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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

'I'll show you a photo of myself. '

This kind of approach in messages is a waste of perfectly good letters. Why ever would I want to bother with an invisible man?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But, if a woman took this approach, would men be expected to play the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But, if a woman took this approach, would men be expected to play the game

"

And in both cases, it's up to the recipient of said message whether they're willing to play along with the game or not ..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"But, if a woman took this approach, would men be expected to play the game

"

Probably yes but as long as some continue to live up to expectations they will persist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Some folks don't wish to send their face pics out to any and every random who mails. If that is a deal breaker then saves you time right away and you can move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

"

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket


"Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

"

But as I said above all the time (some of) the men play into this dynamic is all the time it will continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

But as I said above all the time (some of) the men play into this dynamic is all the time it will continue. "

Indeed. But then I think a lot of guys should have a wank before they even log on..get rid of some tension

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

"

But surely 8 clevege shots just like 8 torso /chest pics for a guy.

The comparison for cock pics would surely be gash shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've clicked with some nice guys, who sadly got blocked after showing face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it's hypocritical at all, what appeals to men doesn't appeal to the majority of females. Most men like breast pics and body pics, some like pics of the vagina, but more men like those type of pics than a woman does.

In regard to those messages, I see them as a way for someone to initiate conversation. When I get them I just delete them, because of course I want a face pic. I'd send a face pic if I was to send a message. The same with the old "I've added you as a friend so you can see my pics" na attach one with message.

As for if a woman were to do that then they expect it to be accepted- I don't see it as a one way thing, but if it happens, then that's not the females fault, it's just as easy for the man to ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say it's hypocritical at all, what appeals to men doesn't appeal to the majority of females. Most men like breast pics and body pics, some like pics of the vagina, but more men like those type of pics than a woman does.

In regard to those messages, I see them as a way for someone to initiate conversation. When I get them I just delete them, because of course I want a face pic. I'd send a face pic if I was to send a message. The same with the old "I've added you as a friend so you can see my pics" na attach one with message.

As for if a woman were to do that then they expect it to be accepted- I don't see it as a one way thing, but if it happens, then that's not the females fault, it's just as easy for the man to ignore. "

Wouldn't *** say

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It would be a waste of everyone's time if you didn't find each other physically attractive 15 messages down the line! To click with someone I need to see a face that makes them more real and not just a load of words

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

I'd rather see a photo of a womans eyes than her body bits and bobs....eyes are the gateway to the soul and you can be turned on by them way more than looking at a womans fadge or tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be a waste of everyone's time if you didn't find each other physically attractive 15 messages down the line! To click with someone I need to see a face that makes them more real and not just a load of words "

me to cock pics in here are ten a penny it makes me think that there cocks must be bet looking then there faces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah, the messages that say, "If you're interested I'll send a face pic"

I've no idea if I'm interested until I see a face pic

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"It would be a waste of everyone's time if you didn't find each other physically attractive 15 messages down the line! To click with someone I need to see a face that makes them more real and not just a load of words

me to cock pics in here are ten a penny it makes me think that there cocks must be bet looking then there faces "

Some are . I'm joking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very shallow and disrespectful to those of us how wish to keep discrete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds very shallow and disrespectful to those of us how wish to keep discrete"

How? If someone wants to see a face pic to know if they are attracted to another, then I see no problem in it. Most people want to remain discreet that's why they keep face pics private and only send in a message.

I won't meet anyone without seeing a face pic or them on cam. I also don't want to get into a really good conversation with someone, to then receive a face pic and don't feel attracted to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds very shallow and disrespectful to those of us how wish to keep discrete

How? If someone wants to see a face pic to know if they are attracted to another, then I see no problem in it. Most people want to remain discreet that's why they keep face pics private and only send in a message.

I won't meet anyone without seeing a face pic or them on cam. I also don't want to get into a really good conversation with someone, to then receive a face pic and don't feel attracted to them. "

i totally agree with you on all of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op.. Being discreet. I do show my face but only if I want to.

Common saying:- I like to see who am talking with.

So op its facial attraction.. Not tit not fanny not arse hole cock... Face only fuck anything else.

Wow thats discrimination lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So guys put your cocks away and get your mugs out lol.. As most will not even talk unless you got iron attraction.. Facial attraction. Fuck anything else lol

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Sounds very shallow and disrespectful to those of us how wish to keep discrete

How? If someone wants to see a face pic to know if they are attracted to another, then I see no problem in it. Most people want to remain discreet that's why they keep face pics private and only send in a message.

I won't meet anyone without seeing a face pic or them on cam. I also don't want to get into a really good conversation with someone, to then receive a face pic and don't feel attracted to them. "

Oh but that makes you shallow

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

Why don't everyone just have visible face pics on there profile in the first place, saves an awful lot of time wasted... After all, no matter how hot/sexy someone's body is, if they've a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp the chances are it's going to be off putting.. Everyone needs attraction I'd have thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes a while to learn the ropes on this site, it's best to go into your settings and block people without pics. Time wasters and fakes never have pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't everyone just have visible face pics on there profile in the first place, saves an awful lot of time wasted... After all, no matter how hot/sexy someone's body is, if they've a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp the chances are it's going to be off putting.. Everyone needs attraction I'd have thought."

Because some people might use the pics for ulterior motives!?

