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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did a quick search and couldn't find where this question has been asked before.

Singles (both male and female)

Why do you swing or what makes you want to try swinging solo? Were you in the lifestyle while in a prior committed relationship and continued afterwards?

What appeal does swinging bring to you? What is it that turns you on about swinging?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want a relationship. But I still enjoy male company and sex. And it gives me a chance to explore.

I'd not swing in a relationship, wouldn't work for me, due to my past experiences although I don't knock anyone that does - just know I couldn't cope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was part of a swinging couple for over 7 years and when we split I still wanted to play. I have meet some great people and made good friends with most, as a couple and also solo. Where else can you have drink and good time naked with like minded folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sex."

Pithy but accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was introduced eight years ago in previous relationship. Anytime single since then tried to continue socially at the club used to go to but couples then frowned at me because i was single however got on really well with them when a couple!!! When in relationships since, have brought up swinging and was called a pervert, mentally disturbed and oh allsorts. This site has been recommended (and i have to say it falls well short of its recommendations) in pastwhatever years and since joining five months ago ive been to two socials where i was disgusted a considerable amount - not all - of the single guys stating while laughing 'the site is cheaper than prostitutes and especially cheaper than taking lasses out to get nothing in return.

So yes seems single guys are on here for the cheap sex. Im on here for a laugh with open-minded people. Theres not really much point me being on this site for sex as i dont have much sex drive when single.

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world! I was a little disgusted at this also.

So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

"

Ok I'll bite to this one. Just cos a couple of women have said it, doesn't mean all women are on here because it's their only option - don't presume to answer for us all thanks!

And there are lots of single guys who have the right attitude as well, they're not all neanderthal idiots.

I believe the question was why are YOU on here, not why do you think everyone else is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been kinky and a bit of an exhibitionist so as a single man it seemed the obvious way to go for me... plus all my mates were married and I had nobody to go on the pull with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did a quick search and couldn't find where this question has been asked before.

Singles (both male and female)

Why do you swing or what makes you want to try swinging solo? Were you in the lifestyle while in a prior committed relationship and continued afterwards?

What appeal does swinging bring to you? What is it that turns you on about swinging?

"

Why do you swing? SEX,

is it supposed to be exclusive for couples?

I notice you play with single guys

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"was called a pervert, mentally disturbed and oh allsorts"

This was just when you brought up swinging?

Or were there other instances?

Just curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

Ok I'll bite to this one. Just cos a couple of women have said it, doesn't mean all women are on here because it's their only option - don't presume to answer for us all thanks!

And there are lots of single guys who have the right attitude as well, they're not all neanderthal idiots.

I believe the question was why are YOU on here, not why do you think everyone else is."

Sorry if you got the wrong idea from my post on this thread. I agree with your reply.

Not all women...and not all men...etc.

I gave my reason for why on here and also noticed at the two socials ive been to that the social end of swinging is something a lot more people do solely for the social end of swinging with little intentions of swinging, which helped me relax a little.

The biggest draw to this site is the forums - im now addicted and struggle to go to bed without peeping on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its my business. not yours.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

"

Sorry but don't believe for one minute that any woman would tell a stranger this at a social.....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

Ok I'll bite to this one. Just cos a couple of women have said it, doesn't mean all women are on here because it's their only option - don't presume to answer for us all thanks!

And there are lots of single guys who have the right attitude as well, they're not all neanderthal idiots.

I believe the question was why are YOU on here, not why do you think everyone else is.

Sorry if you got the wrong idea from my post on this thread. I agree with your reply.

Not all women...and not all men...etc.

I gave my reason for why on here and also noticed at the two socials ive been to that the social end of swinging is something a lot more people do solely for the social end of swinging with little intentions of swinging, which helped me relax a little.

The biggest draw to this site is the forums - im now addicted and struggle to go to bed without peeping on. "

We look forward to you popping in late evening with anticipation.

And you rarely disappoint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

Sorry but don't believe for one minute that any woman would tell a stranger this at a social....."

That's two of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sex."

A very significant factor

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I have always had a positive attitude to recreational sex. Even in my late teens I couldn't understand why people called other people names for doing something so enjoyable.

I have always seen a difference between making love and sex for fun. I think I was about 18-19 when I had my first group experience with a couple and one of their friends. I had my first mmf at 17.... not long after my first ever shag. I didn't see anything wrong with it then as I don't now.

I am here because I enjoy sex and I also enjoy sex with more than one person at once.

It's not something I would turn my back on everytime a relationship came along as it is a part of me and who I am. I would need a partner to be as open minded about sex as I am or I would feel I was living a lie.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"The sex.

A very significant factor "

Call me 'old fashioned'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hoho. Plenty of other instances. And thats not only from those ive brought up swinging with. When someone spends at least a day with me they tend to value the fact that they are still alive. re my moto: "I'd rather be scared to death than bored to death!"

Apparently im a decent lad but have a really bad habit of risking my life and others without noticing. ive nearly lost my life a few times and just thought 'ah well'.

I also dont take shite from anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sex.

A very significant factor

Call me 'old fashioned'..."

With a 'modern twist '

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Hoho. Plenty of other instances. And thats not only from those ive brought up swinging with. When someone spends at least a day with me they tend to value the fact that they are still alive. re my moto: "I'd rather be scared to death than bored to death!"

Apparently im a decent lad but have a really bad habit of risking my life and others without noticing. ive nearly lost my life a few times and just thought 'ah well'.

I also dont take shite from anyone. "

Someone has spent a DAY with you?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"The sex.

A very significant factor

Call me 'old fashioned'...

With a 'modern twist '"

Style never goes out of fashion.

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I like sex but dont want a relationship.. easy as that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like sex but dont want a relationship.. easy as that..."

I like it . My final answer

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Hoho. Plenty of other instances. And thats not only from those ive brought up swinging with. When someone spends at least a day with me they tend to value the fact that they are still alive. re my moto: "I'd rather be scared to death than bored to death!"

Apparently im a decent lad but have a really bad habit of risking my life and others without noticing. ive nearly lost my life a few times and just thought 'ah well'.

I also dont take shite from anyone.

Someone has spent a DAY with you?"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We look forward to you popping in late evening with anticipation.

And you rarely disappoint.

"

I think I might be falling in love with your responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want a relationship. But I still enjoy male company and sex. And it gives me a chance to explore.

