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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there anyone else who's incredibly put off by it? I understand it's different strokes for different folks and maybe it's down to my past, but if a man brought that up or the whole school girl thing, then I'd be backing the fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taboo ..... whilst I understand that it could be erotic, its wrong in so many levels

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Each to their own but it creeps me out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find anything referring to children disturbing, especially when people kick off about paedophiles, then request someone to dress in a uniform worn solely by children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really relevant as I wouldn't have sex with anyone remotely old enough to be my dad - and if a young guy called me mummy or similar during sex then the meet would end right there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really relevant as I wouldn't have sex with anyone remotely old enough to be my dad - and if a young guy called me mummy or similar during sex then the meet would end right there!

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A couple of years back I met a guy nearly 20 years younger who wanted me to call him daddy! I couldn't get my head round it at all. I wonder if it's because of porn ?

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Terms often used in a D/s Big/little relationship.

Not something i'm personally into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't the whole "daddy/baby girl" thing from black american culture? I've seen quite a few homemade movies where that's the way they talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called babygirl in messages before, which considering I'm late 40's is a tad bizarre

Doesn't float my boat that's for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distasteful or sickening ? Or both ? I'm cringing now thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone else who's incredibly put off by it? I understand it's different strokes for different folks and maybe it's down to my past, but if a man brought that up or the whole school girl thing, then I'd be backing the fuck off. "

I like older guys so ppl automatically think that's our angle but it's so not find the whole idea disturbing

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Wouldn't we all prefer if paedophiles used roleplay with consenting adults as an alternative to illegal activities?

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Firstly.. in the D/s or fet context, prolly 90% of the time it is NOT anything to do with 'age play' - to put it delicately.

But the term 'Daddy' or 'Daddydom' does not do anything for me in the slightest. But if people enjoy it, then fair play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't the whole "daddy/baby girl" thing from black american culture? I've seen quite a few homemade movies where that's the way they talk.

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OH has only one experience with a black guy he kept on calling her babygirl, it put her right off and ruined her sisters pet name for her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't like being called "girl" so "babygirl" wouldn't be comfortable for me and at 59 years old either term is ridiculous. However it does seem to be acceptable for men to call women babe and for both sexes to use the word girl to refer to women it's only only one step further and if both parties enjoy it...why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me its so wrong on so many levels instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My understanding is that it comes under BDSM and the Daddy or Mummy, is the nurturing, disciplining type of Dominant.

You have to remember that in BDSM, sex isn't always the focal point.

No I haven't experienced it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done this with a guy I used to know.

It's not sick nor does it have anything to do with being a kiddie fiddler.

As it's already been said it's about domination and control. It's no different than any other role play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put off by it? No. If it's just fantasy, let them get on with it.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It might be just a fantasy but it would not be one I would be willing to take part in, just the thought of someone wanting me to call him Daddy leaves me cold and creeped out

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Age play has different dynamics. Sometimes it's sexual, others it's really not. Daddy Doms may be called so because of the way they carry out their D/s relationship with perhaps more structure, nurturing and guidance. Not all age players regress to younger years. I don't find it creepy nor do I find ulterior motives.

It's way more common than you think but people don't like to admit it.

I'm happy to do age play role play sexually. I like the school girl thing. I have a certain age I will 'play' and the term is called middle. I don't particularly 'little' or 'baby' but stick to that teen mentality.

For me, age play, whether it's sexual or not, is pretty freeing. It's quite often very playful and silly and I only do it with those that truly understand the dynamic. It's a very safe place to experiment.

Daddy Doms that I've had in the past haven't been older than I but they do take on a 'caretaker' role with me. Not physically but mentally.

I get why people can't relate to this kind of play but it's very very similar for me to when I pet play with the ears and tail. I don't really identify as an animal but it's the playfulness or the restriction and perhaps having some of my grown up or human traits prohibited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age play has different dynamics. Sometimes it's sexual, others it's really not. Daddy Doms may be called so because of the way they carry out their D/s relationship with perhaps more structure, nurturing and guidance. Not all age players regress to younger years. I don't find it creepy nor do I find ulterior motives.

