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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others?" So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? | |||
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"until a person has walked a mile in your shoes they can't possibly condemn you for still wanting what you once had." Unfortunately, that rarely stops them. | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others? So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? " i've been watching your posts over the last few weeks - do you hate everyone on here?? seems you have a never ending need to shoot down OP's OP - like some have said on here your situation is your situation. no one can truely give you the answers you need. i presume you have discussed this at length with your partner and it is great that she has given you permission but you also have to give yourself permission. are you asking this question because you are feeling guilty over seeing other women? | |||
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"In some ways it would have been better if you had gone behind her back and said nothing. How will she feel now, made severely disabled and now her husband goes and has sex with strangers.Bet she feels really wanted. " what a strange statement from a "swinger". Would have thought most of us could understand the difference between love and sex. | |||
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"In some ways it would have been better if you had gone behind her back and said nothing. How will she feel now, made severely disabled and now her husband goes and has sex with strangers.Bet she feels really wanted. " I have come across this in swinging before couples just like this ...... and thay was fine.... and happy there partner was getting what thay needed as thay new thay loved them .. If your strong together as a couple even if your disabled should be no diffrent too other people who swing apart. | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others? So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? i've been watching your posts over the last few weeks - do you hate everyone on here?? seems you have a never ending need to shoot down OP's OP - like some have said on here your situation is your situation. no one can truely give you the answers you need. i presume you have discussed this at length with your partner and it is great that she has given you permission but you also have to give yourself permission. are you asking this question because you are feeling guilty over seeing other women?" It's so sweet that you make a statement like that then go on to agree with what I said | |||
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" It's so sweet that you make a statement like that then go on to agree with what I said " Stop it ........ be asked people here somthing and dont need this x be good | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others? So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? i've been watching your posts over the last few weeks - do you hate everyone on here?? seems you have a never ending need to shoot down OP's OP - like some have said on here your situation is your situation. no one can truely give you the answers you need. i presume you have discussed this at length with your partner and it is great that she has given you permission but you also have to give yourself permission. are you asking this question because you are feeling guilty over seeing other women? It's so sweet that you make a statement like that then go on to agree with what I said " how did i agree?? i said i presume he has spoken with his wife about it and then offered my point of view on the situation. you were saracstic with your inverted comma's suggesting he as asking for permission rather than for a discussion on what is a very difficult situation | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others? So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? i've been watching your posts over the last few weeks - do you hate everyone on here?? seems you have a never ending need to shoot down OP's OP - like some have said on here your situation is your situation. no one can truely give you the answers you need. i presume you have discussed this at length with your partner and it is great that she has given you permission but you also have to give yourself permission. are you asking this question because you are feeling guilty over seeing other women? It's so sweet that you make a statement like that then go on to agree with what I said how did i agree?? i said i presume he has spoken with his wife about it and then offered my point of view on the situation. you were saracstic with your inverted comma's suggesting he as asking for permission rather than for a discussion on what is a very difficult situation" Substantially because we are both clear it is HIS decision to make.I find it a little ridiculous that it is dressed up as something other than it is. It's good though that you recognise we ar ALL allowed to offer our own opinions on anything in a forum! | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others? So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? i've been watching your posts over the last few weeks - do you hate everyone on here?? seems you have a never ending need to shoot down OP's OP - like some have said on here your situation is your situation. no one can truely give you the answers you need. i presume you have discussed this at length with your partner and it is great that she has given you permission but you