I'd not swing in a relationship, wouldn't work for me, due to my past experiences although I don't knock anyone that does - just know I couldn't cope. "

Same for me

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive"

Allegedly.... we only have one person's word for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

Sorry but don't believe for one minute that any woman would tell a stranger this at a social.....

That's two of us "

Of all the ladies at the two socials ive been to only a few commented in a round-about way (apart from one that got directly to the point, though she was joking everyone else thought she was serious) that they swing because no-one woulod have them in the real world! I DID NOT STATE ALL WOMEN OR MOST WOMEN OR HALF OF WOMEN OR QUITE A FEW WOMEN. Only three women, which is a few.

Though i have to admit i thought they were talking for half of the women, hahahaaaaaa.

May i add that one of the conversations at a social i 'heard' but was not involved in. You ive got big ears and was earwigging. Tut tut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was introduced eight years ago in previous relationship. Anytime single since then tried to continue socially at the club used to go to but couples then frowned at me because i was single however got on really well with them when a couple!!! When in relationships since, have brought up swinging and was called a pervert, mentally disturbed and oh allsorts. This site has been recommended (and i have to say it falls well short of its recommendations) in pastwhatever years and since joining five months ago ive been to two socials where i was disgusted a considerable amount - not all - of the single guys stating while laughing 'the site is cheaper than prostitutes and especially cheaper than taking lasses out to get nothing in return.

So yes seems single guys are on here for the cheap sex. Im on here for a laugh with open-minded people. Theres not really much point me being on this site for sex as i dont have much sex drive when single.

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world! I was a little disgusted at this also.

So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

"

I along with many many more ladies can get it HERE or anywhere else.

Never assume that because we are here and not your favourite 8-12 size... That we cant get anyone in the vanilla world.

Or that its cheap sex.

Ive never had "cheap" sex in my life and dont intend to start now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's got a point you know. I've seen some fookin horrors haunting the club scene in my time. I thought they were the bouncers on their lunch break. One asked me - sorry, let me clarify that, ORDERED ME, to shag 'her' and I had to say that I had genital warts to get out of it. "That's ok," she replied, "I've got herpes so don't worry about it!"

Finally got rid of her when I told her I was gay and into effeminate men and that she was too butch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive

Allegedly.... we only have one person's word for it "

Thankyou. Good comment. You have replied just as i was about to. If one person keeps replying to my forum posts the way that they do then they could be spending a whole lot more than a day with me!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You couldnt make this up.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

This is a very strange thread.....in a Fred West kinda way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's got a point you know. I've seen some fookin horrors haunting the club scene in my time. I thought they were the bouncers on their lunch break. One asked me - sorry, let me clarify that, ORDERED ME, to shag 'her' and I had to say that I had genital warts to get out of it. "That's ok," she replied, "I've got herpes so don't worry about it!"

Finally got rid of her when I told her I was gay and into effeminate men and that she was too butch. "

You get fuglies everywhere but they aint the norm

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"This is a very strange thread.....in a Fred West kinda way"

It's that 'car crash' thing.

You just can't stop looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was introduced eight years ago in previous relationship. Anytime single since then tried to continue socially at the club used to go to but couples then frowned at me because i was single however got on really well with them when a couple!!! When in relationships since, have brought up swinging and was called a pervert, mentally disturbed and oh allsorts. This site has been recommended (and i have to say it falls well short of its recommendations) in pastwhatever years and since joining five months ago ive been to two socials where i was disgusted a considerable amount - not all - of the single guys stating while laughing 'the site is cheaper than prostitutes and especially cheaper than taking lasses out to get nothing in return.

So yes seems single guys are on here for the cheap sex. Im on here for a laugh with open-minded people. Theres not really much point me being on this site for sex as i dont have much sex drive when single.

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world! I was a little disgusted at this also.

So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

I along with many many more ladies can get it HERE or anywhere else.

Never assume that because we are here and not your favourite 8-12 size... That we cant get anyone in the vanilla world.

Or that its cheap sex.

Ive never had "cheap" sex in my life and dont intend to start now.

"

Good for you. Well done. Do you get a qualification for that?! Maybe at least a certificate to frame on your wall above your mantelpiece?!

Ive never had "cheap" sex in my life either and dont intend to start now either, thats why im so fussy.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

why do singles swing??? cos we can!!!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

But you have had sex, yes?

Somebody has slept with you?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"This is a very strange thread.....in a Fred West kinda way

It's that 'car crash' thing.

You just can't stop looking."

I refuse to go to bed until I see the part where the doctor turns up....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"This is a very strange thread.....in a Fred West kinda way

It's that 'car crash' thing.

You just can't stop looking.

I refuse to go to bed until I see the part where the doctor turns up...."

BIG needle...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You get fuglies everywhere but they aint the norm "

A mate of mine once shagged a true minger on holiday and tried to sneak out the room when she fell asleep. Unfortunately for him, he bumped into me outside (onm my way back to the hotel after a very successful night's hunting) and I asked him why he was sneaking out of his own room. He had to sneak back in and get back in bed with the monster.

Boy did we rip him to bits in the morning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good for you. Well done. Do you get a qualification for that?! Maybe at least a certificate to frame on your wall above your mantelpiece?!

Ive never had "cheap" sex in my life either and dont intend to start now either, thats why im so fussy.

"

You're a wee bit...prickly...aren't you? What fun!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive

Allegedly.... we only have one person's word for it

Thankyou. Good comment. You have replied just as i was about to. If one person keeps replying to my forum posts the way that they do then they could be spending a whole lot more than a day with me! "

Lucky lady... I assume it's a lady... whichever... it's nice to see people having a bit of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was introduced eight years ago in previous relationship. Anytime single since then tried to continue socially at the club used to go to but couples then frowned at me because i was single however got on really well with them when a couple!!! When in relationships since, have brought up swinging and was called a pervert, mentally disturbed and oh allsorts. This site has been recommended (and i have to say it falls well short of its recommendations) in pastwhatever years and since joining five months ago ive been to two socials where i was disgusted a considerable amount - not all - of the single guys stating while laughing 'the site is cheaper than prostitutes and especially cheaper than taking lasses out to get nothing in return.

So yes seems single guys are on here for the cheap sex. Im on here for a laugh with open-minded people. Theres not really much point me being on this site for sex as i dont have much sex drive when single.

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world! I was a little disgusted at this also.

So maybe swinging or being on this site is just a way for both sexes to get cheap sex as they are not going to get it anywhere else?

