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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

With my healthy lifestyle changes .... It's driving me nuts... I was doing so well.

Regularly losing 2lb a week. Doing lots of exercise. Still including meals out with Mr... And suddenly.. turned 40, and can not for love nor money get my motivation back.

It could be that psychologically hitting 40 made me feel down for some reason and I normally hate this time of year anyway... But I'm rapidly seeing the weight creep back up. I'm still weighing in.. just so I can't ignore it.

But has anyone else suddenly after several months of doing really well... Just hit the self destruct.

I never use the diet word. I'm trying not to get guilty over the craving but thing is its not even like I'm going for stuff I would normally want X its not every day either.

I'm not normally a chocolate or crisp person and yet I ate loads recently.

Any ideas..

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Your metabolism ain't what you would like it to be perhaps?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your metabolism ain't what you would like it to be perhaps?"

I just keep getting fed up and eating. I am a comfort eater but has swapped to fruit x my metabolism is screwed anyway. It's not a case of that though. Simply I have lost the will power to carry on currently x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you'd have to find out what made you feel like you aren't worthy of looking after yourself in the first place.

Not what caused it right now, but the first thing that ever triggered this off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winter.. We are genetically programmed to store fat and be lazy.. Hibernation.

Just make small changes.. It adds up.. Forget diet, think healthy choices.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Give yourself a break. Obviously don't start eating triple decker chip butties, but stop guilting about it.

Have a good Christmas eating and drinking, then go back to it next year with a clear goal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Winter.. We are genetically programmed to store fat and be lazy.. Hibernation.

Just make small changes.. It adds up.. Forget diet, think healthy choices."

I never use the diet word as the moment I hear the word diet I want chocolate lol x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I wasn't very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a built in self-sabotage filter. I'm not even joking, it's a genuine problem I was 3 stone down this year in June and it's all just gone to pot since then. I think when it's such a big number it's so hard to keep going. Like if I only needed to lose a stone, I could keep that up. But because I needed to lose 5 it just feels too much and I find myself giving up part way through.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

YES.

This is where we are at too.

We did really well then disaster struck and yep no real excuse but lost the MIL and both dogs got hurt badly in the one week so we drank too much and pigged out.

Now both sitting woth two stones to much on and heading for pig out season followed by three weeks in Goa... oh bugger...

So what's next? Regroup, change regime...and start over. R. Connely? 4 hour diet from Ferris to mention but 2.

L2

xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A book called "the beck diet solution" really helped me. I know it says the forbidden word in the title but rather than telling you what you should/shouldn't be eating it focuses on how to train your brain to think differently about food.

I'm not a big reader but a page here and there did help if I was on the verge of a takeaway or the fresh cream cakes at work were waving at me

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shake it up a bit do something else that's good for you. Unless your incredibly disciplined you get these bumps in the road.

I can never stick at anything too long so try different things.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Your metabolism ain't what you would like it to be perhaps?

I just keep getting fed up and eating. I am a comfort eater but has swapped to fruit x my metabolism is screwed anyway. It's not a case of that though. Simply I have lost the will power to carry on currently x "

Then only you can have the willpower to achieve what you desire eventually?

If people find you desirable is that not enough or are you looking for a certain person to tell you so.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If you want to know how I stayed motivated I will tell you but if not I won't cause it will take time to type out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know, fair play to you for doing your weigh ins and your lifestyle change to healthy eating.. It's something that you should feel proud about.

You only got a few wks left of this year so go out in style.. Let loose eat drink n b merry ..

Start again in January where there is more support and motivated people ..

Merry Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you want to know how I stayed motivated I will tell you but if not I won't cause it will take time to type out

"

Please... As I just seem to have gone off track and cant find the way back.. I know why I want to... but Cant seem to do it right this minute.. To the extreme I have put on half a stone in 2 weeks.


"

Then only you can have the willpower to achieve what you desire eventually?

If people find you desirable is that not enough or are you looking for a certain person to tell you so."

Actually most of the time I am pretty happy in myself. I started losing weight because my doctors pulled my physio and stated I was morbidly obese.. Even though my bloody pressure is always good... and I am quite fit if tested... but I decided to listen and I have 7 more stone still to go.. did only have 6.

