FabSwingers.com forum: "You're either a friend or a fuck..."

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sensible attitude to Fab or a tad cynical?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would say it depends why you're here. We find we can be friends with those we fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have the best of both worlds you know.....I'd say cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all depends on the situation or individual, I could be friends with a Woman and still like to/have sex with her or be friends with a couple and like to/have sex with her as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made good friends with several I have met for sex..... A couple of them we are now basically just friends...

A few others are both...even a few I have met family and been introduced to as a friend and introduced them to my sister (who doesn't know fully what I do lol!)

I see no reason why you can't be both....?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It is possible to be friends with people you fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be a friend ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't dislike myself enough to have sex with people that I wouldn't hang out with.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We have made some very good friends on here and we enjoy the best of both worlds.....we sometimes have sex, we sometimes go shopping or for a meal - we even went to their wedding and have met each other's families

Granted some met on here are people we just meet for sex but it is the exception rather than the rule

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate. "

Grudge fuck! Badness fuck! There is little more satisfying for some reason. It's a man thing I know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Alright... curb ball... say, you get on, you have good sex BUT you're not friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alright... curb ball... say, you get on, you have good sex BUT you're not friends?"

Depends on how and where you might meet them ....

If it were someone I might see at a club then I might put them in that category

If it were someone that I met socially outside of a "meet" or club then they'd probably be friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fuck people I don't like.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I always thought it was a fuck or a block?

C...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say it depends why you're here. We find we can be friends with those we fuck

And be friends with those we don't fuck as well ... Can't see the two are exclusive ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the whole point of fab was to find friends to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alright... curb ball... say, you get on, you have good sex BUT you're not friends?"

Define 'friends'... what might be a sexy acquaintance to some may be a friend to another. For me I don't play with people unless we like each other and I don't do 'one offs' I have found I have a nice circle of real solid friends ...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have friends I don't fuck, I have friends I do fuck, I have fucks that turned into friends, and I fuck guys who never become friends.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate. "

I'm so pleased you've never fucked me then.

I'm only seeing the people I consider to be friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have friends who I do, and those I don't and those who I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to like someone to fuck them also. We don't have to be best mates or anything, but I need to be able to enjoy their company beyond the shagging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have friends I don't fuck, I have friends I do fuck, I have fucks that turned into friends, and I fuck guys who never become friends."

Me too

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate. "

I've had some relationships like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to like someone to fuck them also. We don't have to be best mates or anything, but I need to be able to enjoy their company beyond the shagging."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alright... curb ball... say, you get on, you have good sex BUT you're not friends?

I have (had i think its been 6 months now) a regular meet that was walk in get naked fuck like rabbits get showered dressed get told not to leave my phone behind.

Took me 5 meets to realise i didnt know her name

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate. "

Ya can't beat a good hate fuck

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Alright... curb ball... say, you get on, you have good sex BUT you're not friends?"

That's an FB

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

My ex said I was sick to fuck my friends from here yet was fine that he wanted to fuck friends on here when he was with his wife! Double standards spring to mind! At least with friends they know my boundaries, have mutual respect and trust!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd like to think I could be a friend without the need to fuck them.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I met quite a few people from the site, the forum and the clubs

Some are now friends who I have sex with too. Whether that friendship can survive in the absence of sex is something I don't know yet. However, the sex is a small part of the weekends spent together, albeit, it is a very enjoyable part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alright... curb ball... say, you get on, you have good sex BUT you're not friends?

Depends on how and where you might meet them ....

If it were someone I might see at a club then I might put them in that category

If it were someone that I met socially outside of a "meet" or club then they'd probably be friends

But even the club encounter I would class as a friend of sorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate. "

There's a couple of women I'd quite like to hate fuck.... I'd find it immensely satisfying..!!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I have to like someone to fuck them also. We don't have to be best mates or anything, but I need to be able to enjoy their company beyond the shagging."