I along with many many more ladies can get it HERE or anywhere else.

Never assume that because we are here and not your favourite 8-12 size... That we cant get anyone in the vanilla world.

Or that its cheap sex.

Ive never had "cheap" sex in my life and dont intend to start now.

Good for you. Well done. Do you get a qualification for that?! Maybe at least a certificate to frame on your wall above your mantelpiece?!

Ive never had "cheap" sex in my life either and dont intend to start now either, thats why im so fussy.

"

you did know that sarcasm was the lowest form of wit ...

AS for fussy...i read desperate in a pervy kinda way

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive

Allegedly.... we only have one person's word for it

Thankyou. Good comment. You have replied just as i was about to. If one person keeps replying to my forum posts the way that they do then they could be spending a whole lot more than a day with me!

Lucky lady... I assume it's a lady... whichever... it's nice to see people having a bit of luck.

"

One thing is for sure.

She's in for a night she'll NEVER forget.

A lot of guys claim they'll do that.

This guy will deliver.

In spades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's all this cheap sex talk? We've all had a crap shag at some point in our lives, and when I realise that what promised to be a good shag is quickly turning into a 'rather be picking at the hard skin on the soles of my feet' shag, I just get on with it. Have to close my eyes though, think of Megan Fox or Jane Fonda c.1965.. that usually does the trick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you did know that sarcasm was the lowest form of wit ...

AS for fussy...i read desperate in a pervy kinda way "

Again i agree. Are these comments directed at me?! Surely not because i wasnt actually being sarcastic.

Ohhh. Spank me please.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The gift that just keeps on giving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You get fuglies everywhere but they aint the norm

A mate of mine once shagged a true minger on holiday and tried to sneak out the room when she fell asleep. Unfortunately for him, he bumped into me outside (onm my way back to the hotel after a very successful night's hunting) and I asked him why he was sneaking out of his own room. He had to sneak back in and get back in bed with the monster.

Boy did we rip him to bits in the morning! "

Have to admit following.

About ten years ago i was out with three mates. Was boring night, however the most minging minger of the night kept pestering me to the point it had gone beyond a joke and became quite annoying. My mates though encouraged me to give her a quick snog just for a laugh to get rid of her and because i didnt drink it would be someting less boring of me. So i gave her a quick ten secong snog. When i pushed her off me my mates were rolling on the seats at side of nightclub with laughter and disbelief (FFS). The taxi journey home usually cost £15 which i usually paid because i didnt drink at time. But my mates ribbed me so much that the taxi driver was in tears also laughing at me as he knew the lass they were giving me stick about. When we got back to our student digs i went to pay for the taxi. The driver declined saying something along the lines of, "you can have this one for free, its the most entertaining run ive ever had".

OMG she really was an absolute minger.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Here's a tip.

When you're telling a story, have a point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of growing up innit. Rites of passage n stuff.

Strange they tell you about the birds and bees as a kid but no mention is made of the fuckin warthog with a pussy like the suction cup of death though.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"But you have had sex, yes?

Somebody has slept with you?"

yes I do, does that make me a swinger or a tart, and what does it make you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive

Allegedly.... we only have one person's word for it

Thankyou. Good comment. You have replied just as i was about to. If one person keeps replying to my forum posts the way that they do then they could be spending a whole lot more than a day with me!

Lucky lady... I assume it's a lady... whichever... it's nice to see people having a bit of luck.

"

Oh not necessarily a she. Almost every post on any thread is followed by this one spiteful, jealous, competitive little soul. Everytime i post on a new thread this one person comes in next while cowering behind their keyboard. Like i posted on another thread not so long ago - dont judge me until you 'actually, really' know me. Until then dont cross me. I wont bite in return. I tend to nibble - slowly.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"But you have had sex, yes?

Somebody has slept with you?

yes I do, does that make me a swinger or a tart, and what does it make you?"

Not YOU, dipstick!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's a tip.

When you're telling a story, have a point."

Tip num2: If you dont like it, then go elsewhere.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"But you have had sex, yes?

Somebody has slept with you?

yes I do, does that make me a swinger or a tart, and what does it make you?

Not YOU, dipstick!!!"

ooh dipstick.... now you are talkinkg xx

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

Yeah....they came out of it thankful they were still alive

Allegedly.... we only have one person's word for it

Thankyou. Good comment. You have replied just as i was about to. If one person keeps replying to my forum posts the way that they do then they could be spending a whole lot more than a day with me!

Lucky lady... I assume it's a lady... whichever... it's nice to see people having a bit of luck.

Oh not necessarily a she. Almost every post on any thread is followed by this one spiteful, jealous, competitive little soul. Everytime i post on a new thread this one person comes in next while cowering behind their keyboard. Like i posted on another thread not so long ago - dont judge me until you 'actually, really' know me. Until then dont cross me. I wont bite in return. I tend to nibble - slowly.

"

Not bad.

Fairly well constructed.

And you can both punctuate and use structure when the mood takes you.

Good use of the word 'cowering', both descriptive and contextually, if not factually, correct.

"until you 'actually, really' know me"

- Is, realistically, going to be big ask.

Apparently people regard themselves as 'lucky to be alive' after a spending a day with you.

Whereas others would feel both 'lucky' and 'alive' to know they will never have the experience.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Here's a tip.

When you're telling a story, have a point.

Tip num2: If you dont like it, then go elsewhere. "

Don't like it?

I love it.

It's like watching the kind of telly you know they'd love to make but would never get broadcast.

A kind of 'Big Brother' on steroids, if you will.

Just tune in and watch it unfold live in front of your eyes.

Utterly, utterly compelling.

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over a year ago

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


" "

Anything in particular...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Anything in particular...?"

Pretty much all of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did a quick search and couldn't find where this question has been asked before.

Singles (both male and female)

Why do you swing or what makes you want to try swinging solo? Were you in the lifestyle while in a prior committed relationship and continued afterwards?

What appeal does swinging bring to you? What is it that turns you on about swinging?

"

makes more sence for singles to swing than couples

after all you have someone for sex i dont lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plain and simple. For me it is NSA fun.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

Anything in particular...?

Pretty much all of it!"

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont want another relationship but i do want sex so seems the best place to be for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently people regard themselves as 'lucky to be alive' after a spending a day with you."

