FabSwingers.com forum: Age and standards

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've never kept it a secret that there are very few people I really FANCY (you know, someone who makes you feel a little crackle of excitement without having to really do much) on here anymore, but it's pretty much the same in the real world too. Yesterday, I was in the sauna chatting to a young guy (no, I didn't fancy him either lol), and he saw a girl in a bikini walk by and said 'oh yeah she's gorgeous, what you reckon?' to which I replied 'she's alright, not my cup of tea', to which he asked me if I'd honestly turn down a shot at her and I reiterated the same answer, I just got no sort of buzz. Make no mistake, there are still some women (and guys) who can still get my pulse racing, but I seem to find less and less of them these days.

Have you found yourself becoming more or less discerning in whom you find attractive over time?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I know what I find attractive and it gets less and less about looks, although looks do play some part.

You can price yourself right out the market

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find more people attractive but I have less inclination to do anything about it.

NSF is on the agenda by exception these days, whereas historically I used to thrive on it.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

What I find attractive now is very different to what I found attractive 10/15 years ago. But there's still very few people I find attractive, I don't really have a type either, just very few people make me go 'oh yes please' which is why in nearly 3 years on here ive only met 4 people and know of mayve 3/4 more I would meet if distsnce etc wasn't an issue x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find more people attractive but I have less inclination to do anything about it.

NSF is on the agenda by exception these days, whereas historically I used to thrive on it."

What is NSF?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I find more people attractive but I have less inclination to do anything about it.

NSF is on the agenda by exception these days, whereas historically I used to thrive on it.

What is NSF? "

No strings fucking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Have you found yourself becoming more or less discerning in whom you find attractive over time?"

About the same.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Much much more discerning. It's a whole package thing for me. Yes there has to be a lustful physical attraction but there has to be a connection on a conversational level too. I'm not so shallow I'll fuck eye candy who can't string a sentence together...!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've always found very few people attractive in a sexual way although I can appreciate an attractive body for its own sake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very very rare that I fancy someone purely based on looks. On fab it's happened just once with a man and a handful of times with women. That's why I tend to only meet from the forums, as I've had a chance to observe and interract with people and develop an attraction to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a relationship I've become ultra picky-i'm not going to give up my single lifestyle unless a woman comes along that blows me away.I've had it once in my life.

I have to be careful how I put this next bit...

For just simply sex,my parameters are broader,but I also think that's an age thing too.When I was younger,she had to be skinny with dark hair.Now,il still like skinny women,but love curves too.I also love a state of mind,a sexy attitude and imagination can be extremely sexy,even with women I might not imagine I'd find attractive...

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Probably why I've blocked you saying that there were too many FAT girls on here....you should look further than the cover try reading the book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger I would crush on one person for years. So, when I was in high school, there were only 2 guys I ever fancied.

Now that I am older, I find that I am actually able to find more people attractive, not less. I think that was I find attractive is becoming more complex, and therefore, a bit more varied

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was younger I would crush on one person for years. So, when I was in high school, there were only 2 guys I ever fancied.

Now that I am older, I find that I am actually able to find more people attractive, not less. I think that was I find attractive is becoming more complex, and therefore, a bit more varied

-Courtney"

I was the same at school. My attention was so focussed on that one person that I was blind to anyone else

I don't think that my tastes are more or less varied now, but that I have the headspace to feel attraction to more than one person now I'm beyond teenage infatuations.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would say that standards is the wrong word to use too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not more or less discerning, I don't have higher or lower standards. But my tastes have broadened over time so I probably find myself attracted to a bigger range of people than I did ten years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was younger I would crush on one person for years. So, when I was in high school, there were only 2 guys I ever fancied.

Now that I am older, I find that I am actually able to find more people attractive, not less. I think that was I find attractive is becoming more complex, and therefore, a bit more varied

-Courtney

I was the same at school. My attention was so focussed on that one person that I was blind to anyone else

I don't think that my tastes are more or less varied now, but that I have the headspace to feel attraction to more than one person now I'm beyond teenage infatuations."