I am doing it because I am all my kids have.. and I do not want to croak.. as just because I am quite fit for a fatty... Dont mean that I am not putting extra strain on my body by having 7 stone extra.. ( 9 if I go to the lowest weight I could be for my height)

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I have a built in self-sabotage filter. I'm not even joking, it's a genuine problem I was 3 stone down this year in June and it's all just gone to pot since then. I think when it's such a big number it's so hard to keep going. Like if I only needed to lose a stone, I could keep that up. But because I needed to lose 5 it just feels too much and I find myself giving up part way through. "

Some people like to spend a lot of time talking about the importance of having goals etc - I am not one of these people. My innate stubborness means that if I do anything like that, I just ignore 'the rules'.

I had no goal other than to lose a bit of weight when I started a few years ago at 18stone. It worked fine at first by just cutting out some of what I would have in any 'normal' day. I then went on to start logging my intake on myfitnesspal, and although logging your food is onerous at first, you soon get used to it, and you can work in stuff that you like/would usually eat so that it doesn't feel too much like you are on a diet.

I rediscovered my love of excercise (which helps, but physique is 80% diet)... and just kept on going, losing at about 1lb/week, to be honest, I hardly thought about it much.

I managed to cut down to single digit bodyfat like that - have since done a couple of bulks and cuts (but thats more to do with lifting, which is a whole different topic)....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have to log what i eat.. but even I am looking at the binge days and thinking REALLY.... how the hell did I eat that..

Maybe I have an worm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a built in self-sabotage filter. I'm not even joking, it's a genuine problem I was 3 stone down this year in June and it's all just gone to pot since then. I think when it's such a big number it's so hard to keep going. Like if I only needed to lose a stone, I could keep that up. But because I needed to lose 5 it just feels too much and I find myself giving up part way through.

Some people like to spend a lot of time talking about the importance of having goals etc - I am not one of these people. My innate stubborness means that if I do anything like that, I just ignore 'the rules'.

I had no goal other than to lose a bit of weight when I started a few years ago at 18stone. It worked fine at first by just cutting out some of what I would have in any 'normal' day. I then went on to start logging my intake on myfitnesspal, and although logging your food is onerous at first, you soon get used to it, and you can work in stuff that you like/would usually eat so that it doesn't feel too much like you are on a diet.

I rediscovered my love of excercise (which helps, but physique is 80% diet)... and just kept on going, losing at about 1lb/week, to be honest, I hardly thought about it much.

I managed to cut down to single digit bodyfat like that - have since done a couple of bulks and cuts (but thats more to do with lifting, which is a whole different topic)...."

To be honest I've done all that and it's all fine for a while. I'm just a huge fuck up when it comes to food so something goes awry every time and I'll end up in a binging cycle. Been this way for years and years, it feels a bit futile trying to resist.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I have a built in self-sabotage filter. I'm not even joking, it's a genuine problem I was 3 stone down this year in June and it's all just gone to pot since then. I think when it's such a big number it's so hard to keep going. Like if I only needed to lose a stone, I could keep that up. But because I needed to lose 5 it just feels too much and I find myself giving up part way through.

Some people like to spend a lot of time talking about the importance of having goals etc - I am not one of these people. My innate stubborness means that if I do anything like that, I just ignore 'the rules'.

I had no goal other than to lose a bit of weight when I started a few years ago at 18stone. It worked fine at first by just cutting out some of what I would have in any 'normal' day. I then went on to start logging my intake on myfitnesspal, and although logging your food is onerous at first, you soon get used to it, and you can work in stuff that you like/would usually eat so that it doesn't feel too much like you are on a diet.

I rediscovered my love of excercise (which helps, but physique is 80% diet)... and just kept on going, losing at about 1lb/week, to be honest, I hardly thought about it much.

I managed to cut down to single digit bodyfat like that - have since done a couple of bulks and cuts (but thats more to do with lifting, which is a whole different topic)....

To be honest I've done all that and it's all fine for a while. I'm just a huge fuck up when it comes to food so something goes awry every time and I'll end up in a binging cycle. Been this way for years and years, it feels a bit futile trying to resist. "

Its a bit easier when you live on your own and right out in the country, I guess.

You have to reeeeaaally want a pasty to get in your car and drive five miles to the supermarket to get one.

