FabSwingers.com forum: Loss of Attraction

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

Is there something that could happen at this point that could make you lose that initial attraction? If you are only interested in having sex with them, as opposed to a relationship, would you go ahead with it or let it go?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking for a friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends , if they said they were into bareback anal it might change ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Asking for a friend?

No. Just a thought I was having when reading another thread. Its not related to a friend or myself, for that matter....

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are a million and one things that they could do or say that would complately put me off...most of them probably utterly unreasonable to anyone else,but i'm sure we all have our own likes and dislikes,and yes, if something put me off,i would stop being attracted to them, and so,no wouldn't go ahead...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney"

Courtney! There are so many.

1. Fart loudly down the phone and laugh like a drain.

2. Shout abusively at their mother about the state of the 'ironed' shirt.

3. Say they put their dog down cos they were bored with it.

4. Pick their nose.

5. Say they put salt on a 'fat bird's' cake to help her with her weight problem.

List is endless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Sometimes the initial attraction does fade during messaging. I wouldn't meet that person as i want everything to be right when i have time to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go with my gut instinct & let it go, it maybe nsa but it has to feel right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking for a friend?

No. Just a thought I was having when reading another thread. Its not related to a friend or myself, for that matter....

-Courtney"

For me, it would be if they dropped the L bomb. Not that is ever likely to happen.

Or a controversial or outrageous viewpoint (you know the 'actually Hitler had a point' type people) or the 'bareback' suggestion etc.

In that case, no I wouldn't meet..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney

Courtney! There are so many.

1. Fart loudly down the phone and laugh like a drain.

2. Shout abusively at their mother about the state of the 'ironed' shirt.

3. Say they put their dog down cos they were bored with it.

4. Pick their nose.

5. Say they put salt on a 'fat bird's' cake to help her with her weight problem.

List is endless.

Well, if my mother doesn't iron the shirt better, then how else is she supposed to learn?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno, if it's just sex I'd probably still fuck them if I wanted to. If it was a complete loss of attraction (where I don't even enjoy their company), I probably wouldn't.

I still fucked my exes after they broke my heart cos I wanted sex. It wasn't connected to liking them as people, purely functional for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is about me isn't it?

I told you already - there is absolutely no way I'm bringing my nan too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or if I messaged them and they just plain ignored it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are a million and one things that they could do or say that would complately put me off...most of them probably utterly unreasonable to anyone else,but i'm sure we all have our own likes and dislikes,and yes, if something put me off,i would stop being attracted to them, and so,no wouldn't go ahead..."

Exactly this for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is about me isn't it?

I told you already - there is absolutely no way I'm bringing my nan too."

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

If the photo they showed was from years ago and when you meet shock horror moment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't really matter as its nsa x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney"

Mailing your best friend telling them that he wants to fuck her

I don't care if it's sex or not but that's just a no go n happened me Friday night after 4 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking for a friend?

No. Just a thought I was having when reading another thread. Its not related to a friend or myself, for that matter....

-Courtney

For me, it would be if they dropped the L bomb. Not that is ever likely to happen.

Or a controversial or outrageous viewpoint (you know the 'actually Hitler had a point' type people) or the 'bareback' suggestion etc.

In that case, no I wouldn't meet.. "

What have you got against Liverpool FC supporters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though, yeah, there's loads of things and the outcome would be down to the severity of the loss of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney"
depends what they want as a happily married couple you don't need this 3rd person so you would just be using him to fulfill your sexual needs then discarding him if he's up for that then that's great if you want regular and he does to that's great but if he's the type that wants more you're buggered as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would go with my gut instinct & let it go, it maybe nsa but it has to feel right."

And need to feel excited

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Asking for a friend?

No. Just a thought I was having when reading another thread. Its not related to a friend or myself, for that matter....

-Courtney

For me, it would be if they dropped the L bomb. Not that is ever likely to happen.

Or a controversial or outrageous viewpoint (you know the 'actually Hitler had a point' type people) or the 'bareback' suggestion etc.

In that case, no I wouldn't meet.. "

What is the 'L' bomb ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking for a friend?

No. Just a thought I was having when reading another thread. Its not related to a friend or myself, for that matter....

-Courtney

For me, it would be if they dropped the L bomb. Not that is ever likely to happen.

Or a controversial or outrageous viewpoint (you know the 'actually Hitler had a point' type people) or the 'bareback' suggestion etc.

In that case, no I wouldn't meet..

What is the 'L' bomb ?"

Love ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking for a friend?

No. Just a thought I was having when reading another thread. Its not related to a friend or myself, for that matter....

-Courtney

For me, it would be if they dropped the L bomb. Not that is ever likely to happen.

Or a controversial or outrageous viewpoint (you know the 'actually Hitler had a point' type people) or the 'bareback' suggestion etc.

In that case, no I wouldn't meet..

What is the 'L' bomb ?

Love ?"

Yes sorry should have been clearer

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over a year ago

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney"

I imagine there's lots of things. I guess if they are physically attractive then that's not going to alter my opinion of them. They'll always be physically attractive to me regardless. Unless they put on like 20 stone overnight or grow a beard or something!

