FabSwingers.com forum: Dating/talking about sex....

By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Is it just me, but when you start speaking to a person and a conversation is going well and you are getting to know each other but then the sex talk starts to creep in. I just find it so off putting and when I say something it's like I'm the weirdo....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

On here or real life?

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Not on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same,, i find it a real turn off

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Guess it depends how long you've known them I wouldn't want them to start talking about sex till I'd met them at least three or four times or until I was ready

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Was just saying this to my mate today. Sooooooooo annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just you. It makes me think they weren't really interested in dating,they just want sex. I don't bother with dates now.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Guess it depends how long you've known them I wouldn't want them to start talking about sex till I'd met them at least three or four times or until I was ready

Known him a while on and off and just started speaking again but I'm with you on the fact that it's a conversation that shouldn't happen until later on down the road...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I have ever talked about sex with a Woman I wasn't having sex with, Even on here in pm's I will wait until the subject is brought up

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Not just you. It makes me think they weren't really interested in dating,they just want sex. I don't bother with dates now. "

I'm thinking the same wave length as you and I confronted him he stopped for a while but the comments are creeping in again and I'm just like....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guess it depends how long you've known them I wouldn't want them to start talking about sex till I'd met them at least three or four times or until I was ready

Known him a while on and off and just started speaking again but I'm with you on the fact that it's a conversation that shouldn't happen until later on down the road..."

I can't ever remember not talking about sex but then I have never dated either x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is an interesting one.

I agree that it seems a bit soon. But on the other hand, isn't it good to get an idea of what they might be into?

Possibly prevent another sexually mis-matched couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total turn off for me too. The slightest whiff of sex chat too soon then I stop chatting.

I couldn't give a shit if they think I'm a prude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make sure I talk sex before I meet people and then again on the first date. I need to know that they'll be happy with my lifestyle - swinging and kink - and if they're not then I don't want to meet them.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't think I have ever talked about sex with a Woman I wasn't having sex with, Even on here in pm's I will wait until the subject is brought up"

I like guys who do this but there is an underlying understanding that we're sussing out if we want to have sex. Not date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just you. It makes me think they weren't really interested in dating,they just want sex. I don't bother with dates now.

I'm thinking the same wave length as you and I confronted him he stopped for a while but the comments are creeping in again and I'm just like....

It would totally put me off and I would have to tell him. I want to get to know someone before having sex with them.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I don't think I have ever talked about sex with a Woman I wasn't having sex with, Even on here in pm's I will wait until the subject is brought up

I like guys who do this but there is an underlying understanding that we're sussing out if we want to have sex. Not date."

I'm chatting to him because I like him like him it's not fab related...it puts me off on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to talk about sex on first dates. I like them to know exactly what I'm about. My pof and tinder profiles aren't too different from my fab one either. It's always worked for me. Helps me out the ones not worth seeing again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just you. It makes me think they weren't really interested in dating,they just want sex. I don't bother with dates now.

I'm thinking the same wave length as you and I confronted him he stopped for a while but the comments are creeping in again and I'm just like....

If I ask them to stop and they keep doing it I just find that really disrespectful. I don't need people like that. If they won't respect my feelings over something so small, they aren't likely to respect me for other more important things. So it's goodbye.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm ever so funny I'm so different if I wanted a relationship.

I want them to get to know me, but then we would a!so have to have "ney I'm a swinger this is the sexual side of me" before any feelings got involved so they had the choice to walk away.

Could never in a million years me wanting to date to much like hard b!oody work for starters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the messages i get are sexual on the first message I.e. I want to bury myself deep inside you etc etc. No hi my name is.......they get deleted hence no meets!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a difference between talking about sex and preferences and getting all sleazy and trying to steer a conversation down a sexual direction because you've got the horn. I don't see as there is anything wrong with the former of those 2 scenarios

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I have ever talked about sex with a Woman I wasn't having sex with, Even on here in pm's I will wait until the subject is brought up

I like guys who do this but there is an underlying understanding that we're sussing out if we want to have sex. Not date.

I'm chatting to him because I like him like him it's not fab related...it puts me off on here too

Examples? Chatting to him face to face or texting, are they innuendos or full on sex chat? Paint a picture for me.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I don't think I have ever talked about sex with a Woman I wasn't having sex with, Even on here in pm's I will wait until the subject is brought up

I like guys who do this but there is an underlying understanding that we're sussing out if we want to have sex. Not date.

I'm chatting to him because I like him like him it's not fab related...it puts me off on here too

Examples? Chatting to him face to face or texting, are they innuendos or full on sex chat? Paint a picture for me. "

Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer that conversation to happen organically. When you're on the same wavelength, it will never need to be forced and will feel natural and never forced.

Sometimes it happens quickly, sometimes it takes a while. But typically, such natural discourse comes from actually listening to the other person and not just waiting for your turn to talk so you can forward your own agenda.

Or, maybe I'm just odd.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it..."

He sounds not worth it then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I have ever talked about sex with a Woman I wasn't having sex with, Even on here in pm's I will wait until the subject is brought up

I like guys who do this but there is an underlying understanding that we're sussing out if we want to have sex. Not date.

I'm chatting to him because I like him like him it's not fab related...it puts me off on here too

Examples? Chatting to him face to face or texting, are they innuendos or full on sex chat? Paint a picture for me.

Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it..."

Ahh right I hate organised sex chat, like if they say what they're gonna do to me with their big penis, it's like ummm it might not happen that way so I don't like conversation where it's describing how the act is gonna go down.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I prefer that conversation to happen organically. When you're on the same wavelength, it will never need to be forced and will feel natural and never forced.

Or, maybe I'm just odd. "

Not odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me, but when you start speaking to a person and a conversation is going well and you are getting to know each other but then the sex talk starts to creep in. I just find it so off putting and when I say something it's like I'm the weirdo....

Im the same. I mean, I know thats what you are here for possibly but for me, it kills a conversation dead sometimes and I just delete after that. I believe swinging is about building friendships as well as anything else. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it..."

Sounds a charming fella...

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it...

Sounds a charming fella..."

I've left him too it

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea

Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it...

Sounds a charming fella...

I've left him too it

Definitely not compatible - he'd be respecting your request to ease off if he cared. Someone worth it will find you when you are most content. Hope you're not feeling too bruised x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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hehe hey you're not weird, I never talk about sex sex is for meeting and not always then either

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Texting mainly like sending me pictures of his knob and I said something really nice and he just came back with sleaze I'm just thinking he ain't that into me so leaving him to it...

Sounds a charming fella...

I've left him too it

Definitely not compatible - he'd be respecting your request to ease off if he cared. Someone worth it will find you when you are most content. Hope you're not feeling too bruised x"

Nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely.

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