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Single women - how many messages do you get a day?

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone

I often wondered if single women get as many messages as i think they do(100+ a day). I often don't bother to contact single women because i'd imagine they suffer from message fatigue after a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just gone into camouflage mode again so I don't get any more. I'll have a look at how many I had in the last 24 hours. Bear in mind women are on for different lengths of time so amounts will reflect that.

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By *emaleinthedarkWoman
over a year ago

London

0.0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well your inbox holds 100 message I believe? I haven't counted them and the last message in my inbox was send 21 hours ago so that means I've had 100 messages in 21 hours

Depends day to day though, loads of things influence how many messages you get, if you put a new pic on you get more, if your online, in chat room on cam etc

So some days more than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe it depends also what kind of pics they have, like full nude will generate more than clothes ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Barely any. And before anyone says it's because I'm not meeting it isn't. If anything my messages have gone up since i changed my profile.

If you make proper use of filters they do stop the majority of unwanted messages.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Depends if you have a saucy status up or a meet or have added a new pic. In those cases it increases the amount sharply. If you get in hotpics its ten times more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filtered up to the max so just a few a day from people I've messaged before. With my normal filters (blocked newbies, blocked profiles with no photos, blocked unverified) it was probably 50 or so. If I'd just uploaded photos it could be a lot more. I did get over a thousand in 24 hours once when I had a photo get in the hot pics, which was ridiculous.

There are ways to ensure you get loads of unwanted messages and there are ways to ensure you don't. I don't really understand women who complain when they do get loads, because the options are there to prevent it quite easily. Or if you want loads, that's completely fine, but don't then whine about it when you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 25 messages from people I haven't spoken to before,on my first page. It's full of messages from conversations that I have to delete to get to the second page. I pop on and off and don't sign out not sure if that makes a difference. I had a 20 yr age range and blocked newbies and men with no public pics. I don't have naked pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on which day of the week (fewer on a Saturday for instance) and on the filters set.

Around 30 unique senders, I guess? Some are deleted without reading (wrong age, "hi hun" and other such nonsense).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sunday morning when men seem to be more horny it goes up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 25 messages from people I haven't spoken to before,on my first page. It's full of messages from conversations that I have to delete to get to the second page. I pop on and off and don't sign out not sure if that makes a difference. I had a 20 yr age range and blocked newbies and men with no public pics. I don't have naked pics. "
Interesting, you say 2nd page? I only have one long page. Is the inbox looking different from a womans view?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Four a day maybe? Sometimes more but it's a long time since I hid my photos and I think my profile is pretty clear so I no longer have a constant stream of drivel through my inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Varies daily, today is apprx 20 so far.

If i upload a pic it increases significantly but it is what it is. If I didn't want them I would filter up or hide my profile.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"Filtered up to the max so just a few a day from people I've messaged before. With my normal filters (blocked newbies, blocked profiles with no photos, blocked unverified) it was probably 50 or so. If I'd just uploaded photos it could be a lot more. I did get over a thousand in 24 hours once when I had a photo get in the hot pics, which was ridiculous.

There are ways to ensure you get loads of unwanted messages and there are ways to ensure you don't. I don't really understand women who complain when they do get loads, because the options are there to prevent it quite easily. Or if you want loads, that's completely fine, but don't then whine about it when you do."

That's my experience too. Got the same filters set. I enjoy getting a few new messages and chatting with friends I have made. But it isn't overwhelming .

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I've never ever had 100 messages lol... But I do have all my filters on permanently. I just wish they would introduce a 'I've clearly not read your profile' one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 25 messages from people I haven't spoken to before,on my first page. It's full of messages from conversations that I have to delete to get to the second page. I pop on and off and don't sign out not sure if that makes a difference. I had a 20 yr age range and blocked newbies and men with no public pics. I don't have naked pics. Interesting, you say 2nd page? I only have one long page. Is the inbox looking different from a womans view?"

