FabSwingers.com forum: Following on from my other thread...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A few have said......sex.

Can a relationship survive without or very little of it, whatever the case and reasons might be if it's not the be all and end all of a relationship?

Thoughts please?

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Guess so mine does. We still have a relationship a friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few have said......sex.

Can a relationship survive without or very little of it, whatever the case and reasons might be if it's not the be all and end all of a relationship?

Thoughts please?"

Of course it can. Different people have different needs. Why would you think otherwise?

If you are asking about a specific relationship involving specific people, then it depends on them. As you must surely know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think anyone can answer that truthfully until they have been in that situation.

Sex isn't just about sex. Its the intimacy too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A partnership is about many things, but if there's no passion or intimacy then you're really just ending up as friends

That's what happened in my marriage.

We're now separated, but happier now there's no "elephant" in the room.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A few have said......sex.

Can a relationship survive without or very little of it, whatever the case and reasons might be if it's not the be all and end all of a relationship?

Thoughts please?

Of course it can. Different people have different needs. Why would you think otherwise?

If you are asking about a specific relationship involving specific people, then it depends on them. As you must surely know."

I'm asking for myself, not others. But wanted others opinions.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I concur with the premise that a long term relationship can survive a non sexual contact basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think anyone can answer that truthfully until they have been in that situation.

Sex isn't just about sex. Its the intimacy too x "

This

for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say no it can't from experience. But the lack of sex was a symptom of other issues rather than the initial problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend if both parties have similar libidos and how important sex is to both of them... some relationships head that way after a while for various reasons. If both parties are happy who is to judge?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless. "

From the beginning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on communication, I guess. My ex and I had sex irregularly due to my travelling for meetings. I spent too much time in Europe. He ended up fucking people behind my back as he couldn't cope with it.

I'd give up sex if it meant my current partner stayed with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?"

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have a male friend who I know would like to be more but I also know that he has some issues in the bedroom. He's a lovely guy and is good at other stuff but I am reluctant to get involved when I know that we'll be starting with problems to face.

Right now he is simply a very dear friend, I don't want to get more entangled emotionally and end up with this becoming a major issue. I've been there before and it just caused heartache all round.

Yes couples can face it and deal with it and become stronger. But they need to be strong to start with and I don't think I have it in me to be that strong after being burnt by this issue before. Shallow? Perhaps. But honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me sex wasn't the important factor in my marriage,or lack of it in the last 7 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know people who have divorced using that as the reason.. So not all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few have said......sex.

Can a relationship survive without or very little of it, whatever the case and reasons might be if it's not the be all and end all of a relationship?

Thoughts please?"
it can exist but relationship just means two or more people interacting ,a loving fulfilled relationship should include sex as well as communication and cuddles and something in common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard but if you can come to a happy compromise it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a male friend who I know would like to be more but I also know that he has some issues in the bedroom. He's a lovely guy and is good at other stuff but I am reluctant to get involved when I know that we'll be starting with problems to face.

Right now he is simply a very dear friend, I don't want to get more entangled emotionally and end up with this becoming a major issue. I've been there before and it just caused heartache all round.

Not shallow at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

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roxi is an inspiration to those of us who want sex, I'm at Berwick upon t now

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I think if both people go off sex then it's fine. If one still has a drive and gets rejected constantly, there might be trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if both people go off sex then it's fine. If one still has a drive and gets rejected constantly, there might be trouble. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very much on the fence here with my current situation

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I am very much on the fence here with my current situation "

Although at one point you were on the other side.....

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"A few have said......sex.

Can a relationship survive without or very little of it, whatever the case and reasons might be if it's not the be all and end all of a relationship?

Thoughts please?"

I'm sure it can (and does for many people) but you'd both need to be 100% happy with the arrangement. You'd both need to be on the same page with it. If one side wasn't totally satisfied with the arrangement then it could cause issues down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few have said......sex.

Can a relationship survive without or very little of it, whatever the case and reasons might be if it's not the be all and end all of a relationship?

Thoughts please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well the reason why I am here I because last time I had sex with my partner was 8 months ago and before that we had sex 3 times in 4 years....I have never had an orgasm...I list my virginity to him 13 years ago ...and we are still together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

70% of a relationship is based on sex the more sex u have the more the happier it is

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Due the wife's health problems we haven't had sex in over a year & a half, we are still fairly close despite the lack of it.

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By *oasted cheese sandwichMan
over a year ago

Nearby

I think some people need sex , some people don't. Whether or not in a relationship.

If u need sex in a sexless relationship, and don't get it from somewhere else , with or without permission, then I don't think that relationship would last .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are still very close but there is no effort from either of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are still very close but there is no effort from either of us

...there is no particular reason why we don't have sex ...maybe my self confidance had caused it in the beginning but I'm a bit more confident naw and it shows in my clothes and he still don't make a move on me ...when he's home on the weekends we sleep naked in same bed and we don't banter an eyelid...something fucking wrong some where lol"
its because psychologically his mind has turned off you from the past do things that are sexy maybe put porn on get his mind thinking sexy start him off again ,you look sexy to me am sure once you get him back on track it will be fine

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I like to think I'm not that shallow that it's the be all and end all but I also couldn't be in a real relationship with out it. If I ever do get into a relationship again I'd hope she felt the same

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"Due the wife's health problems we haven't had sex in over a year & a half, we are still fairly close despite the lack of it."

I think there is a big difference between your partner not being able to have sex and not wanting to. The first isn't a rejection, the second is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no reason a sexless marriage should be any less happy than one with sex providing it's what both parties want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"70% of a relationship is based on sex the more sex u have the more the happier it is "

Where did you find these facts??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"70% of a relationship is based on sex the more sex u have the more the happier it is "

Rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

You have changed you're name.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"70% of a relationship is based on sex the more sex u have the more the happier it is

Rubbish!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

You have changed you're name.

Yes, I thought a tweak was needed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

You have changed you're name.

Yes, I thought a tweak was needed

I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

You have changed you're name.

Yes, I thought a tweak was needed

I like

Not suggesting everyone changes their name, but keeping things fresh and interesting is a good help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course it can. Many marriages are sexless.

From the beginning?

Many 'marriages' can survive being sexless but I think another way of looking at it is can the relationship between the two people survive without sex if one of them isn't being fulfilled.

You have changed you're name.

Yes, I thought a tweak was needed

I like

Not suggesting everyone changes their name, but keeping things fresh and interesting is a good help

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