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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a single mum to 2 small boys, who I love with all my heart... But bloody hell, the pressure, its a never ending struggle to know weather your decisions are going to have a postitive or negative effect on thier life.

I use FAB as an escape and to just be me instead of 'mum'.

What pressures do you have in your life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single mum to 2 small boys, who I love with all my heart... But bloody hell, the pressure, its a never ending struggle to know weather your decisions are going to have a postitive or negative effect on thier life.

I use FAB as an escape and to just be me instead of 'mum'.

What pressures do you have in your life?"

Same as you, I'm a single dad, I've just moved house, and life is upside down right now.

When days go right, it's beautiful, when my little one goes off to sleep at a decent time, and I don't get any drama from external sources, it's like you can take the world on, but when they go bad, it feels like a disaster, but it's all about the planning, that's how you win lol

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Being a single mum isn't easy. Been there and worn the t-shirt for 18 years and in all honesty I'm finding now even harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Working away for the best part of five years and hardly seeing my little girl has been very very hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup been there myself - do your best and be honest with the kids when it gets a bit rough - when they are older they will rememeber and realise you are a fantastic mum - im so proud of my 2 now - growing up into responsible beautiful people xcx

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I'm in the same boat - a mum of 2 "co-parenting" as best I can with their dad. I try & make the most of my limited time when they are with him (1 night a week) but they are getting older (14 & 9) & starting to live their own lives. They can annoy me when they are here but I miss them when they're gone!!

Fab is my escape - I've made some great friends x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems like its a never ending battle of cleaning, washing, cooking and splitting up fights... But then I hear them playing nicely, laughing and my heart bursts with pride.

I have stopped myself from getting into new relationships as I don't want my boys to feel threatened by a man. But then they are sleeping and I'm left lonely and desperately seeking a decent adult conversion and the odd game of scrabble.

On another note... I really dislike cadburys creme eggs

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

my mother was as single mum and we had a very tight loving family unit and we do to this day. She has gone but my sister and I are amazingly close and would not have changed a day, the good ones and the many tough ones.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems like its a never ending battle of cleaning, washing, cooking and splitting up fights... But then I hear them playing nicely, laughing and my heart bursts with pride.

I have stopped myself from getting into new relationships as I don't want my boys to feel threatened by a man. But then they are sleeping and I'm left lonely and desperately seeking a decent adult conversion and the odd game of scrabble.

On another note... I really dislike cadburys creme eggs "

I was a single mum of 1, he sees his dad every other weekend. That will be changing soon as he has got a job at week emended whilst at college in the week. It's hard work, but I thank my lucky stars that iv had my family and his dad's family's help a lot with babysitting when needed etc. I do admire full time mums who have no-one to help. It dies get easier, when they get older.

I don't like cream eggs either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single mum to 2 small boys, who I love with all my heart... But bloody hell, the pressure, its a never ending struggle to know weather your decisions are going to have a postitive or negative effect on thier life.

I use FAB as an escape and to just be me instead of 'mum'.

What pressures do you have in your life?"

Ditto. Every single word of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find gravity a real challenge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone... Can be very isolating sometimes, but great to know I'm not alone feeling like this.

Now... Who wants to fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone... Can be very isolating sometimes, but great to know I'm not alone feeling like this.

Now... Who wants to fuck? "

Yeah go on then lol

So you don't know the joy of eating a creme egg and using a kit-Kat as soldiers then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat. Single mum of 3. Their dad isn't around and I don't have the luxury of a supportive family and masses of friends.

Life is hard at times. I spend my days at work and realise at times how lonely I've become.

For me fab is a place to be me not mum etc. I love my boys more than life but we all need a little me time too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely I'm not the only single dad in here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely I'm not the only single dad in here?"

I know a few single dad's on fab.

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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

Single mum of 1 boy who is old enough now to be having his own life but i will always be there for him, like a lot of people on here FAB is me escape to be me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single full-time dad of 1 gorgeous little person here. It is hugely difficult and stressful especially having to work full-time and run a house but it's also hugely rewarding knowing that I'm providing a safe haven for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps we should start a single parent swingers club, dress code = PJs and no actual sex going on because let's face it, we're all knackered lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely I'm not the only single dad in here?"

Another one here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say single parents are heroes and heroines in my book. Parenting is partly an art and sometimes (rocket) science with no real help from Google!

I brought my kids up as a married couple and of all my achievements in life pointing to the fact that all my kids are all upstanding members of society has to be my most rewarding. To undertake the parenting journey alone is a massive challenge and those who are on that sojourn have my respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i remember all the pressure with my four the what ifs the do i or dont i the tantrums etc but my four have made me proud and it was worth all the struggling you do your best you cry you laugh with me encourage them etc but most of all you do your best and simply love them

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

As a loving Mum OP your decisions will be exactly the right ones, so no need to worry on that score at all.

Creme Eggs are the work of the devil.

Ever thought of befriending a pensioner?

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"Thanks everyone... Can be very isolating sometimes, but great to know I'm not alone feeling like this.

Now... Who wants to fuck? "

I haven't got the energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok stop with the cream egg bashing, they are beautiful and good, what the hell is your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a step dad as well as a dad. I share my home with 2 of my own children and 3 older step children. The step children all have behaviour problems, two are on the verge of being expelled from school but being the step parent limits what you can do. My wife tries to control them and sometimes asks for my support but then sometimes claims Im over the top or treating them differently from my kids (maybe because mine behave duh!!) Their own father is useless and wont diciplin them and lets them get away with murder so Im constantly walking a razor blade with them. Its a horrendous pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the pressures associated with being a part time dad to a girl who has already far outstripped her mum mentally and spend a lot of time trying to undo damage caused by lack of forethought and kneejerk reactions on her mums part (while knowing that her actions were well meant).

The pressure from my job is also increasing exponentially right now which doesn't help.

Fab is a great release for me also. All my real friends live miles away, all my colleagues are married and settled, and it is difficult to meet people in the real world especially living in the arse end of nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a step dad as well as a dad. I share my home with 2 of my own children and 3 older step children. The step children all have behaviour problems, two are on the verge of being expelled from school but being the step parent limits what you can do. My wife tries to control them and sometimes asks for my support but then sometimes claims Im over the top or treating them differently from my kids (maybe because mine behave duh!!) Their own father is useless and wont diciplin them and lets them get away with murder so Im constantly walking a razor blade with them. Its a horrendous pressure."

Is your wife the other half of the couple inhabiting your profile? Because when she reads this later you two are going to have a hugely unenjoyable conversation about loyalty and discretion

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