FabSwingers.com forum: The "Ignorance" on Fab

By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

We forum regulars have all seen the re-occurring posts about how apparently rude and Ignorant it is not replying to messages. We also see the regular Discussion of how no-one seems to read profiles or do and chance messaging anyway. This leads me to draw one conclusion that if these things truely represent ignorance and rudeness, then they go hand in hand and Ignorance breeds Ignorance!

If you'd like to not have a message ignored then don't ignore a profile write up and only message if you're what the person(s) are specifically looking for, surely it's simple logic? Yet so commonly unused by many

Mini Rant/Discussional topic raised. So what are people's thoughts on this particular issue?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Once people have been here a while, they might come round to see your point of _iew with a little more clarity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That its been discussed to death

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts are below...

& that's about all I have to say on this matter

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"That its been discussed to death

Well I did say we'd seen the topics before but I thought the ignorance breeding ignorance angle was possibly a new take on the subject, I can't say I've seen it raised in this manner before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheese....

I must confess to not having read the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That its been discussed to death

Well I did say we'd seen the topics before but I thought the ignorance breeding ignorance angle was possibly a new take on the subject, I can't say I've seen it raised in this manner before "

I was teasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will continue happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or the alternative _iew ... expectation and entitlement breed contempt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bacon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bacon."

Oh yes please.

Good morning all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only reply to guys i'm interested in, so i'm sure a lot of polite guys are pissed off at me tbf.

This is what works for me though.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Bacon."

Im not sure how you can just say bacon about such a sausage topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We forum regulars have all seen the re-occurring posts about how apparently rude and Ignorant it is not replying to messages. We also see the regular Discussion of how no-one seems to read profiles or do and chance messaging anyway. This leads me to draw one conclusion that if these things truely represent ignorance and rudeness, then they go hand in hand and Ignorance breeds Ignorance!

Mini Rant/Discussional topic raised. So what are people's thoughts on this particular issue?

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I agree entirely, I do get frustrated when I see people go on about none profile readers I want to shout out "I do". There has been many occasions when I've been looking at someone and get to a part where I don't fit and think "ah well, that's a shame" I then move on without bothering them. Pity more people arn't the same.

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"That its been discussed to death

Well I did say we'd seen the topics before but I thought the ignorance breeding ignorance angle was possibly a new take on the subject, I can't say I've seen it raised in this manner before

I was teasing

Yes I got that too, but the forums being the forums there will no doubt be someone that takes that _iew with a more serious level of distain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mini Rant/Discussional topic raised. So what are people's thoughts on this particular issue?

Well said that couple

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

It is a site where the primary interaction is via messaging.

It is a site where the rules are, no response is a response.

Women are not going to activate filters, so will continue to complain

Men are not going to read everyone's profiles and will complain

People are not going to stop joining, & will always think this is a shag & go site

The cycle will continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Or the alternative _iew ... expectation and entitlement breed contempt "

Also very true depending on how you base your personal _iews

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a site where the primary interaction is via messaging.

It is a site where the rules are, no response is a response.

Women are not going to activate filters, so will continue to complain

Men are not going to read everyone's profiles and will complain

People are not going to stop joining, & will always think this is a shag & go site

The cycle will continue "

Yes this exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That its been discussed to death

Well I did say we'd seen the topics before but I thought the ignorance breeding ignorance angle was possibly a new take on the subject, I can't say I've seen it raised in this manner before

I was teasing

Yes I got that too, but the forums being the forums there will no doubt be someone that takes that _iew with a more serious level of distain "

Thats because everyone is different and do things differently!

Its just life theres a a bit of honesty there op but not intended to offend. Your point is probably correct.

If everyone read profiles and sent well constructed and thoughful messages we wpuld have less sex. A lazy fabber is a great filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or the alternative _iew ... expectation and entitlement breed contempt

Also very true depending on how you base your personal _iews "

Well indeed. Perhaps another thread 'the arrogance of Fab ?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is an area where I struggle to care now. I don't really care enough to be arsed to answer messages if I don't want to. I don't really care that much if someone wants to call me ignorant for that.