Usually with a relieving smile on their face in a good sense of course. I admit im at least a bit 'mad'. But i dont usually realise what mad things ive done until a bit later and sometimes its too late. Im no rebel or hard man or anything like that, im just a bit stupid when it comes to my own and others health and safety (apart from sex of course). Some friends and family have stated im a psycho but certainly no psychopath. Most have said (work colleagues, friends, etc) that when they first meet me i come across as dull and take life too seriously but after about a month its clear i dont take life seriously enough. Afterall we are here for a good time, not for a long time.

I dont take the word/warning of DANGER with caution. I take it as a challenge.

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By *oorsgirlWoman
over a year ago

rochdale


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

Sorry but don't believe for one minute that any woman would tell a stranger this at a social....."

I spent many years being told i was disgusting by a man and ok not there anymore but still find it hard to like myself and it is easier in the swinging scene for me to deal with rejection in a way too. So to all the strangers out there i dont think anyone would even put up with me in the real world lol.. never mind want me!!! but hey im F.I.N.E

(Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and very Emotional)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

Sorry but don't believe for one minute that any woman would tell a stranger this at a social.....

I spent many years being told i was disgusting by a man and ok not there anymore but still find it hard to like myself and it is easier in the swinging scene for me to deal with rejection in a way too. So to all the strangers out there i dont think anyone would even put up with me in the real world lol.. never mind want me!!! but hey im F.I.N.E

(Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and very Emotional)"

i think more women feel like that than will admit to it

Im quite a out going person but its all a show deep down im very insecure, i have thought a few times noone out there in the real world would want me, i mean noone on here wants me really they just want a shag lol

i never get guys outside of swinging chat me up, but then to be fair i never really go anywhere where i mix with none swinging people

They say theres someone for everyone out there but im 36 and i still havnt found my someone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

"

I posted above. I want to make clear i wasnt directing it in a manner meaning single women only swing because no-one would have them in the real world. In not so many years time i could be in that position. Actually i could be in that position now for all anyone knows. Please nobody take offence to my much earlier post. I was just replying to the op question with 'my' reason and then 'my' opinion/view/experience.

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By *oorsgirlWoman
over a year ago

rochdale


"

A few ladies at the socials i had been to commented that they swing because no-one would have them in the real world!

I posted above. I want to make clear i wasnt directing it in a manner meaning single women only swing because no-one would have them in the real world. In not so many years time i could be in that position. Actually i could be in that position now for all anyone knows. Please nobody take offence to my much earlier post. I was just replying to the op question with 'my' reason and then 'my' opinion/view/experience. "

No offence taken hun just proving that you were right there are people like that out there and ones that are willing to admit to it too lol. To strangers whether at a social or on a forum... I'm one of them and not looking for sympathy or anyone to tell me im wrong its how i feel about myself not what others think! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Im quite a out going person but its all a show deep down im very insecure, i have thought a few times noone out there in the real world would want me, i mean noone on here wants me really they just want a shag lol

i never get guys outside of swinging chat me up, but then to be fair i never really go anywhere where i mix with none swinging people

They say theres someone for everyone out there but im 36 and i still havnt found my someone lol "

Apart from the odd occasion when im forced to socialise with none swinging people i rarely mix with other people also.

Ive been hurt and used too many times to have confidence to take 'someone' into my life. One of those occasions may damage the rest of mine and others lives forever! So i could easily end up using this site in future as 'my only way of getting sex' if my sex drive increases as luckily for me i have a very low sex drive when im single. But like many others ive got time on my side, just like many others. My hope of meeting that special someone will not fade until im quite elderly. Who knows whats round the corner for us.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

There are so many couple on this site that say singles are not swingers, but you look at the profiles and it's singles they are looking for, whether that may be single females or singles males.

So whether we are classed as singles or swingles, we all have our place in the shagging for fun world.

My tuppence as I see it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's a tip.

When you're telling a story, have a point.

Tip num2: If you dont like it, then go elsewhere.

Don't like it?

I love it.

It's like watching the kind of telly you know they'd love to make but would never get broadcast.

A kind of 'Big Brother' on steroids, if you will.

Just tune in and watch it unfold live in front of your eyes.

Utterly, utterly compelling."

My new hero: I love you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did a quick search and couldn't find where this question has been asked before.

Singles (both male and female)

Why do you swing or what makes you want to try swinging solo? Were you in the lifestyle while in a prior committed relationship and continued afterwards?

What appeal does swinging bring to you? What is it that turns you on about swinging?

"

Conversely, why do you as a couple, in a "committed relationship" swing? Why aren't you enough for each other? How on earth would you spice up your life if singles stopped swinging? What turns you on about swinging?

Why do you feel the need to ask singles to justify swinging to you?

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

well back to the orignal question

it suites me well as divorced after 20years married i look after daughter so time is limited with working full time & its quite hard chatting up a cpl in a bar most time the bloke is shirty (lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The socialising, sex, meeting new people, friendship, and for me a huge confidence and self esteem boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single women i can understand as 99.9% are bi-sexual/bi-curius and when playing with couples get the best of both worlds. You never see a single straight females play with cpls.

So the question is why do single males play with cpls, is there some bi-feelings there?

Lets face it if your not looking for a relationship and want sex, there are plenty of other sites hat cater for this.

For the single males who seek single females then fair enough.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"single women i can understand as 99.9% are bi-sexual/bi-curius and when playing with couples get the best of both worlds. You never see a single straight females play with cpls.

So the question is why do single males play with cpls, is there some bi-feelings there?

Lets face it if your not looking for a relationship and want sex, there are plenty of other sites hat cater for this.

For the single males who seek single females then fair enough."

When I first started I noticed quite a number of single females actually looking for relationships, so focussed on couples (especially the ones that happily anted an extra fella for the wife).

Since then I've gotten braver however with single females

Why do I do it? The sex ofcourse:

1) I can't be arsed with a vanilla relationship (sod it - no one will have me: especially as I was dumped by my last vanilla ex for being rubbish at sex)

2) I can't see myself going into a pub going "So.. do you come here often?" to which she replies "Yes, I'm the pub landlord's daughter"

3) I have a (sex) habit to feed and wanking, believe it or not, does not scratch the surface like the real thing does.

So, OP.. what's your reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"single women i can understand as 99.9% are bi-sexual/bi-curius and when playing with couples get the best of both worlds. You never see a single straight females play with cpls.

So the question is why do single males play with cpls, is there some bi-feelings there?

Lets face it if your not looking for a relationship and want sex, there are plenty of other sites hat cater for this.

