FabSwingers.com forum: hidden profiles

By *ettyboop61 OP Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I find it most annoying when somebody looks at you and you look back and they have hidden their profile I find that's wrong!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep us too,why should they be able to look at us and we can't look at them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why can't they look while having their profile hidden? i don't see how it affects you at all?

if they were interested they'd have messaged, doesn't matter how good or bad their rofile is or whats on it.

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By *ettyboop61 OP Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Because it's not fair why should he look at me when. I can't view him!!

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By *ettyboop61 OP Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Might of guessed a reply from a man would be like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there should be an option on the site to block people looking at you if they are hidden,and we would never reply or meet anyone that is hidden

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"there should be an option on the site to block people looking at you if they are hidden,and we would never reply or meet anyone that is hidden "

You can manually block anyone on your looked at me list....even someone with a hidden profile

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"why can't they look while having their profile hidden? i don't see how it affects you at all?

if they were interested they'd have messaged, doesn't matter how good or bad their rofile is or whats on it."

If I could have been bothered answering the first time I looked I'd have said this too. I'm a girl.

I never check my looked at me page so I don't give a toss who does what with their profile. It's theirs to do as they please with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we know but just to have a box to tick would be easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't they look while having their profile hidden? i don't see how it affects you at all?

if they were interested they'd have messaged, doesn't matter how good or bad their rofile is or whats on it.

If I could have been bothered answering the first time I looked I'd have said this too. I'm a girl.

I never check my looked at me page so I don't give a toss who does what with their profile. It's theirs to do as they please with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it most annoying when somebody looks at you and you look back and they have hidden their profile I find that's wrong!!!"

Why. ... If someone has looked then no harm done .

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

Maybe they had a look, decided your not for them and blocked you to save wasting anyone's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone send me an initial "hi" message yesterday... no profile picture, no attached pictures, then when I clicked on his profile it was hidden! Do men think that's how to get a reply?!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I find it annoying if they wink (that's a lie as I don't look at them) or message and they are hidden, then that pisses me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm..It isn't something that bothers me, but upon reflection....

I believe there is an option to not have your profile viewable by people without profiles on the site (correct me if I am wrong). In the instance of a hidden profile, they might as well not have a profile on the site. So I don't see what harm it would do to have the option of blocking people who have hidden profiles from viewing your profile same as you can for people who aren't on the site....

After all, the hidden profile may be that person's profile, but the same is true for the person whose profile is viewed, so I don't see that as being a very good argument in this case.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they had a look, decided your not for them and blocked you to save wasting anyone's time.

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They aren't blocking they are hiding their profile so no one can look at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might of guessed a reply from a man would be like that"

you'll find replies from women like that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can i ask o.p, what do you think your missing out on?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Perhaps the people with the hidden profiles haven't worked out how to view profiles in stealth mode?

I'm hidden because I'm not really meeting at the moment. It doesn't seem to stop people winking, trying to 'friend' me or sending me messages (even though I hadn't been on for two weeks).

They may have looked because of a post or because they were following a verification trail - it may not have been because they were considering whether to contact you about a meet.

When hidden I sometimes decide to search for what I am looking for. When I send a message I attach a picture. If they reply and want to see the profile I will come out of hiding so that I can see the profile.

What's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im of the opinion that people that are hidden are taking a break and not meeting and are there for not active on the site so why should they be allowed to look at others and why are they looking if they are taking a break?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm..It isn't something that bothers me, but upon reflection....

After all, the hidden profile may be that person's profile, but the same is true for the person whose profile is viewed, so I don't see that as being a very good argument in this case.

-Courtney"

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Im of the opinion that people that are hidden are taking a break and not meeting and are there for not active on the site so why should they be allowed to look at others and why are they looking if they are taking a break?"

Taking a break from meeting doesn't been they are banished. They can still look at profiles, partake in the forums and exchange messages - everything that everyone else using the site can do. It might be easier if you used the site the way you want and don't bother yourself with how others use it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I had a couples profile for about 12 months and hid my profile at the time.

