FabSwingers.com forum: Verified

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it some people do not like to be verified or give verifications they have met.

Am I that bad that I embarrass people and no this is not a look at me thread this is a serious question.

Has anyone else had this experience or am I alone on this?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've had meet and they didn't bother verifying me even though they accepted mine. Maybe they didn't want a bisexual man on their list, who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you ask them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to write veri's but don't care if I receive them or not. They're like a tramp stamp or a slag tag sometimes. Discretion isn't consistent with waving your veri's about. The green tick is enough for me. I don't need the full details of your last shag.

However I do love to receive a comedy veri. If it makes me laugh it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can't verify me because of my age filters which I'm not changing just to get them. They're really not important to me, I really don't need a sexual performance review and certainly don't want others seeing what I get up to and with who as its private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I can understand if it was a shag meet and details were intimate but a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah a couple of early meets didn't verify - like Steve one of them was happy to display mine but didn't give one back. Now UNLOS.

One of those things, don't let it get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never display a graphic veri. I just don't like it. Likewise I wouldn't leave one like that. But if someone I had met asked me to, I'd leave a generic, amusing one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why is it some people do not like to be verified or give verifications they have met.

Am I that bad that I embarrass people and no this is not a look at me thread this is a serious question.

Has anyone else had this experience or am I alone on this? "

I'm here to meet and have sex. I don't feel the need to say who with and I've yet to meet anyone based on what a total stranger has to say about them.

I don't waste my time wondering how others use the site to conduct their sex lives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah a couple of early meets didn't verify - like Steve one of them was happy to display mine but didn't give one back. Now UNLOS.

One of those things, don't let it get you down

This person is also UNLOS lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"People can't verify me because of my age filters which I'm not changing just to get them. They're really not important to me, I really don't need a sexual performance review and certainly don't want others seeing what I get up to and with who as its private. "

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This for me too."

I do understand about people not wanting their sex lives being broadcast but we do meet socially as well its not all about sex is it?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business."

Exactly;

Lots of people just are not interested; I don't give a damn about verifications, one way or another.

Do you meet to get verifications, or meet to have sex?

If it's that important to you, did you ask for one?

I give them if asked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people that I haven't verified & vice versa, can't remember the reason why now we just didn't get round to doing one.

I like to give / receive veri's, they're nice to look back on

have a casual 'veri talk' at some stage, see if you're both in agreement over them or not as the case may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for me too.

I do understand about people not wanting their sex lives being broadcast but we do meet socially as well its not all about sex is it? "

I always meet socially first and would have more social veris than sexual if I accepted them. People that know me know I don't like graphic ones anyway but I still don't want to broadcast who I've met. In the past some sad people have pestered some guys I've met which isn't nice for them. I've been here long enough to not take the word of a complete stranger about someone and prefer to make my own mind up about that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met people that I haven't verified & vice versa, can't remember the reason why now we just didn't get round to doing one.

I like to give / receive veri's, they're nice to look back on

have a casual 'veri talk' at some stage, see if you're both in agreement over them or not as the case may be."
some people just don't like veris I don't they are notches but having one from this lady would be a pinnacle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my short time on here, it seems some are more obsessed with collecting veris than actually meeting. If you're meeting just to get a veri then surely its the wrong reason? Some threads I've read on here about someone sending a veri and not receiving one back, you'd think they'd murdered their family pet they get so upset. Chill, its really not important is it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This for me too.

I do understand about people not wanting their sex lives being broadcast but we do meet socially as well its not all about sex is it?

It's good to get another point of view and thank you it has sat better in my head now. I feel a lot more at ease with why and why not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From my short time on here, it seems some are more obsessed with collecting veris than actually meeting. If you're meeting just to get a veri then surely its the wrong reason? Some threads I've read on here about someone sending a veri and not receiving one back, you'd think they'd murdered their family pet they get so upset. Chill, its really not important is it?"

I am meeting because I want to meet someone not because I want a veri. But I have my answer now and it's all good

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over a year ago

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

This for me too.

