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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right, my friend approached me with a rather big dilemma, i could not really think what to say, so after girls advice only, as he is worried it will effect him getting a women after this!

Recently my friend was approached by a girl mate of his, she recently split with her boyfriend after he found out she cheated and is pregnant, with potentially 2 people could be the father.

Anyway, my friend was told he was more than welcome to pop round and see her (have sex) so after a few months he decided he would

Since tho, he is now worried people will look at him different, is their a stigma to this? the way my mate see's it was, he was single, she was single and thats it

Just wondering what ladies on here would think if they found out a guy they was dating had had sex with a women pregnant?

not really after replies off men as he has had advice off men

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

1) when you post on a public forum, you can't really dictate who replies.

2) why would your friend feel the need to tell people who he's fucking?

3) if they are both consenting then it's perfectly okay to have sex when you're pregnant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first thought was ..... Hope he used protection

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

1, why cant you?:S if your asking a specific thing

2, if it came out, from what he told me he will not tell anyone else

3, thats what i said

and to the other user, yes did use condoms

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Nothing to do with me or anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1) when you post on a public forum, you can't really dictate who replies.

2) why would your friend feel the need to tell people who he's fucking?

3) if they are both consenting then it's perfectly okay to have sex when you're pregnant.

"

Well, that's that thread sorted.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sounds like a beaut! Cheats on her partner and has unprotected sex with 2 other men that could potentially be the father to her child, now shagging another guy. I'd tell her to have a word with herself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like a Jeremy Kyle episode

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"1, why cant you?:S if your asking a specific thing

2, if it came out, from what he told me he will not tell anyone else

3, thats what i said

and to the other user, yes did use condoms"

1) you can ask but you can't enforce it.

2) so don't tell anyone else.

3) sorted then!

If you use the reply+quote button people will know who you're responding to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell your mate to be slightly more selective about where he's sticking it.

They were two consenting adults so it's no1 else's business really. Up to him if he tells future Gfs about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

more than likely the only person to be stigmatised here is the female.

you can't really get collective advice on this either, the person he's dating will have their own opinion.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

i would say to 'your mate', let me get back to you after i've asked a load of random strangers on a web site..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would say to 'your mate', let me get back to you after i've asked a load of random strangers on a web site.."
this made me chuckle

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Right, my friend approached me with a rather big dilemma, i could not really think what to say, so after girls advice only, as he is worried it will effect him getting a women after this!

Recently my friend was approached by a girl mate of his, she recently split with her boyfriend after he found out she cheated and is pregnant, with potentially 2 people could be the father.

Anyway, my friend was told he was more than welcome to pop round and see her (have sex) so after a few months he decided he would

Since tho, he is now worried people will look at him different, is their a stigma to this? the way my mate see's it was, he was single, she was single and thats it

Just wondering what ladies on here would think if they found out a guy they was dating had had sex with a women pregnant?

not really after replies off men as he has had advice off men "

I'd tell your mate to get checked at the clinic, I'd then pay that many women would be far more concerned about his attitude to using protection than any non existing stigma to having concensual sex with a pregnant lady

I'd also be asking your mate how his potential future ladies would know he has been intimate with a pregnant woman , and suggest many women would be more concerned about an indiscreet man ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right, my friend approached me with a rather big dilemma, i could not really think what to say, so after girls advice only, as he is worried it will effect him getting a women after this!

Recently my friend was approached by a girl mate of his, she recently split with her boyfriend after he found out she cheated and is pregnant, with potentially 2 people could be the father.

Anyway, my friend was told he was more than welcome to pop round and see her (have sex) so after a few months he decided he would

Since tho, he is now worried people will look at him different, is their a stigma to this? the way my mate see's it was, he was single, she was single and thats it

Just wondering what ladies on here would think if they found out a guy they was dating had had sex with a women pregnant?

not really after replies off men as he has had advice off men "

Is it you or your friend fucking this pregnant woman. If it's not you I don't see what's bothering you. Pregnant women do have sex with whoever they fancy it's normal. Sorry I missed the part that says men are not allowed to comment on your thread. Tell your friend to advice this girl to join fabs, lots of guys with some weird fetishes, like fucking a pregnant woman.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"more than likely the only person to be stigmatised here is the female.

"

Already happened AB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you answered it yourself - they are both single so what is it to do with anybody else

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Right, my friend approached me with a rather big dilemma, i could not really think what to say, so after girls advice only, as he is worried it will effect him getting a women after this!

Recently my friend was approached by a girl mate of his, she recently split with her boyfriend after he found out she cheated and is pregnant, with potentially 2 people could be the father.

Anyway, my friend was told he was more than welcome to pop round and see her (have sex) so after a few months he decided he would

Since tho, he is now worried people will look at him different, is their a stigma to this? the way my mate see's it was, he was single, she was single and thats it

Just wondering what ladies on here would think if they found out a guy they was dating had had sex with a women pregnant?

not really after replies off men as he has had advice off men "

Some will and some won't. It really isn't as easy as yes or no.

I think your friend has a guilty conscience but as long as the sex was consensual neither him or the woman have anything to reproach themselves for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"more than likely the only person to be stigmatised here is the female.

Already happened AB "

as always...

i kind of like how people become naturally defensive of pregnant women, ie: point out the dangers of promiscuous sex to an unborn child, but not the judging of anyone who decided to remain autonomous while pregnant.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and as dilemmas go I would say this is the ultimate. There's far worse things than having sex with a pregnant woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah fuck it! After a lot of too ing and frooing of wether to post of not here I am!

