FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here a lot of women on here saying there having abusive messages off guys! Obviously they can't take rejection well and resort to abuse, is it necessary.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Here a lot of women on here saying there having abusive messages off guys! Obviously they can't take rejection well and resort to abuse, is it necessary. "

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you already know the answer to that mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

abuse is never necessary shame that some guys tend to show there true colours

when you just say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all not everyone like everyone else that is called preference nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your update appears to be there to get around a block or filter of some kind...

Is that necessary?

Makes you seem like you don't take no for an answer very well either :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"abuse is never necessary shame that some guys tend to show there true colours

when you just say no thanks "

i really dont get why some blokes do this , honestly rejection to me is like water of slate roof , never ever bothered me being rejected

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shame on them if you ask me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefere erection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prefere erection.

that i have no problem with :P

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Your update appears to be there to get around a block or filter of some kind...

Is that necessary?

Makes you seem like you don't take no for an answer very well either :/ "

Age range.....

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By *ondonTOYBOYMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I have experienced abusive messeged on posts I have made by women and couples when it was unnecessary. Title for tat it seems. Although I feel there is no need for anyone to be abusive. A polite ignore would suffice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your update appears to be there to get around a block or filter of some kind...

Is that necessary?

Makes you seem like you don't take no for an answer very well either :/ "

Was trying to answer a question she was asking about a tattoo parlour I know the guy but couldn't msg her.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Abuse of any kind is never necessary so seems like an odd question.

Unless you think it's ok some times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here a lot of women on here saying there having abusive messages off guys! Obviously they can't take rejection well and resort to abuse, is it necessary. "
women rule here get used to it ,they mostly can be obusive and get away with it and theirs always some other guy to replace the pushy guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prefere erection.

that i have no problem with :P"

I'm happy for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who are abusive because of rejection, need more practice being rejected.

I've been rejected a lot, so I take it really well now, in fact I'm the best at being rejected on this whole site,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone had different tastes always somebody who gets rejected .best to be adult about it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

I say I'm not interested to a lot of men on here and they are pretty much nearly always really polite back. Abusive messages are a rarity to me so I do question how these women getting abuse are replying to the men who have messaged them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here a lot of women on here saying there having abusive messages off guys! Obviously they can't take rejection well and resort to abuse, is it necessary. "

Been on here as a single a week and my block list is bulging at the seems.... . Not all single men.. Couples too.. .. I've also been told by men who I'm friendly with that some women can be just as bad..... Abuse is never necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Im always polite.. But if they haven't read profile then I delete without reading... Which is when abuse generally starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Im always polite.. But if they haven't read profile then I delete without reading... Which is when abuse generally starts "

But even if I just delete I don't get abuse.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it."

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By *ondonTOYBOYMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it."

Oh wow. Considering all the abuse you just posted to my post. Haha. Wow you need to wake up and smell the coffee and take a long hard look in the mirror. C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it."

So why do some women say they get loads of abusive messages and others get hardly any? I think some women do cause the abusive messages in how they respond.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

I used to reply that I was looking for people local to me and was not interested. Then I would thank them for contacting me and wish them well on the site.

I would then get a mix of polite thanks for the message, begging me to change my mind or abuse. I soon found it easier to reply and block , or delete and block.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"women rule here get used to it ,they mostly can be obusive and get away with it and theirs always some other guy to replace the pushy guy

Ive noticed that you seem to express this _iew a lot, regardless of the subject matter. Are you implying that women deserve to get abuse because they won't drop their knickers for anyone that asks?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it.

So why do some women say they get loads of abusive messages and others get hardly any? I think some women do cause the abusive messages in how they respond."

So when I don't respond to the fourth demand to know why I'm not interested in meeting them, that's my fault?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it.

So why do some women say they get loads of abusive messages and others get hardly any? I think some women do cause the abusive messages in how they respond."

I can't speak for everyone.. But I know I don't give any one reason to be abusive or rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it.

So why do some women say they get loads of abusive messages and others get hardly any? I think some women do cause the abusive messages in how they respond.

So when I don't respond to the fourth demand to know why I'm not interested in meeting them, that's my fault?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm talking from my personal experience and I don't get abuse when I say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it.

