FabSwingers.com forum: Since coming out...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

Firstly, congratulations on coming out. Its a hard thing to do and certainly according to a very vocal group makes you akin to Saddam Hussein.

Secondly a lot of couples and women enjoy the versatility that a bi guy allows, certainly a well built one like yourself

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

Some women love to see two sexy boys go at it. Some men like to see two sexy girls go at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

It's strange how Fab works at times. I changed my profile after a wobble on here to say I wasn't after any fuck & go meets and got more messages than ever

I guess everyone's looking for different things, the couples may well have 'straight' bi men too so I can kind of understand that and I guess the ladies like a bloke who is confident in his sexuality? Who knows.

At least it's good news that the demand has gone up so go fill your boots!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?

Firstly, congratulations on coming out. Its a hard thing to do and certainly according to a very vocal group makes you akin to Saddam Hussein.

Secondly a lot of couples and women enjoy the versatility that a bi guy allows, certainly a well built one like yourself"

Thankyou, though I think I need to add a bit to my profile clarifying my attitude toward sex with other guys, it's really no different to women. I'm not looking for dirty sex or a string of one offs, even with guys I still want someone whose company I can enjoy, who gets my personality and enjoys the more affectionate side of sex too - I doubt it'll stop the 'can I suck ur cock/can u fuck my ass/hi' type messages of course, but still, maybe I can attract the kind I DO like.

So, youthful lads, twinks and pretty boys, do come say hello

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it).

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

Interesting stuff....

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

A meet with 2 bi guys can be huge fun. Good for you - enjoy

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

Not to me it isn't, however ive seen plenty of threads on here that prove it is to some.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it)."

So why announce it now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it).

So why announce it now? "

Because I find myself increasingly chatting to TV/TS's on here and noticing more guys I like the look of in the real world, so why pretend otherwise?

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

whatever works out for you OP just be prepared for the none stop messages you might end up receiving

good luck on you're hunt for as you say twinks and youthful looking lads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"good luck on you're hunt for as you say twinks and youthful looking lads."

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

I suppose the catalyst was a young guy I met recently at the gym, he started making passes at me, I couldn't resist, and when we finally did get together it felt incredibly natural. I'd been aware of my bi side for a long time, but he brought it out of me in a big way (and yes I still see him).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done to you SB and all those others who have taken the step to embrace who they are.

Me personally I love bisexual men, women, tv's, in fact I love anyone who is confident in their own sexuality.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it).

So why announce it now?

Because I find myself increasingly chatting to TV/TS's on here and noticing more guys I like the look of in the real world, so why pretend otherwise?"

So you were pretending to be straight?

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

well......I suppose now you can explore a whole new world which has been opened to you I guess it can happen at the most unusual places too.

Usually when I go to the gym I just work out, sweat and sometimes hit the swimming later on but can't say anyone has ever made a pass at me but then again don't know what I would do if they did..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I descovered my bi side lately, and have found it certainly hasn't effected the messages and answers to messages I get..it all seems like business as usual.

I've had a little more interest from tv'a ts's, but I guess that's the veri that's appeared now, males me less of a newbie in that dept I guess.

My move was from bi curious to bi though..

Can I ask, did you change your account from straight to bi in one jump..

I can't see what it is now, I went to look and i'm blocked, must have annoyed ya at some point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

well......I suppose now you can explore a whole new world which has been opened to you I guess it can happen at the most unusual places too.

Usually when I go to the gym I just work out, sweat and sometimes hit the swimming later on but can't say anyone has ever made a pass at me but then again don't know what I would do if they did..

Fortunately this was during relaxation afterwards, lovely lad though he is, had he started fondling me during the Bench Press, it probably wouldn't have worked out well (what with me not being able to breath and all).

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

well......I suppose now you can explore a whole new world which has been opened to you I guess it can happen at the most unusual places too.

Usually when I go to the gym I just work out, sweat and sometimes hit the swimming later on but can't say anyone has ever made a pass at me but then again don't know what I would do if they did..

Hello you did I miss something? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"good luck on you're hunt for as you say twinks and youthful looking lads.

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

Aww!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done OP lets hope your decision will lead to any other secretly bi guys on the forums coming out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done OP lets hope your decision will lead to any other secretly bi guys on the forums coming out

It's their choice whether they do or they don't, for me though, it's about being true to myself, and I realise the only person I was ever really hiding it from...

...was me...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Well done OP lets hope your decision will lead to any other secretly bi guys on the forums coming out

It's their choice whether they do or they don't, for me though, it's about being true to myself, and I realise the only person I was ever really hiding it from...

...was me..."

I hope your new openness gives you peace and happiness with yourself. Congratulations on finding you.

