FabSwingers.com forum: Coping with a family Christmas

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If your one of those people who hate the thought of having to be nice to family members that you actually can't stand, but have to spend all fricking day with them in the spirit of "happy Christmas " how do you cope?

I personally pretend that we are all characters in a woody Allen movie, you would be surprised how much more fun the day becomes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just told them the truth that I can't stand them and haven't seen them in about 4 years.

Its cut down on how much I have to spend so no complaints from me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have to anymore as they are all in the US and I don't go back for the holidays.

But when I did? My kindle was my best friend.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First year with the ex in laws, so I'm hiding in the kitchen cooking the mega roast and drinking wine, dinner maybe fucked but at least I'd have fun!

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Family's Spoil Christmas well known fact

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't, when I was younger to much hassle trying to please everyone, where you should go and when.

I've always told my son to do as he pleases. It's just one day and if you care enough about the people you can spend any time any day with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

Same here!

love Christmas

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

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By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield

I come from a family where we never did the BIG family crimbo where all the relatives would decend. It would be just mum, dad and us two kids. Later as the elderly relatives declined to gran from mothers side and grandad from dads side. We tried inviting them for crimbo dinner, what a disaster they hated each other. Mums solution one year it would be gran coming for crimbo and grandad came for new year and vice versa the next. Now a days it's just me my sister and her kids an when I get fed up of them I make my excuses and leave em too it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

Same here!

love Christmas

me to its going to be an emotional one for us all this year but seeing my grandkids happy faces will make me smile thru my tears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm working on Christmas Day, but will be going to my folks for a massive family dinner on Boxing day with my brother and sister and their clan and all of my kids. Champagne helps me get through it

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I guess I'm the opposite, after losing 3 family members this year, family Christmases this year mean that tad bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

Same here!

love Christmas

me to its going to be an emotional one for us all this year but seeing my grandkids happy faces will make me smile thru my tears"

Oh no, I'm relatively new here so not sure what's happened but I'm glad you have plenty of people around to keep your spirits up xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If anyone else has taken offence at this thread then can you not pm me and tell me I don't deserve a family, I'm not used to being spoken to in such a manner, especially for posting a light hearted thread, I'm genuinely upset by this and I don't think it is very fair

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"If anyone else has taken offence at this thread then can you not pm me and tell me I don't deserve a family, I'm not used to being spoken to in such a manner, especially for posting a light hearted thread, I'm genuinely upset by this and I don't think it is very fair"
what are you talking about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boyfriend's mum invited herself over for Christmas. She can fuck off. She's not welcome.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

I'm with you. Just me and other half and he loathes Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your one of those people who hate the thought of having to be nice to family members that you actually can't stand, but have to spend all fricking day with them in the spirit of "happy Christmas " how do you cope?

I personally pretend that we are all characters in a woody Allen movie, you would be surprised how much more fun the day becomes

I don't pretend anymore. I don't enjoy family Christmases, and since I'm an adult I can choose not to take part in them anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what Christmas is going to be like here. Although we're separating, wife and I are still in the same house, and no plans to go anywhere on Christmas day. We're on good terms, but it's still going to be odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate having family round for Christmas, would rather just lock the door and stay behind it, this year we've been invited to the sister-in-laws, which is worse cause they live fricken miles away, so will be spending a lot of the day just on the road.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It wasn't me

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It wasn't me"

Just so the person who pm me and asked knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My boyfriend's mum invited herself over for Christmas. She can fuck off. She's not welcome. "

Pmsl love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Tony Blair once famously said...

Alcohol, alcohol, alcohol

Or something along those lines

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

Well we all have different situatioms etc.Just stay calm and enjoy it as much as possible.

Before I had my children, I rather enjoyed working nights over Xmas to avoid family conflicts. I love em dearly but in small amouts and not all together.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

"My boyfriend's mum invited herself over for Christmas. She can fuck off. She's not welcome. "

Did she forget to mention she is bringing her 'friend' too?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't. I no longer talk to some of my family members and my brother has organised a family get together on boxing day. I have told him if I arrive and said member is there then I will walk out. Time of year makes no difference to me it is not an excuse to make amends, if people can't be bothered beforehand then I can't be bothered now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like all my family and friends. If I didn't like someone I would try not to engage in too much talk with them at parties or ,if they were really so terrible I would not go,feigning illness. I would never put another friend or family member in a them or me situation.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've made my decision today I'm not having a Christmas, I've got the few presents I needed to get.

I'm not going to!go anywhere or do anything.

I shall have my Christmas fun and do what I want while we are away.

I don't feel miserable or anti it, just can't be bloody bothered.

But I might invite someone over Christmas night if they are in the same boat as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have refused all offers this year, just me and my kids at home for Christmas. Can't bear the thought of another family christmas with everyone thinking they can do as they please, feed my kids up to the eyeballs in junk and then leave me to do the hard work when they are overtired and hyped up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about those who will be alone over the Christmas period...with no one...no family...no friends...NO ONE!

