FabSwingers.com forum: Open or closed minds

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the subject.

Sometimes others are worth listening too.

Sometimes I know best.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely open minded here

u never take things for granted, always have to try things once, and always like to listen to other viewpoints, sometimes they change my mindset, sometimes they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open minded most of the time, you could say I'm easily swayed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will listen to all views and experiences,sometimes I'll change my mind about something and other times I won't,that doesn't mean I don't find other peoples take on a subject less valid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open minded

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I will certainly listen to other people's ways of doing things and at least try them if I'm having difficulty performing a particular task, but more often than not, they are no better and I go back to doing it my way in the end

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"Depends on the subject.

Sometimes others are worth listening too.

Sometimes I know best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the subject.

Sometimes others are worth listening too.

Sometimes I know best.

Exactly.

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By *estsideukMan
over a year ago

Hatfield area

I don't think I'm quite so clear cut! Probably 2/3rds open. Whilst I like to think I always listen....I often have at least made some assumptions already. But I'm big enough to admit I have got it wrong.

I think though I'm far less open about forming opinions about people - and I think I'm nearly always right too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it?"

Open-minded.

I am happy to be temporarily resolute in my opinions but am ooen-minded enough to declare that experience/evidence/evolving may change that opinion at sometime in the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends on the subject.

Sometimes others are worth listening too.

Sometimes I know best.

I thought it was mother knows best

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm open minded, will listen to there views. But if someone gets uppitidy because I ask a question on something I don't understand or they start going off and talking what I consider bollocks on something then it will turn me completly the other way and even if some of what they say is right I will already be completly turned off, I call it doing their cause more harm than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mind is open and if I like you, you can come and have a rummage around in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think of myself as being open-minded and listen to others' perspectives, even if they are difficult or uncomfortable to hear at the time. I like to think I learn from them as well. I try not to form fixed opinions about anything I haven't experienced, I may have a view based on assumptions and/or related experiences but try to remain open to learning. However some views I consider ill-informed or partial and depending on the situation I will share my different perspective with differing degrees of assertion. Alternatively I just let them continue to be ill-informed, because it isn't worth the effort of attempting to change that. On here I have learned to do the latter. I like to think I am very willing to admit when I'm wrong....eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both very open minded, love a debate, so long as someone doesn't throw their dummy out of the pram when they can't win lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not. "

Same here, I really thought I was open minded especially to new things. It can be a bit of a wake up call when I catch myself not being as open as I thought!

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We try to be open minded but like all of us we do have our own thoughts

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not.

Same here, I really thought I was open minded especially to new things. It can be a bit of a wake up call when I catch myself not being as open as I thought!

I think open mindedness is like intelligence it's only really any use if you're aware of your limits in that respect and are prepared to challenge them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not.

Same here, I really thought I was open minded especially to new things. It can be a bit of a wake up call when I catch myself not being as open as I thought!

I think open mindedness is like intelligence it's only really any use if you're aware of your limits in that respect and are prepared to challenge them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always open to new ideas however if I feel something is right I more often than not put my foot in it and wished I had listened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think I'm open minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my minds so open its like a gaping arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A person with an open mind is an idiot

A person with a closed mind is a bigot

A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say I'm broad minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always open minded x

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm an open minded person. I'm always willing to listen and take on board what people have to say. It can be a great way to learn. Obviously I can usually discern if someone's talking total bollocks but I'll listen to what they have to say nonetheless. People who close off their minds are fools.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very open minded. I love learning new things and I'll always admit when I'm wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am jolly open minded about all things its the only way to be. Explore and enjoy the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A person with an open mind is an idiot

A person with a closed mind is a bigot

A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be."

Quite correct.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"A person with an open mind is an idiot

A person with a closed mind is a bigot

A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.

Quite correct."

I'd also agree

Suggesting the op statement is a simplistic and false dichotomy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A person with an open mind is an idiot

A person with a closed mind is a bigot

A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.

Quite correct.

I'd also agree

Suggesting the op statement is a simplistic and false dichotomy "

Being open minded I have also discerned that this may be a very useful perspective

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A person with an open mind is an idiot

A person with a closed mind is a bigot

A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.

Quite correct.

I'd also agree

Suggesting the op statement is a simplistic and false dichotomy "

Oh I'm so sorry, brains of Britain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite stubborn, but I don't tend to arrive at a fixed position on something without making sure I'm right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my minds so open its like a gaping arsehole

I can imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a subtle difference between discussing a matter / topic with someone who has personal experience of the subject as opposed to them having just another opinion.