As to your opening question, bi men are hugely appealing to me and other women I know.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

The most important advice I can tell you, is that 90% of guys you arrange to meet won't turn up.

You too will hate single guys. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most important advice I can tell you, is that 90% of guys you arrange to meet won't turn up.

You too will hate single guys. Lol

Just double book

If both turn up, most guys won't say no to a threesome

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it).

So why announce it five weeks before Christmas? "

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Glad your happy, and feel comfy in being able to admit and be open, so many are not on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for coming out SB. To answer your question I have always found bi men incredibly attractive, but obviously I can't speak for any other woman. Also, I don't see why people wouldn't 'admit' to finding bi men attractive if, indeed, they do. I don't see what gain there would be for keeping something like that hidden.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*scratches balls and yawns*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not attracted to Men or Bi Men, But find myself more attracted to Bi Women and not just because there is a slim chance of having a threesome, It's just the mental image of two Women kissing and touching that's a huge turn on,

Yes I know I have been watching to much porn

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

See.

Everyone wants what they can't have. Only bisexuals have the appearance of having everything.

Personally I've found it a difficult balancing act, like walking down the middle of the road whilst dodging motorists trying to run you down from both directions.

And I've been out since I was 18. Plenty of time to adjust to that.

Do women really find bi men more attractive?

Who the fuck knows!

Like every other shmuck I'm just trying to make my way in the world. Could be worse. Might have been born with a hole in the heart or a missing leg.

There is no rhym or logic to it. Some people find obese people attractive, others go for - I dunno - Thai lady boys. There's nowt as queer as folk and as far as I'm concerned bisexuality is neither here nor there. It's not a lifestyle choice.

It is what it is.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"See.

Everyone wants what they can't have. Only bisexuals have the appearance of having everything.

Personally I've found it a difficult balancing act, like walking down the middle of the road whilst dodging motorists trying to run you down from both directions.

And I've been out since I was 18. Plenty of time to adjust to that.

Do women really find bi men more attractive?

Who the fuck knows!

Like every other shmuck I'm just trying to make my way in the world. Could be worse. Might have been born with a hole in the heart or a missing leg.

It is what it is.

Well said !!!!

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

Good on you SB. It's great when Fab helps broaden horizons no matter where your starting point is. Very pleased for you & your Gym Buddy.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

Not to me, but have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is to some! For every person on here who says the idea of two men is nasty and dresses up that closed-mindedness behind a cloak of "preference" there's another who takes it as a positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it)."

I guess this explains why you were so anti me a while back.

Well congrats on coming out. I know how difficult admitting your own feelings, even to yourself, can be. I've only recently unlocked all the crap I buried myself. I'm telling my world about my sexuality and about my gender dismorphia. This dressing up thing isn't a turn on or a kink. It's a projection of me so the world treats me as I feel. Tried and tested in day to day life now; it works.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I couldn't tell you whether coming out makes a difference on the amount of interest from women, couples, men or tv's as I've always been out (at least on here). I very rarely look at the who's looked at me function anyway as I know most women do so in

mode.

I've met women and couples where the guy is straight on a one to one basis, who obviously aren't bothered either way as there has obviously been no man on man action.

P.s. welcome to the dark side OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will say though that when it comes to guys, my preferences are even more specific than they are for women - not that it seems to matter to guys of course, since posting this thread I've been inundated with messages from those who clearly haven't actually READ it.

This must be what it feels like for a woman on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But your profile doesn't mention your preferences when it comes to meeting men.

it still says not interested in overweight women. How would a man know what you are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But your profile doesn't mention your preferences when it comes to meeting men.

it still says not interested in overweight women. How would a man know what you are looking for?"

I suppose these posts would be a dead giveaway...

"Thankyou, though I think I need to add a bit to my profile clarifying my attitude toward sex with other guys, it's really no different to women. I'm not looking for dirty sex or a string of one offs, even with guys I still want someone whose company I can enjoy, who gets my personality and enjoys the more affectionate side of sex too - I doubt it'll stop the 'can I suck ur cock/can u fuck my ass/hi' type messages of course, but still, maybe I can attract the kind I DO like.

So, youthful lads, twinks and pretty boys, do come say hello"

And...

"Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not many read the forums though

The mere mention of bisexual means you're on a much bigger radar

So, whilst not wishing to tell anyone, how to run their profile, I think mentioning your tastes in both sexes if you are bi is useful.

I don't meet so stop short on my own profile but when I did meet, I was quite particular ... and even then I got messages from those that didn't match

Now I'm a fat fucker so makes me a pariah on here and I still got messages in the hundreds so, with you having a look (and a cock) that many bi guys will be swooning over I dread to think what your inbox will look like unless you give them some idea you are only looking for young pretty lads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

nice to see a positive post from a bi guy as most say they feel the need to hide it as it puts people off

personally I'm not bothered either way if I like somebody i wouldnt let their sexuality put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But your profile doesn't mention your preferences when it comes to meeting men.

it still says not interested in overweight women. How would a man know what you are looking for?

