FabSwingers.com forum: Do you believe in love at first sight?

By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Does anyone believe that? Or as a more open question, at what point in your relationship did you realise you loved the other person? Did it just happen over time? Was it a certain event that cemented your feelings?

As someone who's never been in love, I'd genuinely like to hear peoples stories.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love."

When you first heard his name? That's interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say whether it's real or not. If others have experienced it, then it is real for them.

But I've never experienced it. Marc and I had been around eachother for months before either of us paid much attention to the other. And it was even longer than that before the crush turned into love.

-Courtney

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love.

When you first heard his name? That's interesting."

Yea even to me it sounds a bit hippy, new age

but there we have it and here we are 35 years later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love."

Think your spot on there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love."

Thanks, I no longer have to type something out.

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

Unfortunately I thought this was True, but she didn't feel the same and she was quite vocal in her discord towards me.

Lesson Learned the hard way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't believe in love at first sight.

Love builds up over time, when you still love them even when they do things that if you didn't love them would make you want to punch them

I do believe in lust at first sight though, and I've experienced this about three times when I got a really powerful oh my god physical reaction on seeing someone.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Lust yes, love no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to believe in it. I'm a hopeless romantic.

I've been in love twice. Neither time they loved me back in the same way I now feel too scared to feel things too much.

However I'm not giving up on it. I refuse to believe this is it.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I can't say whether it's real or not. If others have experienced it, then it is real for them.

-Courtney"

What was that point where it turned from a crush into love. Can you even put that in words? Were you both feeling the same at this point?

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"No, I don't believe in love at first sight.

Love builds up over time, when you still love them even when they do things that if you didn't love them would make you want to punch them

I do believe in lust at first sight though, and I've experienced this about three times when I got a really powerful oh my god physical reaction on seeing someone."

Yes, I believe in lust at first sight that's for sure. I think we all do. That can turn into love I guess in the right circumstances.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Does anyone believe that? Or as a more open question, at what point in your relationship did you realise you loved the other person? Did it just happen over time? Was it a certain event that cemented your feelings?

As someone who's never been in love, I'd genuinely like to hear peoples stories."

I don't really think you can love someone without knowing them...you can think 'Oh wow, yes please!!' and move seamlessly forward to love in a short space of time. In the old days of proper 'in person' relationships without the internet chat I think the third time of meeting was about my earliest declaration of love, I would not say it unless I knew I meant it - though many do, even on here.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

In most case's lust is mistaken for love, but then I'm just a cynical male.

I know from my past experience's that it was lust first then after a period of time that was replaced with a love for the other person, I also believe there are several kinds of love too, defined by how we perceive the other person and how we think they will fit into our lives.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm not sure it's ever been a 'first sight' thing for me but I do know exactly when it happened, certainly the last time, I can pinpoint the day but there wasn't a specific thing, I just remember thinking I just fell in love with him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I also believe there are several kinds of love too, defined by how we perceive the other person and how we think they will fit into our lives. "

I think you're right there as far as romantic relationships are concerned.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love.

Think your spot on there

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No I don't. Lust, strong attraction, common ground etc can all be at first sight but proper, real strong love takes years to cement not seconds. In my opinion.

I do believe that you can know that a person is going to be important to you almost immediately I knew that when I first heard A's name before I even met him but that isn't love.

Thanks, I no longer have to type something out."

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'm not sure it's ever been a 'first sight' thing for me but I do know exactly when it happened, certainly the last time, I can pinpoint the day but there wasn't a specific thing, I just remember thinking I just fell in love with him.

I'm an old romantic. I love to hear things like that. That's so nice. It only ever really works of course if the feelings are mutual.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I also believe there are several kinds of love too, defined by how we perceive the other person and how we think they will fit into our lives.

I think you're right there as far as romantic relationships are concerned."

It's a very complicated business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't say whether it's real or not. If others have experienced it, then it is real for them.

-Courtney

What was that point where it turned from a crush into love. Can you even put that in words? Were you both feeling the same at this point?"

It wasn't at the same time, no. Marc would kill me for writing this, but he used to say lots of stuff to me in French while we were laying in bed. Apparently one of those things was that he loved me. He said he wouldn't say it in English because he knew I didn't love him yet.

After a couple of months I knew I loved him. It wasn't a specific moment, but I knew. He must have known too, cuz he told me he did. So I told him back.

-Courtney

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yes I'm a mother and loved my children from the very first instant

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yes. I do.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think you can become infatuated pretty instantly - I would define that as lust accompanied by a strong emotional response I think. The first time I met my ex I thought he was the perfect for me after one very short conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who's never been in love, I'd genuinely like to hear peoples stories."

I do not believe in love at first sight. However, I knew my (now) wife was special when I realised how much we could communicate without speaking. A lot of the time we only need looks to explain to each other how we are feeling.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I can't say whether it's real or not. If others have experienced it, then it is real for them.

