Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
 | Back to forum list |
| Back to The Lounge |
| Jump to newest |  |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. " What do you do when you see a single woman has looked at your profile? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 then we could block them if we didn't like the look of them!! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. " Nah, we always perve in stealth mode, to avoid unwelcome attention. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Why should they? Everyone on here has the ability to do it so why take it away from just one group of users? " You won't believe it, but I hadn't realised anyone could do that. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. " I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Why should they? Everyone on here has the ability to do it so why take it away from just one group of users? You won't believe it, but I hadn't realised anyone could do that. " if you go into privacy settings its the first option | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. What do you do when you see a single woman has looked at your profile? " Secretly feel chuffed and slightly miffed if they haven't said hello / fabbed me. I will have a look back, read the profile and fab a photo if I meet criteria. After that it's up to the lady / couple to reply. If not then ho hum and head to a club x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"It doesn't even tell you if someone is bi, gay or straight without opening a profile or their age range or interests. " Would be great if the site did though! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If I look and read a profile and it interests me .I always send message . "Great | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I look at profiles in 'stealth'. I'm just looking, doesn't mean I'm interested! It's just the same as any filter on here, it's about personal choice. Maybe we should stop men doing it so that they can't sit behind a screen wanking over our pic??? then we could block them if we didn't like the look of them!! " | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. " They're just using the tools provided as a way to message people, same as the people who choose to perve in stealth mode ~ nothing knobish about that, in that imo. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"so - you would then know how many people had looked and not bothered to wink or message you - give you more to bleet about" Hadn't realised the option is open to all. Baaaaa x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. They're just using the tools provided as a way to message people, same as the people who choose to perve in stealth mode ~ nothing knobish about that, in that imo. " Was referring to the guys who bombard people with messages when they don't fit the requirements as knob jockeys x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. They're just using the tools provided as a way to message people, same as the people who choose to perve in stealth mode ~ nothing knobish about that, in that imo. Was referring to the guys who bombard people with messages when they don't fit the requirements as knob jockeys x" We are quite able to look after ourselves | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. " They don't, they make the good ones stand out more. The actions of others doesn't affect your success or otherwise on here. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I look at profiles in 'stealth'. I'm just looking, doesn't mean I'm interested! It's just the same as any filter on here, it's about personal choice. Maybe we should stop men doing it so that they can't sit behind a screen wanking over our pic??? then we could block them if we didn't like the look of them!! " | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I for one was enormously grateful to discover stealth mode. Prior to that when I popped into a profile and thought "nope, not for me", nine times out of ten it would result in a "do you like what you see?" message. Same as I love the online blue dot. I normally won't open a message until I know the sender is off line - a good example this morning when I opened a blue dot message and received a further sixteen from the same person inside of ten minutes! Annoying. " Was I too eager?   | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In a refreshing change from the norm this would only result in single women open bogus single male profiles for the purposes of perving!" I would totally do this
It would make the "why are straight men looking at my profile/fabbing my pics" threads much more interesting, though 
-Courtney | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I for one was enormously grateful to discover stealth mode. Prior to that when I popped into a profile and thought "nope, not for me", nine times out of ten it would result in a "do you like what you see?" message. Same as I love the online blue dot. I normally won't open a message until I know the sender is off line - a good example this morning when I opened a blue dot message and received a further sixteen from the same person inside of ten minutes! Annoying. Was I too eager? "You daft tart. Mwah | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There would be people on the forums thinking I'm nosy,when it's just my thumb accidentally opening their profile when I'm scrolling through threads. " I do this too!! would make me look like a right ole stalker  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In a refreshing change from the norm this would only result in single women open bogus single male profiles for the purposes of perving!" I hadn't even considered this, but you're right! I definitely would! Lol | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. What do you do when you see a single woman has looked at your profile? Secretly feel chuffed and slightly miffed if they haven't said hello / fabbed me. I will have a look back, read the profile and fab a photo if I meet criteria. After that it's up to the lady / couple to reply. If not then ho hum and head to a club x" This is why I perve in stealth mode. I don't need my pic ms fabbed, I don't need someone to feel miffed that I didn't say hello and if I didn't contact them then it was because they didn't interest me. If you don't know I looked in the first place, you wouldn't feel miffed. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I for one was enormously grateful to discover stealth mode. Prior to that when I popped into a profile and thought "nope, not for me", nine times out of ten it would result in a "do you like what you see?" message. Same as I love the online blue dot. I normally won't open a message until I know the sender is off line - a good example this morning when I opened a blue dot message and received a further sixteen from the same person inside of ten minutes! Annoying. " Totally! Maybe the site can have a cooling off period between messages. If recipient opens it then you can send another message? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. " Nope...they already get inundated with male, and this would escalate if every male they ever view on here was aware of it! Just because they view a profile does not imply that they are interested. I view loads of profiles and just move right along. Furthermore, if they want you to be aware that they have viewed you, they can always switch off the 'hide' feature for a bit  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. What do you do when you see a single woman has looked at your profile? Secretly feel chuffed and slightly miffed if they haven't said hello / fabbed me. I will have a look back, read the profile and fab a photo if I meet criteria. After that it's up to the lady / couple to reply. If not then ho hum and head to a club x" Fabbing a photo is a sign that a person is interested?  Oh. I would never even think that a guy fabbing a photo indicates that he is interested in communicating further. 
