FabSwingers.com forum: ignore or reply?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo the tell them type x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"

If you;ve seen someone a few times it;s both cowardly and unpleasant to just blank them

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Only fair to tell them. I've been on the receiving end of the 'ignore' scenario and it aint nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat people the way I'd like to be treated, so I'd explain that I'm no longer interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats immature just to blank someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them. It's the polite thing to do.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd say that we'd met a few times and whilst they were really good times it was time to move on and meet other people without any more contact. Or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd met someone a few times then I thinks it's the adult thing to tell them it's not working out

Ignoring them wouldn't be very nice and I wouldn't want to be treated like that

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Dating or meeting?

Dating - tell them in person.

Meeting - Tell them in a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People just stop responding to people they are dating?

I'm so glad I didn't date much.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be straight up and tell them

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Ok I will be the bitch that will admit I did end up ignoring.

Met 3 times, first a social, then two other meets, he turned into a stalker so that was my way of dealing with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"

Definitely tell

What if the shoe was on the other foot

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

Tell them, i personally don't think its fair to ignore and in turn let them think they've done something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell them, don't leave them hanging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I've been dating them then yes, I would force myself to tell them outright, much as I'd probably be tempted to just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus you've got to tell them, I thought I was bad when I told some one face to face that I didn't think that our "relationship" was going anywhere, and used the phrase "hakkuna mattatta" I feel so much better about myself now

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell them face to face

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People just stop responding to people they are dating?

I'm so glad I didn't date much.

-Courtney"

your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!

i dated a girl few times (no sex) and she said shes only 21 and does not want anything serious, i said thats fine, we can leave things if you like, she said she liked me and if wanted a bf id be at the top

now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People just stop responding to people they are dating?

I'm so glad I didn't date much.

-Courtney

your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!

now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s

At least it sounds like she was trying to be nice. Imagine if she just ignored you!

-Courtney

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

always tell them one on one

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Oh shit, I must have missed out on Ms Cheeky's numerous dating threads, what am I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People just stop responding to people they are dating?

I'm so glad I didn't date much.

-Courtney

your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!

now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s

Sounds like she was letting you down gently. Nothing confusing about that, although the best friend's motive in telling you is not clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them , nothing worse than being on the wrong end of unanswered messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss with them and just be authentic - it's like trying a sport and realising it doesn't suit you ..... Let the team know u don't wish to participate any more. done X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for

Proud to be a bitch here.

I've found with stalkers that if you tell them they aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for

Proud to be a bitch here.

I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for

Proud to be a bitch here.

I've found with stalkers that if you tell them you aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want.

I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!"

You don't have to change anything you do, that was just my opinion on it and it just makes me feel like i've been clear and they can't make excuses for their poor behaviour afterwards.

I think most guys are just here to fuck so that's why they wouldn't wanna stay friends witohut sex being involved, but at least you find out what they're really like eventually. People don't just turn abusive i reckon, they just hide it until they feel it's ok to show people what they're really like.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for

Proud to be a bitch here.

I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!

You don't have to change anything you do, that was just my opinion on it and it just makes me feel like i've been clear and they can't make excuses for their poor behaviour afterwards.

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating??

If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes

Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for

Proud to be a bitch here.

I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!

You don't have to change anything you do, that was just my opinion on it and it just makes me feel like i've been clear and they can't make excuses for their poor behaviour afterwards.

I think most guys are just here to fuck so that's why they wouldn't wanna stay friends without sex being involved, but at least you find out what they're really like eventually. People don't just turn abusive i reckon, they just hide it until they feel it's ok to show people what they're really like.

Exactly!

The suckiest thing about NSA for me is the amount of predatory, manipulative people involved in it.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Honesty is the best policy. Honesty won't come back and bite you on the bum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore them of course hahaha

Like anyone's going to admit to that here

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Ignore them of course hahaha

Like anyone's going to admit to that here

Already have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking about meets on fab or real life ?

If its fab I slowly but surely back off as in, sorry cant meet ive commitments, a family thing etc...

In real life, honesty is best policy, no point in toying with someone who is getting a little attached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them. It,s not fair on them just ignoring their messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many times is a few times? I'd prefer to be told rather than ignored. I hate being ignored, sends me insane if I see they've been online on whatsapp or something and not answered my message, messages that don't warrant a response are fine but messages where I've asked a question or if you aren't sure how the other person feels an ignored text gives me a horrible I can't shake off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"

I think it's only right to be upfront

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I haven't dated in real life in over 10 years so I don't owe anyone anything! On here I treat people how they treat me, so the answer may well be in the question, and NSA is just that, but I always give and expect respect where it is warranted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ignore them of course hahaha

Like anyone's going to admit to that here

Already have!"

Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha

If you;ve seen someone a few times it;s both cowardly and unpleasant to just blank them"

So much this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People just stop responding to people they are dating?

I'm so glad I didn't date much.

-Courtney

your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!

now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s

At least it sounds like she was trying to be nice. Imagine if she just ignored you!

-Courtney"

yeah i just want the truth tho, we are still friends, i think shes a little confused, shes only young, who knows

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Ignore them of course hahaha

Like anyone's going to admit to that here

Already have!

Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya

And you know otherwise do you? Typical bloody male who thinks every female is a bloody liar to suit their needs! Grow Up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely be honest! Being ignored by someone you have had some regular fun with sucks!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I treat people the way I'd like to be treated, so I'd explain that I'm no longer interested."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them...how its taken is another matter all together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ignore them of course hahaha

Like anyone's going to admit to that here

Already have!

Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya

And you know otherwise do you? Typical bloody male who thinks every female is a bloody liar to suit their needs! Grow Up!"

Here, let me help you with those toys you just threw out your pram

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Ignore them of course hahaha

Like anyone's going to admit to that here

Already have!

Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya

And you know otherwise do you? Typical bloody male who thinks every female is a bloody liar to suit their needs! Grow Up!

Here, let me help you with those toys you just threw out your pram

And I wonder who you are currently reminding me of just now!

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Only fair to tell them. I've been on the receiving end of the 'ignore' scenario and it aint nice.

Here here....ive been in the "ignore" end twice now.

Do not get why people cannot be upfront and honest...we are not kids anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat others how you want to be treated...

If you ignore your gonna hurt them so why not grow a pair and hurt them straight out

Band aid being ripped and all that jazz.

If their creepy or clingy... I'd ignore though, after hinting initially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"

Dating?

If you have been dating somebody why would you even think of not telling them it was over?

Or do you mean somebody you have met a few times off here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my good golly gosh, if someone wants to stop seeing a person they've been dating, they should have the balls to respectfully let that person know. The 'ignoring and hiding' thing is ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is always the best policy and also creates closure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be a coward and tell them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Tell them as it's the decent thing to do. Less hassle all around.

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