FabSwingers.com forum: How should a 44 year old dress?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a 44 year old brother who dresses like a 15 year old skater boy

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

As long as you are happy with how you look that's all that matters.

Your friend needs to get a life of her own.

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

Dress however the hell you like!

Do what makes you happy and to hell with anyone else! Xx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Don't ask me, I'm 53 #jeremyclarkson

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship"

You dress in what you feel good in.

I dress very similar to you and my friends and work mates say the look is good.

It could be jealously on your friends part, but if she is annoying you you need to tell her thanks for your input but im loving my look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

F*#k em.

I wear what I feel great in. Dress for you not the critics xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dress however the hell you like!

Do what makes you happy and to hell with anyone else! Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She doesn't sound like a very nice friend

Well done on the weight loss.. And dress how you bloody well please! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell your friend to do one. As long as you are comfortable in it and think you look good wear what you like

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship"

Your look sounds sophisticated, not too young at all IMO!

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Dress in what ever makes YOU feel good. Sod the others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself n who cares what others think. Youve done great on losing weight so now make the most of it n flaunt ur new look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would get rid of the friend. I lost 5st ended up being the slimmest in my friendship group. Would get nothing but bitchy comments on night outs because of the attention I got so I no longer find time to socialise with them. Life is too short. Dress how you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How you're dressed in photos looks perfect to me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have never considered anyone elses opinion when deciding what to wear. I live in jeans and tops. When I was at Swingfields I wore short shorts and a bikini top. If you rock it, wear it.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Sounds like envy to me. You look great. I dont dress to hide my size (20), dress how i want to

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'll be 42 next month and there is not a chance in hell I will let someone dictate what I wear. Wear what you feel good in that is all you need to do x

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

What a load of bollocks your freind is spouting!

I hate this " you are such and such an age so you should dress like it"

Dress in a way you feel comfortable,

In a way that makes you feel good.

FFS, 44 is not old!

The outfits you describe sound sexy and smart .

And yes, I think jealousy is coming into it!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Dress how you please. Well done for losing the weight. Think you must be feeling like a million dollars and deserve to look it too.

Your pal sounds jealous that you've now got a great figure.

I'm sure you daughter advises you well.

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Unless your daughter hates you,I think you will find she would never let you go out dressed looking silly.An well done for losing the weight.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I think at 44 you should dress however the hell you want since you know exactly what suits you and what you like to wear. That's what I've always done and sod any naysayers. They're not me, they don't get to choose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship

You dress in what you feel good in.

I dress very similar to you and my friends and work mates say the look is good.

It could be jealously on your friends part, but if she is annoying you you need to tell her thanks for your input but im loving my look

My daughter did tell her the other week when we saw her that she needed to take a look at herself and stop dressing like an emotional kid

After she critisized a top I had just bought . My daughter finished uni with a fashion degree and trust me she wouldn't advise me on what to wear if it would look stupid

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm wondering what she wants you in. Granny smocks and slippers?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hmm. My mum used to often tell me that what I wore wasn't suitable for a married woman (if she only knew eh) but has stopped lately.

My opinion of how you dress based on your description is that you probably look great and therein may lie your "friends" problem. My only requirement in clothes is does it suit me, if the answer is yes I wear it

I think it was Diamondsmiles who advised me to tell my friend who keeps calling me a skinny cow that I find it annoying, I can't advise you to do the same because I can't bring myself to do it, but if you can tell her to shut up or ship out

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Find a new friend

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Lol hey as a 95 year old I can still dress as a much younger woman, just

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also I give fair warning, I intend to dress in much the same way I do now until the day I die.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"She doesn't sound like a very nice friend

Well done on the weight loss.. And dress how you bloody well please! X"

This!!

Tell your friend to fuck off!

If she was really your friend she'd tell you how fabulous you are for shifting your excess weight and you've earned the right to wear whatever you choose!

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"i have a 44 year old brother who dresses like a 15 year old skater boy

swear i served him in work today! Haha

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By *llebWoman
over a year ago

Poulton Le Fylde

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship"

I just had to comment and congratulate you on your weight loss, that's amazing, Well done you.

On the clothes front, I say wear what makes you feel good, that fits the occasion, bling it up, dress it down, but don't ever forget that you have something to flaunt.