For the single males who seek single females then fair enough."

You DO see single straight females playing with couples although not common place.

Is it fair to question a single males sexuality because he chooses to play with a MF couple? I don't think so! I can't believe I have just read that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well put Ahabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats my thought and i will put what i think, isnt that what the forum is about.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I swing as for me it is social sexy naughty wrong but feels damn good.

After my split with ex after being with him 16 years 5 years ago I was introduced to this.

This for me is where I ccan be me. I enjoy playing with a woman and single men and couples too. Its exciting when being asked by a couple to join them in their sexual fun. We all benefit.

I dont have much free time and dont feel comfy walking into a pub alone or club. No way.

Dont have much free time so to be able to search for what I want and then get it arranged for when I am free is great.

Would love a relationship but bit of a hard one on the dating site to say o and by the way I love to lick pussy too and have sex with lots of people watchiong/joining in! Bit of a conversation stopper.

So dating sites for me dont work so have accepted I will stay single and so conentrate in enjoying myself sexually with likeminded people.

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

The socialising, sex, friendships, liked minded people, non - judgemental, quality of sex on offer as swingers are generally well practised, safety too. Been on the scene for many years and it's given me all the fun and self esteem I could ever want and have some truly amazing, genuine, long term friendships along the way.

In the vanilla world you pick someone up in a bar, who has probably been drinking and we all know what sort of performance that leads to. No not for me.

Basically love sex but really vary of relationships so swinging the answer!!!

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"single women i can understand as 99.9% are bi-sexual/bi-curius and when playing with couples get the best of both worlds. You never see a single straight females play with cpls.

So the question is why do single males play with cpls, is there some bi-feelings there?

Lets face it if your not looking for a relationship and want sex, there are plenty of other sites hat cater for this.

For the single males who seek single females

then fair enough."

In my experience single straight people play with couples so that the other part of the couple may enjoy to watch or play with someone else. Often couples do play like singles in a club/ party situation.

Also in a couple where the male partner has lost some ability to perform etc this is often why they play with a single straight male. The partner watches. This very common in clubs. Also where the female is a greedy girl and wants loads of guys at one time. I could go on and on!

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"The socialising, sex, friendships, liked minded people, non - judgemental, quality of sex on offer as swingers are generally well practised, safety too. Been on the scene for many years and it's given me all the fun and self esteem I could ever want and have some truly amazing, genuine, long term friendships along the way.

In the vanilla world you pick someone up in a bar, who has probably been drinking and we all know what sort of performance that leads to. No

not for me.

Basically love sex but really vary of relationships so swinging the answer!!!"

*wary - should say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's all about individual choices.

we are all here to have fun with others either with singles or couples and the buzz is intense without the need for alcohol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mentioned what i did because we met a single guy (who was straight) when we started and when it came to the sex it turned out he wasnt straight and tried touching what he shouldnt be touching. He was asked to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mentioned what i did because we met a single guy (who was straight) when we started and when it came to the sex it turned out he wasnt straight and tried touching what he shouldnt be touching. He was asked to leave."

Quite right too boundries need to be kept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mentioned what i did because we met a single guy (who was straight) when we started and when it came to the sex it turned out he wasnt straight and tried touching what he shouldnt be touching. He was asked to leave."

Fair point, that was out of order.

Don't be put off by one bad experience. We have had plenty of MMF's that have been thoroughly enjoyable. All have been with 100% straight men.

We won't rule out playing with bi-guys so long as they understand that there will be no male touching. Maybe if you were to go down the MMF path again, make it clear that male-male touching will halt play (although accidental touching does occasionally happen!!!). We always make this point clear even if it says they are straight on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging for me gives me the opportunity to to get involved in threesomes, not something easily arranged away from the site.

Swinging has also given me some very close Friends some who I meet to play with and some who I meet for a Coffee and a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i think more women feel like that than will admit to it

Im quite a out going person but its all a show deep down im very insecure, i have thought a few times noone out there in the real world would want me, i mean noone on here wants me really they just want a shag lol

i never get guys outside of swinging chat me up, but then to be fair i never really go anywhere where i mix with none swinging people

They say theres someone for everyone out there but im 36 and i still havnt found my someone lol "

You stated three posts above the one I quoted that you didn't want a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was something I hadn't tried before. Tried it as a couple, didn't like it. Liked it as a single. Still like it but not as into it as I was, I'm thinking of exploring the gay scene next. Some people like travelling the world, I like travelling sexuality. At some point I might reach my final destination but I'm not ready to get off the train just yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started swinging when i was married. We have since split.

Now as i already knew i enjoyed the meeting greeting and getting down to some hot fun. It only seemed right to stay with what i knew. Yes i went alittle mad as theres so many guys on here. But the freedom and the rush was something else.

I havent played with a couple. As i find that unnerving. Shouldnt as i know id be fine. Just personal choice. The freedom of choice to play when you want and with who you want is fantastic. I have thought about trying the dating sites. But having been married for 15yrs. Dont feel i want to be tied down like that....hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so glad single swing as i really like them and john s fine with me having fun ...... its gives me what i am looking for here. Sex with good looking fit men.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead


"We won't rule out playing with bi-guys so long as they understand that there will be no male touching. Maybe if you were to go down the MMF path again, make it clear that male-male touching will halt play (although accidental touching does occasionally happen!!!). We always make this point clear even if it says they are straight on their profile."

The rotten eggs, i.e. those that don't follow rules always spoil things. There are plenty of couples looking for mmf, where anal is not allowed, but how many push the limit and try for it during a meet? Same thing applies with bi guys, it makes sense to follow the rules that were agreed before.

The same applies with 'bi' women, there appear to be lots who are happy to have a women finger, and give them oral, but do not give the same back.

Labels are labels, they don't provide the full story, and people need to be respectful and follow any ground rules.

Those that don't spoil things for the majority who will follow rules.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

This is enough to make me want to stop!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always enjoyed sex as a teenager then I got married and had kids. My husband and I had often thought about swinging but never had the nerve to take the plunge. We split 10 years ago and I went on to have a few fbs over the years until my mates , a married couple, invited me along to Chams (after we'd already had a 3some). I'm a not-so-attractive, large lady but that doesn't mean I'm here because I can't pull in the real world. I go out with vanilla friends and more often than not I pull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hoho. Plenty of other instances. And thats not only from those ive brought up swinging with. When someone spends at least a day with me they tend to value the fact that they are still alive. re my moto: "I'd rather be scared to death than bored to death!"