-Courtney

What was that point where it turned from a crush into love. Can you even put that in words? Were you both feeling the same at this point?

After a couple of months I knew I loved him. It wasn't a specific moment, but I knew. He must have known too, cuz he told me he did. So I told him back.

-Courtney"

Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film! That would make a great scene, him telling you he loved you in French. That's lovely. I really do hope that's what he was saying...

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

"Yes I'm a mother and loved my children from the very first instant "

yes but that is a different kind of love, it's a bonded love because of the close, intimate relationship mother and child has even before birth, and how can any parent not fall for their offspring, it is after all a product of two individuals love for each other, in most case's at least

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over a year ago

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

As someone who's never been in love, I'd genuinely like to hear peoples stories.

People in love always seem to have a kind of psychic connection. I'm always quite envious when I see that kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who's never been in love, I'd genuinely like to hear peoples stories."

I think it's more lust rather than love in the beginning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always believed that love is not blind, it sees all the faults and problems as well as the wonders, and slowly accepts and builds - it cannot be rushed, but the longer it takes to grow, then the stronger it will be.

I always believed that...

Until the day that I met Her - when she first opened her door to me, and looked at me with those big, laughing, smiling Audrey Hepburn eyes - and in a moment I was lost, and knew it.....

And a year later, she broke my heart...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say yes! I've felt a very strong affections for people the first time I've seen them.

I cannot say for certain it was love but it was very close to it! I knew I wanted more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I believe in love at first sight? Maybe, I'm not sure it can be love what you feel but it a very intense emotion when you see someone walking towards you for the first time somehow you know in an instant your life is never going to feel the same.

I said in the last thread I haven't had my wam! Moment yet but I think I have come pretty damn close to it since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film! That would make a great scene, him telling you he loved you in French. That's lovely. I really do hope that's what he was saying...

Just what are you implying, sir?

-Courtney

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"yes i do

You're well and truly in the minority here, it would seem. Good to hear though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film!"

Can we get Seth Rogan to play Courtney?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film!

Can we get Seth Rogan to play Courtney?"

Finding someone to play Marc might be hard though...

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film! That would make a great scene, him telling you he loved you in French. That's lovely. I really do hope that's what he was saying...

Just what are you implying, sir?

-Courtney"

Being a bloke, I can imagine him after the fact saying he was telling you (in French) he loved you or how beautiful you are, whilst stroking your hair. When in reality he was probably telling you your feet smell or he'd just farted. Courtney you might want to ask him again. Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!! First time I saw Morrissey I fell in love with him!!

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film!

Can we get Seth Rogan to play Courtney?

Finding someone to play Marc might be hard though..."

Claude Rains would have been my first choice. Sadly he's long dead. He played the Invisible Man you know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film!

Can we get Seth Rogan to play Courtney?

Finding someone to play Marc might be hard though...

Claude Rains would have been my first choice. Sadly he's long dead. He played the Invisible Man you know..."

Take a look at the Fallout 4 thread.

-Courtney

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

In response to romantic love, and yes I believe and it has happened to me. You can call me foolish and having nothing more than a school girl crush as I was 12 when I first met him but I remember every second of that meeting as if it was frozen in time (very much like the moment I first held each of my children), the more I got to know him the deeper I fell, took 6 years for him to finally see me in that way and we dated for a few years after but it wasn't meant to be, I was devestated when it ended, especially in the circumstances of him leaving me for another woman and even though I've been in love since there's always been something missing in comparison to that first love

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Jeez, someone needs to make this into a film!

Can we get Seth Rogan to play Courtney?

Finding someone to play Marc might be hard though...

Claude Rains would have been my first choice. Sadly he's long dead. He played the Invisible Man you know...

Take a look at the Fallout 4 thread.

-Courtney"

Ah yes, I see you've started typing '-Marc' at the bottom of some of your posts. Very clever!

(Only joking Courtney. I'm sure he's a lovely guy. Certainly a very lucky guy

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-Oscar Wilde

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In response to romantic love, and yes I believe and it has happened to me. You can call me foolish and having nothing more than a school girl crush as I was 12 when I first met him but I remember every second of that meeting as if it was frozen in time (very much like the moment I first held each of my children), the more I got to know him the deeper I fell, took 6 years for him to finally see me in that way and we dated for a few years after but it wasn't meant to be, I was devestated when it ended, especially in the circumstances of him leaving me for another woman and even though I've been in love since there's always been something missing in comparison to that first love "

Now this is a movie plot.

I don't think it's foolish to believe in love at first site. I think it is real for those who have lived it. We all seem foolish to people who don't believe in love, and they seem foolish to us.

Lovely story.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It happened to me when i met the guy i am now married too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who's never been in love, I'd genuinely like to hear peoples stories.

Ditto

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Now this is a movie plot.

