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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me as its just nsa x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perceived lack of confidence seems to be a bigger turn off, like if they'll refuse to remove clothes or something.

I'm very aware of my op scars, but can't change them so I'm not particularly bothered by them. I warn people as I know some may find them aesthetically displeasing (just like tattoos).

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Wouldn't bother us at all, nobody is perfect. I scar very easily and have lots of, mostly small, scars.

In your case it's a sign of what you have survived and if anyone is put off by it they were not Worthy of you.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never put me off. What is perfect?

I don't know anyone without flaws, part of what gives us all character.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've got a scar I've never thought of it as an imperfection, do others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

Your body looks good to me I wouldn't worry what people think it's your body so be proud of it

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I lived with a girl for ten years who had had both breasts removed. In no way was she a less beautiful person in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have so many stretchmarks on my tummy from pregnancy its like a tube map. Its never put anyone off.

Be proud of your battle scar xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naw, doesn't bother me. I like when people have their own imperfections.

However, I wouldn't like it if it really affected someone's confidence to the point that they felt uncomfortable around me naked. Own your body. Its yours and its great.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have so many stretchmarks on my tummy from pregnancy its like a tube map. Its never put anyone off.

Be proud of your battle scar xx"

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Some people find imperfections in all sorts of ways. My father can't bear to look at me if I have a spot on my face.

I saw this yesterday:

Beautiful faces are everywhere but beautiful minds are hard to find.

I think the beautiful minds can see that "imperfections" are just differences and a sign of life lived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have so many stretchmarks on my tummy from pregnancy its like a tube map. Its never put anyone off.

Be proud of your battle scar xx"

Exactly this, its a scar from the battle you fought to save your life. Be proud of it, wear it as a badge of honour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

scares don't put me off at all

as for loss of limb or any other problems as you put it that would depend on what it was

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Thanks for replies.. I am not too bothered by mine or other peoples scars etc. Was just curious how others felt.

I was back at Kestrels 3 days after my op

people there were fine

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Thanks for replies.. I am not too bothered by mine or other peoples scars etc. Was just curious how others felt.

I was back at Kestrels 3 days after my op

people there were fine

I met you not long after your op. I didn't notice until you told me.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have an 'imperfection' that I thought would put guys off.

I am sure it has put some off but others are genuinely not bothered at all

I don't let it bother me so maybe that helps?

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By *elsiemarieWoman
over a year ago

melton mowbray

I have a pretty big scar (about 12inches) hadnt ever thought to mention it when I was on here previously. Scars definitely wouldn't bother me, they make us who we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every scar tells a story, they are part of who we are. It wouldn't concern me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not at all, one of my exs had a disfigured face from having over 100 stitches in it. But if it was something really big I'd like to have it mentioned just so I don't focus on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never ever mentioned my scars to anyone I'm arranging a meet with. They're just part and parcel of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got two broken collar bones that are still in the process of healing. One looks like a dog leg and the other is all lumpy due to multiple fractures. So I'm not as broad shouldered as I used to be and I'm probably not very good at naked Twister.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

Your body looks good to me I wouldn't worry what people think it's your body so be proud of it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all some parts of me look like I have been shot out of a cannon and landed in a bottle bank. Especially below the knees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever would it put me off everyone one has been down different paths to get where they are now and and to me what people see as imperfections i see as a persons perfections makes them who they are! Sorry if it sound cheesy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show us someone who is perfect on here and if I owned a hat I would eat it. Scars are no big deal we all have them. If it puts someone off meeting you then it's them that has the issues, dodged bullet in my opinion.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

To me scars just mean you have lived your life. If a scar bothers them that much, they are not worth meeting you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's fine and accept a person as a human, not a blemish free mannequin. Loads of great people who accept the person as well as the physical aspects of fun together.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Scars inside or out make us who we are.

I'm more interested in the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, I think scars show courage, versatility and we should take pride in them personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have so many stretchmarks on my tummy from pregnancy its like a tube map. Its never put anyone off.

Be proud of your battle scar xx"

They are to busy lookin at your beautiful tits!

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

"Scars inside or out make us who we are.

I'm more interested in the person. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all, I think scars show courage, versatility and we should take pride in them personally

Personally even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once knew and slept with a girl who'd lost a hand, so i doubt a little scar would even register with me really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it wouldn't bother me glade to hear your still here . its what's in the person that matters .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the little imperfections that make us prefer

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

Seen the pic and well they can fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the little imperfections that make us prefer

You should listen closely to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the little imperfections that make us prefer

You should listen closely to yourself

Shurrup

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No. I have a scar on my face from having skin cancer. It took me a while to get used to it. I was very aware of it for a long time afterwards. I had a 10p size hole cut out at the side of my nose so I've effectively had half a face lift. The surgeon made a fabulous job and it's probably not that noticeable now.

We are who we are and I don't have any issues with other people's body imperfections. My mind is my biggest sexual organ, if you switch that on, it doesn't really make any odds whether you have a hump.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like imperfections

Just as well, cos I have enough myself

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like scars.