This is true, which is why I prefer a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get friend zoned

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"I get friend zoned"

not even if I had to friend zone someone to win the lottery (ok maybe the lottery but with the money I could unfriendzone you and run away

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just want the fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!"

My ex did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get friend zoned

not even if I had to friend zone someone to win the lottery (ok maybe the lottery but with the money I could unfriendzone you and run away

Haha, it happens to me all them time. I'm "too nice" apparently... I need to learn to be a bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer just to fuck them and keep it as that. Bodybuilding is a busy life style, so that comes first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate fuck............ I'm lost

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Anyway, I met a guy on here, we've never even kissed. It was over 3 years ago and he is my best guy friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!"

Oh god. That really isn't my bag either.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!"

I'm fairly sure I've experienced it and even more without the sex!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I prefer just to fuck them and keep it as that. Bodybuilding is a busy life style, so that comes first

Shag, good to see you are safe and not lost in the gas cloud over Penge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer just to fuck them and keep it as that. Bodybuilding is a busy life style, so that comes first

Shag, good to see you are safe and not lost in the gas cloud over Penge.

"
Thanks yes, that gas cloud was on the other side of penge so I was fine, but yeah that street have always had some kind of problems with gas leaks x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone ive met id cosider a friend xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't generally have sex with people I'm not friends with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!"

Usually hate fuck doesnt mean you hate the person but you are letting out all the anger/annoyance that you may hold towards them (or anyone).

So rough and brutal usual

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I get friend zoned"

Not always

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!

Usually hate fuck doesnt mean you hate the person but you are letting out all the anger/annoyance that you may hold towards them (or anyone).

So rough and brutal usual "

I call them angry fucks. Not brutal but usually rough. Sometimes its just what I need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be a chum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never done it but toy mind it's someone you don't like but find very attractive and would like to give them a really good hammering and take all your frustration out on them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get friend zoned

Not always

Always! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It sounds awful

I'm wracking my brains trying to figure out if someone ever hate fucked me without me realising at the time!

Usually hate fuck doesnt mean you hate the person but you are letting out all the anger/annoyance that you may hold towards them (or anyone).

So rough and brutal usual

I call them angry fucks. Not brutal but usually rough. Sometimes its just what I need."

I knoe a girl who likes it like brutal R word kinda rough. (Not really my thing) but there is something strangely erotic in watching the pain on thier face with every thrust.

I dont know if its sadism or apreciating the pain they're suffering for your pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never done it but toy mind it's someone you don't like but find very attractive and would like to give them a really good hammering and take all your frustration out on them...."

That's 'to my mind'.... Careless....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could not have sex with people we did not like socially first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people I have met I consider friends , good friends

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I get friend zoned

Not always

Always! x"

Bollex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sensible attitude to Fab or a tad cynical?"

What do you mean?

I keep friends and fucking separate. I don't fuck friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never done it but toy mind it's someone you don't like but find very attractive and would like to give them a really good hammering and take all your frustration out on them....

That's 'to my mind'.... Careless...."

I assure you, there's nothing careless about it. It's quite intentional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a strange satisfaction from fucking people I hate. "

Lol same here. Sometimes a nasty fuck is good. Leave your mark on them before you leave and that's it. See ya!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It's a man thing

C...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sensible attitude to Fab or a tad cynical?

What do you mean?

I keep friends and fucking separate. I don't fuck friends. "

I would have thought we are talking about the people we meet through Swinging? People who you meet, like, maybe fuck but then become friends? And on the 'vanilla' side fro example I have no intention of trying it on with a certain lady I know as she isn't a Swinger although we are terrific friends and have great laughs together....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It's a man thing

C..."

Not just a man thing at all, I love a nasty angry fuck, broke a bed having one of those once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It's a man thing

C...

Not just a man thing at all, I love a nasty angry fuck, broke a bed having one of those once

Sounds a good meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex said I was sick to fuck my friends from here yet was fine that he wanted to fuck friends on here when he was with his wife! Double standards spring to mind! At least with friends they know my boundaries, have mutual respect and trust!"