Then I think...lucky bastards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply don't suffer fools and not spoke for four years lol only just sociable with parents for kids sake so stay away from each other have friends over instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of people who have nobody to spend Christmas with,or the rest of the year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many people on the thread are the person everyone avoids

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Just pull a sickie, that's what we do every year lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just work Christmas it's hassle free .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i guess im one of the lucky ones i love family Christmases the more the merrier

Same here!

love Christmas

me to its going to be an emotional one for us all this year but seeing my grandkids happy faces will make me smile thru my tears

Oh no, I'm relatively new here so not sure what's happened but I'm glad you have plenty of people around to keep your spirits up xx"
thankyou huni x x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

We used to have wonderful big family Christmases and then my Mum died and it all stopped.

Dad's new wife prefers to 'treat' him to Christmas away. She likes to think his previous family don't exist

Since I've been single again I've spent some of them alone

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I love seeing family at Christmas ... this year we are rounding up the kids and spending quality time with them ... then flying to family abroad over the new year. So excited ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christmas changes when loved ones die .mine changed 3 years ago November 30th .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any family and normally spend the day on my own.

I do the usual...a few drinks and way too much to eat.

I'm happy with my own company and friends have now given up inviting me to join them.

All in all I have a very enjoyable day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spending the day with my lovely son (first time in 3yrs due to work) & mother ...mother cooking dinner then off to the besties peachies later when the lad goes to his GF - should be a lovely day ...actually looking forward to it for the first time in 3 yrs ...just missing a certain person but will catch up later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm lucky!

I love Christmas and I love my family - therefore the two go together beautifully!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to make sure I have a bolt-hole that I can retreat to for an hour a couple of times throughout the day. This year I'm actually leaving them to it and coming home for 3 hours in the afternoon before going back to continue with the festivities. It's the only way I'll survive it without an autistic shutdown.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I love all my family, but I've only got a small family, apart from when my son was young(and I really made it special!for him) its never really held any appeal.

Anything I want to do with my friends and family i can do any day of the year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like all my family and friends. If I didn't like someone I would try not to engage in too much talk with them at parties or ,if they were really so terrible I would not go,feigning illness. I would never put another friend or family member in a them or me situation. "

Same. We're going to S' family as there's lots of noise and young children and our daughter loves it. We get into the spirit of it and enjoy spending time with family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't. I no longer talk to some of my family members and my brother has organised a family get together on boxing day. I have told him if I arrive and said member is there then I will walk out. Time of year makes no difference to me it is not an excuse to make amends, if people can't be bothered beforehand then I can't be bothered now. "

Merry Christmas everyonnnnnnne!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Christmas changes when loved ones die .mine changed 3 years ago November 30th .

Yes it does for sure

So I'm doing something totally different this Christmas Day m as I couldn't bear the inevitable comparisons I would be making.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Christmas after my dad died was horrible. As much as we all tried to get on with it,it wasn't the same without him. He loved Christmas and having his grandchildren around him. I have a video of the Christmas before he died that I can't watch because it upsets my.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have had some pretty shit Christmas's to be honest. Guess sometimes always seem worse at Christmas

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

we used to have great family Christmases but have all moved or died

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I am having my Christmas in January, when I fly out with my daughter to Malta to meet up with other family members to spend it with my mum, who lives there.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's just close family for us so it's an easy day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love Christmas, love beign with my hubby and love seeing my children during the day so thats what i will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally pretend that we are all characters in a woody Allen movie, you would be surprised how much more fun the day becomes

When I was younger I really loved our family Christmas Day and Boxing Day.

Christmas Day would consist of, getting up early opening presents, have breakfast, get ready, get Christmas dinner on the go, we would have other family members round or we go round theirs. Boxing Day would be at my aunties and boxing evening at my other aunts. I loved it so much I still miss those days. These day though, I'd do anything to not spend Christmas with my siblings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love Christmas, love beign with my hubby and love seeing my children during the day so thats what i will do

*being

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

"My boyfriend's mum invited herself over for Christmas. She can fuck off. She's not welcome. "

Ha ha .... go girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Christmas changes when loved ones die .mine changed 3 years ago November 30th .

Yes it does for sure

So I'm doing something totally different this Christmas Day m as I couldn't bear the inevitable comparisons I would be making."

Yes got to make changes and try to enjoy it in a different way .

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I get to see the two most amazing, awesome, loving people in my life and that's my parents on Christmas Day...missing out on seeing my sister as I have to work...which sucks

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I dont have family, so im spending it by myself, im boycotting xmas due to my acute pancreatitis an im on a special diet so i cant have chocolate, biscuits etc. I find xmas is too comerislised an you spend too much money on food. Not every one likes xmas i cant stand it tbh cant wait till its over. Im quite happy with my own company an happy an can spend it how i like. An im going to treat it as every day normality you dont have to celebrate xmas to be happy

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Was in the pub trade many year,s Christmas day night as the most trouble in the pub,s that night than any other time of the year.