Apparently im a decent lad but have a really bad habit of risking my life and others without noticing. ive nearly lost my life a few times and just thought 'ah well'.

I also dont take shite from anyone. "

ok i enjoyed your earlier posts in here! gave me something to think about - now you just have me worried that your not the independent person i thought you were and that maybe your driven by a little bit of depression and the need to shock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are so many couple on this site that say singles are not swingers, but you look at the profiles and it's singles they are looking for, whether that may be single females or singles males.

So whether we are classed as singles or swingles, we all have our place in the shagging for fun world.

My tuppence as I see it xx"

Bravo

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By *ig donkMan
over a year ago

northallerton

Why do people swing , well after just over 20 years married my wife can't and has not been interested in sex for a number of years we don't share the bedroom or even stand within touching distance and I miss the closeness of female friendship and sex moving out gets closer with every argument and I don't want to start another relationship until I am settled and may never want another at all . And so that's me and my two pennies worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the excitement and the build up and also the secrecy of not letting friends know. Its something that some think you shouldn't do and so much more fun because of that.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"single women i can understand as 99.9% are bi-sexual/bi-curius and when playing with couples get the best of both worlds. You never see a single straight females play with cpls.

So the question is why do single males play with cpls, is there some bi-feelings there?

Lets face it if your not looking for a relationship and want sex, there are plenty of other sites hat cater for this.

For the single males who seek single females then fair enough."

where exactly do you get your statistics from???? I am neithe bi-sexual or bi-curious, does that mean i should not be here?? and as you say "not looking for a relationship but want sex, other sites available" should that not apply to all??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to swing with my ex years ago.

Later, I met Trace and after a while told her about it.

We'd always enjoyed a relaxed, secure relationship, so swinging was a natural progression of our relationship.

However, before using sites, we weren't aware of such a thing as a single swinger.

To us, and to most vanilla people too, swinging is each member of a couple sharing their loved one with another couple.

Surely that was the original concept, hence the old name of "Wife Swapping".

That said, we can understand why singles do it and why couples meet singles.

However, I do know that if I was a single guy there's no way I'd join an already flooded market.

The sites are full of them, many, not all, are just chancers or liers who don't put enough effort into it, looking for easy sex.

As a theoretical single guy, rather than hope for the very rare chance of

meeting someone on a site, I'd join a gym, some kind of club or just go down the pub, reckon I'd have a better chance than a swinging site. R

XX

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"As a theoretical single guy, rather than hope for the very rare chance of

meeting someone on a site, I'd join a gym, some kind of club or just go down the pub, reckon I'd have a better chance than a swinging site. R

XX"

You'd be surprised at how the actual stats differ from the precieved stats.

You never see the successful single guys & gals bragging about how much sex they're getting and giving away their 'secrets' of how they get meets.

You only see the unsuccessful ones complaining about what's wrong with everyone else, and how it's all a 'clique' etc etc etc.

Gym, pub or site? It's a no-brainer.

(If you know what you're doing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people swing , well after just over 20 years married my wife can't and has not been interested in sex for a number of years we don't share the bedroom or even stand within touching distance and I miss the closeness of female friendship and sex moving out gets closer with every argument and I don't want to start another relationship until I am settled and may never want another at all . And so that's me and my two pennies worth "

What you describe is not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people swing , well after just over 20 years married my wife can't and has not been interested in sex for a number of years we don't share the bedroom or even stand within touching distance and I miss the closeness of female friendship and sex moving out gets closer with every argument and I don't want to start another relationship until I am settled and may never want another at all . And so that's me and my two pennies worth

What you describe is not swinging. "

i agree its not

but then i dont see what i do as swinging, i use swinging sites to find sex i dont consider what i do as swinging tho

Im a single woman there for i dont have a sex life without doing this and thats all this is for me a way of getting sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people swing , well after just over 20 years married my wife can't and has not been interested in sex for a number of years we don't share the bedroom or even stand within touching distance and I miss the closeness of female friendship and sex moving out gets closer with every argument and I don't want to start another relationship until I am settled and may never want another at all . And so that's me and my two pennies worth

What you describe is not swinging.

i agree its not

but then i dont see what i do as swinging, i use swinging sites to find sex i dont consider what i do as swinging tho

Im a single woman there for i dont have a sex life without doing this and thats all this is for me a way of getting sex"

Im in the same boat as you. I am single. So I have sex. If I meet a couple I still think that they are swinging while im having sex with who ever.

The difference is you and i are single NOT going behind backs cos things aren't going our way.

But I agree we don't swing as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do it cause i love sex and love to try new things when it comes to sex ..... i will always swing now till my diein days or intill i get way to old ...... i will tell my partners to and if they are not up for it then i couldnt be with them silly it might sound but i could never be with one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do it cause i love sex and love to try new things when it comes to sex ..... i will always swing now till my diein days or intill i get way to old ...... i will tell my partners to and if they are not up for it then i couldnt be with them silly it might sound but i could never be with one person "
What if their to old lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its not the sex per se, its the whole build up and lifestyle. I wouldnt be interested in staying at home and just having couples round for sex, or just sticking to one special couple, going on holiday with them etc etc. That would be extremely boring to me.

I have good sex with Chris, Im not lacking at all. But what I get from swinging is the absolute naughtiness and the taboo nature of it all. I love the fact I can go out to a club wearing outrageous fetish clothes or underwear, i love the fact that I can prance around a club and have men watch me, Ilove being an exhibitionist, I enjoy the fact that me and Chris can be getting it on and people are watching and getting turned on by us doing our thing, I love the fact that strangers' can touch us and give us a helping hand, I love the power of having two men at the same time, I love seeing Chris, a guy in his late 40s have a 26 year old woman on his tongue whimpering with pleasure, I love the fun I have with women, sharing Chris, one on his face, one on his cock and the both of us laughing in between moans, i love the kinship of this special hobby and the freedom to discuss sex in such a frank way - sex is only a tiny part of it, the adventure is huge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swing for the sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We won't rule out playing with bi-guys so long as they understand that there will be no male touching. Maybe if you were to go down the MMF path again, make it clear that male-male touching will halt play (although accidental touching does occasionally happen!!!). We always make this point clear even if it says they are straight on their profile.