-Courtney | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. They don't, they make the good ones stand out more. The actions of others doesn't affect your success or otherwise on here." Sadly they do. Guys who send multiple messages to one person do put the rest of us at a disadvantage. I've read female profiles where they are ranting about not wanting single guys to get in touch because of past bad male behaviour. At the same time they have a meet posted to play with single guys and haven't taken filters off to allow replies (or they have and I missed the window). Frustrating but I understand why it does happen. Yes I've had some success here from direct contact but more from club meets. No substitute to getting out and chatting to people. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I look at profiles in 'stealth'. I'm just looking, doesn't mean I'm interested! It's just the same as any filter on here, it's about personal choice. Maybe we should stop men doing it so that they can't sit behind a screen wanking over our pic??? then we could block them if we didn't like the look of them!! " What's good for the goose etc | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. " What does it matter who's looked at you If I look and you pubically and not mailed you or looked at you privately and not mailed you, I've still not mailed you so why would your being able to see I've looked make any difference? All that would happen is women would get hundreds of men they have no interest at all in saying.... Hi I noticed you viewed my profile...... | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. They don't, they make the good ones stand out more. The actions of others doesn't affect your success or otherwise on here. Sadly they do. Guys who send multiple messages to one person do put the rest of us at a disadvantage. I've read female profiles where they are ranting about not wanting single guys to get in touch because of past bad male behaviour. At the same time they have a meet posted to play with single guys and haven't taken filters off to allow replies (or they have and I missed the window). Frustrating but I understand why it does happen. Yes I've had some success here from direct contact but more from club meets. No substitute to getting out and chatting to people. " Yet many many more women are quite capable of not ranting against single men on their profiles.....why would you even want to contact someone with an aggressive ranty profile. I just don't understand that mentality. Do you really think that the behaviour of a few dickheads on a website would influence someone who doesn't have ranty tendencies to rant and become aggressive? I sincerely doubt that! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. " My "private" is off, I'm not bothered who sees me on their looked list, if I didn't message it means their profile didn't appeal to me | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. " Men have the ability to do it too... | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. They don't, they make the good ones stand out more. The actions of others doesn't affect your success or otherwise on here. Sadly they do. Guys who send multiple messages to one person do put the rest of us at a disadvantage. I've read female profiles where they are ranting about not wanting single guys to get in touch because of past bad male behaviour. At the same time they have a meet posted to play with single guys and haven't taken filters off to allow replies (or they have and I missed the window). Frustrating but I understand why it does happen. Yes I've had some success here from direct contact but more from club meets. No substitute to getting out and chatting to people. " Do you really want to meet a ranty attention whore with a victim complex? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Discuss - I wonder if the site should remove single ladies ability to look at profiles privately. That way us chaps get to really see who has looked at them. I'm sure there will be pros & cons for and against and some I've not thought of so let me know what you think. What do you do when you see a single woman has looked at your profile? " Absolutely nothing. If she fancies me then I assume she will wink or send a message  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Nah, because women would just become inundated with even more messages from guys. Which would lead to them never looking at others profiles, then they'd probably just leave the site. I see your point. Bloody shame the knob jockeys ruin it for everyone. They don't, they make the good ones stand out more. The actions of others doesn't affect your success or otherwise on here." I totally agree. Nobody ruins it for me on this site. So many single guys seem willing to blame anything and anybody else for not getting replies or meets. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"That's just silly!" I agree but it seems to be true.. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Post new Message to Thread |
| back to top |  |