I do dislike the fact the word ignorant appears to have been adopted in everyday life to mean the same as rude or discourteous. If you want to say someone is rude, just say they're rude, why the need to appropriate another word which meant something different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Behaviour breeds behaviour to be honest.

I find the comments quite antagonistic, so what if people make new threads up etc etc.

Same as if someone chooses not to read my profile a polite no thanks doesn't hurt anyone.

It's a public forum so the same topics are bound to come up again, mods often direct to other posts rather than have two going about the same topic.

If you see one ignore it rather than patronise with the 'the regs of the forum' crap.

Comments like that are why some users of the forum feel the can be a clique etc.

Lots of people use the forum on a regular basis doesn't make than any different to some one on fab that only uses it once in a while.

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Mini Rant/Discussional topic raised. So what are people's thoughts on this particular issue?

Well said that couple"

Couple? I know a lot of couples only show images of the female half but I'm a single lady thanks

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Expecting a topic to be over is like expecting a new born baby to run because Eusain Bolt knows how to.

Everything is a new experience to those that haven't worked at it or through it.

Expect topics to return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just put some new pics up from last night .

Received 47 messages in 20 minutes .... and still coming .

Those who moan about not getting replies should try answering up to 100 an hour !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people don't reply to your message just put it down to you might not be for them, No point in getting wound up or stressed out about it, It's only an email and there are plenty of other Fab people on Fab.

That's My two-penneth anyway, I'm on here to have a laugh and hopefully some sexy fun, If I message someone and they don't reply that's their choice and don't think about it again. To many other interesting and hot people to chat, have banter and possibly have sexy fun with.

Have Fun and Happy Swinging. x

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I had a prime example this morning. A guy messages me to say, " have you had any meets?".

"have you read my profile?" - I have a number of verifications posted and also state I'm not currently meeting anyone new.

"yes, I've read your profile and you sound great. So how about meeting"

Needless to say I blocked and deleted. The random message senders don't bother checking profiles - so shouldn't moan when they get ignored, deleted or blocked.

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"That its been discussed to death

Well I did say we'd seen the topics before but I thought the ignorance breeding ignorance angle was possibly a new take on the subject, I can't say I've seen it raised in this manner before

I was teasing

Yes I got that too, but the forums being the forums there will no doubt be someone that takes that _iew with a more serious level of distain

Thats because everyone is different and do things differently!

Its just life theres a a bit of honesty there op but not intended to offend. Your point is probably correct.

If everyone read profiles and sent well constructed and thoughful messages we wpuld have less sex. A lazy fabber is a great filter

Yes and the varying types of personalities presented is why I personally love the forums, but it's an acquired taste for some. Yes the lazy fabber filter is my favourite one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a site where the primary interaction is via messaging.

It is a site where the rules are, no response is a response.

Women are not going to activate filters, so will continue to complain

Men are not going to read everyone's profiles and will complain

People are not going to stop joining, & will always think this is a shag & go site

The cycle will continue "

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Or the alternative _iew ... expectation and entitlement breed contempt

Also very true depending on how you base your personal _iews

Well indeed. Perhaps another thread 'the arrogance of Fab ?' "

Yes and I do see how my "sense of entitlement" to have my profile read and wishes within it respected could be deemed as my own "arrogance", but that really was not my intention of the post, hence the air quotes, but I'm broad minded enough to see it from that angle

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I guess I feel as though there are bigger deals to worry about. I reply in pretty much the same way to everyone, in a polite, respectful manner. I do this, simply because I'm in charge of how I behave. I can choose not to be rude or ignorant.

