FabSwingers.com forum: Disappointment worries

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, so I've been chatting to someone for a while now. We seem to get on really well and have both said that we find each other attractive and like each other. We're finally going to meet. My problem is that I'm now having thoughts, that I'll be a disappointment to them. They'll see me in the flesh and think omfg!! Is it just nerves? We nearly met once before but it never happened, life did!! Hhhhhmmmm.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I feel exactly the same before a meet and that's just for a social, but it makes the 2nd meet better as the nerves have gone X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves, you will be fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks ladies, I guess it is nerves. Just not used to it!!! Lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are probably feeling the same. A glass of wine and you'll both be fine. Enjoy

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

They will be feeling exactly the same. Channel the nerves into nervous excitement and enjoy.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd probably chat on a video link before, if I was anxious for those reasons.

Our fears are almost always worse than reality, so help mitigate the influences upon your anxiety.

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

I tend to make the first meet a social only. That way there's no expectations or disappointments especially if we don't get on face to face for whatever reason....the 2nd meet..well thats where all the fun starts

I still get nervous but never upset if they don't like me....horses for courses and all the other clichés

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to make the first meet a social only. That way there's no expectations or disappointments especially if we don't get on face to face for whatever reason....the 2nd meet..well thats where all the fun starts

I still get nervous but never upset if they don't like me....horses for courses and all the other clichés "

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

It's always good when you've had good chats, because that is what's gonna be the backbone of your meet.

You'll still have the same lovely rapport that you've had in chatting. You'll see.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just nerves... proves your human xx

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Some of its nerves... some of it could be expectations worrying u.. ie what you both want out of the meet..

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Yeh good chatting not face to face shows that the banter will be good...just think I t s a nice day/evening out

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By *dventureslayerMan
over a year ago

London

Meeting somebody new is always exciting and somewhat terrifying. Both people are going to be nervous, but I try and focus on the journey of discovery were both going to embark on. Having self confidence is a very sexy trait, and sometimes no matter what you do, it won't work out the way you envisioned. When it doesn't work it's not anybody's fault or because you lack something. I'm always honest and don't put on a show, if they don't like the real you it's their loss and there tons of fabbers in the sea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just you OP - I feel exactly the same.

All you can do is go and be yourself, if they like you they like you, if they don't, well it was never meant to be.

They may well have he the same fears as you too!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you've sent a face pic then don't worry. He wouldn't want to meet you if he didn't fancy you. If he didn't fancy you he wouldn't want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nerves are good - part of it all xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. Have chatted with them again and told them I'm a bit worried they'll be disappointed. I've been told that they won't be!!!! So that has helped alot!! Now it's just the butterflies and nerves to deal with.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

if your pictures are honest then you have nothing to worry about. Both you and them know what each other looks like and are meeting as you get along.

People can talk themselves out of meets - there's nothing more off putting than someone who is constantly going on about something. Say a spot; unnoticeable to most but you point it out to everybody and they will look at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just nerves huni i get very nervous to

just enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pre-nerves are part of it of us. Be yourself, they know what you look like, and as you are meeting, and they like what they see. Go for it and have a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just nerves & anticipation of meeting.

The day we stop getting butterflies before a meet is the day we know we wont enjoy swinging anymore, it all adds to the excitement & pleasures ahead.

Enjoy your meet x

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