It's way more common than you think but people don't like to admit it.

I'm happy to do age play role play sexually. I like the school girl thing. I have a certain age I will 'play' and the term is called middle. I don't particularly 'little' or 'baby' but stick to that teen mentality.

For me, age play, whether it's sexual or not, is pretty freeing. It's quite often very playful and silly and I only do it with those that truly understand the dynamic. It's a very safe place to experiment.

Daddy Doms that I've had in the past haven't been older than I but they do take on a 'caretaker' role with me. Not physically but mentally.

I get why people can't relate to this kind of play but it's very very similar for me to when I pet play with the ears and tail. I don't really identify as an animal but it's the playfulness or the restriction and perhaps having some of my grown up or human traits prohibited. "

However I thought the dom/master/mistress was about the nurturing and guidance of a sub so not sure I see there is a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not my thing either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it does,nt float my boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone else who's incredibly put off by it? I understand it's different strokes for different folks and maybe it's down to my past, but if a man brought that up or the whole school girl thing, then I'd be backing the fuck off. "

I had a daddy/girl relationship with a man for a couple of years. It's not incest roleplay for most people.

It's more like... the way that my Nan used to call my Granddad 'Dad'. It was quite common terminology for your male partner. They were, after all, taking responsibility for you and looking after you when you left your parents.

If I call a man 'Daddy' it's a term of affection and endearment. That he looks out for me in some way, and it's a close bond relationship where we both feed off each others strengths.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"However I thought the dom/master/mistress was about the nurturing and guidance of a sub so not sure I see there is a difference"

Some people play it that way, not everyone does. I don't nurture or guide my subs.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

It's very disturbing and wrong on so many levels makes my stomach twist at the thought

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Age play has different dynamics. Sometimes it's sexual, others it's really not. Daddy Doms may be called so because of the way they carry out their D/s relationship with perhaps more structure, nurturing and guidance. Not all age players regress to younger years. I don't find it creepy nor do I find ulterior motives.

It's way more common than you think but people don't like to admit it.

I'm happy to do age play role play sexually. I like the school girl thing. I have a certain age I will 'play' and the term is called middle. I don't particularly 'little' or 'baby' but stick to that teen mentality.

For me, age play, whether it's sexual or not, is pretty freeing. It's quite often very playful and silly and I only do it with those that truly understand the dynamic. It's a very safe place to experiment.

Daddy Doms that I've had in the past haven't been older than I but they do take on a 'caretaker' role with me. Not physically but mentally.

I get why people can't relate to this kind of play but it's very very similar for me to when I pet play with the ears and tail. I don't really identify as an animal but it's the playfulness or the restriction and perhaps having some of my grown up or human traits prohibited.

However I thought the dom/master/mistress was about the nurturing and guidance of a sub so not sure I see there is a difference"

There are lots of different types of dominants as there are types of submissives. They can overlap or change depending on the chemistry of the relationship. There is no right or wrong way of doing. Just different personalities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very disturbing and wrong on so many levels makes my stomach twist at the thought "

It makes your stomach twist that someone gives someone else a nickname that they both agree with and like?

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"It's very disturbing and wrong on so many levels makes my stomach twist at the thought "

Some of the best sex I've had is doing Age Play. its just a role play. I like taboo play. I only do legal and consensual. Nothing wrong about two consenting adults playing about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so cut and dried as some people think it is, you have littles, middles baby girls brats daddy doms and so on and so on

I remember when I first came across these age play dynamics, I felt uncomfortable even hearing the terminology, but as I have learned more and met people in the lifestyle, I have learned that it has nothing to do with pedophiles, and more to do with the LEVEL of nurturing within the dynamic.

As someone finds out about this dynamic cold, it's going to be a big shock to the system, and protective instincts will kick in, but I truly believe of the bdsm community, if there was any threat to vulnerable adults or children stemming from this dynamic, it would have been stamped out years ago, consent is the cornerstone of our community, I have seen people shunned and lose all friends and standing in the community for breaching consent, and that's as it should be, to outsiders, we look like wife beaters, and abusers, when nothing in my experience could be further from the truth.

