FabSwingers.com forum: Expectations

By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I'm seeing more and more statuses of people moaning that they are going to leave coz of...in there words... 'Time wasters' and 'non genuine bi girls'. And this one has only been here 6 days!!! There was another a few days back... 'Deleting this today' who had only been here 11 hours lol

I think a lot of people join here expecting to just snap there fingers and get what they want.

On my very first day of joining a different site many moons ago I was chatting to someone who said some very wise words...

'Never expect. That way you can't get disappointed and anything that does happen is a bonus'.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Stamina in sex and stamina in fab profile life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. "

Couples can be just as bad from what I've read lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. "

You mean there's not? Dam, now that's disappointing

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. "

This is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

Yeah some people seem to think sites like this are like just eat. Log on, browse, order. Bobs your uncle

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

Yeah some people seem to think sites like this are like just eat. Log on, browse, order. Bobs your uncle

But is fanny your aunt?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There's a huge sense of entitlement on here from all sorts of people. But then its not just peculiar to Fab. It was just as bad on the other sites I was on before I joined here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

yep you hit the nail on the head there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

Yeah some people seem to think sites like this are like just eat. Log on, browse, order. Bobs your uncle

But is fanny your aunt?

She can be what ever she wants on here

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. "

This.

I think there is a complete lack of understanding on the part of men as to what a woman's experience of a site like this is. There are 10 men or more for every lady, and the ladies are often inundated with messages...often no more than one line of text (or txt) and adorned with a poor quality photo of a cock.

Whereas men seem to expect the women to be falling at their feet begging for it.

I love sitting next to my wife or a female friend when they're on fab, laughing at the ineptness of guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My worst was my old profile when I accepted messages. I remember trying the polite thanks but no thanks response instead of just deleting and got the why not reply, said not my type and then he said something like it's a sex site you want sex so just do it once and if you still don't like me you don't have to meet me again!

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

A guy messaged me asking to meet this morning. Wasn't for showing pics and said he needed to be discrete coz he's married. I suggested he read my profile, especially the first line...

He said.. He hoped the single bit meant just one guy

Confused??? Me too! Ha

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"I'm seeing more and more statuses of people moaning that they are going to leave coz of...in there words... 'Time wasters' and 'non genuine bi girls'. And this one has only been here 6 days!!! There was another a few days back... 'Deleting this today' who had only been here 11 hours lol

I think a lot of people join here expecting to just snap there fingers and get what they want.

I think the site may be better off without those sort of people OP, so happy to see them leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My worst was my old profile when I accepted messages. I remember trying the polite thanks but no thanks response instead of just deleting and got the why not reply, said not my type and then he said something like it's a sex site you want sex so just do it once and if you still don't like me you don't have to meet me again!

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

See if I'm fortunate enough to get a polite response of no thank you I always give a quick "thanks for the reply, have a good one" or words to that effect.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I appreciate a "no thanks" but I am aware that a lot of guys will respond with "awww why not lolz" and try to get chatting.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

A penis 3 potatoe hands long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. "

Really? Seriously? Fuck it, I'm off.

Flounces away........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a profile from a bisexual fellow named Charles whose status update read 'I'm expecting dickings'. I thought to myself he's got great expectations.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I saw a profile from a bisexual fellow named Charles whose status update read 'I'm expecting dickings'. I thought to myself he's got great expectations. "

Badum tish!

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Clicks finger , and awaits a huge amount of offers to fill my inbox immediately !

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

It's a numbers game but dam it send good messages, read profiles to be sure what people ask for and, well you'll still struggle, but may just surprise yourself by getting somewhere..! Clearly not with 11 hours I suspect but never say never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw a profile from a bisexual fellow named Charles whose status update read 'I'm expecting dickings'. I thought to myself he's got great expectations. "

Now that's hilarious. Yes I'm a shit joke lover and Dam proud of it

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

'Never expect. That way you can't get disappointed and anything that does happen is a bonus'."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

See if I'm fortunate enough to get a polite response of no thank you I always give a quick "thanks for the reply, have a good one" or words to that effect. "

I very much agree with your response I do the same

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm here to talk rubbish in the forums..... That's it really

Oh and cock... I do like cock

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

If I get a "no thanks" I usually respond by saying "thank you for your polite reply. Happy swinging"

Though I did make a silly mistake recently. I got a "no thanks, if you read my profile you would have seen I don't mess with married men".

Now the ladies profile actually says she won't see married men unless their wives know. My wife knows and approves, so I responded saying that I accepted her decision not to chat but that she might have forgotten the wording of her profile.

Of course I was blocked.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

Yeah some people seem to think sites like this are like just eat. Log on, browse, order. Bobs your uncle

OMG you know my uncle Bob?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. "
But it is so for the women tho as they get all the offers lol, or does that not count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy. But it is so for the women tho as they get all the offers lol, or does that not count?"

An inbox full of cock pics and 'can I cum in your ass?' messages is not why I joined fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined the site with no expectations at all because then I could not be disappointed most guys join because they think swinger site in 2 hrs of joining I will have more offers than I know what do with and already had a meet it never ceases to amaze me how people act on here some expect to put less effort in than they would meeting somebody in a local pub or club and to me that's completely the wrong attitude then complain when the meets don't come rolling in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An inbox full of cock pics and 'can I cum in your ass?' messages is not why I joined fab!"