I do understand about people not wanting their sex lives being broadcast but we do meet socially as well its not all about sex is it?

Again: 100% this for me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, if you're talking about a specific person and they've gone UNLOS, any veri would have disappeared anyway so I'm not sure the point of this thread, unless it was just a general discussion on verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business."

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones. "

This is exactly true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, if you're talking about a specific person and they've gone UNLOS, any veri would have disappeared anyway so I'm not sure the point of this thread, unless it was just a general discussion on verifications."

It is a general discussion on verififications and that is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a general discussion on verififications and that is all

When they go UNLOS, it still shows as a stat if you display those. I've been on here for years and lots of my old meets have left

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By *issusAndHubsterCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We are newbies so it is an interesting thread for us, learning lots

Like someone said, you do need 'some' veris or people think you aren't genuine. But social verifications are fine for us, would rather be private

Can someone explain UNLOS please?

Missus x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

This is exactly true

Which is why I said I can understand wanting one if you don't have any.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are newbies so it is an interesting thread for us, learning lots

Like someone said, you do need 'some' veris or people think you aren't genuine. But social verifications are fine for us, would rather be private

Can someone explain UNLOS please?

Missus x"

User no longer on site is UNLOS and welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are newbies so it is an interesting thread for us, learning lots

Like someone said, you do need 'some' veris or people think you aren't genuine. But social verifications are fine for us, would rather be private

Can someone explain UNLOS please?

Missus x"

Hi, it means user no longer on site. They've deleted their account in other words

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By *issusAndHubsterCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We are newbies so it is an interesting thread for us, learning lots

Like someone said, you do need 'some' veris or people think you aren't genuine. But social verifications are fine for us, would rather be private

Can someone explain UNLOS please?

Missus x

User no longer on site is UNLOS and welcome

Thank you muchly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

This is exactly true

Which is why I said I can understand wanting one if you don't have any."

Some people will not meet if you have verifies that are more than 3 months old. So getting a verify for a single bloke is more important to keep meets going

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By *issusAndHubsterCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We are newbies so it is an interesting thread for us, learning lots

Like someone said, you do need 'some' veris or people think you aren't genuine. But social verifications are fine for us, would rather be private

Can someone explain UNLOS please?

Missus x

Hi, it means user no longer on site. They've deleted their account in other words

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's different for guy's when it comes to verifications, I think they help when it comes to getting meets social or otherwise, it has in my experience anyway

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Well I have seldom bothered, never made any difference to meets.

And I have never come across anyone who puts in a 3 month rule. Some block unverified. So what? There are plenty of others who don't .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

This is exactly true

Which is why I said I can understand wanting one if you don't have any."

I have been told I have too many and that it scares them. Personally I don't care if it does, as scared people are probably not the ones I'd have most fun with.

In effect, my veris act as a filter

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I like veri's but for me only...i only post them when the person sent it says they'd like me to or we have discussed it

I have had at least 2/3 people who have posted my veri but wont leave me one and I did feel a little upset because I like to read them for myself and remember the meet we had esp when this site starts having people on here who don't get me and how I tick irs nice to remember the meets that went well, esp when one of the guys has wanted to meet again.

The other couple I understand I might have jst been crap or they jst dnt wanna leave me feedback

Either way...i dnt tend to post the intimate side of my meets.i round it up to if they a nice guy,if I felt comfortable,If the bed got wet..i dnt go detailed.

As for my veris I'm often hiding them then putting them back up.i feel embarrassed by the summary list sometimes.but alot my meets have been socials and the veris state that

I'm happy to show veris

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unfortunately sites like this have too many single guys and not enough single lasses so the verified for a single Lass is not as important as it is for a single lad

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"Yeah a couple of early meets didn't verify - like Steve one of them was happy to display mine but didn't give one back. Now UNLOS.

One of those things, don't let it get you down

This person is also UNLOS lol

Then whats the problem, if they UNLOS they cant verify you anyway.