I rarely get abuse, I could probably count on one hand the nasty messages I've received in ten years. I have no filters, I have no-one on my block list and I have no ban history. I don't moan about shite on the forums and I leave other people to get on with their swinging in the way that suits them. It's perfect for me. I don't allow the way other people behave to have an effect on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That its been discussed to death

Well I did say we'd seen the topics before but I thought the ignorance breeding ignorance angle was possibly a new take on the subject, I can't say I've seen it raised in this manner before

I was teasing

Yes I got that too, but the forums being the forums there will no doubt be someone that takes that _iew with a more serious level of distain

Thats because everyone is different and do things differently!

Its just life theres a a bit of honesty there op but not intended to offend. Your point is probably correct.

If everyone read profiles and sent well constructed and thoughful messages we wpuld have less sex. A lazy fabber is a great filter

Yes and the varying types of personalities presented is why I personally love the forums, but it's an acquired taste for some. Yes the lazy fabber filter is my favourite one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Behaviour breeds behaviour to be honest.

I find the comments quite antagonistic, so what if people make new threads up etc etc.

Same as if someone chooses not to read my profile a polite no thanks doesn't hurt anyone.

It's a public forum so the same topics are bound to come up again, mods often direct to other posts rather than have two going about the same topic.

If you see one ignore it rather than patronise with the 'the regs of the forum' crap.

Comments like that are why some users of the forum feel the can be a clique etc.

Lots of people use the forum on a regular basis doesn't make than any different to some one on fab that only uses it once in a while. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a site where the primary interaction is via messaging.

It is a site where the rules are, no response is a response.

Women are not going to activate filters, so will continue to complain

Men are not going to read everyone's profiles and will complain

People are not going to stop joining, & will always think this is a shag & go site

The cycle will continue

Yes this exactly. "

This. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mini Rant/Discussional topic raised. So what are people's thoughts on this particular issue?

Well said that couple

Couple? I know a lot of couples only show images of the female half but I'm a single lady thanks

Oops so you are...see best advert eight there for a reading a profile before a comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or the alternative _iew ... expectation and entitlement breed contempt

Also very true depending on how you base your personal _iews

Well indeed. Perhaps another thread 'the arrogance of Fab ?'

It wasn't a dig at anyone in particular, rather a comment on the dynamics of a site.

It is set up for community use, but is primarily used to individual advantage.

So, by default, there will always be an element of disharmony amongst the users.

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"[Removed by poster at 05/12/15 09:36:55]"

I know it wasn't a dig Bussy you were just giving alternative perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expecting a topic to be over is like expecting a new born baby to run because Eusain Bolt knows how to.

Everything is a new experience to those that haven't worked at it or through it.

Expect topics to return. "

And don't complain about seeing repeated topics. It's your fault you keep reading the same topics,week in,week out,year in,year out. Try doing something different instead of moaning about repeat threads.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ok, rants in various forms about messages occur daily.

Content of message, lack of content, the way innocent messages are phrased, why don't people read my profile.

Its never going to bloody change no matter how much people rant.

This is a site linked to sex but if you where anywhere else with some kind of advert you'd still get messages you don't like.

How many people have had messages from people who haven't read the advert when selling goods.

How many employers get replies from people who are not in the least bit suitable for the job.

Now I get my fair share of stupid messages, people who haven't read my profile, fancy a fuck messages, but really the majority have read it.

I ignore the ones I have no interest in and respond to the ones I am.

If it was a problem I'd change what I was doing or set all my filters and go looking myself.

I actually wonder what people would do if every message they received completly fitted their criteria, how would you sort through your messages then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we read profiles and there has been an odd time we have messaged anyway - usually if we fit most of the wants and needs and only one thing is a total clash - word the message well and usually find that the one thing isnt a deal breaker at all -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only reply to guys i'm interested in, so i'm sure a lot of polite guys are pissed off at me tbf.

This is what works for me though."

Same here

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Treating it all with a high level of indifference and as an add on to an existing healthy sex life.

It works perfectly then

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"So what are people's thoughts on this particular issue?

my head hurts......

need some ice cream.....

need some wine......

are all of these valid answers.....

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Ok, rants in various forms about messages occur daily.