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By *inkxRabbit OP   Woman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I am pretty sure I'm not alone in caring for a special needs child and elderly mother. I'm talking housebound with alzheimers and vascular dementia.

My question is: how on earth do you ever get time to meet?!

I'm just exhausted with it all plus working. Can't imagine having 2 seconds to spare!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant answer your question but you have my utmost respect and admiration x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I cant answer your question but you have my utmost respect and admiration x"

Mine too

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Perhaps those that meet only do it when they have respite care in?

I couldn't cope with looking after my demented mother (also two types of dementia at the same time!) so you have my admiration for managing so much more. Don't forget to look after yourself otherwise you won't be able to keep it up.

Good luck finding time for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant answer your question but you have my utmost respect and admiration x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We manage. Take opportunities when they arise. It's hard but it's what we do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent time looking after my mother with vascular dementia....over a period of years....of and on when I didn't have carers....it is very demanding and tough. I wasn't on this site at thetime but if I was....or was trying to date...It would have been a night mare. It all had a ddetrimental effect on my marriage to...very sadly. But you do as you feel you need to...and believe is right when caring for a vulnerable person...I wish you well. Now I have the time..my mother having died...I rarely get meets anyway...sods law I guess..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am pretty sure I'm not alone in caring for a special needs child and elderly mother. I'm talking housebound with alzheimers and vascular dementia.

My question is: how on earth do you ever get time to meet?!

I'm just exhausted with it all plus working. Can't imagine having 2 seconds to spare! "

I care for my dad 24 /7..he is house bound and in a wheelchair.. He now lives with me.. and my youngest son has a disability. I have no other family.. So I get where you are coming from.. It is very difficult to get any time to myself.. There are forms of respite care you can use if you contact social services.. I personally don't.. As have other ways.. But know those who couldn't do without x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I spent time looking after my mother with vascular dementia....over a period of years....of and on when I didn't have carers....it is very demanding and tough. I wasn't on this site at thetime but if I was....or was trying to date...It would have been a night mare. It all had a ddetrimental effect on my marriage to...very sadly. But you do as you feel you need to...and believe is right when caring for a vulnerable person...I wish you well. Now I have the time..my mother having died...I rarely get meets anyway...sods law I guess.."

Perhaps we need a carers and ex-carers social to get everyone together struggling to arrange 1:1 meets due to the time constraints?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant answer your question but you have my utmost respect and admiration x"

Are there friends or family who could help ? Look into getting carers? Respite?

I help my mum care for my disabled dad and Im very aware in a year or two will be caring for both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been a carer for 10 yrs....everyday there's a new challenge so I can't plan anything. Spontaneous is the only way.

Anyone like to meet NOW ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant answer your question but you have my utmost respect and admiration x

Mine too"

And ours

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

Do you have respite units in your area?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you have respite units in your area?

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Just what I was going to suggest

I've Bn a carer for coming up to 6 years, it's not an easy job , so I have the upmost respect for u in what u r doing.

But u need to make time for ursel missus, even its not to meet, for ur own well being

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything along them lines has only brought more suffering like attempted suicide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hope you've managed to get something sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything along them lines has only brought more suffering like attempted suicide."

nice reply ........NOT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to work in mental health community care - please start with the social services (maybe initially via your gp) you can get assistance - even if its a carer coming in for say a 2 hour slot - so you can have some time for yourself - or whether a daily visit is needed to give medication - many options but please dont struggle on alone xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything along them lines has only brought more suffering like attempted suicide.

nice reply ........NOT"

My reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i used to work in mental health community care - please start with the social services (maybe initially via your gp) you can get assistance - even if its a carer coming in for say a 2 hour slot - so you can have some time for yourself - or whether a daily visit is needed to give medication - many options but please dont struggle on alone xxx "

Yeah thanks... Have help from Mental health worker.She is very good but shes not really there for me and they only work 9-5 I'm a carer 24/7.....I ve learnt the do's and don't and how to control matters alone.It can be very lonely tho.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i used to work in mental health community care - please start with the social services (maybe initially via your gp) you can get assistance - even if its a carer coming in for say a 2 hour slot - so you can have some time for yourself - or whether a daily visit is needed to give medication - many options but please dont struggle on alone xxx "

Could I message u in private pls

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over a year ago

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