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"Buy them face paints and make sure they understand the difference between permanent and non-permanent marker. Face painting is cool at any age! " the funny thing is that I have face paints for them and they never let me do anything...lol...I did sit them down and have a chat saying that markers are for paper, not skin and facepaints are for faces...and I got "but daddy did it" all markers are on the top shelf in craft cupboard now...lol | |||
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"Buy them face paints and make sure they understand the difference between permanent and non-permanent marker. Face painting is cool at any age! " unless they get into the shed and find the grown ups face pain,or as my youngest once said,daddy why are you hiding the milkshakes,,,ooops | |||
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"Hmmm. He took them, mucked about with them, had a laugh with them, and rew stuff on their faces with marker pen. I understand your frustration at getting 'painted' kids back! But he spent time with them and tried to make it fun. A lot of Dads don't. Without knowing ANYTHING about your circumstances, he's going to piss you off with things he does with the kids. There will be stuff you don't approve of. But he's there, and spending time with them. That's the most important thing. He may or may not be a complete dick. He may or may not have treated you badly either emotionally or otherwise. But separate the differences the two of you have between each other out from the kids. As they get older, they'll understand what happened and why. And they'll make up their own minds. BUT, the parent who tries to turn them against the other parent always loses. So don't do that. The most, and only, important thing is this - Did the kids have a good time? *spoken with the benefit of experience* " I have always been the first one to say what a good father he is, no matter what he has said or done to me.I have NEVER spoken badly about him in front of them and do not take out what he has done to me in the past on them. And I do realise how lucky I am and they are that they have a dad that spends the time with them. There is mucking about and there is teaching them right and wrong. It is telling them off yesterday for doing it to themselves and then today him doing exactly what he has just told them was wrong. If he would have used facepaints great...THAT is having fun with appropriate materials.But sending mixed messages to them is not helping to teach them what is acceptable and what is not | |||
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"I know. You're not wrong. From what you've said, i'm guessing the kids are young i.e primary age. My son is 13. He came back from ex-wifes last week. They had died his hair red. For Charity. He looks like something out of Glee. But not in a good way. Nothing to do, but laff it off and tell him he looks like a fanny. Went through the whole thing you're talking about when he was younger, every single thing both me and his mum did was examined in minute detail for stuff we didnt like. With the benefit of hindsight I would say this to you. If something happens your not 100% about with the kids, let it slide. Becasue if you make an issue out of it, then 100% it will happen again! If you're on good enough terms with ex, have a word & suggest face painting kit. As a single Dad to a pre skool age kid it was hard. Mums know about stuff like painting kits, Dads just think 'emulsion', that'll be fun! Dads often get criticised for being 'useless' etc, but sometimes Dad is just trying the best he can. " yes my twin girls are 3 1/2 and my son is 5. We are on good terms now. And yes there have been loads of things that I do not agree with 100% that I have let slide because it is not worth getting on bad terms again. I guess just can not understand how after telling them off yesterday for doing it to themselves,he thought it was ok to do it...what message is that sending? I have never thought or said that he is useless as a Dad...far from it.But...saying all that matters is that they have fun...is not really on if the fun is teaching them to do things that they shouldn't | |||
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