FabSwingers.com forum: Another thread about Love

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

I can only speak for myself. I've never stopped loving my first love, and I've never been in love since him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first person I fell in love with I now hate and the feeling is probably mutual, although thinking about the relationship I'm in now and how good it is and how much I love the person, I sometimes wonder if it was just a deep lust first time around, I wanted to love but never reached that point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to not believe in love. And yes, I was judged pretty hard for it. You'd think I advocated killing babies or something

Now I believe in love because I love Marc and I don't think I'll ever get over it.

-Courtney

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea

I grew out of my first love. I was young, naive and still working out who I was and what I wanted from life and a partner x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

I can only speak for myself. I've never stopped loving my first love, and I've never been in love since him. "

I think I'm the same in some ways I will always love him despite how much he hurt me.

It hasn't stopped me doing it again. Although that's not gone as hoped either. It's definitely pretty special.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married someone I wasn't in love with.

We were good friends and I really liked his family, I still miss them now.

I then had a long term relationship with someone I work with who I thought I was in love with but I don't think I really was. I think he was my escape from my marriage.

I'd love to meet someone that I felt really deeply for and who felt the same way about me but at my age I fear it's not likely to happen.

I'm very envious of friends who have this kind of relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

I can only speak for myself. I've never stopped loving my first love, and I've never been in love since him.

I think I'm the same in some ways I will always love him despite how much he hurt me.

It hasn't stopped me doing it again. Although that's not gone as hoped either. It's definitely pretty special. "

I had a 5 year rebound after my first love. I was never in love with rebound, I possibly loved him, but no way in love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I married someone I wasn't in love with.

We were good friends and I really liked his family, I still miss them now.

I then had a long term relationship with someone I work with who I thought I was in love with but I don't think I really was. I think he was my escape from my marriage.

I'd love to meet someone that I felt really deeply for and who felt the same way about me but at my age I fear it's not likely to happen.

I'm very envious of friends who have this kind of relationship."

I can relate to a lot of that. I married at 16 and I didn't love him. I was pregnant and it seemed like a good idea. When I did meet my first love I risked everything for him. I was a fool.. love was blind in that case however it still does remain.

Since then I've loved but it's been unrequited to a certain extent.

I'd love to find the one and have a happy ever after too.

However for now I'm happy with the moments I have.

Never give up on it to Miss Innocent. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I married someone I wasn't in love with.

We were good friends and I really liked his family, I still miss them now.

I then had a long term relationship with someone I work with who I thought I was in love with but I don't think I really was. I think he was my escape from my marriage.

I'd love to meet someone that I felt really deeply for and who felt the same way about me but at my age I fear it's not likely to happen.

I'm very envious of friends who have this kind of relationship.

Since then I've loved but it's been unrequited to a certain extent.

I'd love to find the one and have a happy ever after too.

However for now I'm happy with the moments I have.

Never give up on it to Miss Innocent. Xx"

Thanks, you too xx

I'm not looking but hopefully it will find me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my first love in an accident and 11 years ago now, we had been together since we where 12 and as much as iv had other relationships she is always in the front of my mind. I wonder if it's posible to love more than once but in different ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I married someone I wasn't in love with.

We were good friends and I really liked his family, I still miss them now.

I then had a long term relationship with someone I work with who I thought I was in love with but I don't think I really was. I think he was my escape from my marriage.

I'd love to meet someone that I felt really deeply for and who felt the same way about me but at my age I fear it's not likely to happen.

I'm very envious of friends who have this kind of relationship.

Since then I've loved but it's been unrequited to a certain extent.

I'd love to find the one and have a happy ever after too.

However for now I'm happy with the moments I have.

Never give up on it to Miss Innocent. Xx"

yes never give up miss I x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I grew out of my first love. I was young, naive and still working out who I was and what I wanted from life and a partner x"

Yes, exactly, I outgrew my first love when I went away to college, though I can look back now and say no-one loved me better, and I'd like to tell him so.

I love quite freely still and I am glad that I am able, and yes, I find the nature of that love has changed over the years - my character has changed so it was bound to, and the dynamic with each person is different too.

I always love freely and fully 'in the now', but I only ever fully committed myself to one man, that is very different. And no, I no longer love him, he did not really exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

I can only speak for myself. I've never stopped loving my first love, and I've never been in love since him. "

^^^ This ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first love was a bad guy... I've never forgotten him but I feel nothing for him now. It was the next man I loved that I will never stop loving. He will always be really special to me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell in love for the first time at the age of 8 and despite the the occasional good times, the "what could have been" moments, the best thing in the world feelings and the many, MANY heartaches ... I still and will always love ....

Tottenham Hotspur....

COYS

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

No, we learn to accept the absence and don't think of them often.

Does the way we love change with each person?

Yes

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

Yes 'some' are

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell in love for the first time age 14, as was he, and I have an enduring fondness for him still. I'm not in love with him anymore by any means but he is dear to me.

My ex husband is my best friend and I'll always love him, but I don't think I was ever in love with him.

I've had a couple of relationships based on all-consuming lust and passion but they were VERY bad for my mental health and emotional well-being, as they were destructive in their intensity.

I'd like to experience a mid-ground, a nurturing relationship based on both friendship and passion, if such a thing is not myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

While we don't think anyone gets over their first love. We've found you can love others just as deeply. It may be slightly different, or maybe, just maybe you've learned more about love. And that's why it seems deferent.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I've never felt it. And I've certainly never had anyone love me. I've had strong feelings for someone but not love. I want to feel it. I feel like I'm really missing out on something amazing. In fact it's one of the reasons I get out of bed in the morning. I'm very envious of those who have it. My search continues...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt that once. I marry him. I was happy . after our second anniversary he's died in car accident.

Now..I'm after divorce with someone who I thought I love. Maybe I just didn't want to be alone..

First love always will stay in our hearts. Because you can't forget, its. Like tatoo..

I want to feel that special love again, but this time I've promised for myself to not compare first love with new one.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I felt that once. I marry him. I was happy . after our second anniversary he's died in car accident.

Now..I'm after divorce with someone who I thought I love. Maybe I just didn't want to be alone..

First love always will stay in our hearts. Because you can't forget, its. Like tatoo..

I want to feel that special love again, but this time I've promised for myself to not compare first love with new one. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

I married the first I thought I loved.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My first proper love was my ex lodger and now ex best friend....unrequited love is possibly the most soul destroying type of love but I'm in a much happier place and not looking to find someone just yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from the thread about love at first sight. I started thinking...

Do we ever really get over the people we first love?

Does the way we love change with each person?

Are some of us just in love with the concept of love more than anything else?

If love isn't your thing do you feel people judge you harshly for it?

Yes

Occasionally

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over a year ago

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't know... I'll always have a soft spot for him. More than ten years later we still chat by email most days. It's tricky but I guess life is all about timing. We were both each others one who got away.

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