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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it rude to just delete messages when the sender obviously can't or hasn't read our profile??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know they haven't read your profile if you don't read the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people can look at profiles in stealth mode.

Like, I may or may not have just looked at your profile and you'll never know.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's not rude. Apparently site rules say it mean no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because people can look at profiles in stealth mode.

Like, I may or may not have just looked at your profile and you'll never know."
like a sneaky ninja

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"How do you know they haven't read your profile if you don't read the message?

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You read it then delete. It's usually obvious whether someone has read it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know they haven't read your profile if you don't read the message?

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Pretty obvious if they haven't read mine. Smokers, people miles away or married guys message me, they clearly haven't read my profile so I won't reply like my profile said I wouldn't but they don't know that as they haven't read it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the norm to delete msgs, so why not lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Didn't mention not reading the message, the question was, is it considered rude to just delete it instead of wasting time replying saying thanks but no thanks or please read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't mention not reading the message, the question was, is it considered rude to just delete it instead of wasting time replying saying thanks but no thanks or please read our profile."

No its not but some have a major hissy fit if you do that, still, shows their true colours I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes noticed the hissy fits and its even worse when they're d*unkenly messaging late at night completely random "Free now" or similar when we've never even messaged or met.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

I have two questions. Can you view profiles in stealth mode - how do you do that?? and second, Would they ever know if you deleted it without reading it. They would just see it as unread....so is leaving a message unread rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't mention not reading the message, the question was, is it considered rude to just delete it instead of wasting time replying saying thanks but no thanks or please read our profile."

No, it's not. Read the FAQ section.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I have two questions. Can you view profiles in stealth mode - how do you do that?? and second, Would they ever know if you deleted it without reading it. They would just see it as unread....so is leaving a message unread rude?"

You just go to privacy page and tick/untick the " I show on who has looked at me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have two questions. Can you view profiles in stealth mode - how do you do that?? and second, Would they ever know if you deleted it without reading it. They would just see it as unread....so is leaving a message unread rude?"

Look in your privacy settings for the former.

And you can read messages then tick the "mark as unread" box.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


"I have two questions. Can you view profiles in stealth mode - how do you do that?? and second, Would they ever know if you deleted it without reading it. They would just see it as unread....so is leaving a message unread rude?"

)1 it's one of your profile settings.

2)I'm pretty sure it shows deleted unread if you do, but may be wrong.

This whole issue comes up time and time again. It is in no way incumbent on the recipient to reply, or even read.

We also routinely block people we have no interest in meeting. Not out of malice or spite, but it saves us coming up in their search results and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, no need to read the FAQs the delete button wil continue to be used.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Stealth mode has got me interested, tell me more.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington


"Is it rude to just delete messages when the sender obviously can't or hasn't read our profile??"

I actually prefer to see a message has been deleted rather left showing as unread. That way, I know exactly where I stand.

Having said that, I dont message anyone if their profile indicates that either we are not suited, or I dont meet their criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't mention not reading the message, the question was, is it considered rude to just delete it instead of wasting time replying saying thanks but no thanks or please read our profile."

Ahh I see - slight mis-interpretation of the original question on my part!

Its considered 'acceptable site practice' to just delete a message without a reply / response - and to take it to its logical conclusion, to block the person as well.

However, as to if its rude? There have been a hundred threads discussing this subject, this year alone. So forgive me, but I'm not going to get dragged into that debate. At the end of the day, if you feel its the right thing to do, then you're playing the game your way - which is the only way to play it.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

I looked at my blocked list a short while ago because I rarely block anyone I find several people Ive blocked over the years but I cant remember for the life of me why.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Nah."

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

No! If I'm in a contrary mood they may get a sarcastic reply xx

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