I don't really have crisps or chocolate in the house at all - its got to the stage now where I can't be arsed to log any more. I know roughly what a 2000, 2500, 3000 Kcal day "looks like" now, so I sort of wing it and occasionally log to see if I'm doing it right.

I think not beating yourself up is the key, if you have a bit of a binge day, you haven't ruined anything, you just carry on tomorrow. I like cake, if theres any going, I'm eating that stuff and not giving a shit cos life is too short.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I lost 3 stone - giving up smoking was far easier!!!! I followed SW & I remember my consultant telling us to imagine a vase with 21 flowers in it (eat flower = 1 meal). Just because 1 flower has died doesn't mean you throw the bunch out.

Take it meal by meal, day by day. Try not to make yourself feel guilty.

My 3 stone has gone back on for various reasons - not just because I eat too much or the wrong food - but I am 40 in April & don't want to be this size then!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be honest just typing it out is helping... I know my relationship with food can have its bad moments..

I was kicking myself for having lost then put back on but I havent gone up a size again * yet.... and that would annoy me as i am enjoying getting into smaller clothes.

I wish my fitbit would get all annoyed with me.. or go "oi shift your arse"... oh dragon den idea... A fitness monitor that tells you how it is lol

Thanks to those commenting.. I think I need to look at why I want to lose weight.. and not get to focused on how far I still have to go.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If you want to know how I stayed motivated I will tell you but if not I won't cause it will take time to type out

Please... As I just seem to have gone off track and cant find the way back.. I know why I want to... but Cant seem to do it right this minute.. To the extreme I have put on half a stone in 2 weeks.

Then only you can have the willpower to achieve what you desire eventually?

If people find you desirable is that not enough or are you looking for a certain person to tell you so.

Actually most of the time I am pretty happy in myself. I started losing weight because my doctors pulled my physio and stated I was morbidly obese.. Even though my bloody pressure is always good... and I am quite fit if tested... but I decided to listen and I have 7 more stone still to go.. did only have 6.

I am doing it because I am all my kids have.. and I do not want to croak.. as just because I am quite fit for a fatty... Dont mean that I am not putting extra strain on my body by having 7 stone extra.. ( 9 if I go to the lowest weight I could be for my height) "
OK

You know you are overweight by alot. You know its not good for you.

Think of the lowest you have felt because of your weight, for me it was one hot summers day when I sat crying all day.

Don't look at it as you have 7 stone to lose. Take it 1 stone at a time. Always little realistic goals. We all want the weight to fall of us but realistically it's not going to happen. But if you lose 1lb a week that's 4stone in a year in less then 2 years you will be at your target.

After every stone take a photo and buy yourself a non food treat like some nice bubble bath or something girly if that's what you like.

I also used to go on websites imagining me fitting into certain clothes.

Measure yourself as some weeks you might not lose but will !ose inches.

Mix your food up and find out the treats you can have within your plan eg steak on a Friday or something.

Having a lot to !ose people might not notice straight away, it took me losing about 3 stone before anyone noticed but when they start to mention it it becomes a real buzz, which makes you feel motivated.

It will seem slow at the beginning but after about 3 stone you should be well into it and then it starts to go quick and you may think you are fit now, but when the stones start falling off you will realise just how much more you can actually do.

2 years it took to get to what I wanted, and its changed my !life and it will yours, imagine all the things you would like to do that your weight is stopping you from (you may not even realize its stopping you doing certain things).

I put on a few pound last week while I was away but I'm not obsessing I'm just back to being strict with myself.

Also if you have one bad day doesn't mean it has to turn into a bad week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you want to know how I stayed motivated I will tell you but if not I won't cause it will take time to type out

Please... As I just seem to have gone off track and cant find the way back.. I know why I want to... but Cant seem to do it right this minute.. To the extreme I have put on half a stone in 2 weeks.

Then only you can have the willpower to achieve what you desire eventually?

If people find you desirable is that not enough or are you looking for a certain person to tell you so.

Actually most of the time I am pretty happy in myself. I started losing weight because my doctors pulled my physio and stated I was morbidly obese.. Even though my bloody pressure is always good... and I am quite fit if tested... but I decided to listen and I have 7 more stone still to go.. did only have 6.

I am doing it because I am all my kids have.. and I do not want to croak.. as just because I am quite fit for a fatty... Dont mean that I am not putting extra strain on my body by having 7 stone extra.. ( 9 if I go to the lowest weight I could be for my height) OK

You know you are overweight by alot. You know its not good for you.