also have to give yourself permission. are you asking this question because you are feeling guilty over seeing other women? It's so sweet that you make a statement like that then go on to agree with what I said how did i agree?? i said i presume he has spoken with his wife about it and then offered my point of view on the situation. you were saracstic with your inverted comma's suggesting he as asking for permission rather than for a discussion on what is a very difficult situation Substantially because we are both clear it is HIS decision to make.I find it a little ridiculous that it is dressed up as something other than it is. It's good though that you recognise we ar ALL allowed to offer our own opinions on anything in a forum! " because someties we need reassurances from other people, because sometimes we need to discuss differing opinions on the matter everything we do is OUR decision but do we always make our decisions on our own? and opinions are always welcome on here, sarcastic digs at OP's not so much | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others? So you are unsure of the answer from discussing it 'openly' with your wife...so you've decided to 'get permission' from total strangers? i've been watching your posts over the last few weeks - do you hate everyone on here?? seems you have a never ending need to shoot down OP's OP - like some have said on here your situation is your situation. no one can truely give you the answers you need. i presume you have discussed this at length with your partner and it is great that she has given you permission but you also have to give yourself permission. are you asking this question because you are feeling guilty over seeing other women? It's so sweet that you make a statement like that then go on to agree with what I said how did i agree?? i said i presume he has spoken with his wife about it and then offered my point of view on the situation. you were saracstic with your inverted comma's suggesting he as asking for permission rather than for a discussion on what is a very difficult situation Substantially because we are both clear it is HIS decision to make.I find it a little ridiculous that it is dressed up as something other than it is. It's good though that you recognise we ar ALL allowed to offer our own opinions on anything in a forum! " Is it me ??? I read the op`s post as looking for perspectives that would allow him to make an informed choice ....... You have used the word permission .... Sucks methinks ... | |||
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"In some ways it would have been better if you had gone behind her back and said nothing. How will she feel now, made severely disabled and now her husband goes and has sex with strangers.Bet she feels really wanted. " It's easy to judge when it isn't you in an impossible situation. My wife's sex drive fell through the floor after the birth of our son two years ago and still hasn't recovered to what it once was. She felt so guilty about depriving me of a sex life that she suggested I found a regular playmate. I didn't because that's not the pact we made when we got together, and the vows we made when we married. It didn't stop her feeling guilty though. She felt that she had let me down. (Now you know the real reason we stopped swinging). The OP's wife must be going through that same sort of guilt and even though it isn't her fault that she's like she is now, it doesn't stop the guilt. Yes, there's a real risk it may turn into resentment later on but that's between the two of them and only they know if that risk is a big risk or a small one and worth it if it means they stay together. He clearly loves her and I'm sure his own guilt at looking for sex outside the marriage will have an influence on whether he decides to pursue it or not. My instincts are to advise him to tough it out a while longer and he'll probably find the decision will make itself. | |||
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"Good Lord...do me a favour.Read his profile...he has ALREADY made his decision! " And is questioning it possibly? I ain`t looked at his profile btw ... | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others?" I don't think its wrong. I think it's a fairly practical view. Putting myself in your situation (which is difficult I realise) but I'd like to think that I'd still want my partner to fulfil his needs and if I couldn't do it with him then I'd want him to find someone who can. I quite like the escort idea, from an emotional point of view that wouldn't worry me as much as him forming a one to one relationship with someone else. You can't help falling for someone and whilst I appreciate you love your wife, when something so basic is missing then you wouldn't be human if you didn't even think about finding it elsewhere. How you go about it is a different kettle of fish altogether. I hope you work it out and there's nothing wrong with asking total strangers for an opinion... I do it all the time. Good luck. | |||
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"Good Lord...do me a favour.Read his profile...he has ALREADY made his decision! And is questioning it possibly? I ain`t looked at his profile btw ..." Yeh well...there you go | |||
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"Good Lord...do me a favour.Read his profile...he has ALREADY made his decision! " Yes but if you read the last line of his op he asks if he should CARRY ON seeking sex with others not start seeking sex with others. | |||
