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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " We live this way! Works fine for us both | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " nope if she's what I want and need and visa versa then should be together but if it works for you    | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? nope if she's what I want and need and visa versa then should be together but if it works for you " | |||
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"Oh good I'm glad I'm not the only one who likes it
Would you still live this way if you got married? (Ideally I'd like it still living separately) "I couldn't see any reason to get married, it works perfectly as it is. BUT if we where to get married would still live seperatly. The only time we would live together is if one became seriously ill and couldn't get about, but I can't imagine a single way living together would improve our relationship | |||
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"Oh good I'm glad I'm not the only one who likes it
Would you still live this way if you got married? (Ideally I'd like it still living separately) I couldn't see any reason to get married, it works perfectly as it is. BUT if we where to get married would still live seperatly.
The only time we would live together is if one became seriously ill and couldn't get about, but I can't imagine a single way living together would improve our relationship
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"Oh good I'm glad I'm not the only one who likes it
Would you still live this way if you got married? (Ideally I'd like it still living separately) I couldn't see any reason to get married, it works perfectly as it is. BUT if we where to get married would still live seperatly.
The only time we would live together is if one became seriously ill and couldn't get about, but I can't imagine a single way living together would improve our relationship
I firmly believe it's the way forward in relationships. "I do and I'm seeing it more and more amongst people I know | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " This is exactly how I feel... X | |||
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"I can see the pros as I enjoy my own space sometimes, but if I loved someone I'd want to be curled up with them at night and wake up with them every morning. So it wouldn't work for me " I feel I still can severely nights and mornings a week | |||
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"No I would hate it, I hate being on my own, always need people around me whether it's partner/family or friends " I'm happy to have purely me days | |||
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"Is this in a swinging context or monogamous ? I see the benefit if you stay in the lifestyle. For me, I am always going to be single, I think. If I was going to be with one person, then that is what I would do. BE WITH that one person. I have 2 lounges and enough space to give each other space. It's how I lasted 12 yr's with my ex without going mad "Monogamous | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. " It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. " But if two lives come together when you've both been living in your own places separately, often you can move somewhere bigger together. From seeing my friends moving in together, it always seems to have worked better when they've moved somewhere together, somewhere that can feel theirs, rather than one partner moving into the other partners place. It's not just about physical space too as in separate rooms. We're in a massive house now, we used to be in a one bed flat together. It's about space from constant conversation or interference and I think that can be granted even where you're squashed in together. I don't think I've explained that very well, but it makes sense to me! | |||
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"I don't see any reason why someone who is capable of being independent would need to live with someone else tbh. I need my space." It isn't about need AB it's about want .
I want to live in the same house as A but I can understand how a relationship would work well in separate houses too. | |||
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"I don't see any reason why someone who is capable of being independent would need to live with someone else tbh. I need my space. It isn't about need AB it's about want .
