? He's only a few minutes up the road from me.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"Where did the op go? He's only a few minutes up the road from me. "
lol get it fucked!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haven't gone anywhere lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks guys I really do appreciate all your advice, and I will certainly spend some time on a profile.  Just wanted to be completely honest with people from the start that I may meet.  Would you not tell about how experienced I am?  I just get the impression that all women or most are looking for sex gods in the sack.  Didn't want to pretend to be something I'm not.  I thought by putting on the profile that I would only attract those that may be interested.  I understand they maybe few an far between. 

Thanks again guys

It's certainly good to be honest, I just don't think you need to spell out how inexperienced you may be. Who knows how experienced or inexperienced anyone is. Most people seem to exaggerate about their own sexual prowess anyway, regardless of experience. As you can probably tell from my previous post, I like to think it's more about getting a connection between yourself and another person, then seeing where that takes you.

I can understand why you may think most women are looking for sex gods. Some women and couples are looking for the extraordinary, to explore some fantasies but don't let that put you off. They don't all want big dicked supermen and the guy to be out of this world amazing. Which I understand is how it can come across at times when you read through some of their profiles. It can feel intimidating. But there really is someone for everyone.

Like I say, just get a good profile together, be polite and respectful and then try and make a connection with a few ladies. There's plenty of good women out there for you OP, it sometimes just takes time. Have fun with it all! "

Cheers pal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where did the op go? He's only a few minutes up the road from me. "

Where you from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where did the op go? He's only a few minutes up the road from me.

Where you from?"

Porthcawl.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Oh seaswitch I have to laugh you are funny as fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha I'm same as this geezer! Only younger haha. Not a barrier on my life though! It's the lad talk when it gets shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh seaswitch I have to laugh you are funny as fuck "

Was trying to make him feel happy and not embarrassed. It would be my dream though to meet a 30 something year old virgin with a big donkey dick. Can you imagine an adult with the excitement of a teenager dribbling spud water everywhere

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Oh seaswitch I have to laugh you are funny as fuck

Was trying to make him feel happy and not embarrassed. It would be my dream though to meet a 30 something year old virgin with a big donkey dick. Can you imagine an adult with the excitement of a teenager dribbling spud water everywhere "

That made me laugh. Haven't heard that term in years. We call it tatty water (pronounced watter) in Yorkshire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh seaswitch I have to laugh you are funny as fuck

Was trying to make him feel happy and not embarrassed. It would be my dream though to meet a 30 something year old virgin with a big donkey dick. Can you imagine an adult with the excitement of a teenager dribbling spud water everywhere "

Your posts crack me up... Every time!

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