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"In some ways it would have been better if you had gone behind her back and said nothing. How will she feel now, made severely disabled and now her husband goes and has sex with strangers.Bet she feels really wanted. " That would hurt her more if she found out and was behind her back ... he is being a caring open truthfull man . When you know about things thay dont hurt half as much as if you found out and behind your back as you can get use to things over time. | |||
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"Good Lord...do me a favour.Read his profile...he has ALREADY made his decision! And is questioning it possibly? I ain`t looked at his profile btw ... Yeh well...there you go" You`ve no argument as far as I can see ....He may well have seen peeps, but is in an emotional hinterland, and has come here to see if he can sort it out ?....Its possible methinks .... Some outstanding responses on here ...well said and articulated...Wishy esp... | |||
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"Actually, I was feeling all sorry for him and how he felt guilty and was worried about his wife. But then I read his profile and saw the advertised meets he has up. Now I'm thinking he's not quite as guilt ridden as I first thought. " He is human like the rest of us ...and has needs and yes he has a feedback so make have made him feel gilty. So he is chating here. myself i think he is brave putting this in open forum. | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them " We do as its nice to see the good in people before you see the bad. With out knowing everything you can only go on what people say .... I am truthfull so i think others here are too. like to think positive. | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them " Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. " Bless you innocent child | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. Bless you innocent child " Don't be fooled by her 'sweet &innocent' schtick. I met her once. She cuffed me to the bed for a bit of 'kink' Then nicked my telly. | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. Bless you innocent child Don't be fooled by her 'sweet &innocent' schtick. I met her once. She cuffed me to the bed for a bit of 'kink' Then nicked my telly." wow how lovely xxxxx i hope you said thankyou , lol xxxx | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. Bless you innocent child Don't be fooled by her 'sweet &innocent' schtick. I met her once. She cuffed me to the bed for a bit of 'kink' Then nicked my telly." serves you right for leting strange latex clad women into your home | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them " The question was "should I carry on", it could be a as simple as he is having second thoughts or doubts, as a married man myself, I have moments where I think what am I doing, he has been honest and open about his situation, yes he has meeting requests on his profile, all that means is he is available on those dates, yes he has a verification, but again this could be why he is questioning what he is doing. Sadly there will be a few people on here who will see it as an "oh look at me, don't you feel sorry for me and will you fuck me out of sympathy" post. As we don't him or his wife personally, it is not for us to judge the morality of what he is doing or the validaty of his post. | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. Bless you innocent child Don't be fooled by her 'sweet &innocent' schtick. I met her once. She cuffed me to the bed for a bit of 'kink' Then nicked my telly. serves you right for leting strange latex clad women into your home " Oi!! That's leather lovely!! And the telly was shite... maybe I should have stayed for the sex! | |||
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"You are right that we don't know him or his wife personally...THAT is exactly my point.Then, surely, to suggest that it is open and honest (not that I suggest it is or it isn't) is an assumption based on nothing?" It is even simpler than that, if you want to break it don to basics, as a MARRIED MAN he is asking if it is right or wrong for him to have sex with another woman, in reality it is HIS choice and HIS decision. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?" oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. " I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others?" It is something for you and your wife to discuss. If she is really happy with it then why not. If she is ok just to keep you maybe not. Only you and her will know how she really feels. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. " Sorry for the typo. And I will reply as one yorkshire man to another. Yes we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means, howerver the question was not on the morality of what he is or wants to do, or the fact that he has posted his situation in an open forum, it was is he right or wrong. In all your posts on this thread, you have not once answered the base question. In truth no one on here can truly answer his question, constuctive adice can be given, suggestions made, experiences shared, none of which have been posted by yourself, and therefore I see your final respose as a cop out as you have not answered the origional post in any way shape or form. If it was your intention to play Devils Advocate you have failed to offer a valid response to the post. