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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So....

I am suppose to go out with the uni lot tonight for a christmas bash and we all rub along just fine, I get the "grandad" jokes and I get to tell them what it was like in my day...

But I am making my excuses and bailing as the next oldest to me is 10 years younger and I feel a little uncomfortable going out for a night in Bristol with the buggers. I have told them I can't arrange accommodation (though the truth is I could probably arrange a hotel or something).

Am I being overly age sensitive? I just don't want to feel like some weird old bloke (now before you reply that I am, be aware I am a sensitive soul )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the coolest guys we tend to go to the pub with is almost 50. He is great fun and would be the first person I would invite if given the choice.

It's about your attitude, not your age.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude, you're 40. Thats not old

Go.

Party....before you really are too old to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude your only 40, its not like your drawing your pension anytime soon.

Just go for it, im sure it'll be a great d*unken night out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought that as intimidated as you are, they feel the same. You'll have life experience. Get yourself out...40 is not old! X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry for laughing but your only bloody 40 have you thought they might want you to be there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get out there and have a good time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry for laughing but your only bloody 40 have you thought they might want you to be there "

Well... um.. I have a rucksack older than most of the people on my course , maybe just one drink and then politely make excuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dude, you're 40. Thats not old

Go.

Party....before you really are too old to do so.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go, have fun, have some drinks and some banter, I bet you could drink the young ones under the table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dude, you're 40. Thats not old

Go.

Party....before you really are too old to do so.

"

I never quantified how old 'too old' was! Dont make me have to spank you now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my best friends on my Masters degree course was 50. Go and be merry

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think your being over sensitive, I used to sometimes go out on student nights, I wasn't that much older than them but I was married with a child.

Used to have a great time, plus drinks and clubs where cheap the only thing that put me off was the horrendous noise in the clubs they chose my ears would be dead for days

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

By the simple fact that you were invited is an acknowledgement that your company is enjoyed and wanted xx Go teach the young ones how to do things properly

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Last time my partner went out with the *young ones* he ended up gate-crashing a private party in a nightclub and all the young women wanted to dance with him and he's 72

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Enjoy the watered down warm beer and avoid any foam party invites - worst time of my life!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Enjoy the watered down warm beer and avoid any foam party invites - worst time of my life! "

Last time I was at uni (30 that time). I ended up being debagged by Coventry University Netball Team for suggesting they had their acronym on the back of their hoodies... I am not sure I am cut out for this!

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"So....

I am suppose to go out with the uni lot tonight for a christmas bash and we all rub along just fine, I get the "grandad" jokes and I get to tell them what it was like in my day...

But I am making my excuses and bailing as the next oldest to me is 10 years younger and I feel a little uncomfortable going out for a night in Bristol with the buggers. I have told them I can't arrange accommodation (though the truth is I could probably arrange a hotel or something).

Am I being overly age sensitive? I just don't want to feel like some weird old bloke (now before you reply that I am, be aware I am a sensitive soul )"

Why not go with the pre-emptive, 'if its shit I will make my excuses' - the best nights are usually the ones you are not really up for. It may turn out you will have a blast, might even get laid, and you will wonder what you were originally fussing about. Go for it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So....

I am suppose to go out with the uni lot tonight for a christmas bash and we all rub along just fine, I get the "grandad" jokes and I get to tell them what it was like in my day...

But I am making my excuses and bailing as the next oldest to me is 10 years younger and I feel a little uncomfortable going out for a night in Bristol with the buggers. I have told them I can't arrange accommodation (though the truth is I could probably arrange a hotel or something).

Am I being overly age sensitive? I just don't want to feel like some weird old bloke (now before you reply that I am, be aware I am a sensitive soul )

Why not go with the pre-emptive, 'if its shit I will make my excuses' - the best nights are usually the ones you are not really up for. It may turn out you will have a blast, might even get laid, and you will wonder what you were originally fussing about. Go for it!"

Or spend a lonely night in a hotel. Well I am close to biting some sort of bullet...

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I'm in my 50s and have loads of friends in their 20s and 30s and don't feel in the least bit weird about it....but to be honest I've never given a stuff what anybody thinks about me anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm in my 50s and have loads of friends in their 20s and 30s and don't feel in the least bit weird about it....but to be honest I've never given a stuff what anybody thinks about me anyway "

Send me that attitude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Done it, booked a room. If this goes wrong... I need someone to blame!

Thanks for the messages guys... eek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Done it, booked a room. If this goes wrong... I need someone to blame!

Thanks for the messages guys... eek! "

Have fun!!!

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Done it, booked a room. If this goes wrong... I need someone to blame!

Thanks for the messages guys... eek! "

Hope you have a great night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy yourself. And if it's shit just blame the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Enjoy yourself. And if it's shit just blame the forums "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So....

I am suppose to go out with the uni lot tonight for a christmas bash and we all rub along just fine, I get the "grandad" jokes and I get to tell them what it was like in my day...

