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Do you really want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This isn't for those who are just here to use the forum or chatrooms.

Do you like to flirt then back away when things get serious?

Do you think you want to meet then when things get serious, worry that you might disappoint so back away?

Are you here just to see if you're still attractive to people but don't actually want the physical side?

I would say I'm a "scared to disappoint" myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,no,no,no and no.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I want to meet

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would like to meet at some point. I'm in no hurry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course , time and geography permitting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we are here to play, performance anxiety issues shouldn't come into it if you pick the right people to play with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I want to meet, that's what I want to do, meet.

I like the build up beforehand, flirty messages getting to know him more. I know by the time we do meet that's what we both want & it's exciting!

I don't feel the need to do all this just for attention, although it's nice to receive I don't deny.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Guess I worry a little I might disappoint and my pictures are purposely bad for that reason

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Always want to meet, not in cybersex really but I do enjoy chatting on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like meeting people, and I do, but I'm definitely in the don't want to disappoint camp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three nos from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I initially came to find out if im attarctive to anyone as i didnt feel it. I didnt let anyone get close for a few weeks.

Then i met someone and thats it i was hooked.if i say i want to meet someone i do all time and geography though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no and no from me,

I am definitely here to meet somebody I love the mindless flirting and banter on here, love the excitement of the chase and naughty messaging but meeting somebody and feeling their skin on your after developing a bit of sexual chemistry

WOW

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We have met a few people from the forums for sex....we have met a lot of people from the site for sex. The great thing about the forums is you get to see the personalities of people and get to know them better which is always good in my world

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I Like to meet when family and work don't get in the way, as it usually does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I would say I'm a "scared to disappoint" myself."

You could never disappoint me, Clem.

I've found over my years on here I am definitely becoming more shy of actually arranging meets. However I'm not a 'flirt then back away' person. If I chat to you, we ARE going to meet. I am just less likely to chat.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No, no and no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet. Ever. Honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, no and no from me,

I am definitely here to meet somebody I love the mindless flirting and banter on here, love the excitement of the chase and naughty messaging but meeting somebody and feeling their skin on your after developing a bit of sexual chemistry

WOW

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And do you find it easy to walk away from that chemistry once it's built up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, no and no from me,

I am definitely here to meet somebody I love the mindless flirting and banter on here, love the excitement of the chase and naughty messaging but meeting somebody and feeling their skin on your after developing a bit of sexual chemistry

WOW

And do you find it easy to walk away from that chemistry once it's built up?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, no and no from me,

I am definitely here to meet somebody I love the mindless flirting and banter on here, love the excitement of the chase and naughty messaging but meeting somebody and feeling their skin on your after developing a bit of sexual chemistry

WOW

And do you find it easy to walk away from that chemistry once it's built up?"

It's about setting out the boundaries at the beginning and agreeing not to break them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet. Ever. Honest. "

Love the innocence coming over in that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been here too long in comparison to some people and I have been lucky enough to find one meet so far but I would definately like more meets in the future. Also considering the club scene but not sure if I'm ready for that just yet.

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I,m here to meet and do but I see lots of profiles that have been on site over a year with no meets but each to their own. I don't see the point of being on here if your not going to meet.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I am here to meet.

But I never flirt on here, in person yes but never on here.

I don't what him to have any expectation of sex if we should meet, I may not fancy him in person. Just seems fairer that way, and there is little chance of a mis-undertanding.

I don't worry that I might disappoint him as I know that I don't appeal to everyone, if I do good, if I don't - oh well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to meet people and I have made some great friends, it's all a question of geography in a lot of cases...... I'm not scared to travel tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I Like to meet when family and work don't get in the way, as it usually does."

I don't like to think my family get in the way, but they do take priority.

In some ways id rather meet people who i haven't built up much of a rapport with. That way if I'm crap i haven't disappointed a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not here for titillation. I get bored with flirty chat easily. I want sex and if it doesn't look like it's going to come easy I give up. Although I have met people a long time after initial contact there wasn't lots of flirting and sex talk in between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make friends and meet but tge sex is nice but not the be all and end all

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Bit of everything really, I like a good old natter, make some friends, and yes obviously the sex.

Would not mind a r/ship but not overly out there looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah... don't want to meet anyone, they would run a mile as soon as they see me, saves their time

Although if your at my favorite club there's a good chance I will say hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anticipation is a marvellous thing but nerves and reality can cast doubt. After all how well do you get to know folk online truly prior to a meet? I think we all think we want to meet but many are here for more complex reasons be it loneliness, lack of excitement in life or a simple escape.Fab is a complex world for those who stay beyond that initial joining and expecting the instant fix Ithink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always worry I'm going to be a huge disappointment. Any idiot can see that I'm never going to look as good as my pics. They are me at my best. So there is always that worry. Add into that the fact that the guy normally has to travel a fair distance to meet me and contribute towards a hotel so the pressure to live up to expectations can be immense. I don't feel like that with everyone and only end up meeting those that I'm comfortable won't be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always worry I'm going to be a huge disappointment. Any idiot can see that I'm never going to look as good as my pics. They are me at my best. So there is always that worry. Add into that the fact that the guy normally has to travel a fair distance to meet me and contribute towards a hotel so the pressure to live up to expectations can be immense. I don't feel like that with everyone and only end up meeting those that I'm comfortable won't be disappointed."

What are you talking about you look amazing, the is no way anybody would be disappointed regardless of how far they had travelled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet and that's my aim from all of this. Time and family permitting of course, theres nothing like the build up and anticipation.

The fear of disappointment is always there but its like stage nerves, they serve to focus your performance

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells


"I always worry I'm going to be a huge disappointment. Any idiot can see that I'm never going to look as good as my pics. They are me at my best. So there is always that worry. Add into that the fact that the guy normally has to travel a fair distance to meet me and contribute towards a hotel so the pressure to live up to expectations can be immense. I don't feel like that with everyone and only end up meeting those that I'm comfortable won't be disappointed."

I think that is a fear for most of the ladies here regarding how they look etc.

For me I actually think I look a lot better than my pics but its hard to snap yourself, plus I hate having mine taken.

I just think on a site like this you know there are better looking people than us, better bodies etc so I think it is normal how you feel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always worry I'm going to be a huge disappointment. Any idiot can see that I'm never going to look as good as my pics. They are me at my best. So there is always that worry. Add into that the fact that the guy normally has to travel a fair distance to meet me and contribute towards a hotel so the pressure to live up to expectations can be immense. I don't feel like that with everyone and only end up meeting those that I'm comfortable won't be disappointed.

What are you talking about you look amazing, the is no way anybody would be disappointed regardless of how far they had travelled "

I think that's her point though.

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