Go for it, and have a whale of a time

I'm 62 this year and wear what I want, when I want , it keeps me feeling young , but never mutton dressed as lamb..I leave that to others who think showing their backside at their age is a sexy look.

You don't have to bare all to be sexy...it comes from within....Be Confident .....and enjoy!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Wear why you want to wear....it's no one else's business - if you are happy and comfortable then that's all that counts

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Omg op welcome to my world, aboit 6 months ago I posted a thread on what stuff should I be wearing as I had no idea.

Like you I thought I dressed well when I was big but very limited to what fitted and looked nice.

Anyway after the thread I did a bit of experimenting and a few months ago I found what I feel the best in.

I buy and wear stuff that never in my wildest dreams I thought I'd wear.

I bet 90% of my clothes from charity shops amazing what's in there.

The look I wear I'd say is cute and girly, little mini skirts, boots, its frocks, shorts with thick tights (have only worn my black velvet ones a couple of times lol)

My mum and friends love the transformation in what I wear.

My only advice to you would be wear what the fuck you like as long as you feel good in it.

Plus I've got a few years on you

must enjoy yourself I'm having a ball buying stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've described outfits that sound classic and classy to me. A 20 year old would wear that - a 70 year old could too. Your friend needs to learn that if she can't say anything nice...

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Wear whatever you feel like!

As a younger lad, its exciting to see someone older dress more "modern" i wouldnt use the term "age appropriate" for clothes.

If you enjoy what you wear keep wearing it, if your mate doesnt agree with you then fudge her

I get told i dress like a old man because i like shirts and cardigans! No one understands im going for the Bradley from eastenders look XD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you on the weight loss.

Your friend does sound jealous. A true friend would be so proud of your achievement.

Now is your time to be proud of the new you and the new found confidence to shop the high street.

Wear what you want, when you want and tell your friend that it is your choice not hers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you've described sounds lovely, really sophisticated. Keep dressing in what you feel good in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever makes you feel good you only live once enjoy yaself an well done on weight loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What ever makes you happy.

Ignore what other people think its what makes you feel good and happy that's what matters.

Be true to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fashion depends on where you live.... I know a lot of clothes in Ireland and England look really out of place here in Cali, and I stand out like a sore thumb when I go home.

But your friend is trying to help. She looks at you and thinks that it just doesn't work and you're trying too hard. I'd hate to see a granny in a mini skirt type thing. If you feel comfortable knowing that some others are looking and thinking you don't look good wearing what you're wearing then have at it. Bottom line - life is too short to worry about others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's just one friend saying it maybe they are jealous, if its all your friends then maybe there's something in it. What you described wearing doesn't sound too young a look at all and as long as you feel comfortable and good in what your wearing that's all that matters.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Fashion depends on where you live.... I know a lot of clothes in Ireland and England look really out of place here in Cali, and I stand out like a sore thumb when I go home.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've worn trainers and jeans and hoodies for the past 29 years or so.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've worn trainers and jeans and hoodies for the past 29 years or so. "
20 years rather!

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

In my case, as wanton totty manages to keep me in mischief, hurrah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dress as you please. If it makes you feel sexy and happier then go for it.

Who cares what others think of your dress sense or whatever else.

PS To the OP you look fantastic.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship"

She's jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sounds a super critical friend to me! And it sounds like she is jealous.

If you had your tits out or ass on show in tesco then I could understand her comments.

But what you have described sounds really chic and classic!

Plus if your daughter is helping you, I would have expected your daughter to be the critic! No one wants to see their mum making a fool of herself lol.

It's a shame that just one supposed friend is knocking your confidence! Tell her to do one!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

On a thread about honesty someone pointed out to me that other people's opinion of how someone dresses is just that, an opinion and if you think they look awful you should keep your gob shut, they might be thinking the same about you.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship"

Unless you're dressing like Dick Emery, what on earth does "at your age mean".

The people who dress "their age" are going to be older than 44 unless they are ashamed of themselves.

Do not listen. Wear what makes you happy and what you are comfortable withy Teenage schoolboys in the street will soon tell you if you look wrong by shouting crude comments across the street. I'm assuming that doesn't happen.

And in the evening everyone wants to look sexy.

Ask her what she suggests maybe some baggy trousers or an oversize flowery pleated dress, or maybe a navy blue blazer, or a white jacket or a long coat.