Think of the lowest you have felt because of your weight, for me it was one hot summers day when I sat crying all day.

Don't look at it as you have 7 stone to lose. Take it 1 stone at a time. Always little realistic goals. We all want the weight to fall of us but realistically it's not going to happen. But if you lose 1lb a week that's 4stone in a year in less then 2 years you will be at your target.

After every stone take a photo and buy yourself a non food treat like some nice bubble bath or something girly if that's what you like.

I also used to go on websites imagining me fitting into certain clothes.

Measure yourself as some weeks you might not lose but will !ose inches.

Mix your food up and find out the treats you can have within your plan eg steak on a Friday or something.

Having a lot to !ose people might not notice straight away, it took me losing about 3 stone before anyone noticed but when they start to mention it it becomes a real buzz, which makes you feel motivated.

It will seem slow at the beginning but after about 3 stone you should be well into it and then it starts to go quick and you may think you are fit now, but when the stones start falling off you will realise just how much more you can actually do.

2 years it took to get to what I wanted, and its changed my !life and it will yours, imagine all the things you would like to do that your weight is stopping you from (you may not even realize its stopping you doing certain things).

I put on a few pound last week while I was away but I'm not obsessing I'm just back to being strict with myself.

Also if you have one bad day doesn't mean it has to turn into a bad week"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a built in self-sabotage filter. I'm not even joking, it's a genuine problem I was 3 stone down this year in June and it's all just gone to pot since then. I think when it's such a big number it's so hard to keep going. Like if I only needed to lose a stone, I could keep that up. But because I needed to lose 5 it just feels too much and I find myself giving up part way through.

Some people like to spend a lot of time talking about the importance of having goals etc - I am not one of these people. My innate stubborness means that if I do anything like that, I just ignore 'the rules'.

I had no goal other than to lose a bit of weight when I started a few years ago at 18stone. It worked fine at first by just cutting out some of what I would have in any 'normal' day. I then went on to start logging my intake on myfitnesspal, and although logging your food is onerous at first, you soon get used to it, and you can work in stuff that you like/would usually eat so that it doesn't feel too much like you are on a diet.

I rediscovered my love of excercise (which helps, but physique is 80% diet)... and just kept on going, losing at about 1lb/week, to be honest, I hardly thought about it much.

I managed to cut down to single digit bodyfat like that - have since done a couple of bulks and cuts (but thats more to do with lifting, which is a whole different topic)....

To be honest I've done all that and it's all fine for a while. I'm just a huge fuck up when it comes to food so something goes awry every time and I'll end up in a binging cycle. Been this way for years and years, it feels a bit futile trying to resist.

Its a bit easier when you live on your own and right out in the country, I guess.

You have to reeeeaaally want a pasty to get in your car and drive five miles to the supermarket to get one.

I don't really have crisps or chocolate in the house at all - its got to the stage now where I can't be arsed to log any more. I know roughly what a 2000, 2500, 3000 Kcal day "looks like" now, so I sort of wing it and occasionally log to see if I'm doing it right.

I think not beating yourself up is the key, if you have a bit of a binge day, you haven't ruined anything, you just carry on tomorrow. I like cake, if theres any going, I'm eating that stuff and not giving a shit cos life is too short. "

Maybe that's the answer, I need to move away from all sources of food. And no internet so I can't get it delivered I've been ridiculed for saying this before but it's so hard when you have issues with food. If you are an alcoholic or a drug addict you can avoid them completely and cut them out of your life. But you always need food, you have to eat, and so much family and social activity is bound up with food too.

Sorry OP I'm hijacking your thread I'll shut up now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you want to know how I stayed motivated I will tell you but if not I won't cause it will take time to type out

Please... As I just seem to have gone off track and cant find the way back.. I know why I want to... but Cant seem to do it right this minute.. To the extreme I have put on half a stone in 2 weeks.

Then only you can have the willpower to achieve what you desire eventually?

If people find you desirable is that not enough or are you looking for a certain person to tell you so.

Actually most of the time I am pretty happy in myself. I started losing weight because my doctors pulled my physio and stated I was morbidly obese.. Even though my bloody pressure is always good... and I am quite fit if tested... but I decided to listen and I have 7 more stone still to go.. did only have 6.

