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By *eddABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

Since it's so many single males here what makes one stand out of the pack?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock pics?"

Be nice Dan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything but lines like 'what's the biggest cock youve ever had' or well, just don't mention cock.. Not as an opening message at least. Tell us a bit about yourself what you like to do in your spare time or something tell us an interesting fact about yourself (maybe not the 6th toe on your right foot) add a bit of humour to the mix and you've got a better chance of getting a response oh and pics are good.. Again, no cocks just yet

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By *eddABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London


"Anything but lines like 'what's the biggest cock youve ever had' or well, just don't mention cock.. Not as an opening message at least. Tell us a bit about yourself what you like to do in your spare time or something tell us an interesting fact about yourself (maybe not the 6th toe on your right foot) add a bit of humour to the mix and you've got a better chance of getting a response oh and pics are good.. Again, no cocks just yet "

Thanks for your tips.

I ask this because I have a friend who told me she receives about 300 messages roughly per day and I was just shocked. Is there even time to go through them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything but lines like 'what's the biggest cock youve ever had' or well, just don't mention cock.. Not as an opening message at least. Tell us a bit about yourself what you like to do in your spare time or something tell us an interesting fact about yourself (maybe not the 6th toe on your right foot) add a bit of humour to the mix and you've got a better chance of getting a response oh and pics are good.. Again, no cocks just yet "

100% agree,

If you can make me laugh you will get my attention. Cock pics are a massive no,no for me so any with your message will just be deleted as I know you did't read my profile..

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By *eddABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

And I also feel like just because I'm 27 that's an automatic turndown

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By *eddABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

OK. So no cock pics. And I'm a naturally funny guy. Always have a good laugh and I think it keeps me looking young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything but lines like 'what's the biggest cock youve ever had' or well, just don't mention cock.. Not as an opening message at least. Tell us a bit about yourself what you like to do in your spare time or something tell us an interesting fact about yourself (maybe not the 6th toe on your right foot) add a bit of humour to the mix and you've got a better chance of getting a response oh and pics are good.. Again, no cocks just yet

Thanks for your tips.

I ask this because I have a friend who told me she receives about 300 messages roughly per day and I was just shocked. Is there even time to go through them "

No there isn't I'll be honest I only read messages from people who's profile pic isn't a cock pic I did used to try and read all messages but can't keep up lately make sure the first bit of your message interesting so to make people want to read it. Sounds like we expect you to jump through hoops but it gets boring seeing loads of one line messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything but lines like 'what's the biggest cock youve ever had' or well, just don't mention cock.. Not as an opening message at least. Tell us a bit about yourself what you like to do in your spare time or something tell us an interesting fact about yourself (maybe not the 6th toe on your right foot) add a bit of humour to the mix and you've got a better chance of getting a response oh and pics are good.. Again, no cocks just yet

Thanks for your tips.

I ask this because I have a friend who told me she receives about 300 messages roughly per day and I was just shocked. Is there even time to go through them

No there isn't I'll be honest I only read messages from people who's profile pic isn't a cock pic I did used to try and read all messages but can't keep up lately make sure the first bit of your message interesting so to make people want to read it. Sounds like we expect you to jump through hoops but it gets boring seeing loads of one line messages "

There's a typo in there somewhere too tired to figure it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt your age is the case as we are all on here for our own reasons, to explore our sexuality and maybe bring some fantasy's to life.

You need to be a little creative with your messages, Don't just put "Hi" in the subject box. You need to make it stand out from the rest otherwise people will think it's just another boring mass sent message and it probably wont get the response you want.

Also read the whole of profiles before messaging, A little info can go a long way.

After all ,If folk are to lazy to make a little effort in getting a meet then they must be lazy in other departments too...!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Similar to most of the other posts. Most of the time I won't be free to meet now, so if it's a pressured message for now, it's not that welcome. Have your message be about you - but not in a self obsessed way - as well as about me.

Shag always mentions patience, so he would be my ideal guy - if I see that someone isn't desperate and pushy.

Aim never to write just a couple of sentences and letting me know that you're friendly.

Smiling face pics do a lot for me. Get others to take them for you as you won't be straining in a selfie.