Didn't seem weird or unfair to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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No one said they were banished,and i said my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might of guessed a reply from a man would be like that"

What about all the people who look at you in stealth mode that you don't even know about..?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Because it's not fair why should he look at me when. I can't view him!!"
oh for goodness sake, any are you bothering to look at profiles that have no interest in you anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm... if someone's not meeting, are they not still active if they still use the forums & talk to established friends, or am I missing the point?

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I perv in stealth mode anyway so this doesn't really apply to me. And I don't look at who's looked at me very often.. When I do, I get weirded out by the same username popping up a dozen times in a few hours...

But like.. If someone has looked at your profile and not messaged you... They're probably not interested. Or they don't feel as though they fit what you're looking for. Either way, it doesn't matter because they saw your profile and didn't message you... So why torture yourself looking at people who aren't interested in you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, put another way....if the site allowed people the choice to block people who have hidden profiles from viewing your profile, and someone with a hidden profile complained of being blocked because of this, would people say that it is the blocker's choice how to run their profile and to leave them to it? After all, it is the person blocking who is missing out, then, isn't it?

Does what dictates what is ok to care about depend on the capabilities of the site?

I am just curious. I personally don't care o people hide their profiles and look at mine.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might of guessed a reply from a man would be like that

What about all the people who look at you in stealth mode that you don't even know about..?"

even worse what about those who have a fake profile that they have hidden, who then view your profile in stealth mode in the character of the fake profile....

ouch my brain is melting

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Why does they way other people choose to use the site and the features/tools given to us bother you so much? Just concentrate on your own profile and the way you choose to use the site, and let everyone else do the same!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Ok, put another way....if the site allowed people the choice to block people who have hidden profiles from viewing your profile, and someone with a hidden profile complained of being blocked because of this, would people say that it is the blocker's choice how to run their profile and to leave them to it? After all, it is the person blocking who is missing out, then, isn't it?

Does what dictates what is ok to care about depend on the capabilities of the site?

I am just curious. I personally don't care o people hide their profiles and look at mine.

-Courtney"

If you block hidden profiles and the hidden person got the block message it could become confusing. You may communicate with that person on the forum quite amicably but they then see they are blocked and assume it's due to some sort of animosity.

I don't respond to any posts where I know I am blocked to avoid being reported for communicating with that person and circumventing their block.

I will click through to a profile to find out if I am blocked if I don't know the person. As I am hidden it would mean I would be blocked by many, many more than already block me because they don't like me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Perhaps the people with the hidden profiles haven't worked out how to view profiles in stealth mode?

I'm hidden because I'm not really meeting at the moment. It doesn't seem to stop people winking, trying to 'friend' me or sending me messages (even though I hadn't been on for two weeks).

They may have looked because of a post or because they were following a verification trail - it may not have been because they were considering whether to contact you about a meet.

What's the problem?

People with first world problems: put a profile on a sex site with all your bits on show then get arsey when someone looks who has a hidden profile.

I mean, really?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will click through to a profile to find out if I am blocked if I don't know the person. As I am hidden it would mean I would be blocked by many, many more than already block me because they don't like me.

OK Lickey, honestly how could anyone not like you, you are one of those wonderful things in small packages people talk about xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Perhaps the people with the hidden profiles haven't worked out how to view profiles in stealth mode?

I'm hidden because I'm not really meeting at the moment. It doesn't seem to stop people winking, trying to 'friend' me or sending me messages (even though I hadn't been on for two weeks).

They may have looked because of a post or because they were following a verification trail - it may not have been because they were considering whether to contact you about a meet.

What's the problem?

People with first world problems: put a profile on a sex site with all your bits on show then get arsey when someone looks who has a hidden profile.

I mean, really?!!

I'm offended that your hidden profile may have looked at my hidden profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might of guessed a reply from a man would be like that

What about all the people who look at you in stealth mode that you don't even know about..?"

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