FabSwingers.com forum: Double standards

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been speaking to a lady for 2 weeks who asked me today if I was married, I said no I am divorced. I said you? Thinking she would say no as her profile states if your married or playing away I'm not interested once bitten twice shy. She gets back to me, I've been happily married 22 years.

How can someone who's playing away have the moral highground on other people. It's ok for her to play about but not for the married men that contact her.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you seem to be developing a fixation with the marrieds on here.

some may say a tad anal on the subject.

just my opinion, hope its ok to express

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a bit much I think she should re think her profile.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Well at least she was honest when asked a direct question. However, I'm surprised it's taken you two weeks to ask the question given that it's obviously important to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well at least she was honest when asked a direct question. However, I'm surprised it's taken you two weeks to ask the question given that it's obviously important to you? "

As my profile states I don't play with married women etc and her profile stated the same I presumed she was single.

So women are just as bad at Reading profiles as men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to know why some people feel the need to start a tread every time they receive a message!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you seem to be developing a fixation with the marrieds on here.

some may say a tad anal on the subject.

just my opinion, hope its ok to express

it's a forum we are here to express ourselves and yeah may seem a bit anal about it and I know people mess about on here but it was the double standards thingy that got me thought it was rather funny

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to know why some people feel the need to start a tread every time they receive a message!!!

because us men don't get many so I'm showing off lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"I'd like to know why some people feel the need to start a tread every time they receive a message!!!

because us men don't get many so I'm showing off lol "

I get lots of messages but like to keep them between me and the senders

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then your a lucky man to get loads I get one ot two a day so feel the need to brag lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You presumed she was single.

She has stated she doesnt play with married people.

Everybody makes their own choices.

If your profile states you don't play with married/attached people, maybe she thought she could 'bypass' that stipulation with her charms.

In the same way that single guys will try for a girl/couple when he is outwith their stated rules.

It happens.

No big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know I know I just wanted to moan

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Top tip... showing off, bragging and moaning are all hugely unattractive traits. Drawing attention to them won't get you any brownie points with anyone I wouldn't imagine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not after brownie points or to be liked on here unlike lots on here I say what I think whether folks like it all not I ain't changing for no one if you don't like don't bloody comment

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I'm not after brownie points or to be liked on here unlike lots on here I say what I think whether folks like it all not I ain't changing for no one if you don't like don't bloody comment"

Oooooooooooh check you! Just in case you hadn't noticed, it's an open forum which therefore makes any thread open for everyone and anyone to comment on. Whether they like the topic or not.

Just as an aside, I'd much prefer it if you didn't swear at me.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

just curious if she actually told you she plays behind hubbys back when she said she was happily married?or if she just said shes married and youve assumed its with out hubbys consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you seem to be developing a fixation with the marrieds on here.

some may say a tad anal on the subject.

just my opinion, hope its ok to express

it's a forum we are here to express ourselves and yeah may seem a bit anal about it and I know people mess about on here but it was the double standards thingy that got me thought it was rather funny"

How you can call taking the high moral high ground funny is a new one to me. Looks like you change your stance after every comment on here. It all looks like you have a big thing against married people playing away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well at least she was honest when asked a direct question. However, I'm surprised it's taken you two weeks to ask the question given that it's obviously important to you?

As my profile states I don't play with married women etc and her profile stated the same I presumed she was single.

So women are just as bad at Reading profiles as men."

i think there is a possibility your profile was misunderstood?

you state you don't play with lady's who are playing away....perhaps this lady is doing it with he partners full knowledge....did you ask the question?

if it is you don't want to play with any married women (other than within couples swinging) perhaps a tweak of your profile will prevent this scenario from reoccurring?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"just curious if she actually told you she plays behind hubbys back when she said she was happily married?or if she just said shes married and youve assumed its with out hubbys consent?"

Agreed - there's a world of difference between someone who is married being on here with their partner's knowledge and someone who is married being on here but not telling their partner.

I'm happy to meet those who fall into former category. However, won't meet those from the latter.

