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So why partners who loved each other end up hating each other / wil be fun my sexy friends??

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

So was with a girl who I thought I loved but : her controlling and the blaming and the money she wanted drove us apart simaler to a sociopath relationship she even told me I own you and ur money scary stuff so share your experience with us my sexy friends some of these relationships are unhealthy for ur mental health / what drove ye apart from previous partners my friends / ur very well hung friend Paul

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

My last partner I firmly believed was the one, she blamed and still blames my mental health on why we broke up (PTSD)

But since being single I have only now realised just how much of my life she controlled, would say ohh ill do that for you your MH will suffer, when the truth was she made it worse.

Hate? No I do not hate any of my exes, only hate a handful of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this where guys spit their dummies out and be like, 'oh she was a troll' lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex was a controlling bastard- he has a lot to answer for - but at least he is the ex now with good reason

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"My last partner I firmly believed was the one, she blamed and still blames my mental health on why we broke up (PTSD)

But since being single I have only now realised just how much of my life she controlled, would say ohh ill do that for you your MH will suffer, when the truth was she made it worse.

Hate? No I do not hate any of my exes, only hate a handful of people"

When you breathe the fresh air of freedom you eventually start to think fuk me why did I ever put up with her shit. Good luck pal.

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Don't get me wrong I truly loved her and expected to marry her. But yes your right I'm now happier alone. But as I say hate, no I find hate a wasted emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok.... Is this the wounded illiterate section of fab? Ooh good!!

My flibbers are shmbing as I flummer my flamscchb thank drooob I got that off my chest!

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"Don't get me wrong I truly loved her and expected to marry her. But yes your right I'm now happier alone. But as I say hate, no I find hate a wasted emotion "

Been in a similar position. For first few months she seemed normal and I fell for here. Then she began to reveal her real self, controlling, manipulating, terribly cruel to her ex husband. Finally realised she was a lot crazier than I was. Dragged me down but thank God im out of it.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

When anyone has showed crazy, controlling, spiteful, selfish or vile behaviour, they've been shown the door. Life's too short for that crap. Would rather be single.

One ex raised his hand to me over a silly disagreement. Told him to leave and never contact me again. He died a year later.

Not that I wished that on him but there you go.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Falling in and out of love are often similar, just in reverse. What allowed you to put up with their less than positive habits is then gone, so you're suddenly able to see the shit, minus your rose tinted specs.

Honesty can be the relationships best friend. Where there are pockets of stuff that's not said it can become like water seeped into cracks in rock, freezing can tear granite apart.

I'm annoyed with some exes odd bits of behavior but nothing major. And glad to be single. Until the next comes along.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I couldn't possibly say, i'm with wife no'3, no probs with no'2, wife no'1 on the other hand ............is on fab, although i doubt she knows i'm here or maybe she does, who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hate either of my exes, but I am content that they are out of my life.

I take ownership in that I factored in why those relationships broke down.

I may not have been the root cause but by allowing things, overlooking things, not dealing with things, then yes, I factored.

I don't harbour any grudges or malice. They were part of my life. Now they aren't. Good Luck to them.

Bitterness would only affect me more than it would them. So what's the point ?

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

My ex kept saying he was very well hung but he wasn't. ..

Wait a moment!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I can honestly say I don't hate any of my exs........ least not now they're under the patio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm mates with so many exes now, don't think i've ever had a relationship that ended so badly or was so bad that we couldn't be..one or two of the friendships have been hard won but we've gotten there.

who better to have as a friend? someone who knows you so well and so intimately as someone you shared so much love and passion with, went through so much with?

my closest friend in this world is an ex and it's a beautiful thing

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I have an ex who i'd like to see dead. He controlled, bullied, abused and tortured me for years, tried to kill me on one occasion, after I left him he stalked me, threatened to kill me and come after my family. It's 5 years since I last saw him and I still have nightmares about him. If I heard he'd died i'd probably she'd a tear then have a fucking huge party!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

People and attitudes change. Sometimes it's not easy to spot people who are a bit rum or who may turn out to be.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I think it's because often, when you meet initially, there is a lust, an ardour that is often mistaken for love. When your heart is on fire, the smoke from this burning passion clouds your vision so that you see only what you want to see, as your mind tries to fill in the blanks.

