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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't intimidate me, and it doesn't put me off.

But when people say that about themselves, I often thing they are a bit full of themselves...not that its a fair assessment, but it is often my immediate thought. And that it might matter to them to be in shape, and so I would be less likely to be interested for fear of being judged.

-Courtney

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I like slim to fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day everyone has there own personal preference. The thing that will attract most people from the offset is the looks and then from there the personality. If they look great but there is nothing else to them then for me its a thanks but no thanks. You both look great so be happy and proud of the effort you have gone to and then let nature take its course. Good Luck and happy hunting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not attracted to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder the same as I am very fit lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being just average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!"

lol afternoon - maybe put something on your profile about who/what type of person you are after /what tastes attract you - that way when you do contact someone they can gauge whether they are your type. Pictures can tell a thousand lies.

I get contacted but when looking at profiles and 'socials' or 'soft swing' is mentioned for instance - I know that I will be too much for them, so decline.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys. It's not what I think of us, it's what other people say about us. Maybe I'll put more about what we want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub! "

I would chat to you anywhere

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub! "

I get paranoid too. I know it's NSA & probably a 1-off but I start thinking they're desperate if they're interested in me I am working on getting back to being average me - maybe my paranoia will decrease with my lard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm. Oh dear.....

I have to say, we are not a million miles from you and I did look at your profile. And then looked at myself and thought get real.....if I'm stood next to you naked I know which one the girls are going for.....and it ain't the fat lad!

Hats off to you for keeping in such terrific shape...and yes I am extremely jealous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the answer is not go to the gym if you want a meet? lol. But yeah if someone contacted me and was fit it wouldn't matter as we are all here for nsa fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does put me off a little, purely because it triggers certain of my own insecurities. I would have thought that will be balanced out by others who are more attractive to people in very good shape, so I wouldn't look to change the way you describe yourselves because of others' hang-ups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub!

I would chat to you anywhere"

yeah that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just 3 marathons in 6 weeks, and I'm still pudgy.

So I'm fit, but don't look it haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a curvy guy but i prefer a curvy gal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not put off or intimidated, but if i see that they only display verifications from similar people then that does put me off because i wonder why they would want to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does put me off a little, purely because it triggers certain of my own insecurities. I would have thought that will be balanced out by others who are more attractive to people in very good shape, so I wouldn't look to change the way you describe yourselves because of others' hang-ups. "

I think this is very right. Very well said.

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By *amantha45Woman
over a year ago

blackpool

I'm size 12 dress 34d boobs and go to the gym 3 times a week so I only like guys who are fit twould so no fat bellys for me sorry

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!"

Yes it does with both male and females. Makes me think how bad I would look up against them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm size 12 dress 34d boobs and go to the gym 3 times a week so I only like guys who are fit twould so no fat bellys for me sorry "

You look mighty fine to me

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"It does put me off a little, purely because it triggers certain of my own insecurities. I would have thought that will be balanced out by others who are more attractive to people in very good shape, so I wouldn't look to change the way you describe yourselves because of others' hang-ups. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub!

I get paranoid too. I know it's NSA & probably a 1-off but I start thinking they're desperate if they're interested in me I am working on getting back to being average me - maybe my paranoia will decrease with my lard? "

This is me exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This MUST be the reason i'm not getting any action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't put me off but makes me think abit more.

I'll probably get 1 reply out of 5.

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And that's a no thanks reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First let me say that we have nothing against those who work hard to stay buff or better! our hat's are doffed in awestruck admiration of your steely will, drive and determination, however, at the risk of generalising we'd say anyone who spends too much time in front of the mirror admiring their hard work is gonna be a little narcissistic for our taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!"

Stop putting negatives on your profile, that is off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First let me say that we have nothing against those who work hard to stay buff or better! our hat's are doffed in awestruck admiration of your steely will, drive and determination, however, at the risk of generalising we'd say anyone who spends too much time in front of the mirror admiring their hard work is gonna be a little narcissistic for our taste. "

I train because i enjoy it,the adrenalin rush the buzz its nothing to do with looking in the mirror,smash all the mirrors and id still workout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical beauty is just that, but worth so much less without an equally appealing personality within.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not when it comes to single men buy couples yes, but that's my own issues and something I'm fixing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First let me say that we have nothing against those who work hard to stay buff or better! our hat's are doffed in awestruck admiration of your steely will, drive and determination, however, at the risk of generalising we'd say anyone who spends too much time in front of the mirror admiring their hard work is gonna be a little narcissistic for our taste. "

Being in shape is a consequence of my profession, not for egotistical reasons.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"First let me say that we have nothing against those who work hard to stay buff or better! our hat's are doffed in awestruck admiration of your steely will, drive and determination, however, at the risk of generalising we'd say anyone who spends too much time in front of the mirror admiring their hard work is gonna be a little narcissistic for our taste.