If I like people and want to converse with them I'll send a face pic. But no way am I having them up in public on a swingers site for any Tom, Dick or Harry to access!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds very shallow and disrespectful to those of us how wish to keep discrete

How? If someone wants to see a face pic to know if they are attracted to another, then I see no problem in it. Most people want to remain discreet that's why they keep face pics private and only send in a message.

I won't meet anyone without seeing a face pic or them on cam. I also don't want to get into a really good conversation with someone, to then receive a face pic and don't feel attracted to them.

Oh but that makes you shallow "

To some it is, clearly.

But if I didn't care about seeing someone's face, then I see no differencein going in a room bblindfolded and letting them use me astthey wish. Yes it's some people's thing, but not mine.

Regardless, if it's someone I meet for fun or start a relationship with, I have to be attracted to someone mind and looks.

If someone requires a face pic to make a decision about meeting and the other doesn't want to send a face pic, then the easiest thing to do would be not to send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't everyone just have visible face pics on there profile in the first place, saves an awful lot of time wasted... After all, no matter how hot/sexy someone's body is, if they've a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp the chances are it's going to be off putting.. Everyone needs attraction I'd have thought.

Because some people might use the pics for ulterior motives!?

If I like people and want to converse with them I'll send a face pic. But no way am I having them up in public on a swingers site for any Tom, Dick or Harry to access! "

Ahhh but by keeping your pica so private when someone recognises you there's no denying it's you.

My pics are now far and wide on the Web so I can always turn around and go "hah yeah my pics got nicked ages ago by my ex and uploaded look they're on xhamster too, bust be a fake guy" :p

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"So op its facial attraction.. Not tit not fanny not arse hole cock... Face only fuck anything else.

"

But I've got a lovely arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'I'll show you a photo of myself. '

This kind of approach in messages is a waste of perfectly good letters. Why ever would I want to bother with an invisible man?!!"
Is this bum ok? lol

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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

I suppose in my case, the point is they CAN see my face, and presumably like it enough to say hello. If I don't know what their face looks like, I'm never going to click. Even if they happen to have a beautiful body, I still need to see a face. I guess not all men or women apply the principle of not bothering to look at the mantelpiece when they're poking the fire.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ah another of the normal hypocrisies of Fab...

8 cock pics bad...8 cleavage shots good

Guys demanding bad...ladies, acceptable

But as I said above all the time (some of) the men play into this dynamic is all the time it will continue.

Indeed. But then I think a lot of guys should have a wank before they even log on..get rid of some tension "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't everyone just have visible face pics on there profile in the first place, saves an awful lot of time wasted... After all, no matter how hot/sexy someone's body is, if they've a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp the chances are it's going to be off putting.. Everyone needs attraction I'd have thought.

Because some people might use the pics for ulterior motives!?

If I like people and want to converse with them I'll send a face pic. But no way am I having them up in public on a swingers site for any Tom, Dick or Harry to access!

Ahhh but by keeping your pica so private when someone recognises you there's no denying it's you.

My pics are now far and wide on the Web so I can always turn around and go "hah yeah my pics got nicked ages ago by my ex and uploaded look they're on xhamster too, bust be a fake guy" :p"

Clever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't everyone just have visible face pics on there profile in the first place, saves an awful lot of time wasted... After all, no matter how hot/sexy someone's body is, if they've a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp the chances are it's going to be off putting.. Everyone needs attraction I'd have thought."

Ah, the old BOBFOC and BOCFOB dilemma..

(Body of Baywatch, face of Crimewatch and vice versa)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't everyone just have visible face pics on there profile in the first place, saves an awful lot of time wasted... After all, no matter how hot/sexy someone's body is, if they've a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp the chances are it's going to be off putting.. Everyone needs attraction I'd have thought.

Ah, the old BOBFOC and BOCFOB dilemma..

(Body of Baywatch, face of Crimewatch and vice versa)

"

BOCFOC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'I'll show you a photo of myself. '

This kind of approach in messages is a waste of perfectly good letters. Why ever would I want to bother with an invisible man?!!"
well my answer to this depending on how you view this site and what you want from it is why burn a bridge needlessly to say time ,if I was advising a guy about his profile I would always say have a pic as your avatar ,a body pic perhaps certainly not your cock but many women lead with blank avatars and when asked don't always give face pic ,I would always read profile send a message based on that profile and send several pics including face .I find it a little frustrating that in the event of saving time you would eliminate the potential best meet you ever had because of it though ,all good things come to those who wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'I'll show you a photo of myself. '

This kind of approach in messages is a waste of perfectly good letters. Why ever would I want to bother with an invisible man?!! well my answer to this depending on how you view this site and what you want from it is why burn a bridge needlessly to say time ,if I was advising a guy about his profile I would always say have a pic as your avatar ,a body pic perhaps certainly not your cock but many women lead with blank avatars and when asked don't always give face pic ,I would always read profile send a message based on that profile and send several pics including face .I find it a little frustrating that in the event of saving time you would eliminate the potential best meet you ever had because of it though ,all good things come to those who wait "

Which of those faces is you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But, if a woman took this approach, would men be expected to play the game

"

The dice are loaded in the ladies favour, just like they are loaded in a mans favour in real life, swings and roundabouts

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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich


"But, if a woman took this approach, would men be expected to play the game

The dice are loaded in the ladies favour, just like they are loaded in a mans favour in real life, swings and roundabouts "

Erm, loaded in a man's favour in real life???

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