But I don't let it get to me if someone is not what I'm looking for. I just move on and concentrate on those who do match my criteria. Life's too short to sweat about the small stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you receive a message from someone and you feel a bit uncomfortable with any part of it, then just politely say no thanks and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just curious if she actually told you she plays behind hubbys back when she said she was happily married?or if she just said shes married and youve assumed its with out hubbys consent?"

no hubby doesn't know I asked her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never swore at you dirty girl it wasn't aimed at you and bloody isn't swearing is it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I do have a big thing against cheaters nothing wrong with that

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"just curious if she actually told you she plays behind hubbys back when she said she was happily married?or if she just said shes married and youve assumed its with out hubbys consent?

no hubby doesn't know I asked her"

ahh well yet again as i said on another one of your threads best to discover these things up frount than after that fact . you found out that she wasnt what you are looking for ,it happens move on to someone who is ! dont waste your time over people you wouldnt wanna meet anyway !!

i had a guy of 27 message .i politely replied that as on my profile i want guy 30-50 . to which he changes his age on profile to 32 and said he had made a mistake lmfao !!! lesson from this ...block and delete ,move on . SOME people will lie,say or do anythings for meets .however their are the genuine folks ! the fact youve discover something early on has just saved you any further time talking so you can spend that talking to someone who does meet your requirments .

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

Alas in life one learns that lots of people will lie to get whatever they want.

The only lie in this post is that I have a 15inch cock

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Alas in life one learns that lots of people will lie to get whatever they want.

The only lie in this post is that I have a 15inch cock"

But why is across your face in your pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to be an awful lot on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to know why some people feel the need to start a tread every time they receive a message!!!

because us men don't get many so I'm showing off lol "

Not "us men"...I get loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to know why some people feel the need to start a tread every time they receive a message!!!

because us men don't get many so I'm showing off lol

Not "us men"...I get loads"

i shall cut back....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do have a big thing against cheaters nothing wrong with that"

We understand what your saying and can't really see why others can't either.

If a single guy admits he's playing away he gets everything but death threats sent back at him.

We've noticed there can be double standards when the tables are turned.

XXXX

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By *acquiesubWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I never swore at you dirty girl it wasn't aimed at you and bloody isn't swearing is it?"

yes it is swearing and quire offensive...... but that's only my opinion!!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I never swore at you dirty girl it wasn't aimed at you and bloody isn't swearing is it?

yes it is swearing and quire offensive...... but that's only my opinion!!

That's the girl, you fucking tell him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do people say when they have a nosebleed then? Since when was the word bloody offensive?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"What do people say when they have a nosebleed then? Since when was the word bloody offensive?"

It's all about context though isn't it.

And who's to decide what other people find offensive? I just asked him not to swear at me, which he did, in my opinion. I never said I was offended, I just prefer rational adults who can hold a conversation. I didn't do anything wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do people say when they have a nosebleed then? Since when was the word bloody offensive?

It's all about context though isn't it.

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Thats a fair enough comment and i agree about the context, i often say bloody hell without even thinking about it, but i wouldn't class it as swearing. Mina xxx

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

id just consentrate on you and let other people get on with what they do .

if she wants to cheat on her husband thats her choice . you dont wish to meet women who are cheating ..thats your choice.im afraid plenty others who will . shell have to live with her choices and you have to live with yours although i think yours will be much easier lol!!

why arent women bombasted for playing away from home same way guys are ??? in general most guys dont care if a womans attached or not aslong as they get a fuck lol!

as for how she has the nerve to state no married men well thats again her choice and maybe she dont mind risking her realtionship but dont want to be the cause of someone elses crumbling .maybe ,its easier wanting a single guy as he can accom so no need to worry about place to play.also single guy doesnt have to wait till wifes away or busy to meet so less complicated to arrange a meet !

could be any reason !best not to try and fathom peoples reasoning they as mostly its because they just can !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to know why some people feel the need to start a tread every time they receive a message!!!

because us men don't get many so I'm showing off lol

Not "us men"...I get loads

i shall cut back...."

You better not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she dont mind cheating on her fella but does not want to help cheat on a woman she dont even know

As for happily married?

that always seems a odd thing for someone whos playing away to say

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Maybe she dont mind cheating on her fella but does not want to help cheat on a woman she dont even know

As for happily married?

that always seems a odd thing for someone whos playing away to say

No it's not.

The person who is having the marriage and getting their bit on the side would describe themselves as 'happily married'!!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Maybe she dont mind cheating on her fella but does not want to help cheat on a woman she dont even know

As for happily married?

that always seems a odd thing for someone whos playing away to say

They've got their cake and they're eating it... what's not to be happy about?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there cake?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Some people have more feckin' adventures than Robin Hood.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MMM somebody mention cake... yes please lol

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