I suppose these posts would be a dead giveaway...

So, youthful lads, twinks and pretty boys, do come say hello

And...

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

But we know that only a very small numbers of people read the forum...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

But we know that only a very small numbers of people read the forum..."

That's probably where the sentence 'I think I need to add a bit to my profile clarifying my attitude toward sex with other guys' comes in!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But your profile doesn't mention your preferences when it comes to meeting men.

it still says not interested in overweight women. How would a man know what you are looking for?

I suppose these posts would be a dead giveaway...

So, youthful lads, twinks and pretty boys, do come say hello

And...

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

But we know that only a very small numbers of people read the forum..."

If they were able to decide they wanted to message me based on a thread without actually reading it, I doubt they'd have read my profile either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations on coming out

Is this going to make life easier or harder for you? you're so very specific about what you want is it going to be doubly hard?......pardon the hard pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But we know that only a very small numbers of people read the forum...

That's probably where the sentence 'I think I need to add a bit to my profile clarifying my attitude toward sex with other guys' comes in!

Sorry i assumed he was blaming guys for not reading his thread before messaging him. I was thinking guys may have just been doing a search for bi guys and his profile would have come up. But with no information on there as to his interests they would have messaged him if they liked the look of him. It felt like he was blaming single guys for not hunting out his "coming out" post before working out whether or not they were suitable. My bad. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done SB - I didn't know you'd 'come out' until right then as you've always been quite adamant on here that you were straight - that's a brave move so good for you!

I don't think I've ever actually DENIED being bisexual/curious, I've simply avoided the question whenever it's come up (or just not answered it).

So why announce it now?

Because I find myself increasingly chatting to TV/TS's on here and noticing more guys I like the look of in the real world, so why pretend otherwise?

So you were pretending to be straight?

I see it more as not sure. I occasionally feel the urge for a woman,most of the time I don't feel anything,sometimes the thought repulses me. I can't call myself bi when I only have a very rare urge to lick a pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bisexual men have something about them I find appealing. It's a personality characteristic that I can't describe at the moment. They are still manly but with a feminine side,I think. I need to think a bit more about this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bisexual men have something about them I find appealing. It's a personality characteristic that I can't describe at the moment. They are still manly but with a feminine side,I think. I need to think a bit more about this. "

That's a very nice way to put it, and I agree. With regards to my 'feminine' side, I don't see myself as campy in the way I come across, though I do admit that some of my body language, sentence structuring and inflections I place on certain words can seem rather eccentric (funnily enough, this sentence itself is somewhat of an example

), the way I choose to communicate places a lot more emphasis on creativity than an earthy 'Mans man' would deem important.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"But your profile doesn't mention your preferences when it comes to meeting men.

it still says not interested in overweight women. How would a man know what you are looking for?

I suppose these posts would be a dead giveaway...

So, youthful lads, twinks and pretty boys, do come say hello

And...

Yep, all big dreamy eyes and pouting lips!

But we know that only a very small numbers of people read the forum...

If they were able to decide they wanted to message me based on a thread without actually reading it, I doubt they'd have read my profile either."

I think what some of the other posters in the Forum mean, SB is that many users don't come near the Forums, so since changing your status from Straight to Bisexual those users have now seen you come up in their 'local' Home or in a 'bisexual browse'. Most will see you muscular pics & if they don't see 'Not Looking To Meet Men' will have the confidence to mail you if they find you physically attractive.

I have been on Fab years & it took many years before I ventured near the Forums as I preferred the cam & local chat rooms.

So enjoy the new found attention, maybe rewrite your profile a bit or set your filters. It's your profile & you have the means to control who mails you SB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The perversity principle didn't affect me at all after coming out or by saying I wasn't meeting. My message repellant works far better than any other factor

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I like bi guys very much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So enjoy the new found attention, maybe rewrite your profile a bit or set your filters. It's your profile & you have the means to control who mails you SB. "

Thankyou Random, I've added an extra section to my profile which seems to have narrowed down my offers a bit, it still feels rather like net fishing though.

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

"...as bi, it doesn't really surprise me that I get so many more views and contacts from guys, however, stranger is that I seem to be getting a lot more from women and couples too?

Is it that bisexuality in males is more attractive to women than most would admit to?"

Congrats OP for coming out. I have seen many profiles where couples are specifically looking for bi males. The beauty of Fab is that there is something for everyone. Happy Swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a read of your profile SB and its easy to read and makes it crystal clear what you're looking for

Have fun on your adventures to come.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou DPT x

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