Being in shape is a consequence of my profession, not for egotistical reasons. "

You both look amazing!! For everyone that won't meet you because of the way you look there are plenty that would! Keep it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First let me say that we have nothing against those who work hard to stay buff or better! our hat's are doffed in awestruck admiration of your steely will, drive and determination, however, at the risk of generalising we'd say anyone who spends too much time in front of the mirror admiring their hard work is gonna be a little narcissistic for our taste.

Being in shape is a consequence of my profession, not for egotistical reasons. "

I have fabbed some of your pics. You both look great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in shape! I'm round..........that's a shape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in shape! I'm round..........that's a shape "

Yep! I'm in shape, the shape I want to be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!"

Only cause I'm jealous

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!"

You both have amazing figures but as another women I wouldn't want to get naked next to her. She'd put my body to shame lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If people contact us we assume they've seen our photos and find us attractive, the only thing that stops us meeting them (when we are meeting) apart from distance and differing preferences is if we don't find them attractive.

I have noticed lately a few "out of my league" threads so I guess that some will be put off by very in shape people if they perceive them to be in a higher league because of it.

You both look great by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I would feel like flabby flump against kitten and well old also as your 26yrs, so even tho I can admire a lovely figure, I wouldnt want to be naked beside you...

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By *asker10Man
over a year ago

london


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!

You both have amazing figures but as another women I wouldn't want to get naked next to her. She'd put my body to shame lol. "

Rah, must be a sick joke...your body is on point! Just looked at your pics and can't stop looking geez, smoking hot.

Op you have an incredible body, you clearly grafted hard for it. Looks spot on to me. Don't worry if people feel intimidated. If the mental connection and vibe isn't there, the sex will be lacking passion. Confidence in your self regardless, and loosing all inhibitions in the bedroom is what it's all about! Apart from looking great I bet your felixibility, energy and fitness massively aid long kinky play! Just winding myself up here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't feel intimidated but prefer soft bodies so not something either of us would go for

You both look great and must of worked hard to get there, it won't be to everyone's taste the same as fat isn't to everyone's taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone contacts you and they're in really good shape, does it put you off meeting them? This is aimed at women mostly. K is very very in shape and defined, we both are, but we find this doesn't help as it can intimidate people?!"

It's certainly something that would intimidate me. Mostly down to my insecurities more than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you contacted me then I would assume you looked & liked what you saw so for that reason I wouldn't find it intimidating.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When couples say they want 'fit' or 'gym toned' or 'athletic', I don't bother making contact.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


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Rah, must be a sick joke...your body is on point! Just looked at your pics and can't stop looking geez, smoking hot.

Op you have an incredible body, you clearly grafted hard for it. Looks spot on to me. Don't worry if people feel intimidated. If the mental connection and vibe isn't there, the sex will be lacking passion. Confidence in your self regardless, and loosing all inhibitions in the bedroom is what it's all about! Apart from looking great I bet your felixibility, energy and fitness massively aid long kinky play! Just winding myself up here "

How do you figure that? I have had multiple 12-18hr sessions with women that dont train ... when I say sessions I mean 3-5 hours at a time, sometimes up to 7 with maybe only 30 minutes for a drink and a chat before we were back at it. As far as fitness, fitness has nothing to do with how long your cock can stay up, your imagination in the bedroom or her desire for more.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

^I'd think a few others would have similar experience. Fitness does not mean you are automatically good in the sack / have good stamina

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By *ellblessMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I think if you're confident within yourself you shouldn't be intimidated by a fit person

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"Ok I would feel like flabby flump against Kitten and well old also as you're 26yrs, I can admire a lovely figure, I wouldnt want to be naked beside you...

"

This.

However, I do appreciate how hard you must both work at getting those great bodies. (Pics fabbed)

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By *rchie300Man
over a year ago

Hamworthy

No it wouldn't bother me ... It makes you feel hornier when you know you look good

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If they've seen my friends only pics and still want to meet then I know they are not 'out of my league'. My pics show every lump and bump

I met a guy once who was RIPPED! He had the best body I have seen for a long time, but when I commented on it he was very self deprecating, saying he needed to work more on his legs. Just goes to show even the fittest of fitties aren't satisfied with the way they look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not intimidated by people who are physically fit, strong and mustly, I'm just not a fan of it. No offence to you and I can't imagine the effort and training to get like that, but I don't find defined muscles on men or women attractive. Im probably not the only one who thinks this so this could be why people won't meet.

But I'm sure there are plenty of people who find you very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a fan of muscled women so as such it wouldn't intimidate me but it would put me off.

This will probably sound really bad, but on viewing your pics, I did struggle on a couple as to who the pic was of, the male or the female

That said, as long as you two are happy with how you look, then sod what others think.