There's a simple solution. Use your message filters to stop all messages coming in and do your own prospecting. Approach the profiles you find attractive. Its a straight forward and immediate solution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of guys who ask (in a first message) if i'm free now, or ask when am i free, pretty much shows what many guys are expecting from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An inbox full of cock pics and 'can I cum in your ass?' messages is not why I joined fab!

I wasn't moaning, I know filters are available, I'm just saying that's not what I came to fab for. But many a man think that's the way into a woman's knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

Yeah some people seem to think sites like this are like just eat. Log on, browse, order. Bobs your uncle

Tbh if you live in a big city like London it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

Penis makes me giggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people join here expecting to just snap there fingers and get what they want.

On my very first day of joining a different site many moons ago I was chatting to someone who said some very wise words...

'Never expect. That way you can't get disappointed and anything that does happen is a bonus'."
yes my words exactly I had my status as that a while back " expect nothing and you may get everything " some people are just very impatient and some people who have just joined have maybe been here before ,single guys who are new struggle I would say and many new single women with the sheer volume of messages even without a pic

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I think a lot of people join here expecting to just snap there fingers and get what they want.

On my very first day of joining a different site many moons ago I was chatting to someone who said some very wise words...

'Never expect. That way you can't get disappointed and anything that does happen is a bonus'. yes my words exactly I had my status as that a while back " expect nothing and you may get everything " some people are just very impatient and some people who have just joined have maybe been here before ,single guys who are new struggle I would say and many new single women with the sheer volume of messages even without a pic

Most single guys struggle through no fault but there own. If they want to send shit messages then be prepared for a shit time. If they are going to completely ignore what people do or don't want then the only expecting they need yo do is to get deleted.

A guy messaged me the other day. Droning on about how he sends nice messages and they just get deleted. Or women chat then don't want to know him when something better comes along. I suggested he tried a club or social so people get to see him in the flesh. He got angry, sent quite a angry reply. I tried again explaining from a woman's view what we like/want.

He didn't want to know then went unlos.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A lot of men ask for profile advice but don't often act on any suggested. Then they come back at a later date moaning about no meets. Social Darwinism.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Here we go... First message of the day...

'Can I have a pair of your wet dirty knickers'

And they wonder why they get a bad time!!!!

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Here we go... First message of the day...

'Can I have a pair of your wet dirty knickers'

And they wonder why they get a bad time!!!!"
Yep couldn't agree more. Our pet hate today is we opted to give a second chance to guy who let us down earlier in year. So we have day off, confirmed meet last night and yet today his wife has decided to come to work with some of their friends, so ever sosorry guys, the meet is off. Some days this site really frustrates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I live my life is this: don't get excited for anything because when it doesn't happen you aren't left disappointed. Of course the bedroom is a different kettle of fish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get replies from people almost sounding apologetic that they cant meet straight away - then when we explain no rush etc can almost hear the sigh of relief - chat to them about it and say some people really put the pressure on to meet - i know theres a live for the moment but sheesh

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"The way I live my life is this: don't get excited for anything because when it doesn't happen you aren't left disappointed. Of course the bedroom is a different kettle of fish!"

Yeah I think that rule doesn't quite apply on here, but certainly does for most things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An inbox full of cock pics and 'can I cum in your ass?' messages is not why I joined fab!

I wasn't moaning, I know filters are available, I'm just saying that's not what I came to fab for. But many a man think that's the way into a woman's knickers. "

Penis pictures and crude messages do work for some guys and that's a fact so you don't speak for all women.

As the Op said, a lot of people join Fab expecting to get what they want. I would very much include women in that category. You say you didn't join Fab to receive crude messages, however you dress that up its an expectation. There's nothing wrong with having a degree of expectation.

Some adapt, others don't. They'll always be guys who complain about not getting enough meets, they'll always be women who complain about getting the 'wrong' type of messages.

Both have expectations, don't blame the expectation, blame the way they adapt.

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Patience is a virtue!

Communication is a skill!

Mix them together with a bit of time and imagination and you'd be surprised what comes your way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many guys think 'oooh a sex site I bet there's tons of dripping pussy waiting for me.' Then they realise it's not like that and they get a bit stroppy.

This is so true

Yeah some people seem to think sites like this are like just eat. Log on, browse, order. Bobs your uncle

OMG you know my uncle Bob?"

Unfortunately yes, never met your auntie Fanny though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go... First message of the day...

'Can I have a pair of your wet dirty knickers'

And they wonder why they get a bad time!!!!"

There's an easy way to sort that guy out, wipe your Arse with them, place in a ziplock bag then post. Dirty sod will probably enjoy it though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go... First message of the day...

'Can I have a pair of your wet dirty knickers'

And they wonder why they get a bad time!!!!

There's an easy way to sort that guy out, wipe your Arse with them, place in a ziplock bag then post. Dirty sod will probably enjoy it though lol "

Make him pay the postage before you send them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

Penis makes me giggle."

It's better than my other name for it, I also call them Peters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now nobody can message me, if I want to see penis I'll ask for it.

Penis makes me giggle.

It's better than my other name for it, I also call them Peters! "

What do you call bum holes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw a profile from a bisexual fellow named Charles whose status update read 'I'm expecting dickings'. I thought to myself he's got great expectations. "

Yay!

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