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. Sorry for the typo. And I will reply as one yorkshire man to another. Yes we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means, howerver the question was not on the morality of what he is or wants to do, or the fact that he has posted his situation in an open forum, it was is he right or wrong. In all your posts on this thread, you have not once answered the base question. In truth no one on here can truly answer his question, constuctive adice can be given, suggestions made, experiences shared, none of which have been posted by yourself, and therefore I see your final respose as a cop out as you have not answered the origional post in any way shape or form. If it was your intention to play Devils Advocate you have failed to offer a valid response to the post." If its right or wrong he's after I can do that. Wrong. As are men that play without their wife's knowledge. Wrong wrong wrong. Simples. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. Sorry for the typo. And I will reply as one yorkshire man to another. Yes we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means, howerver the question was not on the morality of what he is or wants to do, or the fact that he has posted his situation in an open forum, it was is he right or wrong. In all your posts on this thread, you have not once answered the base question. In truth no one on here can truly answer his question, constuctive adice can be given, suggestions made, experiences shared, none of which have been posted by yourself, and therefore I see your final respose as a cop out as you have not answered the origional post in any way shape or form. If it was your intention to play Devils Advocate you have failed to offer a valid response to the post." Thank you...however I will say...and not specifically on this thread but as a general view.I do not and will not, always, presume that what is written in any thread is 'gospel'...it appears that some do.I can only react to what I know...and what I know is the evidence before me...nothing more. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. Sorry for the typo. And I will reply as one yorkshire man to another. Yes we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means, howerver the question was not on the morality of what he is or wants to do, or the fact that he has posted his situation in an open forum, it was is he right or wrong. In all your posts on this thread, you have not once answered the base question. In truth no one on here can truly answer his question, constuctive adice can be given, suggestions made, experiences shared, none of which have been posted by yourself, and therefore I see your final respose as a cop out as you have not answered the origional post in any way shape or form. If it was your intention to play Devils Advocate you have failed to offer a valid response to the post. Thank you...however I will say...and not specifically on this thread but as a general view.I do not and will not, always, presume that what is written in any thread is 'gospel'...it appears that some do.I can only react to what I know...and what I know is the evidence before me...nothing more." Before you here today on this post was a man feeling gilty about doing this with his wife not well .... and she will never be well .... and he is left thinking is this right or wronge even with her knowing. ........ he was brave for wrighting this here today. | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. Sorry for the typo. And I will reply as one yorkshire man to another. Yes we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means, howerver the question was not on the morality of what he is or wants to do, or the fact that he has posted his situation in an open forum, it was is he right or wrong. In all your posts on this thread, you have not once answered the base question. In truth no one on here can truly answer his question, constuctive adice can be given, suggestions made, experiences shared, none of which have been posted by yourself, and therefore I see your final respose as a cop out as you have not answered the origional post in any way shape or form. If it was your intention to play Devils Advocate you have failed to offer a valid response to the post. Thank you...however I will say...and not specifically on this thread but as a general view.I do not and will not, always, presume that what is written in any thread is 'gospel'...it appears that some do.I can only react to what I know...and what I know is the evidence before me...nothing more.Before you here today on this post was a man feeling gilty about doing this with his wife not well .... and she will never be well .... and he is left thinking is this right or wronge even with her knowing. ........ he was brave for wrighting this here today." You have illustrated my point beautifully...how do you KNOW that? | |||
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"Well we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means aren't we?oo bertie, that sounds like a cope out my friend. I assume you mean 'cop out'...but if you'd care to explain why you think it is I'm happy to explain to you why it's not. Sorry for the typo. And I will reply as one yorkshire man to another. Yes we are all entitled to a view on what the OP means, howerver the question was not on the morality of what he is or wants to do, or the fact that he has posted his situation in an open forum, it was is he right or wrong. In all your posts on this thread, you have not once answered the base question. In truth no one on here can truly answer his question, constuctive adice can be given, suggestions made, experiences shared, none of which have been posted by yourself, and therefore I see your final respose as a cop out as you have not answered the origional post in any way shape or form. If it was your intention to play Devils Advocate you have failed to offer a valid response to the post. Thank you...however I will say...and not specifically on this thread but as a general view.I do not and will not, always, presume that what is written in any thread is 'gospel'...it appears that some do.I can only react to what I know...and what I know is the evidence before me...nothing more.Before you here today on this post was a man feeling gilty about doing this with his wife not well .... and she will never be well .... and he is left thinking is this right or wronge even with her knowing. ........ he was brave for wrighting this here today. You have illustrated my point beautifully...how do you KNOW that? " because i know him xx a little not for sex .. he is ok. | |||