It would have to be something they said or the way they act. Maybe something that shows up in their personality which I hadn't initially spotted.

Even if I was meeting someone just for sex they still can't be what I deem to be "a bit of a moron" or a "bit of an arsehole", whichever way you want to look at it. Any sign of that and it's over. That's a turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I was thinking more of trivial things. Like, if everything was leaning towards having sex and someone said they were X (X being a member of a political party you don't like; a supporter of a sports team you don't like; anything seemingly unrelated to the sexual act you are about to take part in).

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is absolutely no way I'd fuck a UKIP supporter.

*shudders*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not long ago somebody I found very attractive suddenly became less appealing as they started to make demands about how I presented myself (makeup, type of clothes etc). I didn't meet them as I lost a lot of respect for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is absolutely no way I'd fuck a UKIP supporter.

*shudders*"

I went on a date with a Republican once. But when I went back to his room after he showed me his Ann Coulter book. That was our last date.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loads of guys put me off them.

i know we're using each other for sex, but once they make it obvious i lose interest like that.

also if they're racist, homophobic, or anything i find closed minded, that puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would go with my gut instinct & let it go, it maybe nsa but it has to feel right."

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Depends , if they said they were into bareback anal it might change ... "

Bareback full stop would do it for me.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Presumptions piss me off.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I guess I was thinking more of trivial things. Like, if everything was leaning towards having sex and someone said they were X (X being a member of a political party you don't like; a supporter of a sports team you don't like; anything seemingly unrelated to the sexual act you are about to take part in).

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney"

Yes, you need to be clearer next time Courtney!

Probably if they said they were deeply religious. And I'm talking a full on religious weirdo here! That just wouldn't work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any hint of superiority or smugness puts me right off. Patronising me has the same effect. There's no coming back from that, no matter how attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney"

If someone was one of those things it would be fine. If they were one of those things and decided to tell me all about how I'm wrong because I think something opposite or believe something different then they can take a hike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is absolutely no way I'd fuck a UKIP supporter.

*shudders*

I went on a date with a Republican once. But when I went back to his room after he showed me his Ann Coulter book. That was our last date.

-Courtney"

I actually have a copy of Meine Kampf somewhere... are you telling me I'm not supposed to take it out with me on a first date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney"

I have been in two relationships where I've lost the attraction. It has affected nothing in my case except my will to continue the relationship. And my self esteem of course

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By *ornynwcplCouple
over a year ago

Preston

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney

Courtney! There are so many.

1. Fart loudly down the phone and laugh like a drain.

2. Shout abusively at their mother about the state of the 'ironed' shirt.

3. Say they put their dog down cos they were bored with it.

4. Pick their nose.

5. Say they put salt on a 'fat bird's' cake to help her with her weight problem.

List is endless.

I once did number five to my dad when I was a kid, but it was a giant bowl of cereal rather than cake!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney

Yes, you need to be clearer next time Courtney!

Probably if they said they were deeply religious. And I'm talking a full on religious weirdo here! That just wouldn't work for me."

Ah, bless you

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney

Yes, you need to be clearer next time Courtney!

Probably if they said they were deeply religious. And I'm talking a full on religious weirdo here! That just wouldn't work for me.

Ah, bless you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney"

Oh, in which case, unless they're an arse about it, then no. I've never had a problem with different people's ideals or beliefs unless they've tried ramming them down my throat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney"

Depends how you quantify "trivial" then too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I should have been clearer in my post

-Courtney

Depends how you quantify "trivial" then too?

Oh! You're just being difficult

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you find someone attractive physically, they have a body and face that is appealing and now you are chatting. Everything they are saying is good, you seem to click.

-Courtney"

Loads of things...they could show themselves to be an ugly person in one way or another...when we meet others we generally portray ourselves a certain way...sometimes the facade slips.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Only one this time on, we agreed to a coffee then he began with 'just come to mine, come to mine, come to mine'. This on the Saturday and despite knowing I had plans with the ladies in the city.

Needless to say, I had a cracking time with the ladies but didn't get a coffee and I won't be going to his

Much more reluctant to arrange meets but i could be tempted to arrange any more at the Christmas Market

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never shagged someone I didn't like

That said I've shagged a lot that I didn't get to know or even want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A racist remark would instantly put me off,coming from any race.

Snobbery.

Telling me what to wear.

Telling me how we're going to behave on a social meet (with me wearing his choice of short skirt and stockings).

Telling me they want an exclusive relationship.

Talking about women who have had a lot of partners in a negative way.

Most other things I can overlook I think. But there's probably more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shagged an Ipswich Town supporter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A racist remark would instantly put me off,coming from any race.

Snobbery.

Telling me what to wear.

Telling me how we're going to behave on a social meet (with me wearing his choice of short skirt and stockings).

Telling me they want an exclusive relationship.

Talking about women who have had a lot of partners in a negative way.

Most other things I can overlook I think. But there's probably more. "

I can't believe that anyone would pull that kinda shit

To me a social is a chance to get to know someone, not an opportunity to give your wish list a day out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I shagged an Ipswich Town supporter

How could you?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the whole scenario was for nsa play id carry on - but if more was expected then stop

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