So what if you 'intimidate' a few, I am sure you will attract a lot more

Just be happy and get on with it

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Like many on here, that level of dedication is admirable.

Would I want to meet, nope. Muscles don't do it for me. I prefer flaws and soft, squidgy bits to explore and play with. Also its a very brief profile and the negative comment about what others think puts me off too.

I'm a 10/12, 32dd but have a podgy tum (I'm nearly 39, have had a child, and lost 19 stone - my body is far from perfect) and would not want to get naked next to you both as it would just point out my figure flaws.

Enjoy fab, and I hope you find people who you get on with.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If we are contacted by a gym fit couple we are immediately suspicious that the profile might be fake, once established then obviously whilst flattered we also wonder "why us".

Once we have established a mutual attraction due to looks we look to other things which are harder to define.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Not put off in the slightest as I prefer guys who are very in shape.

As people use their best pics, it's possible to see pics of a sculpted body that has since been transformed. Obviously we expect photos to be indicative of form today - we know that's not always the case. (some porn models have altered drastically, even altering their height etc, although it may be they wish to be somewhat anonymous. It's not stolen pics, of course).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a fatty I do wonder why a gym fit man would contact me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not put off or intimidated, but if i see that they only display verifications from similar people then that does put me off because i wonder why they would want to meet me."
I just say 1'm fit and healthy

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I think everyone has their own preferences. However, if I see pics of people who are very fit I do assume that they won't be interested in us as we're not.

Sometimes people will say in their profiles that they're looking for slim fit people, so I'll just pass those by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is not filling me with much confidence I must say.

I'm pretty toned myself but I've never spent a day in the gym. Just happen to have a high metabolism and enjoy the odd salad & 5aside footy match.

Now, my preference is for that hour glass figure but because people can be so self conscious my approach is dismissed because I was lucky inheriting the genes I have?

Life is so unfair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a fatty I do wonder why a gym fit man would contact me"

Your arse pic mite have something to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is not filling me with much confidence I must say.

I'm pretty toned myself but I've never spent a day in the gym. Just happen to have a high metabolism and enjoy the odd salad & 5aside footy match.

Now, my preference is for that hour glass figure but because people can be so self conscious my approach is dismissed because I was lucky inheriting the genes I have?

Life is so unfair

"

My heart bleeds that you have a body you don't have to work for....I'd give anything for a nice toned body.....except spend time in the gym and actually exercising

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"This thread is not filling me with much confidence I must say.

I'm pretty toned myself but I've never spent a day in the gym. Just happen to have a high metabolism and enjoy the odd salad & 5aside footy match.

Now, my preference is for that hour glass figure but because people can be so self conscious my approach is dismissed because I was lucky inheriting the genes I have?

Life is so unfair

"

I can only speak for myself but as a lady who has been overweight since about 10yrs old, I would find it hard to believe that someone with your physique would find me attractive.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"This thread is not filling me with much confidence I must say.

I'm pretty toned myself but I've never spent a day in the gym. Just happen to have a high metabolism and enjoy the odd salad & 5aside footy match.

Now, my preference is for that hour glass figure but because people can be so self conscious my approach is dismissed because I was lucky inheriting the genes I have?

Life is so unfair

My heart bleeds that you have a body you don't have to work for....I'd give anything for a nice toned body.....except spend time in the gym and actually exercising "

I know, why can't chocolate be healthy? Whyyyyyyyyyy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cba to read all the thread. No it doesn't put me off, i like hotties.

Tbh body type would be the last thing to put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a really hot guy (by hot I mean face or body) contacts me personally I sometimes get worried they only have contacted me through a bulk messgeing frenzy, bit like what you do on tinder, don't actually look at the profile just swipe right (is it left I can't remember) only with message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that puts me off a gym fit profile is when said profile highlights it..

"We're really fit and expect our play partners to be as well"

Just sounds arsey to me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physical beauty is just that, but worth so much less without an equally appealing personality within."

Totally agree with you in this one

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub! "

sorry I meant to send that here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I get contacted by someone that is super fit I do question why they'd want me, yep. They wouldn't chat to me in the pub!

sorry I meant to send that here lol"

I say that all the time, I've never, ever, not once in my life pulled when I'm out, I can guarantee anyone that says they would chose me over a hotter woman is clearly lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is not filling me with much confidence I must say.

I'm pretty toned myself but I've never spent a day in the gym. Just happen to have a high metabolism and enjoy the odd salad & 5aside footy match.

Now, my preference is for that hour glass figure but because people can be so self conscious my approach is dismissed because I was lucky inheriting the genes I have?

Life is so unfair

I can only speak for myself but as a lady who has been overweight since about 10yrs old, I would find it hard to believe that someone with your physique would find me attractive. "

Like you, I can only speak for myself and that apparent lack of confidence in yourself would be the only reason I wouldn't be interested.

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