The rotten eggs, i.e. those that don't follow rules always spoil things. There are plenty of couples looking for mmf, where anal is not allowed, but how many push the limit and try for it during a meet? Same thing applies with bi guys, it makes sense to follow the rules that were agreed before.

The same applies with 'bi' women, there appear to be lots who are happy to have a women finger, and give them oral, but do not give the same back.

Labels are labels, they don't provide the full story, and people need to be respectful and follow any ground rules.

Those that don't spoil things for the majority who will follow rules."

Yep, we have had a couple of boundary pushing moments (ie men trying to ignore our safe sex rule) but nothing else yet!!!

We've seen the bi-fem couple/single profile quite a few times where it says the lady is happy to receive but doesn't give.... would prefer to meet a straight couple if that's the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously I shouldnt really be in this thread as Im not a single so cant answer from that point of view, but it would always be the same for me, it wouldnt be the sex that would draw me, it would be the adventure of it all

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Obviously I shouldnt really be in this thread as Im not a single so cant answer from that point of view, but it would always be the same for me, it wouldnt be the sex that would draw me, it would be the adventure of it all "

There's no reason you shouldnt be in the thread.

Singles swing (or have sex) with couples as well as other singles, so a couples perspective is perfectly valid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I like sex, but am not interested in a relationship at the moment.

However, if I was in a relationship, I doubt I'd be a swinger because I don't think I could share my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd quite like to have a partner whom I could share :o) Would save me doing the boring bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do it cause i love sex and love to try new things when it comes to sex ..... i will always swing now till my diein days or intill i get way to old ...... i will tell my partners to and if they are not up for it then i couldnt be with them silly it might sound but i could never be with one person What if their to old lol xx "
you to old to swing are u if thats the case i best leave u now then hehehe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do it cause i love sex and love to try new things when it comes to sex ..... i will always swing now till my diein days or intill i get way to old ...... i will tell my partners to and if they are not up for it then i couldnt be with them silly it might sound but i could never be with one person What if their to old lol xx you to old to swing are u if thats the case i best leave u now then hehehe xx "

oh i think i can just about keep up with the youngsters lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do it cause i love sex and love to try new things when it comes to sex ..... i will always swing now till my diein days or intill i get way to old ...... i will tell my partners to and if they are not up for it then i couldnt be with them silly it might sound but i could never be with one person What if their to old lol xx you to old to swing are u if thats the case i best leave u now then hehehe xx mmmmmm u sure can xx

oh i think i can just about keep up with the youngsters lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd quite like to have a partner whom I could share :o) Would save me doing the boring bits "

Haha, yeah I'd gladly share them when they start moaning about turning off Eastenders for the champions league!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd quite like to have a partner whom I could share :o) Would save me doing the boring bits

Haha, yeah I'd gladly share them when they start moaning about turning off Eastenders for the champions league!!"

Swap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I like sex, but am not interested in a relationship at the moment.

However, if I was in a relationship, I doubt I'd be a swinger because I don't think I could share my partner."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... For the same reason dogs lick themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I like sex, but am not interested in a relationship at the moment.

However, if I was in a relationship, I doubt I'd be a swinger because I don't think I could share my partner."

And that attitude is the type of thing we were talking about when we said, in our earlier post, that many single guys are chancers not swingers.

Swinging is an attitude and state of mind, its not just about shagging another guys wife.

It's all about sharing and if you don't have that belief, then your not a swinger!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't argue with that. In my opinion you have to be a couple to be a swinger anyway.

Unless I met a woman who was already into the lifestyle and starting going out with her, then I'd know before hand what I was signing up to and would get a swinger badge.

If I meet a couple, I'm not swinging, they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd quite like to have a partner whom I could share :o) Would save me doing the boring bits

Haha, yeah I'd gladly share them when they start moaning about turning off Eastenders for the champions league!!

Swap?"

Swap, share, whatever, just disappear for a few hours

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Can't argue with that. In my opinion you have to be a couple to be a swinger anyway.

Unless I met a woman who was already into the lifestyle and starting going out with her, then I'd know before hand what I was signing up to and would get a swinger badge.

If I meet a couple, I'm not swinging, they are."

I think you just missed the bit where the poster above said its about a mental attitude,.. not about having someone to swap with.

Many singles (with the right attitude) I consider swingers (I dare say, including myself,.. and yes, if I did have a partner that wanted to swing oh yes she would!) whereas many couples (by reason of having the wrong attitude) are not.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like to spend at least the first hour on a meet going through all the terminology of swinging to make sure that we all share the same definitions of the terms and agree a plan of action as to what various body parts will be called during the sexual intercourse.

It's worth checking for where people are likely to be offended by the use of the wrong word, and if they are happy to think of me as a swinger, or whether they prefer to think of me as a 'lucky' single guy.

After that a simple Q & A session on their attitude to swinging, their background, history and a precis of both good and bad experiences they have had give me some decent background info.

Then a discussion on everybodys attitude to safe sex, plus any 'emergency' actions or 'safe words' we need to agree on, in case of accidental sexual errors such as two cocks touching or inappropriate anal approaches.

Once we've got their spunk policy fully understood in terms of who when where and how or indeed the reverse of all the above it's onto the various definitions of straight, bi-curious, bisexual and how they would describe themselves in those terms.

Once we've matched what they say about that, and have sorted any disparities regarding them being, for example, 'straight' on their profile but 'bi-playfull' today it's onto what they actually want to do with me today and how we're going to go about it.

Then a simple copy of passports, a recent utility bill and a basic credit check means that we're more or less good to go.

After a nice cup of tea.

Then we an all have the passion, excitement, thrills and horny time we were looking for.

Until we get to the previously agreed 'end of play' time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to spend at least the first hour on a meet going through all the terminology of swinging to make sure that we all share the same definitions of the terms and agree a plan of action as to what various body parts will be called during the sexual intercourse.

It's worth checking for where people are likely to be offended by the use of the wrong word, and if they are happy to think of me as a swinger, or whether they prefer to think of me as a 'lucky' single guy.

After that a simple Q & A session on their attitude to swinging, their background, history and a precis of both good and bad experiences they have had give me some decent background info.

Then a discussion on everybodys attitude to safe sex, plus any 'emergency' actions or 'safe words' we need to agree on, in case of accidental sexual errors such as two cocks touching or inappropriate anal approaches.

Once we've got their spunk policy fully understood in terms of who when where and how or indeed the reverse of all the above it's onto the various definitions of straight, bi-curious, bisexual and how they would describe themselves in those terms.