I am doing it because I am all my kids have.. and I do not want to croak.. as just because I am quite fit for a fatty... Dont mean that I am not putting extra strain on my body by having 7 stone extra.. ( 9 if I go to the lowest weight I could be for my height) OK

You know you are overweight by alot. You know its not good for you.

Think of the lowest you have felt because of your weight, for me it was one hot summers day when I sat crying all day.

Don't look at it as you have 7 stone to lose. Take it 1 stone at a time. Always little realistic goals. We all want the weight to fall of us but realistically it's not going to happen. But if you lose 1lb a week that's 4stone in a year in less then 2 years you will be at your target.

After every stone take a photo and buy yourself a non food treat like some nice bubble bath or something girly if that's what you like.

I also used to go on websites imagining me fitting into certain clothes.

Measure yourself as some weeks you might not lose but will !ose inches.

Mix your food up and find out the treats you can have within your plan eg steak on a Friday or something.

Having a lot to !ose people might not notice straight away, it took me losing about 3 stone before anyone noticed but when they start to mention it it becomes a real buzz, which makes you feel motivated.

It will seem slow at the beginning but after about 3 stone you should be well into it and then it starts to go quick and you may think you are fit now, but when the stones start falling off you will realise just how much more you can actually do.

2 years it took to get to what I wanted, and its changed my !life and it will yours, imagine all the things you would like to do that your weight is stopping you from (you may not even realize its stopping you doing certain things).

I put on a few pound last week while I was away but I'm not obsessing I'm just back to being strict with myself.

Also if you have one bad day doesn't mean it has to turn into a bad week"

thank you... I see reasons I may be struggling in that..

1) If I was feeling the impact of my weight I may be more motivated.. but Im active and do a lot..

2) My doctor tells me I need to be a weight that for me I have no intention of being that slim.. So in my head sometimes I have this.. well I will lost what I want to be happy.. In my case that it 5 stone.. but I do not want to be slimmer than a 14 as I have been in the past and feel personally its to slim for me.

I need to stop beating myself up though and letting a bad day turn into 3.

I will read all of this again ... and try and make sense of why after doing so well I just went off) as its not like I dont want to lose it.. Or I wasnt enjoying it... i was actually loving cooking and treating myself to something I really wanted every so often ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winter,the cold,rain and less sunlight banishes my motivation. I'm trying to not be too bad this winter and so far I'm not doing too bad. It can be a slippery slope when you fall out of the groove. I comfort drink tea,I'm slowly talking myself out of that. Take a deep breath and refuse to buy the food you know you shouldn't be having.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I have a built in self-sabotage filter. I'm not even joking, it's a genuine problem I was 3 stone down this year in June and it's all just gone to pot since then. I think when it's such a big number it's so hard to keep going. Like if I only needed to lose a stone, I could keep that up. But because I needed to lose 5 it just feels too much and I find myself giving up part way through.

Some people like to spend a lot of time talking about the importance of having goals etc - I am not one of these people. My innate stubborness means that if I do anything like that, I just ignore 'the rules'.

I had no goal other than to lose a bit of weight when I started a few years ago at 18stone. It worked fine at first by just cutting out some of what I would have in any 'normal' day. I then went on to start logging my intake on myfitnesspal, and although logging your food is onerous at first, you soon get used to it, and you can work in stuff that you like/would usually eat so that it doesn't feel too much like you are on a diet.

I rediscovered my love of excercise (which helps, but physique is 80% diet)... and just kept on going, losing at about 1lb/week, to be honest, I hardly thought about it much.

I managed to cut down to single digit bodyfat like that - have since done a couple of bulks and cuts (but thats more to do with lifting, which is a whole different topic)....

To be honest I've done all that and it's all fine for a while. I'm just a huge fuck up when it comes to food so something goes awry every time and I'll end up in a binging cycle. Been this way for years and years, it feels a bit futile trying to resist.

Its a bit easier when you live on your own and right out in the country, I guess.

You have to reeeeaaally want a pasty to get in your car and drive five miles to the supermarket to get one.

I don't really have crisps or chocolate in the house at all - its got to the stage now where I can't be arsed to log any more. I know roughly what a 2000, 2500, 3000 Kcal day "looks like" now, so I sort of wing it and occasionally log to see if I'm doing it right.

