FabSwingers.com forum: The homeless

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever chatted to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Every working night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes the one who wanted to show me his heroin needles on the bus just wouldn't shut up.

Apparently he once shut his ex gf in a wardrobe and set it on fire too.

I'm hoping that was bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,they are not Lepers

People end up homeless for a variety of reasons,some more tragic than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, briefly. Not long conversations but often buy a coffee or a burger etc rather than give money.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes I have and the ones I've sat and chatted to seem to appreciate it. Even just giving them a smile and letting them know they are human beings.

I've been there once and know what it's like.

Did have fun with four homeless people in Leicester, I was in a small park and my son was gathering conquers and they came and asked if they could help.

Took half an hour out their miserable or lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, all the time back home in NYC.

Once in Colchester we had a long conversation with a group of really nice homeless people about how awful people who abuse dogs are. Our dogs got along well, too.

I like talking to homeless people. It can be enlightening, really.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I did talk to one and paid for sex

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Yes the one who wanted to show me his heroin needles on the bus just wouldn't shut up.

Apparently he once shut his ex gf in a wardrobe and set it on fire too.

I'm hoping that was bullshit.

Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't.

I worked alongside the Probation service for 10 years. It was a real eye-opener - people from all sections of the community, including homeless. Some really sad cases x

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

Yep. There's a guy called freckles I talk to regularly. He knows I don't give him money for his drug habit but I will buy him food and drink

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I've never spoken to anyone sleeping rough on the street though because I'm not out & about.

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By *ony5Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Yes I try and chat to the Big Issue seller I walk past on the way to the station.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones in Newcastle, when you see them getting out of their sleeping bags on the streets have better trainers than me

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

locals in rochdale are tieing hats coats and scarves etc to lampposts for the homeless to wear to keep warm in the winter

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By *ony5Man
over a year ago

somewhere

"locals in rochdale are tieing hats coats and scarves etc to lampposts for the homeless to wear to keep warm in the winter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once when I lived in Brixton, but that was only to ask him to stop having sex with a prostitute behind my flat

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Once when I lived in Brixton, but that was only to ask him to stop having sex with a prostitute behind my flat "

Seems fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever chatted to them?"

Them ??? You mean fellow human beings ..

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Have you ever chatted to them?"

Yes.

Usually because they've been ignored all day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either. "

I have to agree here I'm afraid, I don't talk to random strangers when I'm out, I know they are homeless etc but at the end of the day you don't know the person that looks like they have a home and has food in their fridge actually has those things, those people you walk past and dismiss as ok actually might not be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did with my ex husband one night...

We had a night out and stopped for a take away and walked past a couple...

They didnt beg as such but looked hungry so we gave them the take away..

They fell on hard times and had no where to stay, I hope they got sorted :-/

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago

"Have you ever chatted to them?"

why? what's your angle with this question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really have brought a few food on the odd occasion when asked for Money. Never stopped for a chat other than a few words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, normally in the evening though, when it's cold and dull. No, I rarely stop and talk to random people on the street, but I talk to homeless people as they are lonely, so I expect conversation does them good. Not once has anyone I've spoken to thought I was crazy or told me to get lost, which I would expect many non-homeless people would do/think.

If I could give more than a general chit chat then I would, but at least they know they aren't ignored and some acknowledge their situation and that even a friendly chat can help.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either. "

I'm inclined to agree with this. I chat to a homeless man I know because he sells the Big Issue, he knows my mum, I know about his family and he knows about mine. I don't chat to random homeless people unless it's under circumstances where I would talk to someone anyway eg bus queue, for one thing in feel its slightly patronising to assume that anyone wants me to suddenly strike up a conversation with them out of the blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either.

True....but usually when I have spoken to homeless people its because they have begun talking to me, not the other way around. But then I continue the conversation instead of just telling them I have to go. I don't think that is patronizing.

For example, when we chatted about dogs, it was because they saw my dog was an unusual type and asked us about her. And this started a longer conversation.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever chatted to them?

why? what's your angle with this question?"

I'd hazard a guess, but I don't want a time out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either.

For example, when we chatted about dogs, it was because they saw my dog was an unusual type and asked us about her. And this started a longer conversation.

-Courtney"

Again I agree responding to a homeless person as you would anybody is far from patronising. The clue isn't in the homeless bit its in the person bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either.

For example, when we chatted about dogs, it was because they saw my dog was an unusual type and asked us about her. And this started a longer conversation.

-Courtney

Again I agree responding to a homeless person as you would anybody is far from patronising. The clue isn't in the homeless bit its in the person bit."

True.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever chatted to them?

Them ??? You mean fellow human beings .."

I knew someone would pull me up on that word, so I didn't elaborate on it.

This thread was inspired by a conversation I had with a homeless man earlier today, how intelligent and humane he came across, and seeing how many people walked passed and ignored him whilst we chatted. He told me how embarrassed and insulted he feels about how the world sees him, and it moved me, hence the thread (and yes, I got him something to eat). It's not the first time I've spoken to such a person, there's a woman I've been bumping into all year I've helped out here and there, who is likewise a very gentle and compassionate individual, they both just got me thinking deeply about our race, and the world we share.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever chatted to them?

Them ??? You mean fellow human beings ..

I knew someone would pull me up on that word, so I didn't elaborate on it.

That's a whole different thread in itself "human race and sharing the world" ha if only there was true equality in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Homeless people are a very grey issue...

Some are homeless as they dont want to help themselves...

Some are homeless because our government dont do enough to help our own uk citizens !

Unfortunately us as induviduals cant help every homeless person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. But I don't talk to non-homeless people in the street I don't know, either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've chatted,given food and the gloves from my hands, I've also passed what I thought was a homeless guy and a little later in the day saw him getting into the driving seat of a very flash sports car. .

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

Sure, there's one guy I chat to often, infact I cant get away from him, everytime he see's me he starts a conversation, I wish I could do more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could happen to anyone

you don't know there past.

Rip Alan Donaldson

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Ermmm yes everyday for the past 15 years

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have been street homeless and was glad for human interaction rather than to be looked down on like a piece of shit on their shoe....never judge a book by its cover

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Sure, there's one guy I chat to often, infact I cant get away from him, everytime he see's me he starts a conversation, I wish I could do more."

Trust me by just talking to him you are making his day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just normally buy them a meal deal at a local shop near where I work, we also sell socks so any odd ones I just give them some with some wet wipes so they can have a little clean and feel bit better.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Have you ever chatted to them?

why? what's your angle with this question?

I'd hazard a guess, but I don't want a time out.

Oh, think twice!

It's just another day for you and me in paradise.....

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago

ex-homeless here too .... several times in my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some are homeless because our government dont do enough to help our own uk citizens !

Unfortunately us as induviduals cant help every homeless person

Very true, so it falls to honest, decent people to lend a hand, pound, or even just an ear here and there - just actively showing from time to time that people do still care about those unfortunate enough to be homeless, might just be all the boost they need to keep trying, until they're back on their feet again.

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By *ondimentsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Had a chat with some last weekend whilst out shopping. Bought each one some food and water. One grown man cried with gratitude at a stranger handing him less than £5 worth of food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone said individually theres nothing we can do for the homeless but collectively we can but don't as there are people who've just fallen on hard times and can't see a way out of street life. Then others who yes wish to be there because they view life as easier perhaps? As a race mankind is pretty crap at looking out for those less fortunate

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