I can't see what's on the second page unless I delete what's on the first page. They move up so I can see them. I counted the ones on the page I could see but there may be more that I can't see. I'd have to delete my conversation to see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did a bulk delete yesterday but there are 222 unread emails sitting in my inbox atm. I'm sometimes on at 2/3am as I'm feeding the baby and my messages rocket then as I suppose fewer people are online. I need to look again at my filters, I thought I had it pretty tight but reading up on the post it seems there's more I can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh I've never had 100 messages . My regular profile is quite straight to the point so I believe guys know I won't be messed about with or on just not their type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually curious To see if i ever could get hundreds of messages on here...i might remove my filters and see.... Ah but then imagine the feeling of rejection when it makes no difference!! I'm not sure my fragile ego could cope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 25 messages from people I haven't spoken to before,on my first page. It's full of messages from conversations that I have to delete to get to the second page. I pop on and off and don't sign out not sure if that makes a difference. I had a 20 yr age range and blocked newbies and men with no public pics. I don't have naked pics. Interesting, you say 2nd page? I only have one long page. Is the inbox looking different from a womans view?

I can't see what's on the second page unless I delete what's on the first page. They move up so I can see them. I counted the ones on the page I could see but there may be more that I can't see. I'd have to delete my conversation to see them. "
I see yes, so them msgs are below so you cant see it, unless you delete some first so it comes to show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had 100 messages either!! Get a few a day. I've got my filters well and truly sorted plus my profiles quite obvious in terms of what I'm looking for.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Not that many tbh - funnily enough I get less at a weekend than during the week, no idea why that would be the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that many tbh - funnily enough I get less at a weekend than during the week, no idea why that would be the case

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I get just as many at the weekends as during the week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've currently got 360 unread I used to try to read them all and reply to as many as I could but I've gave up trying to keep up with them now . Thats over a few days though, not just one day

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I turned my filters off for the dating thread - I lasted 4 hours before putting them back on!!! Had about 20 new messages only 3 appealed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I had far to many had to set my filters ...I'm now leading a quiet life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off men who haven't read my profile - 20+

Off men who I actually may be interested in - 5 ish

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Perhaps it's time single ladies to stop looking for subs, masters and fb's and started looking for secretaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 25 messages from people I haven't spoken to before,on my first page. It's full of messages from conversations that I have to delete to get to the second page. I pop on and off and don't sign out not sure if that makes a difference. I had a 20 yr age range and blocked newbies and men with no public pics. I don't have naked pics. Interesting, you say 2nd page? I only have one long page. Is the inbox looking different from a womans view?"

Might be the device? I know my inbox shows more than 50 messages at once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I had a proper profile, I would get 250+ messages a day (I excluded new members and younger ages).

Now around 50, I guess. No filters.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I read some time ago that the inbox has 75 messages in it.

I empty mine regularly and if I am online it will fill up.

When my friend at the time set up my profile it was pages and pages though

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Today? None

Yesterday? None

Why? Because I know how to use filters and choose to mail others who have left their inbox wide open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read some time ago that the inbox has 75 messages in it.

I empty mine regularly and if I am online it will fill up.

When my friend at the time set up my profile it was pages and pages though "

It fills up quickly when you're chatting so new messages get pushed off the first 75 messages. When I use my pc I find them by going to next unread message. You can't do that on mobile.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

12. But only friends can message me

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Today? None

Yesterday? None

Why? Because I know how to use filters and choose to mail others who have left their inbox wide open "

good to see you here x x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!"

So your ego is doing just fine, then?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!"

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I rarely get a message .... thank goodness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From new people? Two or three a week. From friends, a few each day.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

It depends if I've posted a new pic, cheeky update or meet but guys don't be put off messaging - genuine well thought out messages where you've read a profile and are what we're looking for do get noticed - well they do by me anyway. (Although you can't read my profile just right now as its hidden for a mini break)

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone

Looks like i overestimated how many single women get. I guess filter help keep the number down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?"

I'm going to make myself searchable again and have the same age range as you for two hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have my filters on and only chat to friends or men who I fancy chatting to.Then I block the idiots .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?"

Your last paragraph could be putting men off of messaging you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters on so only a few from friends ... I chat via other means :0)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?"

They've been watching Strictly Come Dancing that's why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

I'm going to make myself searchable again and have the same age range as you for two hours "

I think location plays a big part too. If you're in a city with a load of men nearby you will automatically appear on more searches etc.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I get loads but most don't bother sending a face pic. Chances of me replying to someone who's sent a nice face pic are MASSIVELY higher than someone who hasn't. I need to find someone attractive to want to have sex with them! A lot of guys don't really give themselves a chance especially when there's so much competition. A load of faceless cocks and hi huns don't do it for me at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment I've got 268 unread messages and 308 winks - but not all are from today! I never look at winks so no point winking me!