I want to live in the same house as A but I can understand how a relationship would work well in separate houses too."It's ok, i'm not thinking it's wrong, obviously it works for a lot of people. It really isn't for me, i've never wanted to live with a partner for any of my relationships. Didn't help that i ended up stuck living with someone for a couple of years after i split up with him, made me even less want to live with someone else now. And we were pushed into moving in together as well.  | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " I used to say this - then met a lovely lady on here nearly 5 years ago - and we've lived together happily for the past 2 years. Personally never been happier - THOUGHT I was happy living on my own - but when I look back now I was actually deceiving myself. That's my experience - never say never - but everyone is different | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. " guess different people define " proper relationships" differently If your with the right person it works whether your living together or not | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. But if two lives come together when you've both been living in your own places separately, often you can move somewhere bigger together. From seeing my friends moving in together, it always seems to have worked better when they've moved somewhere together, somewhere that can feel theirs, rather than one partner moving into the other partners place. It's not just about physical space too as in separate rooms. We're in a massive house now, we used to be in a one bed flat together. It's about space from constant conversation or interference and I think that can be granted even where you're squashed in together. I don't think I've explained that very well, but it makes sense to me!" I will never afford to buy my own house (unless I win the lottery) I'm renting from the council, the most I could do is move to a different property. Still only 2 bedroom. | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. But if two lives come together when you've both been living in your own places separately, often you can move somewhere bigger together. From seeing my friends moving in together, it always seems to have worked better when they've moved somewhere together, somewhere that can feel theirs, rather than one partner moving into the other partners place. It's not just about physical space too as in separate rooms. We're in a massive house now, we used to be in a one bed flat together. It's about space from constant conversation or interference and I think that can be granted even where you're squashed in together. I don't think I've explained that very well, but it makes sense to me! I will never afford to buy my own house (unless I win the lottery) I'm renting from the council, the most I could do is move to a different property. Still only 2 bedroom. " jays house is fucking massive, could even live in the garages with the studio above but no still separate houses for us | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. But if two lives come together when you've both been living in your own places separately, often you can move somewhere bigger together. From seeing my friends moving in together, it always seems to have worked better when they've moved somewhere together, somewhere that can feel theirs, rather than one partner moving into the other partners place. It's not just about physical space too as in separate rooms. We're in a massive house now, we used to be in a one bed flat together. It's about space from constant conversation or interference and I think that can be granted even where you're squashed in together. I don't think I've explained that very well, but it makes sense to me! I will never afford to buy my own house (unless I win the lottery) I'm renting from the council, the most I could do is move to a different property. Still only 2 bedroom. jays house is fucking massive, could even live in the garages with the studio above but no still separate houses for us "I couldn't be happier in my little place, without the means of getting something a bit bigger. | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. But if two lives come together when you've both been living in your own places separately, often you can move somewhere bigger together. From seeing my friends moving in together, it always seems to have worked better when they've moved somewhere together, somewhere that can feel theirs, rather than one partner moving into the other partners place. It's not just about physical space too as in separate rooms. We're in a massive house now, we used to be in a one bed flat together. It's about space from constant conversation or interference and I think that can be granted even where you're squashed in together. I don't think I've explained that very well, but it makes sense to me! I will never afford to buy my own house (unless I win the lottery) I'm renting from the council, the most I could do is move to a different property. Still only 2 bedroom. jays house is fucking massive, could even live in the garages with the studio above but no still separate houses for us
I couldn't be happier in my little place, without the means of getting something a bit bigger. "my house is just a terraced his is massive yet he comes here far more than I go there | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. guess different people define " proper relationships" differently If your with the right person it works whether your living together or not " Yeah of course. That's why I said "for me". | |||
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"I love my own time and my own space, but I would never do this. It's not what a proper relationship is about for me. If it's the right person you're living with, it works. It's ok if you have the space, I'm in a small massionette. But if two lives come together when you've both been living in your own places separately, often you can move somewhere bigger together. From seeing my friends moving in together, it always seems to have worked better when they've moved somewhere together, somewhere that can feel theirs, rather than one partner moving into the other partners place. It's not just about physical space too as in separate rooms. We're in a massive house now, we used to be in a one bed flat together. It's about space from constant conversation or interference and I think that can be granted even where you're squashed in together. I don't think I've explained that very well, but it makes sense to me! I will never afford to buy my own house (unless I win the lottery) I'm renting from the council, the most I could do is move to a different property. Still only 2 bedroom. jays house is fucking massive, could even live in the garages with the studio above but no still separate houses for us
I couldn't be happier in my little place, without the means of getting something a bit bigger. my house is just a terraced his is massive yet he comes here far more than I go there "Mine comes to mine more too, mine does still live at home  , he is quite happy there though | |||
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"I don't see any reason why someone who is capable of being independent would need to live with someone else tbh. I need my space. It isn't about need AB it's about want .
I want to live in the same house as A but I can understand how a relationship would work well in separate houses too.
It's ok, i'm not thinking it's wrong, obviously it works for a lot of people. It really isn't for me, i've never wanted to live with a partner for any of my relationships.
Didn't help that i ended up stuck living with someone for a couple of years after i split up with him, made me even less want to live with someone else now. And we were pushed into moving in together as well. "Horrible situation  .