I think not beating yourself up is the key, if you have a bit of a binge day, you haven't ruined anything, you just carry on tomorrow. I like cake, if theres any going, I'm eating that stuff and not giving a shit cos life is too short.

Maybe that's the answer, I need to move away from all sources of food. And no internet so I can't get it delivered I've been ridiculed for saying this before but it's so hard when you have issues with food. If you are an alcoholic or a drug addict you can avoid them completely and cut them out of your life. But you always need food, you have to eat, and so much family and social activity is bound up with food too.

Sorry OP I'm hijacking your thread I'll shut up now. "

I'll be honest - I used to be a bit of a foodie, I worked producing high end goods for farmer's markets and the like, so I'd definitley check out all the other stalls on market day, cheese was a particular weakness.

Somewhere along the line, I stopped thinking about food in that way and consider it fuel - I wasn't intending that to happen, and I'm not sure when it happened, but somewhen it did.

People I meet now seem to assume that I have always been slender. If only they knew....I can eat pies for England....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise and smaller dinner plates I find works well .When going out for meals always a lighter alternative.Im a bugger though cheese and chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Break down the amount of weight you want to loose into reachable goals/targets. Don't look at it as one whole amount.

Stick to your healthy eating plan 6 days a week like glue. on your 7th day eat what ever you like and how much you like for 2 hours of that day.

Mr tatts lost loads of weight doing this so I can tell you it does work. he looked forward to his 7th day and didn't think he was missing out.

If you don't rain yourself in now you'll put on more weight over Christmas and have more work to do. So change things differently now and save yourself the upset in the new year.

Best of luck mrs tatts xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With my healthy lifestyle changes .... It's driving me nuts... I was doing so well.

Regularly losing 2lb a week. Doing lots of exercise. Still including meals out with Mr... And suddenly.. turned 40, and can not for love nor money get my motivation back.

It could be that psychologically hitting 40 made me feel down for some reason and I normally hate this time of year anyway... But I'm rapidly seeing the weight creep back up. I'm still weighing in.. just so I can't ignore it.

But has anyone else suddenly after several months of doing really well... Just hit the self destruct.

I never use the diet word. I'm trying not to get guilty over the craving but thing is its not even like I'm going for stuff I would normally want X its not every day either.

I'm not normally a chocolate or crisp person and yet I ate loads recently.

Any ideas.."

Whenever I have had a problem with things like this , such as giving up smoking or eating the wrong food . I've told myself that not smoking can only have one out come , and that's a good outcome . This mind set has got me to quite speed, alcohol and fags . Its simple as that. Sometimes its been hard but always remember your doing the right thing.

I'm 9 years sober,15 years speed free and two years non smoker . Happy days I'm here if you or anyone else would like a chat .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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Op seems to highlight a few things -

Hitting a block

Sabotaging a goal

Motivation

And possibly the self-esteem/similar, since hitting 40.

Maybe it's just the latter directing the former.

I don't expect plain sailing when I have a goal, I sense there could be stuff to hijack it. And I have to be 100% committed in order to do something honestly.

Where we've some conflicting need it will likely interfere, either making us uncomfortable or sabotaging our results. Unless we honour all of our needs then we aren't really respecting ourselves as well as we could. We probably need to compromise somehow, so that we can be 100% behind something.

If I get a hiccup en route then I reassess - am I still willing to continue, whilst addressing things as they are now or should I change course/goals?

If there's something that I identify with, like it's a major aspect of me, then I'll more likely encounter resistance. Maybe how you used to be op represents something that's fundamental to your happiness too? Sometimes our logic can see something, whilst ignoring our emotional needs or stability.

Lots of things to reflect upon. A seemingly one way street, where we march on away from an earlier aspect of ourselves and lives, can be really hard for us. We are, in many ways, losing something that's been essential to who we were. Sometimes it may be just moving on from a less happy period in our life.

I'd probably ensure I took enough time to take a breather now, before potentially continuing on your earlier plan. What's really going on behind your sudden love for crisps etc? What are you shouting about, that needs to be heard?

Whatever goes on, it's clear that you can achieve what you need, which definitely feels uplifting and life affirming to me. It's just that there's something a little sweeter now than just another succession of weeks where you'll lose a couple of pounds, in order to attain your healthy newer self.

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