Sounds like a right hypocritical twunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It's a man thing

C...

Not just a man thing at all, I love a nasty angry fuck, broke a bed having one of those once

Sounds a good meet

It was, it was, it so was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a hate fuck? And why is it satisfying?

It's a man thing

C..."

It's definitely not. Think I may have had one last night...

So satisfying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a good hate fuck. I'm usually very passive and a hate fuck stimulates my mind.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"I have to like someone to fuck them also. We don't have to be best mates or anything, but I need to be able to enjoy their company beyond the shagging."

Then over time and repeat meets we can become friends. Some of our socials have stayed as socials because in the flesh they've either said or done something that has changed our opinion of them.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Disagree as there are more options than just friend or fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sensible attitude to Fab or a tad cynical?

What do you mean?

I keep friends and fucking separate. I don't fuck friends.

Doesn't matter where I met them. If we are 'friends' it just doesn't work for me. I don't fuck friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say it depends why you're here. We find we can be friends with those we fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never slept with sombody I hadn't got know first I think it makes the chemistry better if you've at least teased each other a little first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both helps. But sometimes I like that stranger fucking

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By *om-brattMan
over a year ago

leeds

I just like to fuck

But fuck me it's hard to find a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sensible attitude to Fab or a tad cynical?"

You CAN be both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get friend zoned

Not always

Always! x

Bollex

Haha - but I've never met you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

What is a hate fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a hate fuck?

I've had this before, it's like you can't stand each other but you have such a sexual connection you just want to fuck each others brains out

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"What is a hate fuck?

I've had this before, it's like you can't stand each other but you have such a sexual connection you just want to fuck each others brains out "
I've just looked it up on urban dictionary, I don't hate anyone and the people I really don't like I'm certainly not going to be fucking

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton

"I get friend zoned

not even if I had to friend zone someone to win the lottery (ok maybe the lottery but with the money I could unfriendzone you and run away

)

Haha, it happens to me all them time. I'm "too nice" apparently... I need to learn to be a bitch.

Please meet me before you become a batch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sensible attitude to Fab or a tad cynical?"

There's definitely a third option where the Venn diagram intersects.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"I get friend zoned

not even if I had to friend zone someone to win the lottery (ok maybe the lottery but with the money I could unfriendzone you and run away

)

Haha, it happens to me all them time. I'm "too nice" apparently... I need to learn to be a bitch.

No I disagree,this thing of being a bitch or the treat them mean stuff is so 2015 the new face of fab is the loving caring people,we really should get together and become the poster children for FAB2016 and beyond!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is possible to be friends with people you fuck

It is but I've found most of my female friends we couldn't play now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get friend zoned

not even if I had to friend zone someone to win the lottery (ok maybe the lottery but with the money I could unfriendzone you and run away

)

Haha, it happens to me all them time. I'm "too nice" apparently... I need to learn to be a bitch.

I'm with you on that

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I get friend zoned

Not always

Always! x

Bollex

Haha - but I've never met you

Only 1 way to cure that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing like a good circle of friends that all like a mass Orgy now is there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've made good friends with several I have met for sex..... A couple of them we are now basically just friends...

A few others are both...even a few I have met family and been introduced to as a friend and introduced them to my sister (who doesn't know fully what I do lol!)

I see no reason why you can't be both....?"

Friends with benefits. Both sounds just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't fuck people I don't like."

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Sounds more contrived than cynical. Overthinking it kills the mood either for fucks or making friends.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think there are multiple categories for myself and others here. People I don't know but admire, usually from the forums - potentially nothing sexual. And various permutations of contacts, friends, fbs, potential shags etc. My world usually has many shades, rather than black or white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I can be friends with all my fab friends I see it as a social network with the added bonus of allowing me to live the lifestyle that I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very small number on here are both. The vast majority are neither

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