So why do some women say they get loads of abusive messages and others get hardly any? I think some women do cause the abusive messages in how they respond."

i'm an ignorant fuck and hardly get any abuse.

abusive people are abusive, end of. you don't need to make excuses for them, there are none.

the way people handle any situation says everything about them and not the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Yeah, it's the womens fault they get abuse-classic Daily Mail nonsense

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Oh wow. Considering all the abuse you just posted to my post. Haha. Wow you need to wake up and smell the coffee and take a long hard look in the mirror. C"

What 'abuse'?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I'm talking from my personal experience and I don't get abuse when I say no."

But others do and you just said they asked for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your update appears to be there to get around a block or filter of some kind...

Is that necessary?

Makes you seem like you don't take no for an answer very well either :/ "

Ha ha ha.

Filters for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm talking from my personal experience and I don't get abuse when I say no.

But others do and you just said they asked for it"

I'm just surprised they get abuse and I don't. There has to be a reason behind it.

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By *heeky boy danMan
over a year ago

Bedford

Childish! It's those few who ruin it for us genuine guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here a lot of women on here saying there having abusive messages off guys! Obviously they can't take rejection well and resort to abuse, is it necessary. women rule here get used to it ,they mostly can be obusive and get away with it and theirs always some other guy to replace the pushy guy

This!

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it."

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Here's a recent example

Said to someone... your status says leaving soon. They said after site supporter runs out.

At this point my reply was don't stay on my account, I don't really see us as compatible or this progressing... to get a long abusive tirade back about single women... just like all the rest, pussy n tits letting me think I can treat people badly and how far up my own arse I am thinking I'm gods gift (which if you read my profile it's quite clear I don't!)

So no, I don't think I asked for any abuse there. Some folk just can't accept rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Im always polite.. But if they haven't read profile then I delete without reading... Which is when abuse generally starts "

I believe our messages where on a very civil and polite level, I'm never abusive when I get a no thanks or the message is ignored.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Saying "Thank you for messaging but you're not my type" is sure to bring on the abuse?

It's some men that send abuse, not women who cause it.

So why do some women say they get loads of abusive messages and others get hardly any? I think some women do cause the abusive messages in how they respond.

I can't speak for everyone.. But I know I don't give any one reason to be abusive or rude "

I either delete and block, delete or reply with my polite no thank you. Most of the time I get a polite thank you back, but I have twice received replies which were both foul and abusive and very upsetting. In no way did I warrant the level of abuse thrown at me - one in fact left me questioning if I wanted to continue on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An old saying but a true saying:-

Manners maketh man.

Always be polite.

Say please and thank you.

Don't burn bridges.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm talking from my personal experience and I don't get abuse when I say no.

But others do and you just said they asked for it

I'm just surprised they get abuse and I don't. There has to be a reason behind it."

Can be the area and/or age limits and who you're looking for that cause it.

Round here younger guys tend to respect (older?) women so i don't really get any abuse, if i open my age limits to older guys i start getting way more disrespectful messages and a rare bit of abuse.

Be interesting to see who is looking for what, who contacts them and how they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've not been swinging too long but we both agreed right at the start that the day we get upset at being rejected is the day we stop swinging.

As for blokes acting in an insulting or aggressive manner after being rejected, I would name and shame and even show FAB their arsey messages"

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

some get back what they give out.....

and 2 wrongs never make a right.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have never received an abusive message back from a rejection message. I try to be polite and just wish them well.I do get the odd weird message or request but never abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm talking from my personal experience and I don't get abuse when I say no.

But others do and you just said they asked for it

I'm just surprised they get abuse and I don't. There has to be a reason behind it."

There will be a reason.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

No woman deserves abuse I'm a firm believer in treating a lady like a lady. Seems if the guys abusive may be he's the one who can't accept rejection

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

In six years I think I have only received one abusive message due to rejection....all my others have been from men I have never spoke to before (go figure)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"abuse is never necessary shame that some guys tend to show there true colours

when you just say no thanks "

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I usually get a nice message back and can't remember having a nasty one. I must be lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always really surprised when I hear lots of women get abusive messages because I don't.

Im always polite.. But if they haven't read profile then I delete without reading... Which is when abuse generally starts

I believe our messages where on a very civil and polite level, I'm never abusive when I get a no thanks or the message is ignored.

Yes you are a gentleman xx

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