Overall I'm pretty open minded, it's a another way of learning even if I don't agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.

It drives me mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.

It drives me mad."

Oh I do that. But only when I'm certain I'm right

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.

It drives me mad."

You'll have also noticed as well then that some people know everything there is to know and are thus always right!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.

It drives me mad.

Oh I do that. But only when I'm certain I'm right

You're a woman. You're always right

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

Live and let live I say. We all have different views. I'm pretty open minded, I think. Something's will never be changed but how can you ever begin too know if you don't hear a different point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.

It drives me mad."

You say that on every thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty closed minded but happy to admit it. I like what I like and it seems to suit me fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what it is.

I'm always happy to change my mind with evidence but usually those claiming to be "open minded" are ignoring all evidence and instead asking us all to belive their word alone.

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

Definitely open minded. I will always listen and think about something even if I end up not doing it. I can be pretty adventurous though hehe.

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.

It drives me mad.

You'll have also noticed as well then that some people know everything there is to know and are thus always right!"

Haha oh yes, quite a few of those! Just smile and nod

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I am not dogmatic, evidence-led and open-minded.

(I hope)

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Saw an inscription recently on a statue of Mercury (god on numbers, writing and magic, amongst others).

"If you know better, tell me; if you don't, follow me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv become more open minded since joining fab, sometimes I'm adament I won't do it try something, often give it ago, however if I get pressured I won't do it.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Fairly open, student of life.

Bigotry, racism, misogyny, non consensual acts, homo and transphobia can stay in the bin though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Independently minded here......

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Independently minded here......

I do get that impression from many of your posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!

I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.

I think context is key here.

If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.

If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.

For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.

If he told me how to style my hair, I'd say "Oi May, Noooooo! I appreciate and aspire to your musical talent, however, I do not relate to your bouffant prowess, kindly stop advising me on this subject IMMEDIATELY!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what it is.

I'm always happy to change my mind with evidence but usually those claiming to be "open minded" are ignoring all evidence and instead asking us all to belive their word alone.

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I concur

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

"Fairly open, student of life.

Bigotry, racism, misogyny, non consensual acts, homo and transphobia can stay in the bin though "

Abso-friggin-lutely!

Though add xenophobia on there too

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Fairly open, student of life.

Bigotry, racism, misogyny, non consensual acts, homo and transphobia can stay in the bin though

Abso-friggin-lutely!

Though add xenophobia on there too"

Ah yes, good call.

And anyone who doesn't like Prince

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Always open minded and have a growth mind set. However, if someone presents as closed minded or set in their ways, then I am not interested, so I guess that makes me have little of the close minded gene too, then ...

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Open minded best way to be. Judge not and you not be judged.

Best way to be is open minded i find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open minded and eager to learn. Some people are so full of shit though that they're extremely are to tolerate, so I get called stubborn when I just have a different perspective.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Depends on how the subject matter is being put across, if it is 'I know best' way then I am a closed mind. If it put across in a well thought out way then I will be open to it, I might take it fully on board and get behind it.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"I will listen to all views and experiences,sometimes I'll change my mind about something and other times I won't,that doesn't mean I don't find other peoples take on a subject less valid"

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Depends on the subject.

Sometimes others are worth listening too.

Sometimes I know best.

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be open minded but I'm sure there are times when I just think I know best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!

I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.

I think context is key here.

If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.

If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.

For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!

I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.

I think context is key here.

If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.

If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.

For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.

I love this answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!

I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.

I think context is key here.

If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.

If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.

For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.

Excellent! Exactly this, I'd say I'm fairly open minded, I'll listen to what anyone has to say on any subject, filter out the shit and pointless stuff and keep the interesting stuff stored in my head.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've not read the comments and assume no one has stated they have a closed mind - could be a bit of a killer for them.

I'm much more in the open minded aspect of the continuum. I have some strong opinions on things but have also changed my opinions, based on what I've learned from others. In person I am a good listener and in the forums I usually am too.

It's a tough one sometimes where, for example, published evidence indicates very strongly that a certain position is more likely to be true and someone is arguing the opposite. I'll certainly be intrigued as to what it is that I may not be understanding of, that someone else may have grasped.

And I definitely accept that others who are experienced may very well understand things in a way that I won't have had the chance to. It seems foolish for me to ignore the value of others' experience and potentially even any person's insight.

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