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Am I the world's worst swinger??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So after about 6 months of going to a club, and only playing a handful of times, and also having a few issues with the little man downstairs, am I the worst swinger on here???

I enjoy the social side more than playing, more of a watcher rather than a player, although a few ladies have taken advantage of me and used my tongue on a few occasions!

Swinging for me is not about getting notches on bedposts, it's more of a friendly socal where like minded people go, and sometimes have fun!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Are you enjoying what you do?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

'Notches on the bedpost'?

Lol - the bedpost has been whittled away to nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you enjoying what you do?"

Oh yes! I certainly enjoy the club, and sometimes I want to play but can't seem to rise to the occasion tried the blue tablets, but still get stage fright!

Still have a good time without playing, but am I going for the right reasons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want us to tell you that you are the worst, or are you looking for reassurance that you aren't?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the social aspect of clubs etc, nice to be able to chat openly and honestly with people and have a laugh. I go to clubs without playing

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Social and sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tbh I prefer the social side more than the sex.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Nah, I think that title may belong to me - we don't have the same clubs up here as down south, so I have been over 3 months with nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about who's having the most sex, it's about who's having the most fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is meant to be a swingers club though, not a social club haha

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

When I saw this thread, I misread your username as "JeffCakes" and I was going to congratulate you on your genius.

I am now slightly disappointed.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Are you enjoying what you do?

Oh yes! I certainly enjoy the club, and sometimes I want to play but can't seem to rise to the occasion tried the blue tablets, but still get stage fright!

Still have a good time without playing, but am I going for the right reasons? "
if your enjoying yourself then they are the right reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't started to swing yet lol

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

If it is just a problem at clubs sounds like you putting too much pressure on yourself. Go with the idea you are not having sex at the club but to only socialise and maybe watch. First time I visited a club I was terrified

If the problem is also outside the club see your GP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" if your enjoying yourself then they are the right reasons"

The reason I keep going back is due to a few people there that make me feel good about myself, they have been soo friendly and opened my eyes to the whole swinging thing, but I just don't want to play most of the time, just being in their company is what I look forward to on a Friday night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it is just a problem at clubs sounds like you putting too much pressure on yourself. Go with the idea you are not having sex at the club but to only socialise and maybe watch. First time I visited a club I was terrified

If the problem is also outside the club see your GP. "

The problem is starting to affect home life too, but I am putting that down to lots of stress at the moment.

Blue pill not working, anxious about things, maybe worrying too much over trying to perform to a certain standard? Who knows what's going wrong down there!

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Take a break from the club and when you go back you'll appreciate it more. Finding the cause of the stress be more productive ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having a break for a few weeks, not going again until the Christmas party, then having a month off.

The stress is personal home life problems, can't be sorted overnight unfortunately.

The club is my happy place, I always get tingly feelings on the day I go, this makes me feel good, always looking forward to my next visits.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

OP, your erectile dysfunction may be a sign of other problems. Do you wake during the night or in the morning with a hard on?

Go and see your GP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, your erectile dysfunction may be a sign of other problems. Do you wake during the night or in the morning with a hard on?

Go and see your GP. "

There's never an issue first thing in the morning and even having a wank by myself seems to work ok, just takes a little longer than it used to, 20 mins by myself with porn and I can make myself cum, but finding it difficult to maintain a erection for a longer period with others

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"OP, your erectile dysfunction may be a sign of other problems. Do you wake during the night or in the morning with a hard on?

Go and see your GP. "

It could be a male GP and who's to say they'd enjoy being woken in the middle of the night for sex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, your erectile dysfunction may be a sign of other problems. Do you wake during the night or in the morning with a hard on?

Go and see your GP.

It could be a male GP and who's to say they'd enjoy being woken in the middle of the night for sex? "

Lol, don't think he will appreciate me calling him at 3am asking for a solution to get me going!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP go and see your doctor about your stress/anxiety problems. Tell them that the man down stairs isn't working, they can help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its not the fact that it doesn't work... just not at the club

Anxiety issues about performance probably?

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