Infatuation! That's the word I was looking for

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do think as we mature we naturally become more open to things

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've always found very few people attractive in a sexual way although I can appreciate an attractive body for its own sake."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's worked the other way for me, I married young and now I'm (well actually I'm not now) single, I have found my pulse racing lots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not more or less discerning, I don't have higher or lower standards. But my tastes have broadened over time so I probably find myself attracted to a bigger range of people than I did ten years ago."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find more people attractive but I have less inclination to do anything about it.

NSF is on the agenda by exception these days, whereas historically I used to thrive on it.

What is NSF?

No strings fucking?

Don't fall for it Miss HB

She's just trying to come across all

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yeah, I will shag them if I get a chance. It's that simple.

I can't be arsed making it more complex

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I sometimes think I've become more fussy but I think it's more that I've identified what I'm most attracted to.

Plus I'm always searching for the complete package which is wholly unrealistic. With me also it would take alot to give up my single life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've never found anyone attractive just off looking, except keanu reeves and chris masters, maybe other people. other wise i never really perved at anyone. have just started doing perving, its fun, but i don't think bout them sexually, they're just eye candy.

i tend to perv over people i'm fucking or have fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no. I used to be very superficial and concentrate just on looks. And in that respect I agree with you OP, just on physical looks alone my tastes have refined and the real head turners are few and far between (although there are a couple on here!)

But now I'm attracted to far more than just looks - an engaging personality, kind nature, a smile, glint of the eye .. I tend to find a lot more people attractive with these traits than when I was younger.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

My 'type' went out the windows years ago. A connection mentally is so much more important to me.

A kink connection even more so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only found one man ive had that 'buzz' with in over a year. Been on and off here since May, thousands of messages..not one buzz :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find more people attractive but I have less inclination to do anything about it.

NSF is on the agenda by exception these days, whereas historically I used to thrive on it.

What is NSF?

No strings fucking?

Don't fall for it Miss HB

She's just trying to come across all

I actually didn't know.

Can't keep up with the things you young 'uns say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find more people attractive but I have less inclination to do anything about it.

NSF is on the agenda by exception these days, whereas historically I used to thrive on it.

What is NSF?

No strings fucking?

Don't fall for it Miss HB

She's just trying to come across all

I actually didn't know.

Can't keep up with the things you young 'uns say. "

No sugar fudge

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"I've never kept it a secret that there are very few people I really FANCY (you know, someone who makes you feel a little crackle of excitement without having to really do much) on here anymore, but it's pretty much the same in the real world too. Yesterday, I was in the sauna chatting to a young guy (no, I didn't fancy him either lol), and he saw a girl in a bikini walk by and said 'oh yeah she's gorgeous, what you reckon?' to which I replied 'she's alright, not my cup of tea', to which he asked me if I'd honestly turn down a shot at her and I reiterated the same answer, I just got no sort of buzz. Make no mistake, there are still some women (and guys) who can still get my pulse racing, but I seem to find less and less of them these days.

Have you found yourself becoming more or less discerning in whom you find attractive over time?"

what type of guy floats your boat ?

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By *omPeepingMan
over a year ago

ossett

When younger, I always thought I fancied the prom queen type, I know where not American ha. Got wiser with age, we do judge a book by its cover, only natural. u have to find someone attractive enough to open the book, then after a while u then, will get the butterflies. I'm a suckered for eyes and teeth, weight, hair colour, is not a key attribute.

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

I love most women..

Their funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think i find more people attractive, but,though more confident now, i can't really be bothered to do much about it most of the time. Have to be someone very special to persuade me to be in a relationship..

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

As I have got older my range has widened. Perhaps my subconcious self being stuck at 23yo has been the driver of that.

Looks are not everything, personality counts more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what standards have to do with who I find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as I've gotten older the range of women I find attractive has broadened. It isn't the obvious hottie that sets my pulse racing. Quite often I look at a woman and it's as if my subconscious mind has zeroed in on an under the surface sex appeal and hornyness that she is radiating which isn't obvious to the eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you found yourself becoming more or less discerning in whom you find attractive over time?"

Who and what I find attractive aren't 100% who I fancy sexually.

I can easily find someone attractive without fancying them.

In the past year, I've definitely become more aware of what it is about someone that I fancy.

So, yes, I have definitely become more discerning; because I'm more aware of what I like.

But that's not changed what I consider as attractive.

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