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"I don't see any reason why someone who is capable of being independent would need to live with someone else tbh. I need my space. It isn't about need AB it's about want .
I want to live in the same house as A but I can understand how a relationship would work well in separate houses too.
It's ok, i'm not thinking it's wrong, obviously it works for a lot of people. It really isn't for me, i've never wanted to live with a partner for any of my relationships.
Didn't help that i ended up stuck living with someone for a couple of years after i split up with him, made me even less want to live with someone else now. And we were pushed into moving in together as well.
Horrible situation .
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"If I ever entered into a meaningful relationship, then I will live with him or him with me. I will still want each of us to allow the other their personal time, space and freedom but I wouldn't want to live apart" | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " It suits us fine. Logistically we cannot live together anyway due to jobs and co-parenting, but we were both looking for this type of relationship and it's served us well for 5 years | |||
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"If I ever entered into a meaningful relationship, then I will live with him or him with me. I will still want each of us to allow the other their personal time, space and freedom but I wouldn't want to live apart " | |||
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"If I was in a relationship I wouldn't want to live seperate. It would just remind me of teenagers courting. " Yep - the best bit | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture " what exactly am I missing out on? | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture " I think the point is that they don't like cherries, jam or blondes. It unquestionably suits some people to live separately and I doubt they're missing anything precisely because it's what they want. | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture what exactly am I missing out on? " A pleasure shared is a pleasure doubled ? | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture what exactly am I missing out on? " This! | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture " If for as far as saying a lot of men like to live with a partner as he feels lonely! And wants everything done for him! | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture what exactly am I missing out on? A pleasure shared is a pleasure doubled ?" We share the bed when he stays over, we share the bath/shower, we share the cooking, cleaning, we share lots of moments together. | |||
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"I've lived with two men in my life, I know what a "proper" "traditional" relationship was like. Jay also stays over for a few days at a time, its not like we see each other for two hours once a month. Everytime we are together is quality time, don't have to worry about the housework or paying the bills or doing mundane things. We are a very together couple and the time spent is always quality. I know this kind of relationship wouldn't work for everyone, but we are two people who found each other and wanted the same thing which is not to live together. We are very close, our relationship is solid, no secrets, no hidden lives, no arguments. It's the longest relationship I've ever been in, for me its beyond perfect its everything I want and need. I wonder how many people live together just to conform to society, where happy being individuals and whether people chose to live together or separate I hope they are as happy as we are. Relationships are individual between the people involved and have no affect on anyone else. " I can't agree with your last sentence Diamond none of us live in a vacuum. The effect might be good or bad but our relationships do affect other people in some way. | |||
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"I've lived with two men in my life, I know what a "proper" "traditional" relationship was like. Jay also stays over for a few days at a time, its not like we see each other for two hours once a month. Everytime we are together is quality time, don't have to worry about the housework or paying the bills or doing mundane things. We are a very together couple and the time spent is always quality. I know this kind of relationship wouldn't work for everyone, but we are two people who found each other and wanted the same thing which is not to live together. We are very close, our relationship is solid, no secrets, no hidden lives, no arguments. It's the longest relationship I've ever been in, for me its beyond perfect its everything I want and need. I wonder how many people live together just to conform to society, where happy being individuals and whether people chose to live together or separate I hope they are as happy as we are. Relationships are individual between the people involved and have no affect on anyone else. I can't agree with your last sentence Diamond none of us live in a vacuum. The effect might be good or bad but our relationships do affect other people in some way." what I ment is has no affect on anyone that doesn't know us, just like the age difference threads. | |||
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"Couples not living together, are missing out on the best part of the game. Circs blah bla, sure. But u is still missing the cherry on the cake, the jam on ur sandwich - the blonde in a room of brunettes. Ya gets da picture what exactly am I missing out on? A pleasure shared is a pleasure doubled ?" but you haven't said what I'm missing out on | |||