My OH has a thing for hearing aids Steve

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like scars.

My OH has a thing for hearing aids Steve

Filthy beast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope - i have appendix, breast lump and laparoscopy scars, dog bite scars on my chin - nobody ever made a comment

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

They really do not bother me, I like a lived in body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are shallow x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

Yes some people will be put off by scars etc. Just as some are put off by beards, short people, gingers, fat people, etc.

You shouldn't assume that you were turned down just because of your scar. Perhaps they didn't like your eye colour, something you said, maybe their cat died, maybe they have a scar themselves and you mentioning yours made them feel self conscious.

Anything can put other people off meeting us. Don't worry about it, it's not really personal. They don't know you and you don't know them. You just aren't compatible.

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By *urreyloverMan
over a year ago

Guildford

The body is just an envelope for the personality. Just as envelopes in the post are rarely pristine, neither are bodies. It is what is inside that matters. The person's confidence and inner sexiness is what matters most. And you have that is spades!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Behind almost every scar is an interesting story. Wear yours with pride

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Not at all. And us blokes are not all ripped and hung adonis lookalikes !

Btw Your pics are sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Body imperfections..

I mean particularly where in my case breast cancer just a small scar and a dent really could be worse.

Had been talking to someone and when I mentioned that they stopped responding.

I was just curious if people really are bothered by scars or even loss of limb or any other problem you may have.

I have a lovely photo on my facebook of 8 brave ladies that have had various breast ops.

They still look wonderful to me, pretty, brave and alive.

Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

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yes I imagine many would be I don't mind scars and jiggly bits mind xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that scar aint a imperfection its a scar that states your alive and a brave lady

it certainly doesnt bother me if people have imperfections because i have them myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars define us and the lives we've lived. I'd suggest anyone who stops talking to you when you mentioned it certainly wasn't worth your time OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scars define us and the lives we've lived. I'd suggest anyone who stops talking to you when you mentioned it certainly wasn't worth your time OP"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars are just another part of who we are. I have an obvious keyhole surgery scar and some pretty visible stretch marks. I don't mention them to a prospective meet and no one has pointed them out. Confidence in what you have is beautiful and sexier than you think.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Is it more difficult to play when you are perceived to be imperfect ?

No-one is perfect.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Having read all the replies and comments so far it looks like the general consensus is: ITS NOTHING, WONT EVEN NOTICE.

Now let's come down to earth: a belly, skin colour, hair colour, place of birth, height etc are very concrete criteria used by people in life; more so even on here where it is pure NSA.

I'd say hypocrisy is at play or the discriminators( real word?) did not see the post.

Food for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me. Sick of media trying to define perfect. There is no such thing as perfect, we're all different.

I am far from perfect, but I am what I am. Think everyone has some degree of body consciousness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have so many stretchmarks on my tummy from pregnancy its like a tube map. Its never put anyone off.

Be proud of your battle scar xx"

wouldn't mind a season ticket up your Waterloo Line!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting topic.... not every imperfection is a scar, I have some imperfections that sometimes stop me from getting my clothes off, been trying to sort the problem out but seems nothing is helping at the moment.

Doesn't stop me having fun in other ways though, we dont have to take our clothes off to have a good time..... but it helps!

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Interesting topic.... not every imperfection is a scar, I have some imperfections that sometimes stop me from getting my clothes off, been trying to sort the problem out but seems nothing is helping at the moment.

Doesn't stop me having fun in other ways though, we dont have to take our clothes off to have a good time..... but it helps!

Oh yes I agree, I'm sure there are many things even skin conditions which can appear to be off putting tho as you say you can keep your clothes on

hope you sort out your problem soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is perfect. Personally it's the mind for me. I can tell straight away if we are going to click or not.

Scars, imperfections etc are irrelevant. Merely badges of honour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was told once - scars are survival marks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put me off in the slightest.

I once played with a lovely lady who'd had a mastectomy and although it was a shock, I didn't let it stop us.

I didn't let her off lightly, put it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i was told once - scars are survival marks "

Absolutely this. Lumps, bumps, cuts and bruises. All tell the story of who we are and where we've been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My scars are quite noticeable and I don't have an issue with them and aside from the odd idiot who can't help but speak before they think I dont have anyone offended by them...people are more likely to ask about them because they are unusual than comment In a bad way...they help to build you as a person and I'm proud of who I am and how I got to this point in my life...

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

As the chap a few posts up says, what difference is there between someone exercising their "preferences" and not seeing people above/below a certain height? Not seeing people due to their skin pigmentation? Not seeing someone because they are not "a professional?

Why should someone with a disability or scarring be perceived as different and not subject to the usually replies? E.g. "People are entitled to fuck whomever they please and if you don't fit their criteria move on and find someone whose specification you do match."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder why you would even mention it if I'm honest.

I have scarring from my sterilisation operation (about an inch on my stomach). I've never mentioned it. I've never had anyone mention it. If it's not a HUGE noticeable thing, then just don't mention it to people.

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