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"I comment on these posts from what I see evidentially.It's amazing, to me, that so many people are prepared to have so much faith in what people SAY. Is everyone so happy to believe everything that someone tells them Nope... but I'm happy giving the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. If someone asks a question, I tend to take it at face value. It's mostly in keeping with my quest not to become too cynical. Bless you innocent child Don't be fooled by her 'sweet &innocent' schtick. I met her once. She cuffed me to the bed for a bit of 'kink' Then nicked my telly. serves you right for leting strange latex clad women into your home Oi!! That's leather lovely!! And the telly was shite... maybe I should have stayed for the sex! " well that serves you right for going to Sensy's house and stealing his shit and i do apologise for the mix up - will have to have a closer look next time | |||
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"Quite right however as i peruse this website, every now and again someone catches my eye and i send them a message, as i am interested in single guys which he isnt, i would rather it said on his profile that way i wouldnt waste my time sending a message" I have read his profile - and although it isnt higlighted - it does say that he is "attached" | |||
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"Quite right however as i peruse this website, every now and again someone catches my eye and i send them a message, as i am interested in single guys which he isnt, i would rather it said on his profile that way i wouldnt waste my time sending a message I have read his profile - and although it isnt higlighted - it does say that he is "attached"" Well i missed that but then was too busy reading the story | |||
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"I am a happily married male, married to a beautiful woman that I love dearly. Three years ago she was involved in an accident which left her severely disabled. Now, for obvious reasons, we do not have the normal life we used to enjoy, and our sex life is non existent. I still have an enormous sex drive but my wife wouldn't entertain the idea, but is happy for me to go it alone. The question is, although I have my wifes blessing, should I carry on seeking sex with others?" If it were me i'd prefer a prostitute/escort like has already been mentioned. No room for emotions or a relationship, even if it is just a friendship-that would be a step too far for me, and might be for your wife.. Also, make sure your wife is saying yes to you having sex with other people for the right reasons, not because she feels guilty about the effect her disability has on your relationship (i hope that came across right) Also, when did the accident happen? Plenty of people on here with a leg or more missing and having a full enjoyable sex life...maybe she could chat to someone in a similar position, may help her come to terms with having sex after the accident. Good luck | |||
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""The OP has posted that is wife is physically and emotionally in pain, but it hasn't stopped him calling himself pussylicka and having a whale of a time on site" Never have I stated that my wife is in emotional or physical pain. We also BOTH enjoy the site, although my wifes participation is limited. She chooses people, I might like and asks me to message certain people on her behalf. My I'd name was also chosen by her, for reason I won't go into. We both used to swing back in notts but since our life has change she has chosen not to carry it on. Hey I'm not here to attack anyone, I thought this was a site of friends that can share opinionsn not attack each other. SYMPATHY! Nawwww just understanding. One question. If you loved your partner but the could never have sex with you ever again, would you live a celibate life or leave them or what? Xxxxx have a nice day " i hate to say it but you didnt say that you were both on here, perhaps next time you might want to put the whole story instead of missing out the most important part | |||
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"If his wifes on here why she not on his profile his wife knows nowt about it she's ill at home why he gets his way" I some how dont think a person would make up a story like this.Come across all sorts of people in my time and i know people who swing that are like him i know 5 couples its not as rear as you may think , people swing apart and it can help make them stronger ... because thay have a rest from it all. May not be how you would handle things yourself but no ones the same people have diffrent needs, | |||
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