Family truths come out when they all have had a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was in the pub trade many year,s Christmas day night as the most trouble in the pub,s that night than any other time of the year.

Family truths come out when they all have had a drink "

Then once it's out there is no going back .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont have family, so im spending it by myself, im boycotting xmas due to my acute pancreatitis an im on a special diet so i cant have chocolate, biscuits etc. I find xmas is too comerislised an you spend too much money on food. Not every one likes xmas i cant stand it tbh cant wait till its over. Im quite happy with my own company an happy an can spend it how i like. An im going to treat it as every day normality you dont have to celebrate xmas to be happy "

I don't spend much at Christmas nor do i over eat or over drink but i do enjoy the Christmas holiday and spending time with my family

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By *ackspopCouple
over a year ago

Wymondham

My better half only sees her kids during main school holidays and as much as I like them, I'd love to be able to leave them together for a couple of days so they have her absolute undivided attention instead of her worrying about me and that I am missing out on "Us" time with her.

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I don't spend much at Christmas nor do i over eat or over drink but i do enjoy the Christmas holiday and spending time with my family

your lucky you have family, think of others who dont have family around xmas. Xmas isnt everything.

xmas can be a lonely time for some.

I choose to boycot it. As i have a condition which i recently found out i have acute pancreatitis an i have gall stones. It is painful to have. Yes on one hand ive lost more weight in the last month. But its not nice to have around xmas time. Im happy not to celebrate it

an as a single fem i choose to do other things an see it as a normal day. Everyone is different. Weather they choose to celebrate xmas or not im happy not to celebrate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't spend much at Christmas nor do i over eat or over drink but i do enjoy the Christmas holiday and spending time with my family

your lucky you have family, think of others who dont have family around xmas. Xmas isnt everything.

xmas can be a lonely time for some.

an as a single fem i choose to do other things an see it as a normal day. Everyone is different. Weather they choose to celebrate xmas or not im happy not to celebrate it

I agree. That's why i spend it the way i want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Christmas changes when loved ones die .mine changed 3 years ago November 30th .

Yes it does for sure

So I'm doing something totally different this Christmas Day m as I couldn't bear the inevitable comparisons I would be making."

Yeah we turned off my brother's life support on Christmas Day two years ago. I've never been a Christmas person but I'm even less of a Christmas person now.

I hate the fact that I'm even having to buy presents because I know it's expected of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate the fact that I'm even having to buy presents because I know it's expected of me."

This mentality really pisses me off, "expected to buy" it doesn't sit well with me at all. A friend of mine was complaining to me that her fellas family expect presents off them even though they haven't really got the cash for it.

We've completely spent our savings on our house the past few months and it's still not finished, had to tell people there won't be any serious presents from us. Even had my parents tell me "don't you dare be buying everyone presents"

The whole idea of having to save up all year to buy presents and ridiculous amounts of food for the "perfect Christmas" which the adverts portray and ram down our throats from October, pisses me off more each year.

Believe it or not, I do actually like Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate the fact that I'm even having to buy presents because I know it's expected of me.

Believe it or not, I do actually like Christmas

There's always that awkward moment when you don't buy someone enough too. My partner and I aren't low earners at all - we out earn both sets of my parents. But they insist on spending alot of money on us - sometimes even hundreds of pounds. But at the moment I'm putting all my money into studying at university, and my partner is saving up for a house deposit and a Masters degree for himself - so we don't want to go round spending all that money on other people, just because they have spent money on us. My Dad doesn't care, but you can tell when my Mother thinks that I've not spent enough money on her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^I'm not gonna fill the page with quotes

I know what you mean when people get funny about things, I've got a lot of young cousins under 10. It's like a competition, the parents are more bothered about it than the kids. Oh you bought them that but only got my kid this.

My mentality this year is they can all piss off

my house is more important to me than getting your children presents that they don't need.

Kind of sad when it's the parents that are the issue when you think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How different we all are. I would rather buy presents for others than spend my money on a house or me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How different we all are. I would rather buy presents for others than spend my money on a house or me."

Everyone is different.

Spending £100's on presents for people that don't know what they want (as they always tell me, so I just guess - usually wrongly) or on something like food or alcohol seems like a waste. Whereas an education will benefit me for the rest of my life. I'm ok with being selfish and bettering myself, rather than spending the money on presents that will be forgotten after a month or two.

(Some years ago I made double bed quilts as gifts. Pieced them and quilted them myself - hundreds of hours in total went into them. I thought they made a beautiful present, but the two of the three family members I gave them to have never used them, they still just sit on shelves never being touched. I gave up really after that.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As i already said, we are all different

We all live our lives differently

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