Safe, Sane, and Concentual is the motto, and quite frankly I would personally put more trust in my friends from the bdsm community than a lot of vanilla people I know

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Is there anyone else who's incredibly put off by it? I understand it's different strokes for different folks and maybe it's down to my past, but if a man brought that up or the whole school girl thing, then I'd be backing the fuck off. "

I had a father and son 'tag team' once write to me. Don't know about anyone else, but to me, that sounded soooo wrong and creepy. What were they going to do next, involve the mother and sister too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very disturbing and wrong on so many levels makes my stomach twist at the thought

It makes your stomach twist that someone gives someone else a nickname that they both agree with and like?"

I guess just going to a club and fucking random people would creep a lot of people out too! As Wasp (and others) have said... It's safe and consensual between adults. It might not be your thing but it is allowed to be other peoples'.

I love being called "baby" as a term of endearment. And "baby I want to fuck you" is about the sexiest statement in the world to me. Yet I call my daughter "baby girl" all the time.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person who would get away with calling me 'baby girl' is Shemar Moore (Derek Morgan in criminal minds)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only person who would get away with calling me 'baby girl' is Shemar Moore (Derek Morgan in criminal minds) "

Oooooh yes. I'm with you. V xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not so cut and dried as some people think it is, you have littles, middles baby girls brats daddy doms and so on and so on

I remember when I first came across these age play dynamics, I felt uncomfortable even hearing the terminology, but as I have learned more and met people in the lifestyle, I have learned that it has nothing to do with pedophiles, and more to do with the LEVEL of nurturing within the dynamic.

As someone finds out about this dynamic cold, it's going to be a big shock to the system, and protective instincts will kick in, but I truly believe of the bdsm community, if there was any threat to vulnerable adults or children stemming from this dynamic, it would have been stamped out years ago, consent is the cornerstone of our community, I have seen people shunned and lose all friends and standing in the community for breaching consent, and that's as it should be, to outsiders, we look like wife beaters, and abusers, when nothing in my experience could be further from the truth.

Safe, Sane, and Concentual is the motto, and quite frankly I would personally put more trust in my friends from the bdsm community than a lot of vanilla people I know "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only person who would get away with calling me 'baby girl' is Shemar Moore (Derek Morgan in criminal minds)

Oooooh yes. I'm with you. V xxx "

I asked my husband of he would get him and gift wrap him for Christmas for me. He just laughed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone to there own but it's far to creepy for us.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Don't find it creepy at all, more that it just sounds really silly. It's obviously not linked in any way to anything genuinely inappropriate, so if people enjoy it in their own consensual scenarios, good for them.

Like pretty much any kink, if it's not your thing, it will often appear ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very disturbing and wrong on so many levels makes my stomach twist at the thought

Some of the best sex I've had is doing Age Play. its just a role play. I like taboo play. I only do legal and consensual. Nothing wrong about two consenting adults playing about. "
Totally agree Sub xx

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I call Bradley "Daddy" but not in a sexual/Dom way. I'm just so used to saying it around the kids (as obviously they know him as Daddy) it's kind of stuck and sometimes I forget when we're on our own..

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age play has different dynamics. Sometimes it's sexual, others it's really not. Daddy Doms may be called so because of the way they carry out their D/s relationship with perhaps more structure, nurturing and guidance. Not all age players regress to younger years. I don't find it creepy nor do I find ulterior motives.

It's way more common than you think but people don't like to admit it.

I'm happy to do age play role play sexually. I like the school girl thing. I have a certain age I will 'play' and the term is called middle. I don't particularly 'little' or 'baby' but stick to that teen mentality.

For me, age play, whether it's sexual or not, is pretty freeing. It's quite often very playful and silly and I only do it with those that truly understand the dynamic. It's a very safe place to experiment.

Daddy Doms that I've had in the past haven't been older than I but they do take on a 'caretaker' role with me. Not physically but mentally.

I get why people can't relate to this kind of play but it's very very similar for me to when I pet play with the ears and tail. I don't really identify as an animal but it's the playfulness or the restriction and perhaps having some of my grown up or human traits prohibited. "

Well said

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