Later, once the passion cools, when you are able to see more clearly and you realise that you were mistaken, you feel a fool, but you displace that feeling onto the other person. You convince yourself that they somehow conned you.

Someone ought to write a song about it all really....

Mr ddc

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Goodness OP, you're not still going on about that woman?

You need to get over her and move on!

Surely other things happen/have happened to you in your life that you can talk about and will make you feel better than going over and over your relationship and break up with this woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just pick arseholes for partners, and take on all the responsibilities with the kids so they have time to go cheat on me.

I'd say my first proper relationship i was in a poor state of mental health anyway, was an alcoholic, young, didn't really understand why people were abusive and made excuses for shit behaviour and treated sociopaths like they were healthy/normal people with 'problems'. That ex i can't even talk to, he did a lot of shitty things to me and if i even slip and be slightly friendly he thinks that's his cue to take over my life and butt into everything i do. I don't hate him, i feel apathy for him, he is nothing to me at all except a mistake and the result of poor judgement.

Am still friends with another ex, and see him a couple of times a week coz he's only across the road and we have kids together. We support each other and the relationship was good until something happened and none of us had any support for it. I don't hate him, maybe do love him but not in a romantic way. he's good for my mental health.

My other exes, idk, never left any of them on bad terms but don't see any of them. Dunno which are alive and which are dead tbh.

My last ex totally fucked up my head for a few months until i learned about personality disorders. In fact a lot of my life made sense after i learned about them, NPD especially.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I just pick arseholes for partners, and take on all the responsibilities with the kids so they have time to go cheat on me.

I'd say my first proper relationship i was in a poor state of mental health anyway, was an alcoholic, young, didn't really understand why people were abusive and made excuses for shit behaviour and treated sociopaths like they were healthy/normal people with 'problems'. That ex i can't even talk to, he did a lot of shitty things to me and if i even slip and be slightly friendly he thinks that's his cue to take over my life and butt into everything i do. I don't hate him, i feel apathy for him, he is nothing to me at all except a mistake and the result of poor judgement.

Am still friends with another ex, and see him a couple of times a week coz he's only across the road and we have kids together. We support each other and the relationship was good until something happened and none of us had any support for it. I don't hate him, maybe do love him but not in a romantic way. he's good for my mental health.

My other exes, idk, never left any of them on bad terms but don't see any of them. Dunno which are alive and which are dead tbh.

My last ex totally fucked up my head for a few months until i learned about personality disorders. In fact a lot of my life made sense after i learned about them, NPD especially."

I think many people have been affected by NPD they just don't no it. I most definitely was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was like a dead fish overtime and boring and snappy plus sex was awful it was like a dog humping a Lampost so glad got rid and stumbled upon fab... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just pick arseholes for partners, and take on all the responsibilities with the kids so they have time to go cheat on me.

I'd say my first proper relationship i was in a poor state of mental health anyway, was an alcoholic, young, didn't really understand why people were abusive and made excuses for shit behaviour and treated sociopaths like they were healthy/normal people with 'problems'. That ex i can't even talk to, he did a lot of shitty things to me and if i even slip and be slightly friendly he thinks that's his cue to take over my life and butt into everything i do. I don't hate him, i feel apathy for him, he is nothing to me at all except a mistake and the result of poor judgement.

Am still friends with another ex, and see him a couple of times a week coz he's only across the road and we have kids together. We support each other and the relationship was good until something happened and none of us had any support for it. I don't hate him, maybe do love him but not in a romantic way. he's good for my mental health.

My other exes, idk, never left any of them on bad terms but don't see any of them. Dunno which are alive and which are dead tbh.

My last ex totally fucked up my head for a few months until i learned about personality disorders. In fact a lot of my life made sense after i learned about them, NPD especially.

I think many people have been affected by NPD they just don't no it. I most definitely was"

Yeah i agree.

I studied psychology, so had an idea about personality disorders but never heard of that one. Plus the media goes on about narcissism a fair bit but in an awful way that doesn't explain it properly...just goes on about taking too many selfies.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Someone ought to write a song about it all really....

Mr ddc"

Btw, the punchline to this was clearly "I know, afterall you handed them most of the lyrics on a platter!"

(Boom, boom)

{wanders off unsure whether to shake his head, or hang it in shame...}

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