But I am making my excuses and bailing as the next oldest to me is 10 years younger and I feel a little uncomfortable going out for a night in Bristol with the buggers. I have told them I can't arrange accommodation (though the truth is I could probably arrange a hotel or something).

Am I being overly age sensitive? I just don't want to feel like some weird old bloke (now before you reply that I am, be aware I am a sensitive soul )"

I absolutely understand how you feel and there's very little point spending an uncomfortable evening. I felt exactly the same when our daughter invited us to Wetherspoons on her 21st. One drink and make your excuses would be my favoured option, if after the one drink you feel comfortable...stay.

Whatever you decide hope you enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bricking myself. Of all the things I have done in the world, why does this fill me with fear?

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Go, have fun, have some drinks and some banter, I bet you could drink the young ones under the table "

This Age has never stopped me, always top of the invite list with friends....age is really just a number, personality and sense of fun is what counts xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry for laughing but your only bloody 40 have you thought they might want you to be there

Well... um.. I have a rucksack older than most of the people on my course , maybe just one drink and then politely make excuses "

I think you are being a bit over sensitive and maybe your the only one who sees your age as an issue.

If you go to the toilet and when you get back their all gone then I guess I was wrong....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 50 most of my friends are in there 30s. Having the time of my life with them xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Bricking myself. Of all the things I have done in the world, why does this fill me with fear? "

Because your perception is that you will be out of your comfort zone. You are entitled to feel that way and there's no shame in it. We've all seen the older hanger on and none of us wants to be that person however I'm pretty sure that you'll be able to tell if you're in danger of that happening

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well if nothing else I have a hotel room in Bristol

Joke, have a great night all! Thanks again for all the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be the ringleader not the hanger on show the youngsters how it's done x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thanks for convincing me you lovely lot. I think I didn't do so bad after all...

My shoulder has been well and truly cried on, I may have achieved legendary status as "the old man with hollow legs", and there may (just may) be some CCTV footage from Bristol that I shouldn't be proud of...

Now I need a lie down and possibly my slippers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the coolest guys we tend to go to the pub with is almost 50. He is great fun and would be the first person I would invite if given the choice.

It's about your attitude, not your age.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well thanks for convincing me you lovely lot. I think I didn't do so bad after all...

My shoulder has been well and truly cried on, I may have achieved legendary status as "the old man with hollow legs", and there may (just may) be some CCTV footage from Bristol that I shouldn't be proud of...

Now I need a lie down and possibly my slippers

"

Glad you had a good time

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

well done old cock

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Well thanks for convincing me you lovely lot. I think I didn't do so bad after all...

My shoulder has been well and truly cried on, I may have achieved legendary status as "the old man with hollow legs", and there may (just may) be some CCTV footage from Bristol that I shouldn't be proud of...

Now I need a lie down and possibly my slippers

"
well there you bloody go, I'm really glad you posted the thread and ended up having a good time.

Can we be of any further assistance

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow

we are in our fifties and get called party animals from young and old not sure if that's good or bad lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well thanks for convincing me you lovely lot. I think I didn't do so bad after all...

My shoulder has been well and truly cried on, I may have achieved legendary status as "the old man with hollow legs", and there may (just may) be some CCTV footage from Bristol that I shouldn't be proud of...

Now I need a lie down and possibly my slippers

well there you bloody go, I'm really glad you posted the thread and ended up having a good time.

Can we be of any further assistance "

Fry-up or muesli?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have several great friends who are 20+ years older than me. They can drink me under the table, swear as much as I do, talk filth and generally are fabulous company. Go out, have fun and stop worrying about the age gap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surrounded by the younger guys trust me go out. It will only highlight what a lovely prospect you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surrounded by the younger guys trust me go out. It will only highlight what a lovely prospect you are. "

Sorry guys, I may now be confusing you all... eek! The night is done I was just thanking those that advised me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well thanks for convincing me you lovely lot. I think I didn't do so bad after all...

My shoulder has been well and truly cried on, I may have achieved legendary status as "the old man with hollow legs", and there may (just may) be some CCTV footage from Bristol that I shouldn't be proud of...

Now I need a lie down and possibly my slippers

"

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surrounded by the younger guys trust me go out. It will only highlight what a lovely prospect you are.

Sorry guys, I may now be confusing you all... eek! The night is done I was just thanking those that advised me x"

Teach me not to read the whole thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im nearly always one of the eldest - go and have fun - if once youre there you feel a but awkward you can leave early - and then face the butt of gotta get an early night old thing or it may be great and you can show em all how to have fun -

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well thanks for convincing me you lovely lot. I think I didn't do so bad after all...

My shoulder has been well and truly cried on, I may have achieved legendary status as "the old man with hollow legs", and there may (just may) be some CCTV footage from Bristol that I shouldn't be proud of...

Now I need a lie down and possibly my slippers

"

Good!! Glad you enjoyed it

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