Consider outlining when you're usually available. And let me see that I'm not just a piece of meat for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything but lines like 'what's the biggest cock youve ever had' or well, just don't mention cock.. Not as an opening message at least. Tell us a bit about yourself what you like to do in your spare time or something tell us an interesting fact about yourself (maybe not the 6th toe on your right foot) add a bit of humour to the mix and you've got a better chance of getting a response oh and pics are good.. Again, no cocks just yet "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't turn me into a fetish, i'm a person primarily. Act like you've got your shit together. Face pic (physical attraction needed here). Something to reply to, could be funny, interesting, a decent question, anything, but i agree with the above about meeting and the pressure that comes with asking for a meet when you don't even know (or trust) that person. If i have a status up looking for a meet then it means i'm feeling confident about my selection process, otherwise take it i need to get to know you first.

There's other stuff but i'll keep it confidential because i don't like guys to know everything. I prefer them to be themselves then if we're not compatible it shows.

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

You need to have read our profile and fit what we're looking for first of all. Then be able to have a chat non sexually and provide a face pic. That's the tricky bit, I (Mrs), either think yes or no. Not looking for stunning good looks, just eyes I'd wanna gaze into when I cum! Finally more non sexual chat to find out if we have compatible sense of humours and likes so we can have something to chat about at a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a guy who doesnt think that he has to show off his cock is a good start then its his humour if he can make me laugh then hes half way there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a guy who doesnt think that he has to show off his cock is a good start then its his humour if he can make me laugh then hes half way there "

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By *eddABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

Sorry ladies I just got to work I wil take my time to read all the responses and I want to thank each one of you for your time and effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a guy who doesnt think that he has to show off his cock is a good start then its his humour if he can make me laugh then hes half way there "

What if showing you my...err....their cocks is what makes you laugh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been chatting to a few guys off here and it tends to be an ability to hold a conversation, respond appropriately when I share pics and basically let me get to know them better whilst feeling sexual and attractive with them. Common interests, such as strap on play amongst other things helps, as does responding to the profile that has been written.

Although there are some guys I have spoken to based on looks alone Nd 9.5/10 times it hasn't gone so well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always wear your Batman outfit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock pics?

Be nice Dan "

It said question for ladies dan. That message was rude to the op. Haha..

Manners stand out for me.

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By *eddABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London


"Cock pics?

Be nice Dan

It said question for ladies dan. That message was rude to the op. Haha..

Manners stand out for me. "

Don't worry I don't get easily offend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont really browse the guys unless we like the lady - but .... its me on the forums and you get a feel of the type of person they are - a small handful of guys id like to share a coffee or two with

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

One with the intelligence to work out what attracts women, decent person, decent messages, one whose taken advice when things haven't been working out and changed what they are doing.

One who doesn't play victim and blames everyone else.

One who isn't socially inept

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"You need to have read our profile and fit what we're looking for first of all. Then be able to have a chat non sexually and provide a face pic. That's the tricky bit, I (Mrs), either think yes or no. Not looking for stunning good looks, just eyes I'd wanna gaze into when I cum! Finally more non sexual chat to find out if we have compatible sense of humours and likes so we can have something to chat about at a social

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All of this works for us except P does like a cock pic too as she's not into surprises

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants


"OK. So no cock pics. And I'm a naturally funny guy. Always have a good laugh and I think it keeps me looking young "

Start your message with a joke! That's actually something I've asked for on my profile lol. It shows someone is interested in talking and has taken a bit of time on you. My pet hate is a message that just says "Hi".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recon it is by luck we stand out more than the other and who they fancy at the given time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A unique message. Less cock pics on profile. Humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black and white pics. It's the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since it's so many single males here what makes one stand out of the pack? "

I find putting a bit of effort into your profile shows your serious about meeting and not just one of the many idiots who just want to collect pics then disappear.

Oh and I've found having a decent body to show off in your public pics definitely helps but mainly just appear genuine and you will more than likely have success.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Regardless of what most will say

You need to send a genuine face pic that they find irresistible

Beyond that you will struggle

Humour , many men have that

Articulate and polite , hundreds of men

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