FabSwingers.com forum: Self assurance.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift..."

You have a great veri a very nice body and cock so why not ?

But your profile suggests you aren't after lots of NSA sex , more a partner , so probably best not after all .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why be something you're not?

What's attractive about an over confident wanker who thinks he's gods gift?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence with a bit of humility is my perfect combination.

Profiles that state they are good looking are a major turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself. Women with any sense see through bullshitters fairly quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you. Other guys can be them.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift...

You have a great veri a very nice body and cock so why not ?

But your profile suggests you aren't after lots of NSA sex , more a partner , so probably best not after all .

I'm after lots of nsa sex, just I'd like something regular!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why be something you're not?

What's attractive about an over confident wanker who thinks he's gods gift?

You seem to find me pretty cute despite my saturation of wankerish qualities?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift..."

There's a massive difference between self assured and over confident wanker. If you really believe that women are daft enough to be taken in by the latter you don't know much about women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why be something you're not?

What's attractive about an over confident wanker who thinks he's gods gift?

You seem to find me pretty cute despite my saturation of wankerish qualities?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!"

Hmmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!"

The guys we have met haven't been brash arse holes. They have been rather nice. And sexy.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!"

I'm not sure where you are looking but I've never met a guy that comes across like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!

I'm not sure where you are looking but I've never met a guy that comes across like that."

On here

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."

~ Oscar Wilde

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!"

What are you basing that on? Unless you're checking the brashness of profiles vs number of verifications!

Just do your own thing. There's zero point pretending.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift..."

suppose it works for some and getting meets be it on here or in real life is relatively in some areas easy for them as they have that confidence/charisma..

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

There is a big difference between being self assured and arrogance .

Arrogant people people do have confidence, but it comes from a different place than true self-assurance just be you and that will be noticed

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Just be you toots, it's only been 3 months, chill your beans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've a decent profile and pics and a good verification.

Just be yourself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why be something you're not?

What's attractive about an over confident wanker who thinks he's gods gift?

You seem to find me pretty cute despite my saturation of wankerish qualities?

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you really don't know how successful anyone is on here ,you will have peaks and troughs ,people will say they want regular but you will meet once,people will say I will meet you In a club most do in fact but only so when they are disappointed with you they can move on to someone else and you after paying a few bob to get in are like a spare part ,their is always another waiting to take your place the reality is to many you are a commodity they can live without ,you will be let down ,meets won't turn up but having said that when you click you will have fun ,some lovely people here some in this thread but forumites have been there and done that and always have an opinion and many know eachother so your secrets not safe ,good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a guy I know (old friend from school) he is the worlds biggest wanker, talks to women like shit but they all lap it up and will do anything on his command, usually they are a 'type' he goes for but still watching him work is a real eye opener, personally I prefer a nice guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be confident in YOU! Don't copy anyone else, don't try and be anyone else, just be you, some people will like you some won't, but you will be happier and more successful on here if you embrace the person you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont have to play at being over confident or a cocky sausage

Just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You dont have to play at being over confident or a cocky sausage

Just be yourself

Or, be a cock and see if it makes a difference.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'd rather be myself, but the brash arse holes seem to be the ones who are succeeding on the site!"

I know what you're getting at there but you've really just got to be yourself. I've been a non-brash arsehole all my life and it's true you do seem to get overlooked for the more cocksure arrogant type of guys. But a lot of that simply isn't true though, it's a bit of an illusion. You most definitely don't have to be brash and cocky to get the girls. Be yourself OP.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A quiet confidence is different to arrogant over-bearing behaviour.

As you probably haven't met these guys that you perceive to have lashings of confidence Op, you are likely to be biased in your conclusions about them. And they are merely guys behind a keyboard, who potentially write bs.

One of the biggest lessons we can learn is to not compare ourselves to others very much, if at all. It's frequently linked to our insecurities, seeking reasons why others are better than us.

We are always better at being us. So it's better to accept ourselves, even if we'd like to polish aspects of our behaviour.

It's a much more settled basis to be in the world, when we do accept ourselves. Practice doing it, even if you only do it for seconds at a time. Then repeat frequently - you'll have created a new habit, and it's cost you just a few moments of your time.

Few people like dickheads who don't have much depth to themselves, as their bluster is just insignificant. I'd not trust them or warm to them.

Hang out with people who accept you as you. Friends, shags or anyone. And recognize when you might start to compare yourself to others - and interrupt it. If there are certain people in Fab who you're using as a basis for feeling 'less than', then potentially avoid their sectors or the parts of Fab where you're doing this, until you're more grounded in just being ok as you.

We like and warm to real people and I, like many others, prefer people to be warts and all (no reference to STIs, of course), rather than synthetic.

Good luck!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Confidence with a bit of humility is my perfect combination.

Profiles that state they are good looking are a major turn off."

This!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"A quiet confidence is different to arrogant over-bearing behaviour.

Potentially?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"A quiet confidence is different to arrogant over-bearing behaviour.

Potentially?

I'd not known which people or stuff the op had seen, so didn't want to appear too presumptuous Jim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a guy I know (old friend from school) he is the worlds biggest wanker, talks to women like shit but they all lap it up and will do anything on his command, usually they are a 'type' he goes for but still watching him work is a real eye opener, personally I prefer a nice guy!"

See this is the one post that resonates with me the most - seen so many guys have women falling at their feet yet they treat them like shit. I think it's the air of confidence and arrogance that attracts the ladies, a calm authority and assertiveness.

What do they say? A woman wants to find a bad boy they can turn good just for them, and a man wants to find a good girl that will turn bad just for them - it's a gross generalisation I know but think it's true in so many cases!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But have you ever looked at the type of women that fall for this type of guy?......

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift..."

I'm not gods gift. I'm no Adonis. I'm no gym Jimmy. I'm an average middle aged man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift...

I'm not gods gift. I'm no Adonis. I'm no gym Jimmy. I'm an average middle aged man. "

With a delicious blue bottom

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Their are so many 'self assured' guys on here. Is this an attractive quality? Seems to be working for them. Should I go all out over confident wanker? Play gods gift...

I'm not gods gift. I'm no Adonis. I'm no gym Jimmy. I'm an average middle aged man.

With a delicious blue bottom

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be yourself. Women with any sense see through bullshitters fairly quickly"

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

How do you know someone is an arsehole from a few lines on a profile and one of a few verifications? The majority of the site dont use the forums, even then depending on day to day moods people can either be in a bad mood or good. If you are defining an arsehole, there are plenty of small threads on here where blokes will throw up discussions about "twats" or "smelly fannys" and never be heard from again.

Simply that people chat on here and don't get along but have more meets than others doesn't make them arseholes. People could sit away from the the forums and message all day long and be thought of as wonderful by those they have met, as they are only there for a few hours - not chatting about anything much, just fucking

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Sometimes, suggesting someone just be themselves is the worst advice you can give"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Sometimes, suggesting someone just be themselves is the worst advice you can give""

Not when the subject wants to present themself as an arse. But i care not what others choose to do and it's no concern of mine whether my advice is followed or not

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