I block newbies, non site supporters, no profile pics etc - but I don't block any age/sex as I think if you use the forums a lot then people should be free to PM you!

I do warn people on my profile though that I'm usually hanging around on the forums when online and don't get to read all my messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

I'm going to make myself searchable again and have the same age range as you for two hours

I think location plays a big part too. If you're in a city with a load of men nearby you will automatically appear on more searches etc. "

Yes,I live in Greater London. I'm spoilt for choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

enough

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By *etsdothis010Woman
over a year ago

london

during my two week or so, I was getting literally 700-1000 messages every single day which was bewildering and intimidating. I was uploading 4-5 pics a day and I wasn't aware of all the tools you have, but like a few others have mentioned if you control your public pics and keep on top of your filters, then you can significantly reduce your flow of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gonna say this...

Ok some women get innundated, it's probably more to do with how 'easy' they look than anything else...everyone 'knows'* women with tattoos are easy, for example. Maybe we also live in an area where spammers are rife, yeah there are guys who just spam the fuck out of everyone in their area because they're desperate.

So what if women get innudated? Half the guys on here send shit messages, send selfish messages, or are physically unappealing but think we will fuck them anyway for some reason.

If your message is appealing and you are half decent looking then you're in with a chance. I chat to a fair amount of guys already, sometimes i cannot answer all people i actually do wanna fuck. But mostly the guys in my inbox do not appeal to me for a few reasons.

*Misconceptions are not facts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

I'm going to make myself searchable again and have the same age range as you for two hours

I think location plays a big part too. If you're in a city with a load of men nearby you will automatically appear on more searches etc.

Yes,I live in Greater London. I'm spoilt for choice. "

There are some hot men in London alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?"

But you make it blatantly clear in your profile that you have zero interest in meeting or chatting to anyone new! I'm amazed anyone at all messages you tbh! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

I'm going to make myself searchable again and have the same age range as you for two hours

I think location plays a big part too. If you're in a city with a load of men nearby you will automatically appear on more searches etc.

Yes,I live in Greater London. I'm spoilt for choice.

There are some hot men in London alright "

A lot of very hot men

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Depends. I put a meet request up once for a visit to London and got 42 messages. That was the most I've ever had since joining. Most days I get 5-10, although yesterday I got 17.

To me its not the quantity of messages I receive that is something to be proud of. I'd rather get one message from a guy who had actually read my profile than 17 'wana fck?' messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None as no one can message me. Prefer it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

But you make it blatantly clear in your profile that you have zero interest in meeting or chatting to anyone new! I'm amazed anyone at all messages you tbh! Xx"

But time and again we hear men don't read profiles. Are you now telling me they do? Interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let my filters up for about 12 hours a month and get about 7 or 8 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my filters Off for 2 hours now. In that time I've been inundated!

Simply inundated with 4 new messages. Jeeez single women have it tough don't they?

But you make it blatantly clear in your profile that you have zero interest in meeting or chatting to anyone new! I'm amazed anyone at all messages you tbh! Xx

But time and again we hear men don't read profiles. Are you now telling me they do? Interesting. "

I think a lot who message me read mine! Possibly because I state they don't have to at the top - and possibly because it's meant to be a bit of a giggle rather than a list of demands like some profiles! As I don't respond to most messages - I thought I'd at least try to give them a laugh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So there you go op. Some ladies get a ridiculous amount some get barely any. Like everything in the strange world of fab there is no real logic behind it so i wouldn't let it put you off contacting anyone....just don't bother with those that say that aren't meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 98 unread messages in my inbox right now. I did do a delete marathon a few days ago but got bored & gave up. It's just impossible to reply to every single one (& a lot of them are rubbish messages) ie.. 2 word messages. Wanna Fck? Ur fit, etc..

I do make good use of my filters but still get a lot. - I'm not complaining though. I take it as a compliment. Just can get time consuming trying to be nice & reply to all.

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone


"So there you go op. Some ladies get a ridiculous amount some get barely any. Like everything in the strange world of fab there is no real logic behind it so i wouldn't let it put you off contacting anyone....just don't bother with those that say that aren't meeting "

I saw one yesterday that was like war and bloody peace. Longest profile i've ever seen and at the end of it they weren't even meeting!.

If i did contact any it would only be the odd one here and there.

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