FabSwingers.com forum: Extra sexual excitement

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship?

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship? "

It's wrong if you are cheating behind your partners back without their knowledge. If you are doing it with your partners consent then I can't see a problem with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship? "

I certainly hope not !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are all doomed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No we're doing it together but one of us wants more than the other

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Well, who is to say anything is "wrong"?

Nothing tangible is taken/damaged/stolen.

I don't think there is an answer to this, it's just down to people's perception of the activity.

In my opinion, if it caused any harm or damage to the person involved, it's wrong. Otherwise not.

But some people have some strong, alternative views on this, no doubt.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship? "

Of course not ...... Isn't that why we all here X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No we're doing it together but one of us wants more than the other "

Does that cause resentment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't agree on limits and rules within your relationship, and or it is causing hurt or resentment then I personally don't think the lifestyle is for you. It should be equally enjoyable for both parties... Even if both parties are not engaging in same 'activity'

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No we're doing it together but one of us wants more than the other "

Then talking and compromise is the way forward. Two people will rarely want exactly the same things.

By extra do you mean different or more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can't agree on limits and rules within your relationship, and or it is causing hurt or resentment then I personally don't think the lifestyle is for you. It should be equally enjoyable for both parties... Even if both parties are not engaging in same 'activity' "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The male wants more is he wrong in this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The male wants more is he wrong in this? "

If he disregards his partner's wishes and tries to force/ encourage her to do more than she wants... then yes he is wrong.

If he wants more but keeps those desires to himself then that would be different.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship? "

It's wrong not to tell your partner, make suggestions or be spontaneous - maybe she feels the same about you.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Depends on the relationship. Is it something you do together?

Is anyone getting hurt?

Plenty people do play away for many reasons. However I've learnt on here that for the most part it's frowned upon.

Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Should it not be about pushing the boundaries while we are still alive

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Should it not be about pushing the boundaries while we are still alive"

Its fairly difficult when you're dead.

What point are you trying to make? I think life is definitely for living but if in doing so you're hurting others when it's avoidable you need to see if there's another way of doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should it not be about pushing the boundaries while we are still alive"

Pushing boundaries isn't the Same as pushing your luck...

We both have different views... And we reach a compromise... But would never push beyond a point. Encourage and enjoy yes but if one or the other doesn't like an idea we talk and see what we do.

It's respect for one another and this lifestyle takes trust... And once broken trust is like a vase... You can fix it if you have all the pieces... But you can Still see the cracks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No we're doing it together but one of us wants more than the other "

Then I would suggest that you talk this through together ~ as said many a time on here, swinging is all about the trust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way "

Well then, you have to make that decision (preferably together) how you are going to achieve this.

It's not wrong to want more ~ however it maybe wrong the way you go about getting that more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship? "

Nah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship?

It's wrong if you are cheating behind your partners back without their knowledge. If you are doing it with your partners consent then I can't see a problem with it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way "

You've already made your decision. She knew you were a swinger when you met. She wants to quit but you don't. You care more about fucking strangers than your wife. Crack on. You don't need other people to make you feel better about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can only go as fast as the slowest - this is the ruling when we play with others - we know what we both like and accept the boundaries of others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're not ones to not except the boundaries of others

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We're not ones to not except the boundaries of others "

How about each other's boundaries?

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

"Is it wrong to want extra sexual excitement within a relationship? "

I certainly hope not... We've both enjoyed 'extra' with and without each other it's all good and works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not ones to not except the boundaries of others

How about each other's boundaries?"

and they are the most important boundaries

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're not ones to not except the boundaries of others

How about each other's boundaries?"

Let's say I think one of us has the more. Adventurous mindset on them lol

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way

Well then, you have to make that decision (preferably together) how you are going to achieve this.

It's not wrong to want more ~ however it maybe wrong the way you go about getting that more...."

this..

OP you seem to be wanting some sort of validation for the way you seem to be heading..?

you wont get that from most on here and i do think you need to look at what is of the more importance to you, your relationship or your own desire to experience things..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"We're not ones to not except the boundaries of others

How about each other's boundaries?

Let's say I think one of us has the more. Adventurous mindset on them lol"

that's not that uncommon though as it will also be with differing sex drives within a relationship in general and certainly on here..

its working within that as a couple which is the main thing, yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So OP.. what do you think is the right way to deal with it???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way

Well then, you have to make that decision (preferably together) how you are going to achieve this.

It's not wrong to want more ~ however it maybe wrong the way you go about getting that more....

this..

OP you seem to be wanting some sort of validation for the way you seem to be heading..?

you wont get that from most on here and i do think you need to look at what is of the more importance to you, your relationship or your own desire to experience things..

Think it's more about wanting both its not really a question which is more important, more about experiencing things together in the wide world of swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So OP.. what do you think is the right way to deal with it???

Not quite sure td suppose I want to have my cake and eat it lol

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way

Well then, you have to make that decision (preferably together) how you are going to achieve this.

It's not wrong to want more ~ however it maybe wrong the way you go about getting that more....

this..

OP you seem to be wanting some sort of validation for the way you seem to be heading..?

you wont get that from most on here and i do think you need to look at what is of the more importance to you, your relationship or your own desire to experience things..

Think it's more about wanting both its not really a question which is more important, more about experiencing things together in the wide world of swinging "

then as someone else i think has said you have to go at the 'slower' pace of and at the 'lower' level that one wants to, anything else will only lead to strife and is lacking in both respect and consideration for that person..

communication is everything, wish you well..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree it's about trust but see that life is there to live and enjoy and experiment with new things along the way

Well then, you have to make that decision (preferably together) how you are going to achieve this.

It's not wrong to want more ~ however it maybe wrong the way you go about getting that more....

this..

OP you seem to be wanting some sort of validation for the way you seem to be heading..?

you wont get that from most on here and i do think you need to look at what is of the more importance to you, your relationship or your own desire to experience things..

Think it's more about wanting both its not really a question which is more important, more about experiencing things together in the wide world of swinging

communication is everything, wish you well.. "

Thank you Surrey pl much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So OP.. what do you think is the right way to deal with it???

Not quite sure td suppose I want to have my cake and eat it lol"

Liable to get indigestion then really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So OP.. what do you think is the right way to deal with it???

Not quite sure td suppose I want to have my cake and eat it lol

Liable to get indigestion then really

You could say that

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