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"I've lived with two men in my life, I know what a "proper" "traditional" relationship was like. Jay also stays over for a few days at a time, its not like we see each other for two hours once a month. Everytime we are together is quality time, don't have to worry about the housework or paying the bills or doing mundane things. We are a very together couple and the time spent is always quality. I know this kind of relationship wouldn't work for everyone, but we are two people who found each other and wanted the same thing which is not to live together. We are very close, our relationship is solid, no secrets, no hidden lives, no arguments. It's the longest relationship I've ever been in, for me its beyond perfect its everything I want and need. I wonder how many people live together just to conform to society, where happy being individuals and whether people chose to live together or separate I hope they are as happy as we are. Relationships are individual between the people involved and have no affect on anyone else. I can't agree with your last sentence Diamond none of us live in a vacuum. The effect might be good or bad but our relationships do affect other people in some way.what I ment is has no affect on anyone that doesn't know us, just like the age difference threads. " Gonna drop this reference in for a 2nd time today - no man is an island. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. " not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults | |||
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"I've lived with two men in my life, I know what a "proper" "traditional" relationship was like. Jay also stays over for a few days at a time, its not like we see each other for two hours once a month. Everytime we are together is quality time, don't have to worry about the housework or paying the bills or doing mundane things. We are a very together couple and the time spent is always quality. I know this kind of relationship wouldn't work for everyone, but we are two people who found each other and wanted the same thing which is not to live together. We are very close, our relationship is solid, no secrets, no hidden lives, no arguments. It's the longest relationship I've ever been in, for me its beyond perfect its everything I want and need. I wonder how many people live together just to conform to society, where happy being individuals and whether people chose to live together or separate I hope they are as happy as we are. Relationships are individual between the people involved and have no affect on anyone else. I can't agree with your last sentence Diamond none of us live in a vacuum. The effect might be good or bad but our relationships do affect other people in some way.what I ment is has no affect on anyone that doesn't know us, just like the age difference threads. Gonna drop this reference in for a 2nd time today - no man is an island. " third time off asking then I will assume you don't have an answer. What am I missing out on | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults" So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. " yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home" But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. | |||
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"I've lived with two men in my life, I know what a "proper" "traditional" relationship was like. Jay also stays over for a few days at a time, its not like we see each other for two hours once a month. Everytime we are together is quality time, don't have to worry about the housework or paying the bills or doing mundane things. We are a very together couple and the time spent is always quality. I know this kind of relationship wouldn't work for everyone, but we are two people who found each other and wanted the same thing which is not to live together. We are very close, our relationship is solid, no secrets, no hidden lives, no arguments. It's the longest relationship I've ever been in, for me its beyond perfect its everything I want and need. I wonder how many people live together just to conform to society, where happy being individuals and whether people chose to live together or separate I hope they are as happy as we are. Relationships are individual between the people involved and have no affect on anyone else. I can't agree with your last sentence Diamond none of us live in a vacuum. The effect might be good or bad but our relationships do affect other people in some way.what I ment is has no affect on anyone that doesn't know us, just like the age difference threads. " Can't argue with that. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. " well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me" It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. " if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society " Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happy | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society " Absolutely. And likewise not everyone is just conforming to society, I think most actually want to. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happy" but over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted." That's a different thing though. Those people saving face may still have not wanted to be together even if they were living separately. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. That's a different thing though. Those people saving face may still have not wanted to be together even if they were living separately. " but they didn't have a choice. My answers have mostly been aimed at the responses that said we/I was missing out. Unfortunately he never came back to clarify exactly what it is where missing out on | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted." Some may have; just as some live alone because they were hurt in the past and now fear that they will get 'trapped' again I think that the vast majority of people do things which please them or make them happy. They don't do anything for other people | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. Some may have; just as some live alone because they were hurt in the past and now fear that they will get 'trapped' again I think that the vast majority of people do things which please them or make them happy. They don't do anything for other people" I completely agree the vast majority don't | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted." My mum did this, staying married for life is one of her morals. Don't think she was pregnant when they got married, she told me she stayed a virgin and has only ever slept with my dad. But this is what she believes in. She's actually fairly open minded and i'm surprised she thinks this way. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. My mum did this, staying married for life is one of her morals. Don't think she was pregnant when they got married, she told me she stayed a virgin and has only ever slept with my dad. But this is what she believes in. She's actually fairly open minded and i'm surprised she thinks this way." My best friend is 5 years older than me and has the same morals. I'm quite shocked as she only said the other day that she was bought up to stay in a marriage regardless of whether she is happy or not. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. My mum did this, staying married for life is one of her morals. Don't think she was pregnant when they got married, she told me she stayed a virgin and has only ever slept with my dad. But this is what she believes in. She's actually fairly open minded and i'm surprised she thinks this way. My best friend is 5 years older than me and has the same morals. I'm quite shocked as she only said the other day that she was bought up to stay in a marriage regardless of whether she is happy or not." Used to be the same for my best mate and she's in her 30s, but she's split with her husband this year coz he keeps cheating on her. She's a lot happier now, she just misses sex so i'm trying to convince her to join fab but her confidence is shot after being cheated on so much. Mad that someone structured society to put up with horrible stuff, glad it's not like this now. | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. My mum did this, staying married for life is one of her morals. Don't think she was pregnant when they got married, she told me she stayed a virgin and has only ever slept with my dad. But this is what she believes in. She's actually fairly open minded and i'm surprised she thinks this way. My best friend is 5 years older than me and has the same morals. I'm quite shocked as she only said the other day that she was bought up to stay in a marriage regardless of whether she is happy or not. Used to be the same for my best mate and she's in her 30s, but she's split with her husband this year coz he keeps cheating on her. She's a lot happier now, she just misses sex so i'm trying to convince her to join fab but her confidence is shot after being cheated on so much. Mad that someone structured society to put up with horrible stuff, glad it's not like this now." My friend would be out like a shot if her husband cheated. | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " Couldn't ever imagine living with someone and watching the boredom and tedium set in I've been single as in widowed for 18 years ago now and have tried living with two guys and it's ended up with me doing a runner. I would like a special friend who I trust implicitly , but until such time I'll take my chances on here to stop the vital places sealing up ! | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " YES! I'm glad in not the only one to want this too. I owned my own large home, uni qualified have a great career within management level. All achieved by myself. I'm a carpenter too so I can do my own DIY including fitting my own new kitchen etc. My point is I'd like a man but do not NEED one. After a previous bad long experience, I know some men can be gold diggers as much as some women can. I'm very independent and feel I don't want to live with a man. I don't want to get married either. I find both unnecessary. Long as there's real deep love, you don't need a marriage certificate. Plus if the other half is getting on your nerves, you can just tell them to go home! Lol. | |||
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"We live together because we love sharing each other's company and want to spend time together. I have never felt like that about anyone else, as I always wanted and needed my own space - different now as we love doing the mundane stuff together and its still exciting. " Yes, I love just hanging out doing nothing in particular with someone I care about, when you have a good connection it's just natural to me to stay connected. But them I am 'Venus in Taurus' lol, I'm all about the earth senses and as one description put it so aptly - 'Her lover's physical presence is required!' | |||
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"I think it's fair to say a lot of couples successfully together while living apart seem to already have children from previous relationships. I can understand why that would feel different and the priorities would be different from a child free couple or one bringing up their child/ren together. not for us, our children where all left home when we met, callum had just left and jays daughters where already adults So you both already have children from previous relationships, albeit not living with you. yes, but they've grown up and flown the nest so it wouldnt make any difference if we did live together as no children at home But you've already got that family separate from the new partner so it's already different from if you had those children together or none at all - because if you have none then your partner is the ultimate priority in a way they aren't when you have children. well when you have children they become your priority no matter what. But when they are adults and have their own lives its just you and your partner for me whether i had children or not isn't relevant to not wanting to live with someome. People form here relationships with stepparents all the while, ii had partners when my son was younger but didn't want to live with them. I'm not saying my way is the right way I'm saying my way is the right way for me It was just an observation based on responses on this thread and other people I know, not a comment on what's the "right" way because of course there's no such thing. if I'd never lived with anyone i wouldn't of known it wasn't for me, but if I had my time again I wouldn't live with anyone. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe having been on both sides of the fence. But I am glad I don't have to confirm to society Those who do want to live with the one they love are not "conforming' [I think that is what you meant] to society. They do it because they have a choice and that choice makes them happy. Just as living alone makes you happybut over the years I wonder how many people have gone down the traditional route because its been expected of them. I'm sure majority of people that live together are blissfully happy, but I know people that have stayed together over the years to show face, people didnt have a choice, my mother didn't have a choice when she fell pregnant she either married my dad or have the baby adopted. My mum did this, staying married for life is one of her morals. Don't think she was pregnant when they got married, she told me she stayed a virgin and has only ever slept with my dad. But this is what she believes in. She's actually fairly open minded and i'm surprised she thinks this way. My best friend is 5 years older than me and has the same morals. I'm quite shocked as she only said the other day that she was bought up to stay in a marriage regardless of whether she is happy or not. Used to be the same for my best mate and she's in her 30s, but she's split with her husband this year coz he keeps cheating on her. She's a lot happier now, she just misses sex so i'm trying to convince her to join fab but her confidence is shot after being cheated on so much. Mad that someone structured society to put up with horrible stuff, glad it's not like this now. My friend would be out like a shot if her husband cheated. " She wanted to make it work, and he changed his ways for a bit. Just got better at hiding stuff, i think persistent cheaters do that. My ex cheated on me and i forgave him (after much being pissed off lol), he did seem to not do anything to make me suspect him of cheating again and i'm really not aware he did anything but it was never the same after that anyway so we did split up. We get on fine as friends now, i'd never want to get back with him though. | |||
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"Cheating would be the one thing that would split us up. Not the act of having sex but the fact he couldn't communicate with me the most important thing in a relationship the fact that he would have to disrespect me and that he wasn't the man I thought he was if he could look me in the eye and tell me he loved me while cheating " | |||
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"Done it for almost 10 years, for us its bloody perfect, I couldn't live with someone nor could jay we both like our own space, but all our time together is quality time. My sons also moved out from living with his girlfriend, not sure how long it will last, but they are enjoying it and they have the baby as well." So... The conclusion here is??? | |||
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"After I was kicked out of my first house at uni (my then boyfriend decided it would be a smart idea to dry out magic mushrooms in the oven and the other housemates found out and kicked me out), on finding a new house, the then boyfriend decided to move in with me. We were in the honeymoon stage so I was quite happy. Because he didn't have any money and I was a student we couldn't afford our own place so I had to share, with a couple of lovely Greek guys and later on some Spanish people too. Living together amplifies everything, and our house was quite small so there wasn't really any space. I think towards the end of our tenancy we were both a bit sick of living together, despite his protests that he loved me (lol). All the benefits of living together (snuggles and mealscbeing made and the house being tidied) were mitigated by him being a grumpy cunt 80% of the time, because he felt 'trapped' despite being the one who moved in with me... Male logic! So no I can look after myself perfectly well. I'd consider having a live in submissive though! "That sounds more like the case if you dating a dickhead, I doubt that would have changed even if you lived separately. | |||
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"No I couldn't and I believe that a family should be together. I would certainly never have lived separately with my children, or he with the kids and the other just visiting. I like my family unit to be as one. We all have our own space where we can have peace and quiet, we all have individual interests which we do alone. I feel a complete family unit because we live together, we are a pack. Living separately seems very disjointed to me. Of course if there is no formal commitment then I suppose you are just boyfriend and girlfriend and essentially single, just with a vested interest in someone. I don't believe people should rush into living together, but I think that families should be together. "If children were involved it would be different. | |||
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"I've always said I wouldn't want to live with someone again, as I'm so used to living on my own. I like the idea of a couple having their own places and space. How do you feel? Could you live this way? " That sounds perfect. | |||
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