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Sub, dom or neither

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you consider yourself more sub, dom or neither. I find I am both depending on my mood, sometimes like to take control, sometimes like others to control me, so I'd be neither. Interested to hear people's views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as you.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've had a go with both.

Let's just say the subbing lasted about 15 mins before I said, nah, this is silly. I'm out.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

But domming is a whole 'nother kettle of fish...

Because, primarily, it's not about the dom - it's about the sub.

Tricky creatures.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I tend to be sub , but depends who I am with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just me ,not submissive or dominant

Secure in myself, I just enjoy sharing passion equally

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

On fab, neither.

With my lover, sub - but we have found our own way to make that work, not D/S all the time

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'll bottom but mentally, always Domme. Subs really do get all the fun though, I just prefer to be the one conducting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually I don't think there is a dominant bone in my body, submissive and love to relinquish control and be brought on a journey.

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole

Mostly sub by choice, though a dom side does emerge sometimes (but only with one person, and would never dom a guy when in role as amy)

the problem is in finding someone who is a natural dom and not a 50 shades wannabee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sub, but not in the true sense. More in a playful sense. If that makes...sense.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prob dom...but do enjoy confident enthusiastic participants...

..pet hate would be status updates declaring 'i am now owned by ....'

.i love strong independent women..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strictly sub and Mr is strictly dom.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sexually I don't think there is a dominant bone in my body, submissive and love to relinquish control and be brought on a journey. "

That is a very good description

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither I can be both even with the same person at different times xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am neither. I would be uncomfortable in a dominant situation, but I certainly wouldn't be submissive to anyone, least of all strangers.

I'm not an ideal candidate for the Bdsm scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither I can be both even with the same person at different times xx"

I am very much the same, rather than having defined roles being flexible depending on moods a desires at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly sub, but not taken to an extreme.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

Sub to older pervy type guys, and women and dom to younger sexy cd's and tv's

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i am always sub to my partner who is always the Dominant one but i do switch with others at times

karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a little either way i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sub here, however, to what degree is totally dependant on the level of trust there and how comfortable I feel in thw situation.

Otherwise equal, tried the dom thing once, hated it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a bit of both depending on my mood at the time

tho the devil in me does like to take control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out if the bedroom, especially in work I am dominant and decisive.

With sex I want to switch off, while I'm not sub I can play the part. I can also play Dom (but I don't get off on it) and I can play any part in between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither I can be both even with the same person at different times xx"

Me too, even during one session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a confident alpha male who likes to take control of the situation does this make me a Dom or just an alpha male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither I can be both even with the same person at different times xx

I am very much the same, rather than having defined roles being flexible depending on moods a desires at the time."

Definitely I'm a go with the moment sort of girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither. We both believe in equality all round when playing. Nobodys in control and nobody should await inatruction cause they wont get any!

ANARCHY

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Neither really, a little bit Dom and a little bit sub but not enough to be labelled I don't think.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Thought about being sub once, then I woke up from the nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It dom for me and my wife is sum.love nothing more than taking control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just picked up on this one....

Being Bisexual, I get to see this from both perspectives - when I am meeting a Single Women, I think I am more dominant, but in an acceptable way - meeting a man; i'd say whilst I have been Dom, more recently, I have started to enjoy being more Sub - meeting a MF couple ; ANYTHING goes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a go with both.

Let's just say the subbing lasted about 15 mins before I said, nah, this is silly. I'm out.

"

This I end up getting more punishments and end up enjoying them ha ha ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a sub and very happy to be that. I have a great Dom,although he isn't a fan of that phrase, and we have a great relationship that allows us both to thrive in our roles, couldn't be happier.

Alice

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