Maybe they thought swinging was for them, had social and decided it wasn't, didn't write veri just left site, everyone will have different reasons for writing or not writing veries, if you want to know the reason you need to contact the individual and ask what there reason is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had people not verify me, I've met people for a social purely to verify them if they are new, I've had people ask if they want them to leave verifications. If they verify me I always verify back but if they don't hey Ho, its not a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah a couple of early meets didn't verify - like Steve one of them was happy to display mine but didn't give one back. Now UNLOS.

One of those things, don't let it get you down

This person is also UNLOS lol

Then whats the problem, if they UNLOS they cant verify you anyway.

This thread was put up to help people understand the verifies not a dig or a get at anyone. It's confusing enough and this is meant to be FUN lol

Will try again as what I wrote was not printed this was not a dig or a get at it was meant to help people understand the verifies that is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

This is exactly true

Which is why I said I can understand wanting one if you don't have any.

I have been told I have too many and that it scares them. Personally I don't care if it does, as scared people are probably not the ones I'd have most fun with.

In effect, my veris act as a filter

I don't know why your veris would scare anyone. I've just skimmed through them and all I got was that you're a lovely, friendly man.

I wouldn't say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

This is exactly true

Which is why I said I can understand wanting one if you don't have any.

I have been told I have too many and that it scares them. Personally I don't care if it does, as scared people are probably not the ones I'd have most fun with.

In effect, my veris act as a filter

I don't know why your veris would scare anyone. I've just skimmed through them and all I got was that you're a lovely, friendly man.

I wouldn't say no

Get ya coat, you've pulled

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business.

There are a lot of people who won't meet others who are not verified. This seems especially true as a single male.

Mine are a mixture of fun I've had and comedy ones. I don't tend to like the graphic ones.

This is exactly true

Which is why I said I can understand wanting one if you don't have any.

I have been told I have too many and that it scares them. Personally I don't care if it does, as scared people are probably not the ones I'd have most fun with.

In effect, my veris act as a filter

I don't know why your veris would scare anyone. I've just skimmed through them and all I got was that you're a lovely, friendly man.

I wouldn't say no

Get ya coat, you've pulled

Wey hey turned into a dating thread lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't display my veri's just a summary so people know I do meet and have done. The details are mine to look at as a reminder!

Having said that I've been let down by verified people and after all it's supposed to show your genuine and who you say you are.

I do use veri's as a filter and if I don't like your veri's then it's a no go!

Just my choice and way of using the site. It's different for everyone I guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have found this thread very enlightening thank you all learned so much about others perspectives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I display the verifications that I think give an insight to my personality, the two that I haven't shown are merely physical ones from showing myself off on cam that don't actually say anything about who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't display any of mine so it's not that I don't like them, they're just a bit pointless for me. I'd always write one for someone else if they wanted one though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We no longer care about veris .

You simply can't win .

Too many and you're a slut , not enough and you don't meet enough !

If we meet and they want one , we happily give one if the meet was good . Whether they do one back is no longer an issue .

However , as we prefer one off meets , it's good keep tabs on who we've met , so they can be useful !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't verify somebody its because I didn't enjoy the meet, if people don't verify me I assum its for the same reason

No need to dwell on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I don't verify somebody its because I didn't enjoy the meet, if people don't verify me I assum its for the same reason

No need to dwell on it"

See now here is another perspective on the verifies I had not thought of

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"Why is it some people do not like to be verified or give verifications they have met.

Am I that bad that I embarrass people and no this is not a look at me thread this is a serious question.

Has anyone else had this experience or am I alone on this? "

A lover of mine said he didn't want to be thought of as having too many partners...He didn't publish anyone's feedback on tvchix

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"Why are verifications so important to you?

I can understand wanting one if you don't have any, but to have one from every meet just seems a bit weird.

I don't feel the need to broadcast to the whole of Fab who I've met.

In fact, the men I've had the best sex with on here, I've not verified them and they've not verified me. Our meets are private and nobody else's business."

Same here - on fact there's one guy I meet regularly and we've never verified each other.

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