And what is she wearing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my word you lost all that weight you must be so proud and feeling very sexy . Enjoy this you embrace going into any clothes shop and fitting their clothes . Enjoy feeling bloody brilliant at what you achieved and live every second and dress for you because you my lady deserve it x

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Are you getting admiring looks when dressed like that?

Are you feeling really confident?

Is your daughter supportive?

If yes to all above x it's your "friend" who needs to take a long look at herself and stop trying to put you down.

Again, more advice from a 50 year old make with Clarkson's dress sense

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

As others have said you should dress to please yourself.

You call this person a friend, but what kind of friend doesn't celebrate the achievement you've made and be totally happy for you to wear whatever you like now?

The question isn't what should you wear? It's how should you remove this negative person from your life?

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

The shame of it is that she has already started you questioning yourself but she is only one person. And what's wrong with looking younger than you are...though, believe me, 44 is not old. I thought I was old at 40 but I know now that it wasn't - 60 is old but look at my dresses (ok don't) lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overheard a comment from my ex boss to another colleague, 'feebs is a lovely person but her dress sense is really strange'.

I couldn't have been more happier.

I have always had a rather than quirky dress sense. I certainly don't look like the standard women in her late 40s who shops in M&S. I don't see it as particularly different but I've always had comments about it and I've had my fair share of bitchiness too.

I would never change for anyone. I don't think about age when I buy clothes. I've never been into provocative clothing, I think a lot of women who enjoy dressing sexier get nasty comments thrown at them. I believe you should dress exactly as you wish.

If I could pinch someones wardrobe, and the type of clothes I admire, are those worn by Grayson Perry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Serious question how shoukd I dress at 44? I have a friend who is a little younger telling me I dress far too young for my age.

I have lost 13 stone in three years and must admit although I dressed nice when I was larger, I am dressing bang on trend now I'm slimmer.

I'm like a kid in a sweet shop now I can shop in more high street shops. It's nice because I'm not limited as to what I can buy

Bearing in mind my daughter has a degree in fashion and she is my personal shopper/dresser and knows what she is talking about.

Casual I wear skinny jeans, crisp white shirts blazers and loafers and on a night out either pencil dresses or nice trousers and top that suits my shape and heels.

But my friend insists that at 44 I dress too young for my age and trying to look younger than I am

Not sure if she jealous or what but her constant bitching about it is now putting a strain on our friendship"

I'll answer this with some questions;

Do you like the clothes in your wardrobe?

Do they fit?

Do you feel comfortable in them?

Do you enjoy wearing them?

If the answer is yes, these are the clothes a woman of your age should wear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love rachael's dick emery reference! Why not turn up in twin set and pearls and nice comfy shoes and see what your friend says! If she likes it you then know to tell her to fook off!

*No offence intended to any twinset wearing forumites*

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Just tell your critic that you have been styled by your personal shopper and suggest she could do with some personal styling.

Wear whatever makes you feel confident, comfortable and right for the situation you are in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dress how u want and feel. Nobody should tell u how u should and should not!!!!! Well done on that massive achievement and keep to what u heart is saying. If u feel good, u wanna look good, u be proud u sassy lady xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

firstly well done on the weight loss - and now wear whatever you want to - i spent too many years wearing joggers and polo shirts in black and navy - got divorced and now i wear allsorts in all colours - get told i look good and my daughter doesnt like the fact that one or two of my items match hers or her mates - but tough - your life enjoy it and if others dont like it = well its their problem not yours

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I love rachael's dick emery reference! Why not turn up in twin set and pearls and nice comfy shoes and see what your friend says! If she likes it you then know to tell her to fook off!

*No offence intended to any twinset wearing forumites*

I was planning on wearing a twinset to work tomorrow. No pearls though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id kill to wear skinny jeans.

If you like it though wear it op. Theres no age limit on clothes. Except maybe crop tops but i dont even like them on young girls. Always think they are going to catch a cold

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Dress however you like. . if you feel good go for it x

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Why do you need to ask how you should dress at 44"""

I'm sure you look great whatever you wear and I'm sure you will decide for yourself

I'm older than that and dress a lot younger too but I don't give a shit what other people think.hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanku everyone for you kind words. I dress for me and me only. Yes my daughter advises me and I take her advise and value it very much and she is my best critic. I love the way I dress and I am so much more confident now than I was three years ago. If you had asked me three years ago if I woukd ever wear a dress showing off my legs I would have said no way. If you had said woukd I be wearing skinny jeans no way. But now I ooze confidence. Without being big headed I look and feel bloody great, although I still have some more weight to shift.