I have been in this situation but didn't just sleep with her I stayed and supported her throughout her pregnancy. I know this is not what you're asking but here's my 2 cents.

I have raised that baby as my own for 8 years! She is my beautiful daughter in every way that counts. I don't care what people think of me when I tell them but generally the reaction is "it takes a big man to do what you have done" I've not been with my ex for 5 & 1/2 years and think nothing less that what I feel for my son for her. She is my baby and always will be a big part of my life.

If your friend is worried about telling people he shagged a pregnant girl he shouldn't have done it! But he has now his choices are embrace it or bury it down and ignore it! I personally am proud of what I've done and feel regret is an emotion that nobody should feel I have no regrets because I choose to learn from my past not dwell on it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok hello!!

I have the vantage of point of something like this has happened to my friend, ok we might not be talking he wants to bring the baby up but read on:

The first she already had five kids by two different men, she and her current partner (dad of three of her kids) were going through a rough patch, she had a series of one night stands, got pregnant and got back together with her ex (who couldn't be the father), the partner decided to stay with her and bring the baby up as his own, when the baby was born it was clear who the father was (ginger hair gave it away) and the partner was a darker man, but still he stuck by her until the actual father came back on the scene and ed his way in, leaving said partner homeless, broke and in his eyes looking like a mug for taking a baby on that clearly wasn't his,

but he was a great father to every single one of the kids regardless of the father and no other women were put off by him, if anything I think when the truth came out, it actually helped with the ladies, because he had been shit on so much and all that (for the record he is a lovely man).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

STOP PRESS: Two consenting adults decide to have sex!!

Bit of a non-dilemma really isn't it?

What business of anyone else is it and who gives an actual fuck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah fuck it! After a lot of too ing and frooing of wether to post of not here I am!

I have been in this situation but didn't just sleep with her I stayed and supported her throughout her pregnancy. I know this is not what you're asking but here's my 2 cents.

I have raised that baby as my own for 8 years! She is my beautiful daughter in every way that counts. I don't care what people think of me when I tell them but generally the reaction is "it takes a big man to do what you have done" I've not been with my ex for 5 & 1/2 years and think nothing less that what I feel for my son for her. She is my baby and always will be a big part of my life.

If your friend is worried about telling people he shagged a pregnant girl he shouldn't have done it! But he has now his choices are embrace it or bury it down and ignore it! I personally am proud of what I've done and feel regret is an emotion that nobody should feel I have no regrets because I choose to learn from my past not dwell on it!"

after already perving your pics this morning and thinking they were pretty hot, you have now made yourself the sexiest man on the forums (in my eyes).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah fuck it! After a lot of too ing and frooing of wether to post of not here I am!

I have been in this situation but didn't just sleep with her I stayed and supported her throughout her pregnancy. I know this is not what you're asking but here's my 2 cents.

I have raised that baby as my own for 8 years! She is my beautiful daughter in every way that counts. I don't care what people think of me when I tell them but generally the reaction is "it takes a big man to do what you have done" I've not been with my ex for 5 & 1/2 years and think nothing less that what I feel for my son for her. She is my baby and always will be a big part of my life.

If your friend is worried about telling people he shagged a pregnant girl he shouldn't have done it! But he has now his choices are embrace it or bury it down and ignore it! I personally am proud of what I've done and feel regret is an emotion that nobody should feel I have no regrets because I choose to learn from my past not dwell on it!

after already perving your pics this morning and thinking they were pretty hot, you have now made yourself the sexiest man on the forums (in my eyes).

"

Aww thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah fuck it! After a lot of too ing and frooing of wether to post of not here I am!

I have been in this situation but didn't just sleep with her I stayed and supported her throughout her pregnancy. I know this is not what you're asking but here's my 2 cents.

I have raised that baby as my own for 8 years! She is my beautiful daughter in every way that counts. I don't care what people think of me when I tell them but generally the reaction is "it takes a big man to do what you have done" I've not been with my ex for 5 & 1/2 years and think nothing less that what I feel for my son for her. She is my baby and always will be a big part of my life.

If your friend is worried about telling people he shagged a pregnant girl he shouldn't have done it! But he has now his choices are embrace it or bury it down and ignore it! I personally am proud of what I've done and feel regret is an emotion that nobody should feel I have no regrets because I choose to learn from my past not dwell on it!

after already perving your pics this morning and thinking they were pretty hot, you have now made yourself the sexiest man on the forums (in my eyes).

Aww thanks"

you're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hehe..........your 'mate'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sorry if this seems rude, but it sounds like a couple of teenage boys rather than grown men....what dilemma?..

there is no dilemma that i can see...its no-one else's business surely?..unless you sit in the pub gossiping like 14 yr old girls i fail to see how suddenly other people know about it,unless of course you were to mention it somewhere where a load of strangers could somehow..oh!

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

The only way people would look at him different for shagging a pregnant friend of his, is if he/she goes round telling everyone about it

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"She sounds like a beaut! Cheats on her partner and has unprotected sex with 2 other men that could potentially be the father to her child, now shagging another guy. "

Yup - that would bother me more than the fact she was pregnant, but either way, he has no need to mention it to anyone really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She sounds like a beaut! Cheats on her partner and has unprotected sex with 2 other men that could potentially be the father to her child, now shagging another guy. I'd tell her to have a word with herself. "

Are you chastising the woman for having multiple partners ?

She may have used protection but it failed.

If she didn't use protection then the men are as much to blame as her.

.

.

But I fail to see a dilemma here.

Pregnant ladies are allowed to have sex surely ?

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