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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Be honest but has anyone ever began to think about somebody more then they should after Sex and it's meant to be just Sex!!

It's gotta be a common thing, we're all human and you can't control feelings. A hottie comes by, great connection, convo and most of all great sex.... Ever had to try shake it off after?

Get what I mean?! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope never. Only time I let emotions take over is when I am in a relationship..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never had the emotions first? Once they're there it's hard switch off x

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Be honest but has anyone ever began to think about somebody more then they should after Sex and it's meant to be just Sex!!

It's gotta be a common thing, we're all human and you can't control feelings. A hottie comes by, great connection, convo and most of all great sex.... Ever had to try shake it off after?

Get what I mean?! Lol x"

Of course - you are only human...

If you know they don't feel the same, its time to try and distance yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Absolutely right. Although I struggle ha I go through the lets fuck like lovers haha. Btw this doesn't happen often just carrying on the convo on here I had with someone at work. Was interesting to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had the emotions first? Once they're there it's hard switch off x"

Of course I have, but only when I'm involved with a guy. On here, never though. Yes there has to be a connection if I meet a guy, but not emotional ones. Just sexual chemistry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had the emotions first? Once they're there it's hard switch off x"

I tend to just do a disappearing act then build higher walls for next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never had the emotions first? Once they're there it's hard switch off x

I tend to just do a disappearing act then build higher walls for next time "

Think I should do that but my last one who I'm kinda annoyed over is like popping up occasionally and fucking off and I'm getting jealous seeing shit so Defo gonna dodge him and leave him to it x

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By *smCouple
over a year ago

Liskeard

I've had someone tell me they love me , but I'm not looking for that, I was gentle and explained , and drew back , but it still blow up in my face ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awe man it's not good. I'm getting jealous of the lad but wanna see em again but it's not gonna go anywhere or end well. He doesn't even show respect anymore

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By *ex god caosMan
over a year ago

wherever i'm needed

only once proper could not stop thinking about her but never did see her again still think of her sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had the emotions first? Once they're there it's hard switch off x

I tend to just do a disappearing act then build higher walls for next time

Think I should do that but my last one who I'm kinda annoyed over is like popping up occasionally and fucking off and I'm getting jealous seeing shit so Defo gonna dodge him and leave him to it x"

Thats the exact reason i disappear ... The only way to stop seeing bits of their life is to totally take them out of yours ... Block and delete works great but it needs to be blanket ... Every app message number ... othwrwise you get tempted to turn back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got to like and fancy someone before any sex happens. So by definition there has to be some degree of emotional connection for me but certainly not Love (with a capital L).

The minute I started falling for someone is the minute I'd stop on here - for me this is all strictly no strings but I'm sure there are many others out there who would like to find someone for something more serious. The problems come when those feelings aren't reciprocated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to like and fancy someone before any sex happens. So by definition there has to be some degree of emotional connection for me but certainly not Love (with a capital L).

The minute I started falling for someone is the minute I'd stop on here - for me this is all strictly no strings but I'm sure there are many others out there who would like to find someone for something more serious. The problems come when those feelings aren't reciprocated! "

^^^^This^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be honest but has anyone ever began to think about somebody more then they should after Sex and it's meant to be just Sex!!

It's gotta be a common thing, we're all human and you can't control feelings. A hottie comes by, great connection, convo and most of all great sex.... Ever had to try shake it off after?

Get what I mean?! Lol x"

YES!!! Plain and simple. I couldn't be cold and detached, if I ever got that way I'd stop all this.

I don't fall in love with guys but have a special connection with the odd one and to loose that isn't nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be honest but has anyone ever began to think about somebody more then they should after Sex and it's meant to be just Sex!!

It's gotta be a common thing, we're all human and you can't control feelings. A hottie comes by, great connection, convo and most of all great sex.... Ever had to try shake it off after?

Get what I mean?! Lol x"

If it happens then it happens.

I'm a grown up, I understand that you can't control these things.

Talk about it, decide what you want to do, do it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes and I de friended her and then blocked her - got my head together after a few weeks and got chatting again keeping it on a more even keel. All I was saying to myself was 'you stupid, stupid man'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it hit me like a ton of bricks and it took me totally by surprise. The only thing you can do is break contact, work out what you want and move on. I'm not after any kind of emotional relationship so it shocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day we're all human and attraction does happen in any walk of life. At work, down the pub, that girl who works in the newsagents etc. Why should it be any different to someone you're getting up close and intimate with on a swingers site? You can't control who you do and don't click with - sometimes it just happens.

But as long as you're clear about why you're here and what you want and can identify the early signs then you can decide the next steps whether that be walk away, block and delete to cool off for a while or dive in and tell them exactly how you feel.

Just prepare yourself if they're only here for no strings stuff and that they might not feel the same in return.

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