Once we've matched what they say about that, and have sorted any disparities regarding them being, for example, 'straight' on their profile but 'bi-playfull' today it's onto what they actually want to do with me today and how we're going to go about it.

Then a simple copy of passports, a recent utility bill and a basic credit check means that we're more or less good to go.

After a nice cup of tea.

Then we an all have the passion, excitement, thrills and horny time we were looking for.

Until we get to the previously agreed 'end of play' time.

"

That same end of play time you passed unnoticed whilst discussing paragraph 3, section 2 item iii)??

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Duh!

That, as you well know, is only enforceable in summer months, and whilst still technically 'swinging law' is now so obsolete as to be both useless in any practical sense, and widly flouted by most people.

It's an old directive from the 70's, which was put in to safeguard secretaries who were being banged by moustachiod sales reps with Ford Capris, who needed to get home to their Mum & Dads house.

If you had bothered to actually read the current White Paper, you would know that it's no longer a factor.

Clique783 are having a sub-committee meeting on whther double vaginal can be called 'dp' or not on Tuesday - if you're there i'll explain the paper in more detail to you.

There are some interesting amendments.

Berni-Inn Junction 3, usual time.

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

because we can......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because we can......"

I would say the same and for the fact swingers in the majority are nice people and fun to be around with few hangups and in general don't judge people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because we can......

I would say the same and for the fact swingers in the majority are nice people and fun to be around with few hangups and in general don't judge people."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because we can......

I would say the same and for the fact swingers in the majority are nice people and fun to be around with few hangups and in general don't judge people."

Majority???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because we can......

I would say the same and for the fact swingers in the majority are nice people and fun to be around with few hangups and in general don't judge people.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like sex but dont want a relationship.. easy as that..."

It is that simple.....

As the saying goes 'been there got the t-shirt'

In the last few years I have learned that im to selfish a person to be in a relationship, I like being on my own.

But I enjoy sex very much.

So swinging suits me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sex and dont want the hastles of a relationship, i have a regular that i meet all the time when we havent got another meet arranged. we enjoy each others company and love to fuck.... others see this as a relationship........

why do people have to put labels on things.... i single happy with it and enjoy the freedom of swinging as a single female... no all females want a relatioship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If singles didnt swing... 3 ways would be a little strange...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because we can......

I would say the same and for the fact swingers in the majority are nice people and fun to be around with few hangups and in general don't judge people.

Majority??? "

she did say swingers not forumites, the two are not comparable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I understand what she said...I stand by my

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I understand what she said...I stand by my "

sorry to hear that, most our our experiences (majority) have been good and hope that will continue.

hope you get some too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I understand what she said...I stand by my

sorry to hear that, most our our experiences (majority) have been good and hope that will continue.

hope you get some too. "

All of mine have been great...I am very good at knowing the people I will like though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I understand what she said...I stand by my

sorry to hear that, most our our experiences (majority) have been good and hope that will continue.

hope you get some too.

All of mine have been great...I am very good at knowing the people I will like though "

glad to hear it, carry on ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you.I will if you will?...carry on that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooooh, you are awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ooooh, you are awful "

Sorry...didn't mean to redden your cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our reasons for swinging I don't see why I have to defend myself for beening a single or the reasons why? We all have a freedom of choice to do as we please!! I have been in the lifestyle as couple for 10 years and now playing solo that is my choice.

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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago

Turn left at the Singing Ringing Tree

My favourite scene from a film is I'm the King of the Swingers, from Jungle Book ........ does that count as a good enough reason?

I think that everyone on a swinging site has the same thing in common - we all like sex. I happen to be single, but that doesn't mean that I'm not a proper swinger. If I ever contemplated having another relationship, I would want someone who was into the same lifestyle.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Because its more fun than the slide...

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"We all have our reasons for swinging I don't see why I have to defend myself for beening a single or the reasons why? We all have a freedom of choice to do as we please!! I have been in the lifestyle as couple for 10 years and now playing solo that is my choice. "

There are a few replies on here in this tone! If you read the question, there is not one hint of judgement and not even the slightest "holier than though" attitude!

For goodness sake, lighten up and save your ire for the threads that ask for it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site has been recommended (and i have to say it falls well short of its recommendations) in pastwhatever years and since joining five months ago ive been to two socials where i was disgusted a considerable amount - not all - of the single guys stating while laughing 'the site is cheaper than prostitutes and especially cheaper than taking lasses out to get nothing in return.

So yes seems single guys are on here for the cheap sex. Im on here for a laugh with open-minded people. Theres not really much point me being on this site for sex as i dont have much sex drive when single.

"

Some women may have the same attitude as these men...they can get sex without having to wash your pants after!

sex is accessible anywhere, it's not impossible to get laid.

guess you will be leaving us soon though by the sounds of it.

to the op, i use a site like this as what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping, i don't want a one night stand as i find it demeaning.

i also don't want to be responsible to or for anyone else in my life, my hands are plenty full in that respect and i like answering to no-one.

i don't consider myself a swinger, i consider myself a woman who knows what she needs and thinks that the opportunities to find it may be right here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because its more fun than the slide... "

no it's not!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping"

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith."

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks...."

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks....

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith."

'forthwith' must translate as 'eventually' in your world eh?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks....

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

'forthwith' must translate as 'eventually' in your world eh?"

Yep.

Can't help myself, like to look at your profile daily and perv all your photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks....

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

'forthwith' must translate as 'eventually' in your world eh?

Yep.

Can't help myself, like to look at your profile daily and perv all your photo."

which one?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks....

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

'forthwith' must translate as 'eventually' in your world eh?

Yep.

Can't help myself, like to look at your profile daily and perv all your photo.

which one?"

Two versions of the same photo do not constitute a 'gallery'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what i am after is a little more mature than a quick grope and some self-centred humping

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

i make exceptions for a man that washes his own socks....

Best I take you off my hotlist forthwith.

'forthwith' must translate as 'eventually' in your world eh?

Yep.

Can't help myself, like to look at your profile daily and perv all your photo.

which one?

Two versions of the same photo do not constitute a 'gallery'."

says the guy who's pictures only deviate via footwear....

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Right,.. back to the shagging Who fanices it? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do swingers swing?

Because the slide is broken?!

Maybe! I dont know. No point in asking me.

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

I do it because i m too big for the slide and the rounderabout

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