I don't think it's foolish to believe in love at first site. I think it is real for those who have lived it. We all seem foolish to people who don't believe in love, and they seem foolish to us.

Lovely story.

-Courtney"

I was referring to the foolishness being my age of 12 at the time. I imagine a lot of people would argue that a 12 year old isn't emotionally mature enough to understand love, but because of personal circumstance I was forced to grow up pretty fast and have always had a mature head on my shoulders for my age, it can be a blessing or a curse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread Howi

I can vaguely remember the first time I saw my first love, my only love. I can't say it was love at first sight at that moment. My next memory is receiving a valentines card from him

from that moment I knew I was in love and knew he was in love with me. I remember going to the services where he worked, one day (Burger King)

I ordered my burger went out side on the grass bank to eat it, opened it and he had written "I love you" on the inside of the wrapper

I knew it was love ack then, 20 years ago, and I know it's love now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was referring to the foolishness being my age of 12 at the time. I imagine a lot of people would argue that a 12 year old isn't emotionally mature enough to understand love, but because of personal circumstance I was forced to grow up pretty fast and have always had a mature head on my shoulders for my age, it can be a blessing or a curse "

Oh! Sorry for misunderstanding! Great post in any case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't believe in it. I'm sure it's possible for some people, I know it isn't for me.

I really couldn't put my finger on when I knew I was in love, I was very young and it crept up on me gradually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't believe in it. I'm sure it's possible for some people, I know it isn't for me.

I really couldn't put my finger on when I knew I was in love, I was very young and it crept up on me gradually. "

(Also I was totally shitfaced when we met so I wouldn't remember anyway

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Great thread Howi

I can vaguely remember the first time I saw my first love, my only love. I can't say it was love at first sight at that moment. My next memory is receiving a valentines card from him

from that moment I knew I was in love and knew he was in love with me. I remember going to the services where he worked, one day (Burger King)

I ordered my burger went out side on the grass bank to eat it, opened it and he had written "I love you" on the inside of the wrapper

I knew it was love ack then, 20 years ago, and I know it's love now. "

Burger King eh? How romantic

Knowing you, I bet you ordered a Whopper as well!

That is a beautiful story though. A story that's still to fully play out as well. Wishing you all the best with it lovely

I wish something like that would happen to me one day. Anybody fancy taking me to McDonald's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great thread Howi

I can vaguely remember the first time I saw my first love, my only love. I can't say it was love at first sight at that moment. My next memory is receiving a valentines card from him

from that moment I knew I was in love and knew he was in love with me. I remember going to the services where he worked, one day (Burger King)

I ordered my burger went out side on the grass bank to eat it, opened it and he had written "I love you" on the inside of the wrapper

I knew it was love ack then, 20 years ago, and I know it's love now.

Burger King eh? How romantic

Knowing you, I bet you ordered a Whopper as well!

That is a beautiful story though. A story that's still to fully play out as well. Wishing you all the best with it lovely

I wish something like that would happen to me one day. Anybody fancy taking me to McDonald's!

Go upmarket, try Pizza Express

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great thread Howi

I can vaguely remember the first time I saw my first love, my only love. I can't say it was love at first sight at that moment. My next memory is receiving a valentines card from him

from that moment I knew I was in love and knew he was in love with me. I remember going to the services where he worked, one day (Burger King)

I ordered my burger went out side on the grass bank to eat it, opened it and he had written "I love you" on the inside of the wrapper

I knew it was love ack then, 20 years ago, and I know it's love now.

Burger King eh? How romantic

Knowing you, I bet you ordered a Whopper as well!

That is a beautiful story though. A story that's still to fully play out as well. Wishing you all the best with it lovely

I wish something like that would happen to me one day. Anybody fancy taking me to McDonald's!

Haha I know

he was at college too at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe in love...never mind the first sight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. but first define love. it happened on a stair case in a cafe for L and me, but has changed xand evolved over the last 12 years. Weird thing is every now and again I find myself looking at her and having the exact feeling I had on that staircase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love me he loves me not.

Oh for the lust of him. Rebecca quote 2015.

Love..is..not at first bite. Oh sight. Hang on love is not seen its invisible.

We tend to get knickers or undercrackers in twist. No way is love to be twisted into lust.

Sure thing its a feeling we have. Love grows. Lust dies after honeymoon period.

Love is mysterious can sweep you off your feet anytime.

No its never love at first sight. Why on earth you think it is.. We abuse love.

Lets spread more love in just being kind and caring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lust is in these days on site like these.

Love.. No way can you love anyone on fab with a few ping pong texts.

No harm in lusting its better than love. Love hurts. Oh hang on it does not exist in my world. We all hit on and spread war...

What most of fab lacks is ability to be friendly let alone lust.

My purpose in life.. Be friends. Love thy enemies as my own.

Long live fab friendships. X

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