She is the only one who constantly puts me down whereas all my other friends compliment me on what I wear or how I look etc

I do think a lot of it is down to being jealous because of what I have achieved. But then she can achieve what I have if she wanted to.

Although I am a person who as a rule doesn't take crap off people and bite back, I have had to bite my tongue when she comments partly because I feel sorry for her

But Iv decided that the next negative comment that she makes I am going to tell her a. Few home truths about how she looks because to be fair she doesn't take pride in herself

And I will end our friendship.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Fashion depends on where you live.... I know a lot of clothes in Ireland and England look really out of place here in Cali, and I stand out like a sore thumb when I go home.

Grannies come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Good for those who have the legs - or just the attitude- to wear minis!

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By *MagicaladyWoman
over a year ago

Newton Leys

Exactly how feel good to you!!! 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what you've said OP, it sounds as if your friend is jealous. I would suggest being fairly firm with her when she says it, not rude, but be assertive. On the occasions I've had comments I do tell them.

We all have different styles and likes. What you have described as casual wear wouldn't work for me. But that's the beauty of it, be assertive and wear what you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

true friendship is about acceptance whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy. But quit the my daughter has this degree and this qualification as it gives her a gripe. Tell her you are wearing what you are because you look damn fine in it!! And ask her what made her choose her outfit. Congrats on the weight loss but your perfectly able to decide what you want to wear, stop hiding behind your daughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

44 is just the start

I've started looking at fleeces and thinking 'ooh that looks warm'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jealousy. But quit the my daughter has this degree and this qualification as it gives her a gripe. Tell her you are wearing what you are because you look damn fine in it!! And ask her what made her choose her outfit. Congrats on the weight loss but your perfectly able to decide what you want to wear, stop hiding behind your daughter. "

I'm not hiding behind my daughter Thanku

I fact I'm very proud of what my daughter has achieved and I value her opinion very much

Why should it gripe people what she has achieved????

I fact I like my daughters input into what I wear Thanku

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"44 is just the start

I've started looking at fleeces and thinking 'ooh that looks warm'

Hehe nothing wrong with fleeces

I love my fleece onsie

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I know some great clothes sites luv if you need them.

Some fab clothes for us who want to dress younger

Xxxxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'd have lobed someone to help me chose what suited me and not

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

If your daughter is anything like my son she'd soon let you know if she wasn't comfortable. My son's the only person I'd listen to and I dont always listen to him. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know some great clothes sites luv if you need them.

Some fab clothes for us who want to dress younger

Xxxxx"

Inbox me Hun please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd have lobed someone to help me chose what suited me and not

Exactly diamond smiles

Be the same if you had a child in finance or in car mechanics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your daughter is anything like my son she'd soon let you know if she wasn't comfortable. My son's the only person I'd listen to and I dont always listen to him. xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shud dress how you want hun and after loosing the weight why not show it off as long as you feel good you shudnt care what others think hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone dress for 'their age' anymore,I don't & neither do my friends & we're in our late 40's

I think it's more about dressing to suit your own style.

Sounds like your dress sense is spot on regardless of age.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You can dress however the hell you like OP end of. It has nothing to do with your friend or anyone else for that matter.

If you feel you look good you feel good

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

It does seriously sound like your ex friends problem and not yours ?

Although I'm no fan of dedicated followers of transient fickle fashion, you seem to be dressing with classic style, a declaration of pride which is admirable xx I do hope (tongue in cheek ish)that you don't descend into wearing the ripped jeans look , it's been repeated so many times and to my eye has only ever been a sign of being a slave to popular fashion rather than holding anything of aesthetic value (unless those holes have been earned, perhaps lol)

I don't know enough about the friend to know if she is just super bitch or quite vulnerable thinking she may loose her old friend , this is still her problem but many humans do become adverse to change and that includes the dynamics of their social life

Me I would not tolerate it but then I also dress like a 22 year old surf / skater boy and have long hair

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd suggest a new friend. That 1 sounds boring.

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By *iggy1Woman
over a year ago

DORCHESTER

Well done on your achievement!! I think your friend is seeing a little bit of the green eyed monster...some people are only friends with certain people because they can belittle them and make themselves feel better, maybe this friendship has run its course x

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