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"It may help your cause, if peeps knew your ex`s response to your decision, not to allow the kids to visit and the allegations of hitting etc ... Best o luck...." He didn't really say much to be honest. He just stood there shaking his head and saying she wouldn't have hit him. I did say that this was only until we could find some sort of resolution to the situation but that I couldn't take the risk until we got to the bottom of it. | |||
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"It may help your cause, if peeps knew your ex`s response to your decision, not to allow the kids to visit and the allegations of hitting etc ... Best o luck.... He didn't really say much to be honest. He just stood there shaking his head and saying she wouldn't have hit him. I did say that this was only until we could find some sort of resolution to the situation but that I couldn't take the risk until we got to the bottom of it." Your response sounds healthy to me ...your kids safety comes first .... My suggestion, would be for you to seek a trained family mediator ....Citizens Advice would furnish you with contacts ..... And seek a way forward, so your kids might be able to have some safe contact with their father .... They`ll thank you for trying in later life, even if it doesn`t work .... Again the very best o luck....be cool x | |||
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"Seeking advice is my next step. I have not intention of making it difficult for them to see their dad they love him and he loves them I know he would never physically hurt them. Have never used the kids against him ever. Infact I often nag at him cos he doesn't call them enough. I just think he has blinkers on when it comes to his new wife." You never come across as bitter or a gameplayer. just someone struggling to find a way forward as I read it ... Its about boundaries isn`t it , but as in alot of cases like this entangled with emotions and loyalties, pressures etc.. Someone trained would help steer a path through the situation .....it may get worse before it gets better ...who knows with people...stay cool...you sound like a great mum btw....xxx | |||
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"Seeking advice is my next step. I have not intention of making it difficult for them to see their dad they love him and he loves them I know he would never physically hurt them. Have never used the kids against him ever. Infact I often nag at him cos he doesn't call them enough. I just think he has blinkers on when it comes to his new wife. You never come across as bitter or a gameplayer. just someone struggling to find a way forward as I read it ... Its about boundaries isn`t it , but as in alot of cases like this entangled with emotions and loyalties, pressures etc.. Someone trained would help steer a path through the situation .....it may get worse before it gets better ...who knows with people...stay cool...you sound like a great mum btw....xxx" Thanks sometimes it's so hard to know what to do for the best. My heart is telling me to go and rip her arms and legs off and feed them the to foxes. Luckily my head is screwed on and knows that behaviour would not work. I guess I just hope that I am doing the best for them. They need their dad and was so gutted for him yesterday when he asked my why his daddy didn't want him. I just didn't know what to say. Just gave him lots of hugs and cuddles and told him I'd always be there. This is one of the reasons I'm single. They will always come first and I dont want the kids being torn at home as well as their dads | |||
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" Thanks sometimes it's so hard to know what to do for the best. My heart is telling me to go and rip her arms and legs off and feed them the to foxes. Luckily my head is screwed on and knows that behaviour would not work. I guess I just hope that I am doing the best for them. They need their dad and was so gutted for him yesterday when he asked my why his daddy didn't want him. I just didn't know what to say. Just gave him lots of hugs and cuddles and told him I'd always be there. This is one of the reasons I'm single. They will always come first and I dont want the kids being torn at home as well as their dads " I can empathise with your feelings, and how powerful they are....and like situations I`ve known ,its like a pick n mix isn`t it .....anger, fear, confusion and the rest.... I`m lucky to have someone close to me. who helps me pick em apart .....and keep reminding me not to act on them .....and bring some clarity ...I`m lucky! I can only imagine the distress, trying to confront and answer your boys pain..that must of been so tough.... You sound like you`ve done a wonderful job so far....seeking a balance and taking a step back......give yourself a hug xxx | |||
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" You sound like you`ve done a wonderful job so far....seeking a balance and taking a step back......give yourself a hug xxx" Think I might just treat myself to a large whiskey instead. I save it for special treats. lol | |||
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" You sound like you`ve done a wonderful job so far....seeking a balance and taking a step back......give yourself a hug xxx Think I might just treat myself to a large whiskey instead. I save it for special treats. lol" haha why not with a giggle ...its the best medicine | |||
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"Would like to add, to the op, when it comes to the welfare of your children, you can never be over-cautious. you have to trust them until you can prove otherwise...ask yourself if it's like your child to say things like that without substance. if you don't trust them and they are telling you the truth, you will have a child that feels like it doesn't have the support of either parent" He knows he can tell me anything and I will fight his corner. I believe him as he is not a child that can lie very well. I've had a call from my ex since posting this. He has had a word with his wife who has admitted pushing my son but not slapping him. Either way she should not have put her hands on him like that. And I have just been informed that his wife is Bi Polar a fact they have never told me before!!!! Have agreed that he will just visit the kids and take them out until she goes back to therapy and I get some feedback that she is fit. Have told him I am contacting a solicitor and want this in writing. | |||
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