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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know the rest.

I'm sick of being angry and hurt so I'm gonna try fix it (again).. For good this time. I know some counseling would help but I'm not open to it yet so here goes trying some things out to make me a little less "woe is me".

Anyone else trying the same?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I take as much negativity out my life as I possibly can and ive become selfish works a treat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I take as much negativity out my life as I possibly can and ive become selfish works a treat

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Haha I'm already very selfish and I'm not around negative people which is great; just some healing wounds i got to deal with and past which i haven't resolved (nor know how to).

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

Having contact with less fortunate people can put some perspective on life - for me over xmas I met a new born with serious health issues and at the other end Alzheimers - my life aint so bad in comparison - sometimes you need to look down rather than up - good luck

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Having contact with less fortunate people can put some perspective on life - for me over xmas I met a new born with serious health issues and at the other end Alzheimers - my life aint so bad in comparison - sometimes you need to look down rather than up - good luck "

I am always looking up..... but then everyone is so much taller than me haha xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a woe is me person. I've had why me times and times I wish I didn't wake up,but I don't feel sorry for myself. I think about people with much worse lives than me. I'm fed,warm,sleep under a roof and have a phone to stay in contact with the world. I have family who don't argue or ignore each other over trivial arguments. I consider myself fortunate. Sometimes I feel a bit desperate and have to ground myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not a woe is me person. I've had why me times and times I wish I didn't wake up,but I don't feel sorry for myself. I think about people with much worse lives than me. I'm fed,warm,sleep under a roof and have a phone to stay in contact with the world. I have family who don't argue or ignore each other over trivial arguments. I consider myself fortunate. Sometimes I feel a bit desperate and have to ground myself. "

Yeah most of the time i am that person. I'm very very lucky in life i know that and I'm quite shocked myself how one incident this year has left me feeling broken after I've gone through much much more. Onwards and upwards....need my mojo back x

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA


"Having contact with less fortunate people can put some perspective on life - for me over xmas I met a new born with serious health issues and at the other end Alzheimers - my life aint so bad in comparison - sometimes you need to look down rather than up - good luck

I am always looking up..... but then everyone is so much taller than me haha xxxxx "

I'd love to be looking down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a woe is me person. I've had why me times and times I wish I didn't wake up,but I don't feel sorry for myself. I think about people with much worse lives than me. I'm fed,warm,sleep under a roof and have a phone to stay in contact with the world. I have family who don't argue or ignore each other over trivial arguments. I consider myself fortunate. Sometimes I feel a bit desperate and have to ground myself.

Yeah most of the time i am that person. I'm very very lucky in life i know that and I'm quite shocked myself how one incident this year has left me feeling broken after I've gone through much much more. Onwards and upwards....need my mojo back x"

It comes back,you have to let life wash over you sometimes until it gets better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having contact with less fortunate people can put some perspective on life - for me over xmas I met a new born with serious health issues and at the other end Alzheimers - my life aint so bad in comparison - sometimes you need to look down rather than up - good luck

I am always looking up..... but then everyone is so much taller than me haha xxxxx "

I always take selfies from above and can understand why taller guys think I'm hotter than what shorter guys do. They never see my double chin

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Having contact with less fortunate people can put some perspective on life - for me over xmas I met a new born with serious health issues and at the other end Alzheimers - my life aint so bad in comparison - sometimes you need to look down rather than up - good luck

I am always looking up..... but then everyone is so much taller than me haha xxxxx

I'd love to be looking down "

...xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a not so great past but it helps me to focus on the future and the present. What do I want in the future that I can work towards now. At the moment it's money (so I'm saving) and moving back to England. Just take what lessons can be learnt and use them to help move on.

I didn't read all of this thread, just the OP, so sorry if I'm repeating stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

last year had to be 1 of the worst years of my life i think i went through every emotion known to man

i now smile because the worst hurt/pain/loss i have gone through so things can only get better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"last year had to be 1 of the worst years of my life i think i went through every emotion known to man

i now smile because the worst hurt/pain/loss i have gone through so things can only get better"

True. F*#k it's hard though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"last year had to be 1 of the worst years of my life i think i went through every emotion known to man

i now smile because the worst hurt/pain/loss i have gone through so things can only get better

True. F*#k it's hard though."

yes i know its very hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know the rest.

I'm sick of being angry and hurt so I'm gonna try fix it (again).. For good this time. I know some counseling would help but I'm not open to it yet so here goes trying some things out to make me a little less "woe is me".

Anyone else trying the same?

"

Yes me. Been reading a book called the power of now because I'm sick of lettingthe past and wwhat might happen in the future determine my mood and mindset. It's heavy reading but has really helped me put things in perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes me. Been reading a book called the power of now because I'm sick of lettingthe past and wwhat might happen in the future determine my mood and mindset. It's heavy reading but has really helped me put things in perspective."

I've read that book too a few years ago. Good book : ) It's very Zen/Martial Arts, being here right now. It can help as a technique to chill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it helps you understand your surroundings and concentrate on what really matters.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's good for us to be leaning towards positivity/optimism, for our health and wellbeing and I can find it a challenge too.

But I'm very fortunate, so remain aware of all that I have, as well as what I can do to influence things. Great benefits can come from less positive outcomes, when I've had to grow and deal with things or else flounder and remain stuck. I don't like repeating mistakes but don't avoid the possibilities, just relax and learn what I can.

I'm often trying to go too quickly with things and so I take my time. When I don't follow my speed it often comes back to kick me, as a reminder. Slow is ok. Less can be an awful lot more in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from negative people

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