FabSwingers.com forum: Standards and vertification

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So have been on the site for a while now and while I am extremely keen to meet and enjoy some friendships and potentially more I find getting meets very difficult. I have been chatting and getting on extremely well with a lot of women and couples however they won't met as I don't have any verified meets. I have standards and won't just meet anyone however should I throw them out the window just to get a vertification status? Which I am absolutely sure will ensure help me to get meets in the future of which I really want to enjoy the scene

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Ah!

That old catch-22.

This place is like a vampiric Trip Advisor.

Try fucking men - took me less than 2 weeks to get verified

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I don't remember it being particularly onerous to get verified....

*insert "those were the days/I remember when this were all fields" comment here*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone likes you then they should be adult enough to meet you despite you not having verifications,to say they won't is a lazy cop out excuse for not meeting

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Not having verifications isn't a barrier to meeting

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Get a webcam veri so they can at least see you are who you say you are?

Or go to a club?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Not having verifications isn't a barrier to meeting"
and not having meetings isn't a barrier to getting verifications.

As you can get one via a cam in a chat room.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Only natural people will be apprehensive ,you are on over a year and not verified in any way . That would raise a red flag to alot of people as to whether you actually want to meet or if you put the effort in at all.

Nothing to stop you using chat room and going on cam to show your genuine. Or go to a social in your area. Great way to talk to folks with no pressures and get verified. Balls in your court and you will only ever get out of the site the effort you put in .I wish you luck on your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do get a verification are we to assume you lowered your standards to get it? Love to be that person

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Not having verifications isn't a barrier to meeting"

It can be for some folk. Verification provides s certain (misplaced?) level of comfort. Without it, or being known locally, I'm sure it must be hard for folk to get started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you do get a verification are we to assume you lowered your standards to get it? Love to be that person

I would go for the club option myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As known commonly in economic terms "A barrier to Entry"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a cam veri in the chat room, its easy.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Not having verifications isn't a barrier to meeting and not having meetings isn't a barrier to getting verifications.

As you can get one via a cam in a chat room. "

i've been on webcam quite a few times in the chat room (for normal use honest) and shown a fair amount of people my face and had nice long conversations with them but none ever offered to verify me?

come to think of it been on cam quite a lot or just general conversations in the chat rooms, ah well comes down to luck really..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Not having verifications isn't a barrier to meeting and not having meetings isn't a barrier to getting verifications.

As you can get one via a cam in a chat room.

i've been on webcam quite a few times in the chat room (for normal use honest) and shown a fair amount of people my face and had nice long conversations with them but none ever offered to verify me?

come to think of it been on cam quite a lot or just general conversations in the chat rooms, ah well comes down to luck really.."

Id say go in the bisexual chat room where you will find loads of straight men all wanking for each other. People might recognise your cock?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Not having verifications isn't a barrier to meeting and not having meetings isn't a barrier to getting verifications.

As you can get one via a cam in a chat room.

i've been on webcam quite a few times in the chat room (for normal use honest) and shown a fair amount of people my face and had nice long conversations with them but none ever offered to verify me?

come to think of it been on cam quite a lot or just general conversations in the chat rooms, ah well comes down to luck really.."

Nothing to stop you asking the person you are chatting to ,if they would be happy to verify you being on cam .

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Id say go in the bisexual chat room where you will find loads of straight men all wanking for each other. People might recognise your cock?

noooo! lol I just go in the regular chat rooms be it general or verified and sometimes directing but I don't just take my willy out and start bashing away like a horny animal I just for the most part do normal camming if I wish to go on it..

haha

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Id say go in the bisexual chat room where you will find loads of straight men all wanking for each other. People might recognise your cock?

haha"

Yeah, it's just full of fat old men :/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am vertified by picture isn't that the same as vertification by webcam surely a meet vertification is much different than a meeting in person vertification

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Nothing to stop you asking the person you are chatting to ,if they would be happy to verify you being on cam ."

I never ask though and more or less leave it up to them to decide really if they wish to verify then by all means and if not then guess that's just how it is really..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm also from belfast Northern Ireland and from what I know clubs are quite rare or if anyone can help with with a few it would be greatly appreciated

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I'm also from belfast Northern Ireland and from what I know clubs are quite rare or if anyone can help with with a few it would be greatly appreciated "

Kneecapping club? :o

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's like getting a unionised job, you can't belong to the union unless you have a job, but you can't get a job unless you belong to the union. I've seen a few couples say they won't meet anyone unless they have been verified within the last 6 months, no matter that you may have 50 verifications. Took me a few months to finally meet and get verified, got 3 more only to lose two of them when the couples left the site. Keep at it, if you're not a complete nutjob, someone will agree to meet you

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Yeah, it's just full of fat old men :/"

wouldn't know as I never watch men's cam's hehe unless it's some one who I talk with normally and were just having a regular conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cam Veris mean sod all.....should be scrapped as they did with phones Veris

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Nothing to stop you asking the person you are chatting to ,if they would be happy to verify you being on cam .

I never ask though and more or less leave it up to them to decide really if they wish to verify then by all means and if not then guess that's just how it is really.."

Then you can't complain that they don't lol

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Hi

Have they actually said that they meet you because you don't have a verificatuon or is that something you surmise yourself?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people meet unverified people so it's not the be all and end all.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Then you can't complain that they don't lol"

wasn't really complaining temptress was just stating an example and was wondering about it, that's all honest

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Some people meet unverified people so it's not the be all and end all. "

I meet unverified people.

We were all unverified once.

What's the big deal?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

It's really not that difficult to get verified.

I got a meet with a young couple the first day I joined and my first verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't remember it being particularly onerous to get verified....

*insert "those were the days/I remember when this were all fields" comment here*"

I was gonna say I don't either

And they were nice fields back then though eh....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Some people meet unverified people so it's not the be all and end all.

I meet unverified people.

We were all unverified once.

What's the big deal?"

I'd say a big deal is a large television for £50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the op has been on the site for over a year , and has not one veri due to his high standards .

What a load of tosh , is there really not a single woman in Belfast or the surrounding area good enough for a coffee on here ?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Then you can't complain that they don't lol

wasn't really complaining temptress was just stating an example and was wondering about it, that's all honest

Sorry but if you don't ask them to verify you then no mystery why ppl then don't lol. Quite simply if you don't ask you won't get .

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Verifications are not a golden ticket to the pussy. People (like me) will meet unverified people if there is an attraction. Don't stress about verifications.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Some people meet unverified people so it's not the be all and end all.

I meet unverified people.

We were all unverified once.

What's the big deal?"

I've met unverified ppl ...but rings alarm bells to me if they are on so long and not verified .

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Sorry but if you don't ask them to verify you then no mystery why ppl then don't lol. Quite simply if you don't ask you won't get . "

I suppose so then, maybe next time I speak to a nice girl in the chat room's and she likes what she see's after seeing my face and we have nice conversation.....

maybe i'll ask towards the end of the convo if she would like to verify? or not I dunno just brainstorming here as I never really ask anyone for much on here..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I might go on cam

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Verifications are not a golden ticket to the pussy. People (like me) will meet unverified people if there is an attraction. Don't stress about verifications."

Same with me. Ask for a social meet. Meet for a coffee in the day or a drink in a pub. Public place. Can't see why you haven't managed a single meet in a year!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What does a webcam verify for a single guy though.

It's not like anyone's going to pretend to be a bloke is it?

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"What does a webcam verify for a single guy though.

It's not like anyone's going to pretend to be a bloke is it?"

Beat me to it

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